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We know that many muslim families in the west, help their children start wearing hijab from primary school. Many non-muslim disagree about this practice. Even politicians have spoken against it, and want the authorities to ban hijab from school. Hijab is fardh, obligatory, from puberty, in Islam. The years before puberty it is optional for the child if she prefers to wear it. Often parents want the child to start with hijab early, because parents want their child to use hijab from their early teens. If they get used to the idea, it will become an easy choice for them to choose it also for their early adulthood. The problem arises because non-muslims think that children are forced to wear hijab. So they are thinking about banning it so no child is forced to wear it. The parents here are helping children wear covering clothing that increases the dignity and honour of girls. That can prevent them from becoming easy victims of sexual abusers.

Teens Who Hide Their Age

How do they dress in the west? Children are influenced to wear clothing like adults. The media, commercials, socializing with friends, celebrities sites. A whole industry of buying what is “popular” right now. The pressure is immense. Many children wear revealing clothing that adults wear, that while their real age is 10, they look like they are adults. In other words, 15-20 years ago, it was easy to see the real age of children from what clothing they wear and their behaviour. Now that is impossible. The influence of youtube and media, how a child behaves and what she chooses to wear, often robs them from their childhood. The children’s mind and thoughts mature faster than their age. When children, girls, behave and think and wear clothing that is above their age, they will easily attract the opposite gender who are more mature and elder than them. When they go places no-one knows their real age, they can easily fake being 18 etc. We know the issue about under aged children, fake ID and trying to get in contact with elder people, just to experience the thrill of having done something brave, and a good story when they meet their ordinary friends. We have heard real incidents in Norway and in uk about underaged girls having sexual relations with men in their twenties. There is a possibility that these girls have hid their real age. We can`t be assured that it is only the mens fault. It is of great trouble for the community when children look like adults, because of what they wear and how they behave. It is very important for a child to have friends that are on their own age and not above their age. When they first grow up, they can`t be a child again. But if they grow up too early, and we could prevent it, we robbed their childhood from them. That is really sad. If we are to decide that a muslim child can`t cover themselves completely, I think it is also about time we decide that non-muslims are not allowed to wear certain revealing clothing at the primary school. If we Morally evaluate the effect of half-naked children at school, compared to all-covered children at school, the effect of lesser clothing, is worse than the effect of those who choose to cover themselves completely.

How A Rapist Choose His Victim

When we read about those who have raped, some people have done a study of these people. As to why they rape, and who they choose. In these studies, they have come to the conclusion that if the rapist saw two women coming to the area he wants to attack, and one of them are dressed half-naked and the other is wearing covering clothing, he will choose the woman with less clothing. In other words, the rapist won`t choose a woman who is covered. Even though we agree that raping is not allowed. And those who rape are not allowed to rape, even if the whole town doesn`t wear clothing. Even if it is not the victims fault that she is being raped. To protect her from being raped, every caring mother would tried to convince her daughter to not wear these clothing outside the house, where she is in danger of being a victim of abuse. Where she can come across other rapists. We have to help our children make good choices so we can save them from these dangerous people. No-one sends their children to dangers. We love our children more than we love ourselves.

How Can Our Sons Focus Easier And Learn More At School

When there comes to understanding relationships and why and how men or women behave, we all agree that they are different. Different in how they understand love, how they understand respect, different in what qualities are important for them in their relationship. Men are turned on differently then women. Men are visual. The more of beauty that can be seen of a woman the more the man will have difficulties to not look. In the book “What you need to know about inner life of men” by Shaunti Feldhahn, she explains how men think and why. This is how Allah made men. This is the test of men. If women are more aware of their clothing when they step outside their home, and hide their beauty with hijab, many men would have easier days outside their homes. If men lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful woman, I`m positive so does a boy lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful girl at school. As a mother of boys, how well do you think your sons focus is in school, if a girl, a class-mate of his is wearing half-naked clothing every day of summer?

