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At work. As doctors, advocates, engineers. We are often very proud of ourselves when we attain some kind of position in society. People who achieve some kind of business or work, with a big salary didn`t come to that point themselves. They probably had many people backing them up. First of all their parents, their siblings, their good friends, and those teachers that guided them to make good decisions in life. Without these people they wouldn`t have been where they are today. Not only these people. Also other people who backed them when they were in difficulty. Prayed for them when they had some kind of troubles. Not only elders. It could have been a supplication of someone whom you hardly know. The same goes when it comes to something good or bad happening in your life, that turns your heart towards Your Creator. When your heart already yearns for Your Creator, you only need a little help, to walk, to join the right path. A muslim brother or sister who encouraged you to pray, a spiritual teacher who helped you remember Allah. and the list goes on.

Each Who Helped Us

Most of these people I have talked about in this text, helped you unconditionally. They expected nothing in return. They helped thinking of you, not themselves. It is very important, that when we achieve some kind of position, that we don`t forget these gems. These gems, who helped us, when we were lost, and needed good advice. They saw the potential in us, when we didn`t believe in us, as much as we do today. The best we can do is, be with them and help them, and do good for them. If that is not possible, than at least pray for them. Supplicate for them, every day. I would certainly not have been where I am today, without those people who believed in me, throughout my life. Ya Allah, have mercy on those who has helped without me knowing it, and while me knowing it. Ya Allah, each who has helped me while me knowing it, or while me not knowing it, grant them infinite blessings in both worlds. Aamen. In every one of every infinite blessing, grant them infinite new blessings of both worlds. Aamen. Guide us to the right path, and keep us firm on the right path. Aamen. Without doubt, Allah is able to do all things. I put my trust in my and your Creator. Allah will suffice me. Aamen. Protect me from those I know are bad for me, and protect me from those I don’t know are bad for me. Accept this for every ummati. Aamen

It’s very interesting how elders, aunties and uncles are. When it comes to their son, they want their son to have the “upper hand” in the marriage, always. When it comes to their daughter, they want their daughter to have the “upper hand” in the marriage. The elders want their own children to decide. Most of them have learned this from the culture (society). If we as practising muslim look at it in the light of quran and sunnah of ‎ﷺ they have told us how rights and responsabilities is to be shared between husband and wife in a marriage. If husband and wife fulfil their duties towards each other, In sha Allah they will have a blessed life. When we deviate from islam to culture, many problems arise. Ya Allah, protect every marriage. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant every spouse to fulfil their duties towards each other with goodwill. Aamen. Protect us from following culture when it misguides us away from Islam. Aamen 

In the first years of our school, we learned about limits of interaction with other children. Our teacher told us that every child has an invisible boundary around us. Every child has different people who are allowed to cross that boundary. Since every child is different, and some children are more shy than others, some have a bigger circle of boundary around them. That means that if we were to talk with such a child, he/she would feel comfortable if we had some extra distance between him/her and us, while speaking. Other outgoing children can have a circle that is closer to their body, so you can stand much closer to them, and they would still feel comfortable having a conversation. So our teachers told us, some people are allowed to come into the circle, like our parents, siblings, closets friends. If anyone crosses our boundary, without permission, then we must be strong, and able to speak up and remove ourselves from the situation. Teachers made up an example of a situation, and children were taught how to remove themselves from the treath.

I think it is very important that this is taught to children and teens. So they are aware of it. Make them strong and able to protect their own boundaries. and not allowing any outsider to cross them. Ya Allah, make it easy for us to protect ourself. Ya Allah protect every ummati, from those who cross their boundaries, without permission. Aameen

An attachment can be positive and it can be negative. Like a child is attached to his parents until he is independent. This is a natural attachment that we must go through. Like a nest. The baby birds learn to fly from their parents, and one day they leave their parents nest. 

