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If you had a store. A customer bought some merchandise for 200. And made a deal after payment, that it would be collected after two weeks. 

The same day another customer comes, and sees the good you just sold, and asks for it. He says he will give you 1000 for it. 

You start thinking. It’s out of stock and will take 4 weeks, even if you order it today. 

Would you have sold it to the customer, or would you have committed yourself to the deal you’ve made? 

Honestly every rizk we gain, is not from the amount of money, but mostly from the baraqah of everything we have. We should be people of honesty who keeps their promises and are known for transparency and good dealings, no matter if it’s work / business / family or any other matter. 

Ya Allah, help us to revive the forgotten sunnah of Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ in our life. Aamen 

What is the American dream? What is America today? What makes an American an American? Mostly people talk about becoming famous. Rich. Live a luxurious life. Have everything you can have that money can buy. As many cars as you need. Become rich in a few months and not work for the rest of the life. How many of those who have become popular because of an art they know, have become more humble? When we hear about the life of the rich and famous, people admire them. What a life they have. Everyone around them are so gorgeous. What happens to a life, when they no longer experience any difficulty? Everything is easy, they can buy what they want, at any time? No restrictions? Allah takes away the joy and satisfaction? A rapper once said, I have everything I desire, still I have no peace. Maybe he lost what he needed the most to achieve peace. The love of Allah, and being obedient to Him.

How Is Life In Norway

What is the Norwegian dream? Back to basics. People travel almost every other weekend to the mountains, away from the city, where they can find peace. Go skiing. Simple life in a cottage. They only bring with them the essentials. They connect with the quietness of nature and the peace surrounding them. Away from turmoil, cars and traffic signals. They find themselves through the quietness. The humbleness that is seen is very beautiful. Before the world became a global unity. Life was easier. Most people weren`t so much aware of the right clothes. They spent more time on being the right person. The increase of media, has resulted in people becoming so aware of fashion, that it has lost it`s value. Now, it`s more about what you’re wearing than who you are? Is it the right brand? Norway has also been affected by this. Many people are trying to find the american dream in Norway. But that`s not typical norwegian. There was a time, when the leaders also lived a very ordinary life. A very norwegian simple life. The fear of terrorism has changed how we live. Many important people doesn`t leave their home with out people who protect them.

Simplicity

When we compare these two types of national dreams, what is the conclusion? We find peace where we find simplicity. Where there is less noise. Connect with oneself, and family. Away from gadgets, tv etc. Talking. Connecting with each other without distractions. The characteristics of a typical norwegian has some matters in common with typical muslims values. Finding tranquility, connecting with Allah. See His Beauty. How beautiful He has made Norway. It`s not only the mountains and the sea`s. If we look at the bunad. It is different from city to city. One matter it has in common, it shows the femininity of a woman, while the same time, a modest dress. This is the heritage of Norway. If we look at what american woman wants to wear, they are starving their body to fit into a dress that shows much skin. The national dress of Norway, is very expensive. Teenager are often gifted it from the family in their teens.

Beauty In Re-Use

The new thing now, is to own the most newest thing. New phone, new car, new design, new fashion. If it’s old it’s out. Many american magazines are influencing their readers into becoming more materialistic. When the phone breaks, we buy another of the newest designs. Many Norwegians are very sensitive about the environment. Not even that, they find pride in wearing their grandparents clothes from their younger years. A family can often re-use clothes in many generations, before their worn out. And they proudly say it to their friends, and do not hide it. Many still doesn’t care more about newest fashion and design, than something from their family. Often many designs do come back after several years. They also often find proudness in buying second-hand, clothing and furniture. Many people have made it their hobby, to go to such places and try to find some real antiques. Often do they get a great bargain. The money sent to help people, and they find one of a kind of something real ancient an awesome. They care for the history behind the ancient stuff.

Take Care Of Their Health

With eating fast food and less exercise, it is easy to gain weight. The majority of American has come into this vicious circle, where they make a little effort to keep their health. In general Norwegians are very active people. They like to keep themselves fit by being active in summer and winter sports. Not only with their school, but also with family, friends and free time. It is a part of their culture. Taking part in outdoor activities. Spending time camping. 

Norwegian Support Good Causes

Often when there is any kind of people who need help. They eagerly take part in collecting donations. In demonstrations against oppression, there are more Norwegian participants, than the ethnicity of the people they are fighting for. They care, they listen. Often supportive of the weak, the oppressed. They spend many hours daily and weekly for voluntary work for the less fortunate. The refugees. Those who live on the street. Finding missing people. They want to help the community. Give back of the goodness, they have. Many are doing much remarkable efforts. It is not about money. They genuinely care for the weak. It’s very inspiring. Even with family, children, and many of the same chores of other muslims, they still manage to take out time for the betterment of the community. 

They Earn Their Money

They earn their living. Many take education, and work to attain a meaningful living. After retirement, many help as volunteers helping children with their school work. They don’t see work as burdening. Good work ethics. Being active. Utilizing their skills. 

