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light candle for peaceIt is quite interesting what the muslims has become. Whole her 20 years our daughter hasn’t prayed, worn hijab, or had the character of a good muslimah. But on her wedding (21 years old), we are holding a Quran over her head, as she leaves the wedding hall with 2000 people, when she is heading towards expensive car, with her non-hijabi wedding-dress. Somehow parents think that this will save her life she is starting with her husband.  Even though the parents didn’t spend time in teaching her good values, manners, sunnah and knowledge of Islam. Parents maybe think that keeping the Quran over her head would, in a magically way, make everything perfect. Most asian live their life, totally progressive of their religion. We backbite, we lie, we quarrel, we disrespect, we don’t pray, we listen and watch totally un-islamic media, we stab our friends for our personal benefit. In fact, most of us, live over 70% of our lives in a way that is totally un-islamic.

We remember Islam When

When someone disrespect our Prophet pbuh. Oh our eyes becomes read with anger and we will kill and destroy anything that comes in our way when we find out. Although the, car or people on the road nearby didn’t have anything with one person disrespecting our Prophet pbuh, we think that killing and destroying anything when we get angry because of our love for the Prophet pbuh, is justified. After all were saving his honour pbuh.

Anger Or Not Anger That Is The Question

Were not actually living life according to his pbuh sunnah or Quran, but still when someone says anything bad about our Prophet pbuh we get angry. Aren’t we being just as disrespecting of our prophet when we don’t cultivates his values, conduct, character in our lives and our families lives? When we ourselves are making fun of him by saying we are his followers but not following his pbuh way. There was a sahabi raa that wanted the prophet pbud to advice him, so he asked: “Advice me”. Prophet Muhammad pbuh said :” don’t get angry”. The sahabi asked again, because he was expecting another message. The Prophet pbuh said to him three times :”don’t get angry”.

The Sunnah Of Taif

Here is our situation. We are killing a person that disrespected our Prophet pbuh. When the sunnah of our Prophet, when he walked back from Taif, when he was brutally wounded, and blood on his clothes, he prayed for the people of Taif. And alhamdolillah a few years generations later, the muslims in Taif increased.
We don’t behave or talk or deal with others in a muslim way. Because of our un-islamic behaviour, people think that if this is what Islam is, than they are not good people. Since we are so poor ambassador of the religion we love, people talk bad about our religion. But they don’t understand. The religion is in fact great, but we don’t live our life as beautiful as a good muslim. When we make mistakes and people know we claim we are muslims, they interpret, this behaviour is Islam. But they are wrong. The sunnah of our Prophet and the Quran, is Islam. How we manage or don’t manage to implement it in our life, is our attempt to be a muslim. Our actions tells us if we are true in our claim.

An Easily Approachable Leader – Even for Poor People

When people once in a while came to talk with Prophet Muhammad pbuh, they didn’t know the etiquette of how to behave towards him with respect. Some times when people were very rude while addressing the Prophet pbuh when he pbuh was with his companions, because of the companions love for our Prophet pbuh, they easily took out their sword, and was thinking of killing this person. The Prophet pbuh because of his perfect wisdom, calmed them down and addressed the person in the most nice way. He pbuh didn’t say : he disrespected me, cut his throat”. He had such a good dealings with people. It is because of his good manners and dealings he managed to change hearts. Not by killing anyone or everyone who disagreed with him or didn’t give him the esteem he has. It is only through good behaviour we can change bad behaviour. Hate will not decrease hate. Only love can do that. When we start living our 70% of lives practising his deen we will be able to change other people’s bad opinion of our Islam and our Prophet pbuh. If we are not going to follow his ways, than we should be careful of claiming that we are muslims. Because our wrong behaviour is disrespecting and dishonouring him pbuh. And most people hate Islam, because it is true that we are more progressive than practising of the beauties of it. May Allah guide us of becoming good practising muslims. And understand that killing one person that disagrees with us today, will make ten more people on that persons side tomorrow. Instead use good aadab, sunnah, reasoning a try to change their thinking. Killing them won’t change the fact that they think wrong of us. And keep in mind that german person that used a lot of his life talking bad about Islam and even disrespecting our prophet pbuh. A few years later he converted to Islam, because he found beauty in it. After converting he was so guilty of his disrespect of our Prophet pbuh, he went on Umrah in the Masjid Nabvi and asked for forgiveness. Allah managed to turn his heart towards the truth. From that example we can learn if we stop killing people who hate us, and instead try to reason with them and show them through our behaviour why we are muslims. Not only by lip-service. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