The tricky part is when the attachment become negative to abusive. Like in the start of a friendship everyone seems good and nice. After a while you can see similarities of mental abusive and controlling behaviour. This often happens to people who are not able to understand how they need to respect themselves. So they tolerate disrespect from others. Other times, the “friends” doing the abuse tear down their selfesteem and confidence with their negative behaviour and remarks, that they are not able to protect themselves. 

The most important point is to learn your own value, and never let anyone devalue you. If they attempt to ridicule/ harass/ threatening/ demean or any other negative behaviour, you have to stop letting them into your life. Avoid them. 

Don’t let them manipulate you to think you can’t become succesful without them. Your success is not tied to one person. Our success comes from Allah. Bad influence is never welcome. At least not if you can’t protect yourself from the bad qualities of those people. 
This kinds of freindships are seen more in the internet world. It becomes a bad attachment when you miss them, when they’re not around. Like when a bad friend is with you, he / she treats you in a wrong way. The day he/she doesn’t come, you forget the negative treatment and miss the “company”. It’s not good for us to be around people that drag us down to bottom, everytime we meet them. Good people encourage others. Say good stuff. Gently and privately change the negative they see in you. They empover you. Anything else can not be tolerated. 

We must get rid of the bad influence in our life by making boundaries, people do not cross. If they try, first attempt: warning, second attempt: out. When we let other walkover our boundaries, they can become more cruel. 

The shephards has to protect who is under their responsebility, if they are not able to protect themselves. And every shephards will be questioned about their responsebility. If they do good, it is a way to earn immense reward. Responsability is mostly given to those who can fulfil it. If unnessasary mistakes are common. Their deeds can make their afterlife miserable. That is the greatest misery of all time. May Allah protect us. Help us diligently fulfil our duties towards those we are responsible for. And grant us wisdom to protect ourself and our loved ones from bad influence forever. Ya Allah, make us of those who have the courage of stopping the hands of the oppressors, when and if they harm us or our loved ones. Aameen ya rab. 

you-need-allahIt is somewhat tragical funny that sometimes people laugh of adults who behave childish. A dai once said: if you ask 10 women with the same clothing to sit the same place, and ask a 2-year-old who his/her mother is, the child will find her. We know how much a child loves his mother. His/her mother is everything for the child. Our Maker, our Creator, our Lord, our God Allah, loves us more than 70 mothers. I must say, people invite us to believe in who they think is our god. Aren’t we behaving like child, when in all these different religions, gods people believe in, we are not able to find our true God. How can we say that we are intellectuals, masters/bachelors degree, when we don’t know our true purpose, or who made us come to this world. See the signs. Believe in the signs. Comprehend, where is all this from? A person whom haven’t yet realized who his/her true Creator is, is worse than a little child, who understands his life. I must say, how tragically childish, indeed.

My Knowledge Of Advance Mathematics

I`ve had lectures in university. I have a master degree from their in fla fla subject etc. I can easily within minutes solve this difficult equation on this and that advanced level etc. The fla fla we are using as an example here, have probably spent over 20-25 years of his/her life to gain this knowledge. To spend rest of his/her life using this knowledge for further development in his/her success. For a worldly gain, we sacrifice this much time throughout our life. A gain that might, if Allah wills, last a 100 years, if we live that long. But yet when there comes to the gain of the afterlife, where we will live forever, for eternity. Allah knows how long one day will be, or one month. Maybe the time will be different from how time is in the world. Allah has said that the day of judgement will be like 50 years for a disbeliever and like the time between asr and maghrib for a believer. From this we can assume that time will be counted differently in our hereafter, based on our belief in this world. Are we really an intelligent person, when we can`t calculate how to work for a good eternity. FIrst, understand it, and most of all, also live to gain it. How can we not see, how important it is to have this worry, for how our souls life will be, after our death. Our body might live for a 100 years, but our souls life is for eternity. Shouldn`t it be a priority in our life to find out how we can make our eternal abode, a blessed place?