I Worry More About My Daughters

Often people worry about mothers of daughters, because they think that they have a more difficult job raising their children than those mothers of sons. I don`t think the one is easier or more difficult than the other. Both jobs, raising a son or a daughter is challenging. It is important to teach both genders to behave modestly and good. Sons must be taught to respect women regardless of how they behave. Women must be taught to respect themselves and behave with dignity and honour and protect their beauty. If we allow children to go around half-naked at school and ban those people who choose to cover themselves completely, we are shooting ourselves, by making it more troublesome for the children to focus in their learning, and may not be able to protect them from illicit relations / problems were the moral standards are low. If the authorities could balance their decision, it would be more helpful. Do not allow children to wear half-naked clothing of sexual art at school. Those children who choose to cover themselves should be allowed. If we think from what the child says, that she is being forced to wear a hijab, than take action. If we find out that children are wearing hijab with free will, it should be allowed. There should be some sort of balance. Non-muslims do not understand the detrimentalness of socializing between boys and girls who have no sence of modesty, dignity and honour. The police in Norway often update their social media platform, with info about crimes in Norway. Lately they have said that there is an increase of sexual offences. Many experts in the field assume there are much higher number of sexual assaults than what is reported to them. This often comes from filth in the media, nudity, weird programs on internet and tv, internet and socializing with the wrong people and alcohol and drugs. No boundaries is equal to chaos. If we look at the behaviour of places in Norway there is more muslim youth and places where there are less muslim youth, experts say in places with many muslims, the youth smoke less and drink less alcohol. And places where there are less muslim youth, the youth drink more alcohol. It is said that if the parents drink alcohol, it is likely that their children will adopt the drinking habits of their parents. If we look at the education of muslims and foreigners, they are on top when it comes to taking higher education. Especially the girls. The boys are behind. Maybe the reason why boys are behind when it comes to higher studies is the fitnah, tribulations they experience. So we see that the muslim community has also increased the communities with goodness. It is not all negative. But negative information gets more coverage in media. They blow up information. People who don`t know or check the real facts, start believing the mis-information of many journalists. Ya Allah, please help us to protect every ummati from negative influence and grant every ummati all good righteous company everyday, all day. Help us to protect our communities for our families and for the families that will live here in the future. Aamen

At work. As doctors, advocates, engineers. We are often very proud of ourselves when we attain some kind of position in society. People who achieve some kind of business or work, with a big salary didn`t come to that point themselves. They probably had many people backing them up. First of all their parents, their siblings, their good friends, and those teachers that guided them to make good decisions in life. Without these people they wouldn`t have been where they are today. Not only these people. Also other people who backed them when they were in difficulty. Prayed for them when they had some kind of troubles. Not only elders. It could have been a supplication of someone whom you hardly know. The same goes when it comes to something good or bad happening in your life, that turns your heart towards Your Creator. When your heart already yearns for Your Creator, you only need a little help, to walk, to join the right path. A muslim brother or sister who encouraged you to pray, a spiritual teacher who helped you remember Allah. and the list goes on.

Each Who Helped Us

Most of these people I have talked about in this text, helped you unconditionally. They expected nothing in return. They helped thinking of you, not themselves. It is very important, that when we achieve some kind of position, that we don`t forget these gems. These gems, who helped us, when we were lost, and needed good advice. They saw the potential in us, when we didn`t believe in us, as much as we do today. The best we can do is, be with them and help them, and do good for them. If that is not possible, than at least pray for them. Supplicate for them, every day. I would certainly not have been where I am today, without those people who believed in me, throughout my life. Ya Allah, have mercy on those who has helped without me knowing it, and while me knowing it. Ya Allah, each who has helped me while me knowing it, or while me not knowing it, grant them infinite blessings in both worlds. Aamen. In every one of every infinite blessing, grant them infinite new blessings of both worlds. Aamen. Guide us to the right path, and keep us firm on the right path. Aamen. Without doubt, Allah is able to do all things. I put my trust in my and your Creator. Allah will suffice me. Aamen. Protect me from those I know are bad for me, and protect me from those I don’t know are bad for me. Accept this for every ummati. Aamen

It’s very interesting how elders, aunties and uncles are. When it comes to their son, they want their son to have the “upper hand” in the marriage, always. When it comes to their daughter, they want their daughter to have the “upper hand” in the marriage. The elders want their own children to decide. Most of them have learned this from the culture (society). If we as practising muslim look at it in the light of quran and sunnah of ‎ﷺ they have told us how rights and responsabilities is to be shared between husband and wife in a marriage. If husband and wife fulfil their duties towards each other, In sha Allah they will have a blessed life. When we deviate from islam to culture, many problems arise. Ya Allah, protect every marriage. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant every spouse to fulfil their duties towards each other with goodwill. Aamen. Protect us from following culture when it misguides us away from Islam. Aamen 

In the first years of our school, we learned about limits of interaction with other children. Our teacher told us that every child has an invisible boundary around us. Every child has different people who are allowed to cross that boundary. Since every child is different, and some children are more shy than others, some have a bigger circle of boundary around them. That means that if we were to talk with such a child, he/she would feel comfortable if we had some extra distance between him/her and us, while speaking. Other outgoing children can have a circle that is closer to their body, so you can stand much closer to them, and they would still feel comfortable having a conversation. So our teachers told us, some people are allowed to come into the circle, like our parents, siblings, closets friends. If anyone crosses our boundary, without permission, then we must be strong, and able to speak up and remove ourselves from the situation. Teachers made up an example of a situation, and children were taught how to remove themselves from the treath.