Today One Person Disagrees With Us

We kill him. Tomorrow, ten more people says the same as him. We kill them ten, the day after that, a hundred people say the same as he does. We don`t get more followers of our deen by killing everyone who disagrees with us? We can rather try to change people`s opinions by reasoning with them. Show them why Islam is beautiful. If we do the exact opposite of Islam, and somehow expect that people will love it, we do not have much hikmah to know that were breaking a bridge. Prophet Muhammad didn`t get more followers by killing others. He changed their hearts and reasoned with them, and that reasoning was backed up by his good behaviour, character, conduct. In public and in private. If we follow his pbuh way, we will also one day manage to change hearts and be the reason why people come back to Islam. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

muslim couple, rights and obligations, quran, love, rose, flower, marriageOften when some husband take good care of their wife, and fulfil their obligations towards her and their children, his friends and family might comment that he has become a robot, where his wife decides everything. I want to highlight a few thoughts about this and why people might say such things.

We all are striving.

Some people are doing a great job when it comes to following sunnah. Not only when their friends and acquaintances are with them, but also at the time when no one is with them accept their loved ones and Allah. Some men are not shy off being good to their wife. Why should they be? Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said, the best of man is the one who is good to his wife, and I am the best to my wives. He pbuh lived what he said. He was not shy off helping around the house and giving un-divided attention to his other half. He gave them importance and supported them. If men want to follow his sunnah, being a good husband is also part of his sunnah. Not only praying on time and giving zakat.

Muslims can not be shy of practicing some part of their deen

No matter what others say. Hazoor pak saw has said he is afraid of a time when the disbeliever will be proud of their disbelief and a true believer will be shy of practicing his belief. I`m sure even those who comment negatively towards other, have their moments of being an awesome husband, though they are afraid of admitting it, because they see it as a quality we should not find in a man. How can they think that following the sunnah is not a quality they should have in themselves. I remember a time when Hazoor Pak pbuh was not to shy to admit in front of all the sahaba`s that the one he pbuh loved the most was Aisha raa. If he pbuh was not afraid of showing his love in front of everyone, than neither should any muslim husband.

Have we ever thought why other people comment negatively?

1.Jealousy/envy. Why are they so happy?
2.Not knowing what being a man is about.
3.Arrogance. That work is below my worth/standard.
4.Hobby: Putting hurdles in lives of succesful people.
5.Wrong understanding of Islam. Our rights and obligations.
6.Bad company.
7.Bad role-models.

We do not boast about following the Sunnah

Or become proud of the fact that we are Sunnis. To what extent we follow the Sunnah, shows the intensity of our love for our Prophet pbuh. So sometimes people might try to hide their good deeds from people to the extent that they would not like anyone to find out. In case they maybe returned because the intention is changing. The Prophet pbuh his family and sahaba, went to a lot of struggles for us. We must find ways to keep our intentions in check, but shying away is not the solution. The society has come to such matters, that we need good role-models that are not shying away from showing the right path, they have found. How can we say that we love him pbuh the most and be afraid to show the world that we want to live like him pbuh and are striving to cultivate his pbuh qualities in us. May Allah make us proud of our heritage in Islam, and help us practice it to as close to his pbuh life as possible. And not being shy of good conduct, even if we have people in our circle who are against it. May Allah guide us to good, till we accept nothing but good. May Allah mould us into what He wants us to become. Let us reach excellence in those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw like. And take out of our heart, soul and body, those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw dislikes. Aameen.

khadijahThe first wife of Prophet Muhammad pbuh, Khadijah raa supported him through difficult times in every possible way, including spending from her wealth. He pbuh is known to have acknowledged and praised Khadijah raa`s support repeatedly. Aisha raa reported that she was so irritated by Muhammad pbuh`s continuous praise of Khadijah raa, so she complained, asking why he continued to remember an old lady who was not so beautiful, when God had replaced her with a more beautiful young woman. He pbuh replied that none of his wives was like Khadijah raa, she attested to his nubuwah at a time when everyone else doubted him, she spent her wealth to support him when no one else was willing to do so, and mothered his children which no other wives did.

