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verden-i-blomster-world-in-flowersNestekjærlighet finnes i alle religioner. Være en flott borger, nabo, venn, kollega, medmenneske, familie. Å praktisere medmenneskelighet går på tvers av kultur, religion, kjønn, etniske bakgrunn. Når man viser godhet/omtanke om andre via medmenneskelighet så betyr det som oftest ikke at en er forelsket i det menneske. Det betyr kun at du ønsker at det menneske skal leve et godt liv. Ønske et godt liv til andre, slik som en ønsker for seg selv, viser at vi har et godt hjerte. Å rekke ut en hånd til noen som trenger det, er det som får verden til å gå rundt. Nestekjærlighet og positivitet. Uten dette i et samfunn, hadde det blitt tøft å overleve. Jeg er så takknemlige for at det finnes mange ok mennesker her i verden. 👍

Og du som leser dette er en av dem 🙂

 

life, thinker, mirror, bonde, dronning, queenTo be able to live a happy life, it is very important for every person to have a good amount of self-esteem within themselves. You have to work with yourself to have a positive balance within you. Whether your male or female. We cannot rely on the sources outside. Others can`t or won`t always cheer us up. We need to nurture our confidence so that it can grow. Of course it gives you a boost that other people think positive thoughts about you. But it won`t last if we don`t feel the same way about ourself. Another point is that people whom have low self-esteem don`t always validate or believe other people`s praise about them. They`re simply to low to feel that there is any good in them.

 

Make a list of achievements on a daily basis

The best way to deal with low self-esteem is to keep a diary of your achievements with you through the whole day. Here you can write three things you have achieved per day, and your mood, by the side of it. For example, today I managed to get an A on the x exam. It made me feel intelligent and I know i earned it because of my hard work the weeks before it. Mood : Smart/Happy/Intelligent/Diligent, etc. By doing this you will slowly start to rebuild confidence.

 

To much ain`t good either

Just like it isn`t good to have low self-esteem, it isn`t seen as a good thing to be over-confident either. We need to be balanced and be in touch with reality.  I know I have done this before, but that doesn`t mean that I will be able to do this. No one likes bragging over-confident people. What attracts others is humility and people whom have their feet planted on the ground. By knowing your potential and the fact that we can all err at sometime, you will be in touch with the real you. We must not blind our vision by always thinking positive, but we must also know the reality, and whether a goal is achievable or not.

 

There is always room for improvement

If you have low self-esteem it is important that you keep writing three positive achievements a day, for about three to five months. After that you can try to come with suggestions on how you can improve yourself. Like for instance, one suggestion a day about how you can improve a certain conduct in yourself. It is very important that you don`t start with this before you have build your self-esteem to a certain extent that you don`t end up with a negative balance. It`s about being positive but at the same time having the insight that there are certain  things I can do better. There is always room for improvement. No one is perfect. Knowing this and keeping it in mind, whenever we fail, would help us to dust of the negativity and at the same time we give ourself chances to improve, with suggestions like, next time I`ll meet that situation like this or that.

 

You can`t stop setbacks, only how you deal with them

The most important thing is that we will have setbacks and things that happen in our lives that can be totally negative a day/week/month. The best thing is that on these rainy days you take out your diary and read the achievements you have been writing for some time. That would boost you enough to bounce back into a positive mood. You will realize that even though I messed up today/this week/this month, I have done a lot of good things that weigh more than these “incidents”. You will find inner strength and feel less dependent on your surrounding, spouse, family to cheer you up.

 

Low self-esteem in spouse

When one of the spouses in a relationship has low self-esteem, believe me, the couple will go through some tough times, until they work on themselves. It can be very difficult to be positive and have a wonderful relationship, if one or both of the spouses is always negative. To turn this around, both should keep a diary of their achievements. If you know your spouse is dealing with this, do not critisize him/her.  Especially not in front of others, be it children, parents or siblings. Also don`t think that this is not a male-issue. This can happen to both genders. What is important is that both are mature enough to see where they lack and being willing to work on it. Sometimes it is hard to be true to your spouse, because you know he/she can be hurt about it. So instead of saying, you do this or that, say lets do this together, both of us. Realization is important, and willing to make a difference. Another thing is that even if you have a positive balance today, doesn`t mean it will always be like that. Negative things can happen at any time. We can never be safe from that. But if we ourselves are strong, we will handle them better in a way that we bounce back to our positive attitude if we have worked on it.