I think it is very important that this is taught to children and teens. So they are aware of it. Make them strong and able to protect their own boundaries. and not allowing any outsider to cross them. Ya Allah, make it easy for us to protect ourself. Ya Allah protect every ummati, from those who cross their boundaries, without permission. Aameen

An attachment can be positive and it can be negative. Like a child is attached to his parents until he is independent. This is a natural attachment that we must go through. Like a nest. The baby birds learn to fly from their parents, and one day they leave their parents nest. 

The tricky part is when the attachment become negative to abusive. Like in the start of a friendship everyone seems good and nice. After a while you can see similarities of mental abusive and controlling behaviour. This often happens to people who are not able to understand how they need to respect themselves. So they tolerate disrespect from others. Other times, the “friends” doing the abuse tear down their selfesteem and confidence with their negative behaviour and remarks, that they are not able to protect themselves. 

The most important point is to learn your own value, and never let anyone devalue you. If they attempt to ridicule/ harass/ threatening/ demean or any other negative behaviour, you have to stop letting them into your life. Avoid them. 

Don’t let them manipulate you to think you can’t become succesful without them. Your success is not tied to one person. Our success comes from Allah. Bad influence is never welcome. At least not if you can’t protect yourself from the bad qualities of those people. 
This kinds of freindships are seen more in the internet world. It becomes a bad attachment when you miss them, when they’re not around. Like when a bad friend is with you, he / she treats you in a wrong way. The day he/she doesn’t come, you forget the negative treatment and miss the “company”. It’s not good for us to be around people that drag us down to bottom, everytime we meet them. Good people encourage others. Say good stuff. Gently and privately change the negative they see in you. They empover you. Anything else can not be tolerated. 

We must get rid of the bad influence in our life by making boundaries, people do not cross. If they try, first attempt: warning, second attempt: out. When we let other walkover our boundaries, they can become more cruel. 

The shephards has to protect who is under their responsebility, if they are not able to protect themselves. And every shephards will be questioned about their responsebility. If they do good, it is a way to earn immense reward. Responsability is mostly given to those who can fulfil it. If unnessasary mistakes are common. Their deeds can make their afterlife miserable. That is the greatest misery of all time. May Allah protect us. Help us diligently fulfil our duties towards those we are responsible for. And grant us wisdom to protect ourself and our loved ones from bad influence forever. Ya Allah, make us of those who have the courage of stopping the hands of the oppressors, when and if they harm us or our loved ones. Aameen ya rab. 

you-need-allahIt is somewhat tragical funny that sometimes people laugh of adults who behave childish. A dai once said: if you ask 10 women with the same clothing to sit the same place, and ask a 2-year-old who his/her mother is, the child will find her. We know how much a child loves his mother. His/her mother is everything for the child. Our Maker, our Creator, our Lord, our God Allah, loves us more than 70 mothers. I must say, people invite us to believe in who they think is our god. Aren’t we behaving like child, when in all these different religions, gods people believe in, we are not able to find our true God. How can we say that we are intellectuals, masters/bachelors degree, when we don’t know our true purpose, or who made us come to this world. See the signs. Believe in the signs. Comprehend, where is all this from? A person whom haven’t yet realized who his/her true Creator is, is worse than a little child, who understands his life. I must say, how tragically childish, indeed.

My Knowledge Of Advance Mathematics

I`ve had lectures in university. I have a master degree from their in fla fla subject etc. I can easily within minutes solve this difficult equation on this and that advanced level etc. The fla fla we are using as an example here, have probably spent over 20-25 years of his/her life to gain this knowledge. To spend rest of his/her life using this knowledge for further development in his/her success. For a worldly gain, we sacrifice this much time throughout our life. A gain that might, if Allah wills, last a 100 years, if we live that long. But yet when there comes to the gain of the afterlife, where we will live forever, for eternity. Allah knows how long one day will be, or one month. Maybe the time will be different from how time is in the world. Allah has said that the day of judgement will be like 50 years for a disbeliever and like the time between asr and maghrib for a believer. From this we can assume that time will be counted differently in our hereafter, based on our belief in this world. Are we really an intelligent person, when we can`t calculate how to work for a good eternity. FIrst, understand it, and most of all, also live to gain it. How can we not see, how important it is to have this worry, for how our souls life will be, after our death. Our body might live for a 100 years, but our souls life is for eternity. Shouldn`t it be a priority in our life to find out how we can make our eternal abode, a blessed place?