He pbuh honoured her even after her death, and sent gifts to her friends and relatives. After she passed away on 10th Ramadan, and his uncle passed away sometime after, he pbuh was given the salah as a gift from Allah for comfort, as his biggest source of comfort was now taken away. She was honoured with salam from Allah by hadrat Jibrael as, and promised such a palace in Paradise where she would not experience any noise and live in tranquility because that is what she provided for Prophet Muhammad pbuh, as long as they were married. During the time of prophet Muhammads pbuh `s marriage to Khadijah raa, he was not married to anyone else. She is the only wife whom had that privilege. Amongst men many attained a status of perfection; but among women only three attained such status: Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh, Maryam, the mother of Isa /Jesus pbuh and Khadijah Bint Khuwaylid raa.

May Allah guide all women from the Ummah to be like khadijah raa to their spouse. And may Allah give the daughthers of the Ummah such a spouse that has the same conduct and character as prophet Muhammad pbuh ❤ Aameen summa aameen.

hijab, head, opinion, judge,You have probably read on FB the saying that the time before us people were told to look at muslims when they wanted to know what Islam was. Nowadays we say to people that they should rather look at the practice of the muslims for 1400 years ago, because today muslims have mixed Islam with culture. There is lack of knowledge about Islam that result in people following cultural traditions instead of their religion. Most of the time they just don`t know better. Often there are traditions in todays muslims culture that come from their ancestors which make people deviate from the true Islam and it`s teaching.

 

Study Islam Not The Muslims

It is very important that we explain to people whom are interested in Islam, that they should study it themselves instead of learning from looking at muslims. Just because a country is made on the name Islam, does not directly imply that they are practising muslims. A lot of people get very confused when women from a muslim country don`t wear a proper hijab and see to their amazement that a convert is using a proper, modest hijab. You can say a hundred times with your voice that you are a muslim, though it doesn`t mean a thing if it doesn`t show through your conduct.

 

Danger Of Being Misled

Everytime a new generation of muslims are born and they are not taught about the true teachings of Islam from the start, they are in danger of being misled by different people. When the parents don`t have enough insight or practice of their deen, how will they be able to teach islamic manners and conduct to their offspring?

 

Spreading False Information

We often see that some muslims that have deviated from the path are spreading false information about Islam, and trying to make it look bad, with the stories from their life. How they were forced to wear hijab or not allowed certain things. The non-muslims believe them, because they are telling them things about Islam that support their views about it. So they help them promote things like homosexuality in Islam or hijab is not that important, or mix gender gatherings are ok. All of these are misconceptions that deviate from the true teachings of Islam. What media and their promoters have to understand is that most of these people are disliked in the muslim community.

 

A Beautiful Face Catch Your Attention

Some of the people whom have deviated from Islam says that the hijab oppresses the women. Little do they think about the fact that hijab can be found in the world in different things: the earth has an ozone layer, every fruit has a layer to protect it from getting damaged, pearls are surrounded by a shell and so the list goes on. Where are your ethics. Is it more correct for a woman to show her body to strange men and call it freedom, or is it more correct for a woman to wear modest clothes that doesn`t allow other people to stare at her for the wrong intentions. Would you rather want a husband that want your body or a husband that want you because of you good conduct and character and your obedience to your Lord? The minute your body turns old, your husband is out the door, because he found someone else that is young and beautiful. A beautiful face can catch your attention, but it won`t be able to keep the heart. Good manners, kindness and decent conduct is what impresses the heart.

 

Times Of Ignorance Is Misleading The Ummah

Some people think that Islam is such a violent religion and that it oppress women. That is because a lot of ayats from different surah in Quran are taken out of their context and spread in the media. It has been said that in Islam it is allowed for men to beat women. That is partly correct. When the Prophet told about this he taught that you can beat her hand lightly with a miswak. The 15 cm long thin stick muslims use to brush their teeth with. Before this ayat comes several other ayats that say that in case you wife is disobedient, first admonish her, than forsake her in their bed, and if that doesn`t work than the husband is allowed to beat lightly with a miswak on the hand. The beating is mentioned in a way that it is only a symbolic way of declaring that you are dissatisfied with her and that she has gone way beyond her limits. The Prophet pbuh is our example, never once did he pbuh beat his wives. I want to mention the fact that he pbuh had 11 wives. Think about his pbuh patience. When they did something he disliked, he would simply not talk to them and become quiet. Nowadays we see practising muslim men forgetting this sunnah and beating their wife so badly that she gets bruised and bleading, leaving marks on her body. That is not what Islam has taught us, that is what the culture from the time of ignorance, jahaliyah, has taught us.