 

You can never be too late for this

The right time is now. You can never be too late/too old/too young. Even if you are in your teens, student, married, single, parent. Know that when you have worked on this for some time you will feel a positive change in how you think, and be able to handle the ups and the downs in your life. Keep a positive track for about 3-5 months and after that start with one thing you can improve about yourself daily. Don`t start with the improvement list to early, before you have a positive account. How much time you need can be individual. You know when your ready for it. The best way to find inner strength is to be your own best friend. Only than you are able to have healthy relationship, be it family, spouse or friends. Your self-esteem will remain and increase regardless of your surrounding. You will become more positive and believe in your own abilities. You will come to know yourself, your strenghts/weaknesses. You will become a better version of yourself. What can be better than that? Try it for a month, and see how it changes your life for the better.

hearts are fragile, be careful with your wordsAlmost everyone are on fb now. If you’re not online in these ages than it is quite strange. So like there is a manual for almost every thing, there should also be a manual for how to update statuses on FB. A lot of times people try to be funny and end up being very rude. I have also burnt myself on that. Sometimes words can`t describe what you want to say, or you don`t find the right words to proclaim your message. And sometimes you just want to be funny.

Everyone has different values from each other, even if their brought up in the same family there will be differences. What I understand in a certain way, another person will understand differently, no matter what. When we write a status on FB we will never be guaranteed that we will not hurt another person. What we might say in a manner just to be funny, can very easily offend another person. I`m thinking that as muslims, we know that if we hurt someone`s feelings in this world, and are for any reason not able to apologize to them before our or their death. Those people will stand in the way of us going to Paradise. It is better to settle a matter in the dunya then the Hereafter, if you would like to make it to Paradise.

Sometimes we see different things in the community that we want to point out. We must be very careful that are status don`t end up known as backbiting. Checking our intentions and making them pure for the sake of wanting a better change in the society is a must. We must be careful not to belittle someone. Will what you are about to say, change the other person, make him/her think, or will it make him/her worse. No one I`ve ever heard about has changed a person by offending them. If your intention is to create a change, it can only be done through love and a positive way of proclaiming your message, without bringing others down. If you are doing dawa or Islah the wrong way, you could end up in making others feel hopeless and make their situation even worse. Don`t make others`feel hopeless, make them feel hopeful. Each and every has a very fragile heart. Even if they try to hide their feelings behind a happy face. Know for sure that what we say and do, does have an impact on the people you interact with, either we want it or not.

We need to evaluate what we say to make sure that it is with the right intention, and to make a positive change in others, without backbiting. If not, than our messages are better left unsaid.

frogs 1I would like to share this story, because it is very inspiring.

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods and two of them fell into a deep pit.  All the other frogs gathered around the pit.  When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might.  The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead.  Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up.  He fell down and died. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could.  Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die.  He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said: “Did you not hear us?”  The frog explained to them that he was deaf.  He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

The moral from the story is that when people discourage you simply give them the deaf ear. Don`t listen to what they have to say, get busy with other stuff. Know that true encouragement can lift spirits to a height they have never been before, so keep up the good work, in sha Allah.

Encouragement from someone can make such a great impact on you that can make you succeed. So try to spread some encouraging words. And remember that people will never be pleased with you no matter what you do, there will always be someone whom is displeased with you, it`t a lot more easy to please the Creator. He is the only one who can truly help us through every difficulty.

May Allah bless every person that is going through tough times. Ameen summa ameen.

you are succefulWe all have our moments of worries in this world. There is always anticipation for something good to come in our life. It could be getting a better grade at school, getting a job, getting married, wanting children, good health etc. We are always waiting for something to come to us, which could lead to worries, pain and suffering if things don`t go the way we want them to.

I have noticed one thing. When I`m thankful/grateful I have better control over what is happening in my life. My kusho in salah is better and I feel more confident at whatever life is giving me. That is one way of achieving peace of mind.

When we meet other people be it friends or family acquaintances or colleague’s we get to know their different lives and learn from it. If we aren`t that confident, looking at someone who has more than us, that makes us feel less fortunate. Though it should not be like that. We should always be thankful for what we have. When we see others that have more than us, we should also remember those that has less than us also. Than we will feel real gratefulness and ihsan in all our matters. Because gratefulness leads to recognizing where it is all coming from; Our Creator. We are in need of whatever good that he bestows on us. All the time.

We are so blessed that it`s so sad that we still at times lose our confidence. At those times the small gestures that comes from our surroundings make us believe in ourselves and keeps us focused on what is right.

I am so thankful for each and every that has made an impact on my life that has led me to the one I am right now. I could not thank each and every enough. If it wouldn`t have been for you people I wouldn`t have been where I am today.

I also want to thank every person that has been mean to me some way or the other. Because it was because of my reaction to that suffering that has given me push to become what I am today. If it wouldn`t be for you people I wouldn`t have been wiser in understanding the human kind.