A 8 month old child. When his/her diaper gets filled with poop and urine. At once he/she starts to cry. The child’s mother will hear the voice and come to the child. Since the child is unable to communicate what is wrong, she will check 5 matters:
1. Is he/she hungry?
2. Must his /her diaper get changed?
3. Is he/she hurting somewhere?
4. Is he /she cold / warm somewhere?
5. Is he/she wet somewhere

The Child Is More Intelligent Than The Parent

After finding out that the diaper needed to be changed. The mother will do that. Just as she has finished changing the diaper, she will see the mood change of the child. The child will start, laughing, smiling or just stop crying. If none of the other points also are disturbing the child. An 8 month old child, feels uneasy, when he/she is un-clean. It dislikes it, and shows negative emotions. I dare say, this child under 1 year is more intelligent than most people nowadays. I mean like, when we talk about average people. It is very few who cleans their private parts thoroughly after going to the toilet. Most people only use toilet paper. Many goes around for years, with the bacteria of urine and stools on their private parts. I don`t know, how they can think that when they have taken a shower, they smell good, so they are clean. They think that smelling good is equal to clean. When in fact, they are not clean, and have been unclean for years. The little child of 8 months, is feeling un-easy when his diaper is dirty. The child has understood cleanliness, better than his parents.

An adults Understanding

An adult doesn`t understand that him/her being un-clean after being to the toilet, will have an impact on him/her feelings/mood/conduct etc as long as he/she doesn`t do anything about it. Many non-muslims could have been living like this for years. In Islam, keeping yourself clean is half of your faith. A practising muslim, will make wudu at least 5 times a day. Or maybe keep it all day. Most muslims are aware over that what you eat and your cleanliness, has an impact over how you will behave. In other words, if we eat something, un-clean/haram like some meat from pig, and when they on top of this doesn`t clean themselves. This will have a bad effect on their heart, spirituality and their conduct and character. How can we claim that we are intelligent because of our master / bachelor degrees, when we don`t understand the importance of clean food and clean body. In addition, muslims doesn`t limit their cleanliness to the body, we also talk about the cleanliness of the heart, and the soul. The cleanliness of the heart, is to keep our heart free from diseases like, envy, jealousy, bad-ghomani, chugli, arrogance, not being able to stop oneself from committing sins, and not stopping others from committing sins. When we keep our heart at a good state, working to get rid of the diseases, we also are able to develop/improve our spirituality and the quality of our ibaadah and deeds in our life. it is mustahab for a person to do ghusl at least one time a week, fridays. When we do ghusl, a spiritual bath, we clean our soul. It is obligatory for a muslim to keep his heart, body and soul clean. Someone who strives for this and succeeds will be a good muslim, in sha Allah. It is truly very sad to see people un-aware of the real issues about cleanliness. Wrong prorities in life and busy schedule has made them neglect it. Awareness is half done. If those who practice these sunnah`s try to talk about it, in a gentle manner, maybe we are able to help people understand, why and how it can help them and improve the quality and reward of their deeds. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

I Cry In My Heart

When some people make jokes about some adults being childish. It hurts. How wrong they are. If we only could help non-muslims and non-practising muslims understand, that behaving childish in some situation is not the definition of immature. A person whom can`t find his/her way to his Creator, is a child. In other words, those who doesn`t know their Creator, or live by his commandments are children. And truly matureness comes with believing and practising the true religion. Because than you will make good decisions for your life and hereafter. A definition of an adult can be one who knows how to live a good life, make good choices in life, on his/her own. Having knowledge of something is almost half of doing it. We can try to not only focus on knowledge of the brain, but focus on knowledge of the heart. A heart will not accept good information unless it is a good and sound heart. That is why we do dhikr. To purify the heart. It`s not a once in a year quest. To achieve a pure heart, we need to do dhikr every day. There is no elevator to success. We have to take the stairs, one step at a time. In dhikr mehfil we learn that educating the head without educating the heart is not education at all. We can only find our true purpose, when we try to correct our heart. It is not enough to have knowledge. Only by practising = wisdom, of the knowledge we have, can we say with deeds, not only words, that yes, we truly do believe in the good effects of cleanliness. May Allah make it easy for us to understand. Aameen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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