 

Increase The Dose

Our Prophet pbuh has told us that women are like a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is the upper part, i.e. the tongue. If you try to straighten a rib, it will break, but if you are gentle with it, it will blossom into something beautiful. I don`t think that there is one person that will disagree in the fact that most women can argue a lot and get out of hand. If their husband treat them with care, love and give them undivided attention, they will most probably change for the better. The problem is that most men doesn`t know about these things, or they have gone astray from the sunnah of the Prophet pbuh.

 

Inspire People. Dont Scare them away

We muslims have a responsibility to spread the right guidance of Islam, from our conduct. If our influence is negative on our surroundings we will have to bear the burden of our followers, because they learned it from us. Therefore it is highly important that we try to have a good and positive influence on our surroundings. The youth need good role-models and a motivating and inspiring way of learning about Islam. If you can`t inspire them than at least don`t scare them away from it either. May Allah help us help the youth by setting a good example from the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. Ameen summa ameen.

status of women in islam 2Every boy is taught by his parents and especially the males in his life, how to treat women. If those role-models have poor character, than that would rub on of the boys/kids. This is mostly the parents fault as they are not teaching the right values to their children. It would not be far from the truth that if a kid grows up in a family, where the head of the family, is very strict, and his sisters and the mother has to do all the work home and is not treated fairly. That is what they will become when they become adults.They will think, that only their sisters, spouse, mother, daughter etc has to do all the work. That they can treat them the way they want. They will have zero respect for them and oppress them. It won`t stop them from mistreating girls at school, work, in the bus, and wherever they see them they will look down on them like they are less worth than them. Would they have liked if someone treated someone they loved like that? If they behave like that they don`t even know what love is, or what true love is.

Imagine, a kid that has grown up with the values of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), because his father and the men in his life practiced those values. How do you think that person would treat his mother, spouse, sister or daughter. Wouldn`t he just cherish them beyond means and be the best to them. Not only to respect them and help them around the house, but also protect them and have a strong feeling of gheerah towards them.

If the kids aren`t taught the right values, that would have an impact on them throughout their lives. Of course, it`s not always the parents fault either. Sometimes the parents has done a great job in raising their kids, but the influential environment they are living in, their friends and surroundings, have bad influence on them. Just to play cool and be liked by their friends, they end up mistreating the same gender of the one that gave birth to them and took care of them when they couldn`t do anything by themselves.

In respect of how our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) taught men to treat the women in their lives, there are several lessons to learn. For instance, the prayer of your mother (father) is near to Allah and answered. If you are good to them, they will pray for your good. If you are mean to them, no matter how much they try to control of themselves, Allah can listen even their supplications in their hearts. So if you shouldn`t mistreat your mother, than you are also in respect of the gender never mistreat any other girl/woman also. Remember that the prayer of the oppressed is near to Allah. If you oppress someone their prayer could ruin your life or worst of all, your akhirah (Hereafter).

There is an hadith where the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) says that if parents/brothers have three of four daughters/sisters and they are good to them, and teach them Islam and they practice it, Jannah will be theirs. A girl/woman is a rahma to the family. They have soft hearts and are more gentle in mind and have more EQ (emotional intelligence) than men. Think if men had the responsibility of raising the children. It is the nurturing of a woman who raise children that becomes good people and a treasure to the society they live in. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) visits the house, where there is born a girl. That is truly a blessing.

Another thing is that men may have protective gheerah towards their own woman, but soon as they see another girl/woman, They would say bad things about her and treat her like trash. Isn`t she someone`s sister, spouse, mother daughter? Would you want some people to do the same to the women in your life? I reckon your answer is no. Therefore always know that you should love for your brother what you love for yourself. Just like you have a right to live happy, married and blessed, so does your brother. If you want to have all the great things that life has to offer. So does your brother 🙂 If you put obstacles in your brothers way, than you should be scared of the punishment for that from Allah. No one deserves oppression. Not even Pharaoh, to give an extreme example. Allah is just, and will give patience and victory to the oppressed.