A 8 month old child. When his/her diaper gets filled with poop and urine. At once he/she starts to cry. The child’s mother will hear the voice and come to the child. Since the child is unable to communicate what is wrong, she will check 5 matters:
1. Is he/she hungry?
2. Must his /her diaper get changed?
3. Is he/she hurting somewhere?
4. Is he /she cold / warm somewhere?
5. Is he/she wet somewhere

The Child Is More Intelligent Than The Parent

After finding out that the diaper needed to be changed. The mother will do that. Just as she has finished changing the diaper, she will see the mood change of the child. The child will start, laughing, smiling or just stop crying. If none of the other points also are disturbing the child. An 8 month old child, feels uneasy, when he/she is un-clean. It dislikes it, and shows negative emotions. I dare say, this child under 1 year is more intelligent than most people nowadays. I mean like, when we talk about average people. It is very few who cleans their private parts thoroughly after going to the toilet. Most people only use toilet paper. Many goes around for years, with the bacteria of urine and stools on their private parts. I don`t know, how they can think that when they have taken a shower, they smell good, so they are clean. They think that smelling good is equal to clean. When in fact, they are not clean, and have been unclean for years. The little child of 8 months, is feeling un-easy when his diaper is dirty. The child has understood cleanliness, better than his parents.

An adults Understanding

An adult doesn`t understand that him/her being un-clean after being to the toilet, will have an impact on him/her feelings/mood/conduct etc as long as he/she doesn`t do anything about it. Many non-muslims could have been living like this for years. In Islam, keeping yourself clean is half of your faith. A practising muslim, will make wudu at least 5 times a day. Or maybe keep it all day. Most muslims are aware over that what you eat and your cleanliness, has an impact over how you will behave. In other words, if we eat something, un-clean/haram like some meat from pig, and when they on top of this doesn`t clean themselves. This will have a bad effect on their heart, spirituality and their conduct and character. How can we claim that we are intelligent because of our master / bachelor degrees, when we don`t understand the importance of clean food and clean body. In addition, muslims doesn`t limit their cleanliness to the body, we also talk about the cleanliness of the heart, and the soul. The cleanliness of the heart, is to keep our heart free from diseases like, envy, jealousy, bad-ghomani, chugli, arrogance, not being able to stop oneself from committing sins, and not stopping others from committing sins. When we keep our heart at a good state, working to get rid of the diseases, we also are able to develop/improve our spirituality and the quality of our ibaadah and deeds in our life. it is mustahab for a person to do ghusl at least one time a week, fridays. When we do ghusl, a spiritual bath, we clean our soul. It is obligatory for a muslim to keep his heart, body and soul clean. Someone who strives for this and succeeds will be a good muslim, in sha Allah. It is truly very sad to see people un-aware of the real issues about cleanliness. Wrong prorities in life and busy schedule has made them neglect it. Awareness is half done. If those who practice these sunnah`s try to talk about it, in a gentle manner, maybe we are able to help people understand, why and how it can help them and improve the quality and reward of their deeds. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

I Cry In My Heart

When some people make jokes about some adults being childish. It hurts. How wrong they are. If we only could help non-muslims and non-practising muslims understand, that behaving childish in some situation is not the definition of immature. A person whom can`t find his/her way to his Creator, is a child. In other words, those who doesn`t know their Creator, or live by his commandments are children. And truly matureness comes with believing and practising the true religion. Because than you will make good decisions for your life and hereafter. A definition of an adult can be one who knows how to live a good life, make good choices in life, on his/her own. Having knowledge of something is almost half of doing it. We can try to not only focus on knowledge of the brain, but focus on knowledge of the heart. A heart will not accept good information unless it is a good and sound heart. That is why we do dhikr. To purify the heart. It`s not a once in a year quest. To achieve a pure heart, we need to do dhikr every day. There is no elevator to success. We have to take the stairs, one step at a time. In dhikr mehfil we learn that educating the head without educating the heart is not education at all. We can only find our true purpose, when we try to correct our heart. It is not enough to have knowledge. Only by practising = wisdom, of the knowledge we have, can we say with deeds, not only words, that yes, we truly do believe in the good effects of cleanliness. May Allah make it easy for us to understand. Aameen.