And last but not least I would say that may Allah shower the best of his blessings of each and every muslim in this world. May Allah give them the best in both worlds, keep us steadfast on the deen, keep guiding us and keep us firm and give us patience to help each and every that is not as blessed as ourselves and reach out to the people who is suffering in any way.  Ameen summa ameen.

every blessing is a testEvery human being is blessed in some way or the other. Some people are though more blessed than others. We human beings have this fault in us that it is easier for us to count other people`s blessings rather than our own. We have a nice car, a beautiful house, a giving job, yet still when someone else receives some blessing from Allah, we tend to get a tad bit jealous. Have we forgotten how Allah has blessed us numerous times? For All we know the one that is recieving a blessing we are jealous of, has probably worked hard for sometime to achieve it? Or had a time of difficulty which now has become a time of ease. We don`t know but Allah knows, right 🙂

 

The richest of people

People who are content with what they have, are the richest of people. Subhan Allah! What a wonderful quote from our beloved Prophet (pbuh). Surely that is just how it is. People whom despite not having everything in their life, are content of the decree of Allah, are truly those people whom have experienced true happiness and contentment.

 

Things that distract us from our relationships

Think for a moment. Why are does those children playing in the slums of Africa or Asia look happier than children playing in Europe, despite they having all kinds of playgrounds and toys here. Maybe because they are content with the decree of Allah, and are not as distracted by everything around them like we. Living in Norway I see sometimes that children have all kinds of distracting things with them. Almost all the time. Internet, games, Facebook, iPhone, Ipod, Ipad, Tv etc. These things are nice time-killers, but they also steal the time away from children, and even the adults. Giving us less time for relationships. We are getting distracted by all sorts of things that doesn`t even allow us to give our devoted attention to people around us.

 

Look at those below you, rather than those above you

Our Prophet (pbuh) has said in a hadith, look at those beneath you, instead of looking at those above you. That would make you happier and more content with what you have. If we always compare each other with those that have more than us, we would be living a race that never achieves it`s goal. Because as the world is developing likely are people buying and getting more things in their luxury life. The world is not going to stop to develop nor are the people going to stop buying new things. So what should we do than? Whenever we are dazzled by something, we should always look at those that are less fortunate than us. That would lead us to become more thankful for those blessings we have in our lives, give us true contentment and voila we will feel grateful.

 

When we are grateful Allah gives us more of His blessings

Do you know what`s so great about feeling grateful? Allah says in the Quran that we should be thankful for the blessings he has showered upon us. And not be arrogant. We are arrogant when we don`t realize that we are truly blessed. We are arrogant when we aren`t thankful to Allah. Allah says that be grateful and I will give you more. Just think where that will lead us if we try to apply that to our lives?

 

A test can be a blessing, and a blessing can be a test

An important fact to remember is that when you see that someone is blessed with something, the same thing could be a means of trials and tribulations for the person that you are thinking about. For instance you see, children and money are seen as a blessing. Though Allah has said in the Quran that money and children are all means of trials. He will send us trials through these blessings to see who of us are better in deed. So every blessing has it`s backside. You might not see it, but reality is that it still is there.

 

After every difficulty there is ease

So what to do then? When we see someone may be perhaps more blessed than us. Remember he/she might have experienced a great deal of difficulties before Allah sent those people an ease. He is probably worthy of that blessing. We can`t see the hikmah, the knowledge that Allah has about the circumstance. Only Allah knows that. What we can do is to think that with every blessing there is always a backside. So be grateful for what you have. Truly Allah knows who he blesses. And All of us are blessed with some kind of blessing, either we recognize it or not. Lets be those true submissive and grateful slaves of Allah that can see all the blessings in their life, in sha Allah. Let`s start our day with saying Alhamdolillah. Allah gives us another day each time we wake up in the morning to do something for our religion. Lets try to make a difference. In sha Allah ameen.

 

Conclusion

To conclude i would say, count your own blessings, instead of counting others`.  And be happy with what you have by looking at those less fortunate than you. Alway know that with any blessing there is always a backside that we might not know about. Know that Allah is trying us by giving us blessings, to see who of us are best in deed. Be content with what you have and Allah will shower you with more of His blessings, in sha Allah. Ameen. Ya Allah make us your pious worshippers and keep us steadfast on the deen, give us sabr to face the challenges in our lives, and give us true guidance to follow everything you have commanded us to follow, ameen summa ameen.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one 2 one :)

(",) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (",)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Overjoyous :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) If you just love me, i will let you see, how more you need? :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)