If you are feeling sad because your brother has been given a blessing, then be patient and happy for him. He may have struggled his buts of for it for years. Instead of putting obstacles in his way, be happy for him and pray that Allah grants him more. A part of that supplication is for yourself, as an angel by your side will say: ” and may you have something similar”. Be patient. When your time will come, Allah will grant you abundance. Allah is great, and has so many blessings to offer. As a saying says, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just because there is one fish less, doesn`t mean we are out of fish 😉 Be happy for each other instead of putting each other down. Remember, if you support your brother in his times of need, Allah will support you, in your times of need. Because as you reap you shall get. 🙂

muhammad (pbuh) 2Our Prophet (pbuh) is the greatest blessing we have ever had. He is a mercy to all mankind. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had the most magnificent character any being can or will ever have till the end of time. When we read or hear story`s about his seerah (biography) I just fall down in humbleness for what kind of values he represented. This is the person to admire the most. This is the person one should try the most to follow and mimic from the core of our hearts. If we manage to achieve his blessings, nothing in this world would be difficult for us, in sha Allah.

Our Prophet (pbuh) is the person that had the most genuine care and compassion for every human being. He treated everyone with the out most respect and honour that every person that knew him thought he loved them the most. One time one sahabi wanted to hear the Prophet (pbuh) say from his lips that he loved that sahabi the most, because that`s what he thought from the way he treated him. So he asked the Prophet about it, and he would say Aisha raa or Abu Bakr Siddiq raa. The sahabi was astonished because he had always thought that since Prophet Muhammad was so nice to him that he was the one he loved the most.

Our Prophet (pbuh) managed to control his anger at all times. And taught the sahaba the strong person is not the one that can beat another person, but rather the one that controls ones anger while angry. He gifted his clothes to the graves of his enemies who had killed people in his family, when they died so that the fire wouldn`t touch them. SubhanAllah, would you have done that today if you knew someone you dislike would be saved from the Torment of the Fire? I guess most of us would rather seek revenge, then try to forgive. Think for one second if you try to overlook the faults of others, Allah will overlook your faults on the Judgement Day.

At home he washed and mended his own clothes and helped around the house and didn`t see the household chores as degrading to do for men. He never became angry to any of his servants and helped them around the house. Aisha Raa said that the Prophet Muhammad’s character was the Quran. SubhanAllah! We today tend to feel that things that Islam say is difficult to adopt, but our Prophet lived his life according to every ayah in the Quran. SubhanAllah!

In another hadith it is told about the how other non-muslims treated him and how he treated them back. For example, we all have heard about the woman with the garbage, throwing garbage at the Prophet (pbuh) when he passed her house in the streets. She used to do this often. One time when she didn`t come our Prophet went to her house to see how she was doing because he got worried. Is she alright? From this gesture of his that woman became a muslim.

He didn`t treat people differently because they had more money or anything. I remember the story about when he heard that Hadrat Bilal raa was so tired because of all the workload he had as a slave. Our Prophet came home to him and helped him with the household and made Bilal raa relax. Who is it that today would go home to someone and do their work. Often we have so much to do ourselves that we don`t even find enough time to do that. But our Prophet found time and showed us the path to walk. SubhanAllah.

One time when he heard Khadijah raa sister long time afther her death, he for a moment, was reminded of her. When Aisha raa saw this she got jealous and said why he thought of that woman when she has so many wifes now that are much younger and more beautiful than she was. He rebuked her and said that no wife of hers would ever be like Khadijah raa. He said, she believed in me when everyone else was against me, she supported him and is the only wife that gave birth to his children. So she had a very special place in his heart. SubhanAllah! He never had another wife while she was alive. Nowadays men always talk about having four wifes without even fulfilling all the obligations that one wife has.

Our Prophet (pbuh) also treated his daughters in the most nice way. When his daughter Fatima raa came to visit him, he would kiss her hand and give her his own seat to sit with him. Also he told Fatima raa that even if she was of the noblest descent if she didn`t do any good deeds her descent won`t give her Jannah, only her good deeds would. If your good deeds hold you back your noble descent won`t make you better in Allah`s eyes.

The character of our Prophet is the best role-model for us and all the generations that will follow till the end of time. We should try to learn more and apply every single bit of it in our conduct, so that we can prosper and live a fulfilling life. This is the person I admire the most and love so much ❤ May Allah accept all of our good deeds, keep us steadfast on the deen, give us more knowledge about the seerah so that we could apply it into our lives, and give us Jannat-ul-Firaws in the end. May Allah let us be of help to our Ummah. Ameen summa ameen.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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