moralens voktere, vekt, etikk, ethics, right, wrongHomofili er satt på dagsordenen. Noen muslimer er imot, andre er mer åpne for at enhver må ha rett til å praktisere det de selv ønsker. Mange ikke-muslimer stiller seg uforstående til hvorfor koranen sier at homofili skal straffes med dødsstraff. Uten at jeg selv vil gå ut og drepe en som praktiserer homofili, forstår jeg noe av Allah`s hikmah (wisdom) bak dette. Jeg skal prøve å forklare det her.

Både kristne og muslimer har forbud mot homofili i sin religion.

For at menneskeligheten skal få reprodusere seg, trenger man en mann og en kvinne. To personer av samme kjønn kan ikke skape et barn. En gang for flere år siden møtte jeg en mor med sin datter i en butikk. Når jeg så de i kø ved kassen, så jeg at datteren hadde tydelige kutt-merker på begge armene. Det virket ikke som at hun ønsket å skjule det heller, siden hun hadde ganske korte armer på t-shorten sin. Det finnes mennesker som blir veldig dypt deprimert. For noen blir det et større problem, da de starter med selvskading. Denne personen var en av de. Hun hadde kuttet seg flere ganger på begge armene. Tydelig tegn på røde arr. Ofte når man ser et menneske, er det ikke så lett å se om de har noen form for sykdom. Alle sykdomstilfeller planter seg ikke i det fysiske. Når et menneske er så deprimert at det blir psykisk syk, og begynner med selvskading, trår myndighetene inn og tar dette mennesket inn i en lukket avdeling på et sykehus, og prøver å kurere deg fra det som vi kaller en sykdom. Han/hun ønsker å skade seg selv, vi har bevis. Når to mennesker av samme kjønn ønsker å gå inn i et samliv, så ønsker de også å skade seg selv. Ved å gå inn i et samliv av samme kjønn, vil et menneske skade sin sjel, sitt hjerte og sin kropp. Dette er tegn på selvskading av spirtuell karakter. Islam går så langt at de ikke bare tenker på vår fysiske og psykiske helse, men Islam tenker også på vår spirituelle helse. Tross denne kroppen vi lever i, vil kanskje leve i 90 år, men vår sjel vil leve evig. Derfor er Islam opptatt av hvor vår sjel skal leve sitt evige liv.

Vi vet at sykdommer er smittsomme

Sykehus er her for å helbrede folk fra sine sykdommer og lignende. På samme måte, kan man si at vaner og kvaliteter også smitter over på andre mennesker, de man omgås mest. På både godt og vondt. Islam er klar over mennesker blir påvirket av andres vaner og kvaliteter. Det er derfor det ofte presiseres at vi må omgås mennesker som har gode mennesker, slik at vi slipper å internalisere en dårlig vane / norm / kvalitet. Dersom et narkotisk middel blir legalisert, vil det øke bruken av det middelet. Dersom en dårlig, vane / kvalitet blir legalisert, vil det øke blant mennesker i det samfunnet. Dersom en immoralsk handlig blir legalisert, vil det øke i det samfunnet. Islam ønsker ikke at et menneske skal bli sykt. Islam ønsker at en sykdom ikke skal spre seg i samfunnet. Dersom en person har en sykdom som det er smittefarlig, vil han inn på et lukket rom, hvor legene gir han anti-middel mot sykdommen. Han/hun får ikke gå ut av rommet før den sykdommen er kurert. De legene, sykepleierne som besøker han må ha på seg spesiel type tøy slik at de ikke blir smittet. Når den syke person har fulført sin kur, og kurert kan han/hun få gå ut av det lukkede rommet.

