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daughter, upbringing, mother, the muslim showA lot of people say that we lack kindness in the world. If only people would be nice to each other, people would live happy. I think we need to analyze what niceness is and what kind of values there are in a good friend to answer this question.

Parents that don`t give you what you want

Children and teens often criticize their parents that they aren`t being nice to them. Maybe because they tell them to do all their homework before they watch television, or always tell them to inform them where they are so they don`t get worried, or to help wash the dishes and other chores in the house. Would they have been nice to them if they let them stay up all night, drink and eat whatever they want, and go to school only if they feel like it? Would these teens become good adults if they have such an upbringing? Actually if the parents give their children a good upbringing the children might dislike it at the moment, but later on in their life, most of them would realize that their parents were right. It is not easy for a child/teen to see the hikmah/reason behind a decision. They must accept it. The parents often put their children’s needs before their own. That is the love they have for their children.

Only Allah knows the Hikmah of a decision

Niceness is not always that you get what you think is good for you. Withholding something can also be niceness, from parents or from Allah. We should always work and strive for the good we want, but sometimes what seem good to us, will maybe not be good to us, so Allah by his Rahma withholds that from us. We complain and stop to pray. Later on in our life, we see the hikmah of that decision and realize that it actually was for the best, even if it did cause us pain for some time. That is why it is important to do your best, but leave the rest to God. If it is Allah`s will you will achieve it, if it isn`t His will, He will give you something better in return if you are patient.

friendsWhat is a good friend ?

Often we choose people with the same hobbies as ours, as our friends. How will we be able to keep a conversation if we don`t have anything in common? First of all, a good friend is the people whom have good universal values. Often we see that the values of people we spend time with rub off on us. If they are decent people, we will learn decent things from them, if they are bad people, we will see some of the same things in us. For example, if your friends know the abc of breaking the rules by encouraging you to break the speed-limit when you are driving, bending tax-rules or other things, that is what you will learn from them. On the contrary if you have friends that goes regularly to the mosque or is learning the Quran, and listen and reads nasheeds, that is how you are going to be as well. Like-minded people find each other. A friend is the one whom will teach and tell you good things, and correct you privately when you are wrong. If he/she is your friend, they will worry about your Akhirah/Hereafter, and invite you to do good deeds, and want to see you in Jannah/Paradise with them.

Can you handle the truth?

Ultimately it boils down to the point that if some people care about you, they will tell you the truth in such a beautiful manner, even if they are correcting you, they are doing it in the best way, because they care. Would you rather they not? Those whom have others that worry for them are succesful people. Be it parents, siblings, spouses or friends. Those who truly value you as a person would want the best for you and guide you to do good deeds. They will tell you the truth in the doses you can take, so that you will be able to handle it, and grow as a person. We all have a responsibility of correcting each other privately in the best manner, so that we don`t discourage or depress people, but rather inspire them to become better people. Niceness is not that other people do as you wish at all times, but it is rather that they do what is right for you, even if you at the moment may dislike it. May Allah give us good friends and make us a good friend to others,  and make us trust the decisions Allah makes for us. May Allah help us help others. Ameen summa ameen.

 

It`s our responsibility to inject our kids with the best values, hobbies and positive attitude, to do our best to prevent them going astray. Kids need role models to which they can be inspired to keep them on the right path.

I know there`s a common issue in asian families that when kids come into their teens they more often are misled. To prevent this they need a person they could look upto a good role model. Please, let the kids join the soccer team, the chess-club, the naat-team in the mosque, take them to the mosque as early as possible to make som good habits from the start. Guide them into reading books from an early age. Don`t let them get so bored that they go out to find some action – come in a fight to kill boredom.

Always know as to where your kids are. And when i mean know i mean, do check out if they are where they said they were going. As to kids are very smart, they could easily take advantage of the fact that; my dad/mum isn`t going to check if I`m at Mohammeds` house or shopping nearby. Some kids do need tough guidelines to keep them on track and others can be dealt with more easily. Parents nowadays aren`t always aware of their kids whereabouts. The kids are often seen in shopping malls where they hang on the corner and can bump into dangerous situations.

You as a parent need to KNOW your kids friends. Where they live, phonenumbers, what kind of people the family is in whole. That will surely create a postivie atmosphere for your kid and his/her friends. Kids need friends to have someone to share their thoughts with, sharing interest is very important and will build up their personality making them social beings.

You as a parent have the responsibility for teaching your children that girls and boys share all the household chores. You do everything at home as a team. If someone get sick we all should know how to put some food on the table for the family. Everyone should help around to keep the home tidy.

By simply being there for your kids knowing how their day has been, playing an active part in their life, you can Inshallah do miracles.. May Allah keep all the kids in the world on the straight path, and give them right guidance with the right values in life. Ameen sum ameen.

A person who has worked his/her whole life would probably never ever choose to stay home. If I talk about myself, life wouldn`t be the same without having a job. Adding:  a job one loves 🙂 Where you feel that you`re doing something that makes a difference for some people. A place where you can use your skills and improve them through hard work dedicating your time for someone that will eventually lessen someone `s issues in some way..

Allthough I do respect women who choose to stay home for the sake of their kids. I can understand that leaving your child to the kindergarden not knowing if they get the right care can be difficult for someone. Being a parent is a huge responsibility so it`s totally understandable.

But If you`re not in a situation that your job is your life than one can often spend your spare time with hobbies that you love to do. In that way one earns the money one needs and still can do something you love to do 🙂

Remember time is precious for everyone. Something that one`s spend would never come back, so spend it wisely.. 🙂

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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