Følelser er veldig skiftende

Den ene dagen er vi forelsket i en person, to uker senere er vi ikke forelsket i samme person. 1 år etterpå er vi forselsket i en annen person. Bare siden vi er føler at vi vil være i hjemmet til en vi liker, er det ikke slik at det er greit, bare fordi vi føler det. Den andre personer ønsker kanskje ikke å ha oss på besøk i det hele tatt. Kanskje han/hun misliker oss, og vil ikke ha noe med oss å gjøre. Vi kan ikke gjøre som vi føler bare fordi at da får vi viljen vår. Dersom det ikke hadde vært noen regler, og alle kunne gjøre som de øsnket, hadde det vært tydelig kaos overalt. Reglene som blir lagd i et samfunn, blir lagd for å beskytte menneskene i samfunnet. Totalt anarki, der alle gjør det de vil, vil folk drepe hvem de vil pga sykelig sjalusi, eller uvennskap, uten å måtte stå til ansvar ovefor en domstol. Nesten som en borgerkrig hvor alle er mot alle. Vi kan ikke si “har du lyst har du lov”. Tenk om jeg har lyst til å drepe et annet menneske? Er det greit siden jeg har lyst til det? Tenk om jeg ønsker å ta over en slektnings eiendom bare fordi jeg har lyst på mer eiendom. Er det greit, siden jeg har lyst til det? Noen ganger så blir jeg sint på en venn, er det greit at jeg gir han/hun en ørefik bare fordi jeg har lyst til det? Selvfølgelig kan man ha lyst til mye, men vi utfører det ikke, siden det ikke er en akseptert norm. Det er ikke love å drepe andre mennesker, ta over andres eiendom, eller gi ørefik til andre. 

Foreldrene bestemmer

Når foreldrene våre har klare begrensninger på når vi må ut og inn, legge oss, tv tid, internett tid, og hvem vi omgås, hva vi gjør og lignende, kan vi til tider være uenig med de reglene de har satt. “Mamma er så streng”, kan en tenåringsjente si, når hun må komme hjem tidlig. Selv om tenåringene mener at foreldrene er superstrenge til tider, så er de fleste klar over at deres foreldre er glad i dem. Vi kan sammenligne dette med vår skaper Allah (Gud). Allah elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Bare for å sammenligne. Uansett hvor sint en mor er på sin datter, vil hun aldri be henne gjøre noe som er dårlig for henne. De kan være uenige om reglene men vi alle vet at en mor elsker sitt barn mer enn noe. På samme måte, så er det med vår skaper, Han elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Når han har lagd regler for oss, er det av pure kjærlighet for oss. En bil kan ikke reparere en annen bil. Bare ingeniøren som designet bilen og han som lagde den, kan reparere bilen. Skaperen av mennesket er Allah (Gud). Siden Han har skapt oss, vet han best hvordan maskineriet vårt fungerer best. Hva det må unngå for å oppnå mye bra og hvilket miljø vi vokser best i. Når han lager regler for oss og ønsker å stoppe oss fra immoralske handlinger, er det av pure kjærlighet. Han ønsker ikke at vi skal destruere vår sjel og vårt hjerte. Derfor for å hjelpe oss å finne veien tilbake til Han, har Han sendt oss koranen. Det er en handling av ren barmhjertighet overfor oss. Så sender han oss denne veiledningshefte (brukerguide – koranen) via en som har perfektuert alt som står i den. Han viser oss via Profeten Muhammads (fred være med han) liv at det er mulig at et menneske kan følge denne veiledningen.

Regler og retningslinjer hindrer kaos

Ikke bare for kroppen og psyken, men også for sjelen. Ellers kan det henne at den blir korrupt. Dersom det skjer vil vi ikke ende på et fint sted etter døden for evigheten. Siden Allah har skapt oss, vet han best hva som er bra for oss og hva vi trenger, samt hva som kan være årsaken til at vi blir korrupte. Måtte Allah gjøre det enkelt for oss å forstå dette budskapet. Aameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one 2 one :)

(",) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (",)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Overjoyous :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) If you just love me, i will let you see, how more you need? :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)