Your Voice Is Heard

The democratic system. Their open debate. Often amazes me. People can voice their opinions. They often have open debate about matters around social security. The good news is, people are heard. The bad news can be, that people (countries, groups) can harm them through the info they get via media. 

Norwegian Muslim?

There is much beauty in the Norwegian heritage and culture. There is much goodness in calling ourself Norwegian muslims. Proud of where we live. Thankfulness. Gratitude. Muslims come from many backgrounds, many ethnicities, many colors. One matter they have in common is their deen. We can still be good muslims and good Norwegian citizen, at the same time.

Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ manners are perfect. He has perfected how and what good manners are. We cherish him ‎ﷺ because of his ‎ﷺ way of interaction with each and every. His ‎ﷺ seerah is our guideline in how we can reach his ‎ﷺ awsome character, truthfulness, sincerity, genuine care, cheerfulness, problemsolver, comforter, supplications, obedience to Allah, Purity, Asr, strength, inclusiveness, dislikes of sins, heartmelting speech and conduc, good treatment of others regardless of what they own, gratitude to Allah, concern and mercifulness for all humanity. 

The Upper Class With Good Manners 

People nowadays, often find excuses of why people are difficult, because of their lack of manners. Just teach him/her manners. That is more important than knowledge. I dont agree with this. First of all, knowledge is useless without behaviour in accordance with what we have learned. It’s not enough to “know” that the best of men are those who are good to their wife. It must also be seen in their conduct. Second point is that many people know, how to eat, sit, what to say, not say, the prohibitions of guarding tongue and private parts. The upper class knows how to behave, but they lack the good islamic values in their life. They know what to wear, how to decorate their home, how to befriend anyone. Still they lack the basic teachings of Islam. The problem isn’t that they do not say salam to people, the problem is that when that person has passed, most people are not able to guard their tongue from sins of the tongue, eyes or private parts. This has become so ordinary, that people doesn’t see any problem with it. 

He ‎ﷺ seeked advice from his ‎ﷺ wife

It’s not enough to say that you love Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ because of how he helped everyone, and supported everyone all the time, when you are too ashamed to help your wife in front of your friends, because your friends makes fun of the sunnah of helping your wife. His wife decides everything. Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ has wives who have helped him with what he should do, when the sahaba raa were not obeying his command. His ‎ﷺ wife said, don’t tell them to cut their hair and make sacrifice. Do it and they will follow your conduct. And what she raa said, happened. 

95 % Of Muslims Are Not Doing It

How can we talk about manners without talking about Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ seerah. His ‎ﷺ most perfect treatment of others. How are we today? Do we lower our gaze? Do we read 5 salah everyday? Do we speak truthfully? Do we slander? Do we make fun of others? Are we practising humility? If only 5 % of muslims pray salah, and the salah, protect us from doing sins, it means 95% of muslims are surely sinning, not only by not praying, but because they aren’t praying, they are not able to stop themselves from those sins prayers protect them from committing. 

A New Time Of Ignorance? 

I know that the problem of the ummah, is that there has come a new time of jahiliyah (ignorance). There is no event we can attend where there isn’t people who are sinning with their tongues, with their eyes and with their private parts? The protection a practising muslim sees, is by simply decline. I don’t want to be a part of any event, where my islamic values are disrespected. 

Can You Hear Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ weeping? 

I’m sure Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ knows what we are going through. Can you imagine his ‎ﷺ feelings? He ‎ﷺ weeping. He ‎ﷺ weeping. He ‎ﷺ sobbing. What will happen to my ummah, when the ummati are just as afraid from another ummati, as they are from a non-muslim? 

It is annoying sometimes, when muslim leaders tell families, to keep their women at home. It is correct that women has a bigger responsibility when it comes to raising children. But we can’t close our eyes to the society we are co-existing in.

Your Opinion Matters

Number 1. The first matter spouses often have disagreement about, is money. Number 2. If there wouldn’t be any females in different professions, the muslim women would have to go to male doctors, male nurses male teachers, males in kindergarden, males in shops for women and etc. At a time where they need to talk with people of the same gender. Number 3. The most marriages in the west need two salaries to be able to pay for their expenses. Number 4. The wifes’ that stay home for the kids upbringing usually have a small social network. In other words, their need to socialize is not met by only going to the mosque sometimes a month. Number 5. Many muslim men doesn’t pay for the expenses of their wife. They do not fulfill their duty of providing for her and giving her a certain amount every month etc. Number 6. Instead of holding back our women from work because of their hijab, why do we not at least educate muslim men, to treat other muslim women within the boundaries of haya, modesty, lowering gaze, guarding tongue and private parts? Number 7. Help the women in your family to choose profession where they can be an advantage for the community, while also keep their hijab and modesty, and also be safe, where she is. When Muslim women will take an active part in their work, they will be able to influence decisions that affect muslims in their community. They will help build strong communities. The muslim womens opinion matters. 

The Patient Can Choose The Gender Of The Doctor

If every family told the women to stay home because of Islam, within a few generations muslim women would have far more trouble in going outside. The places where the female gender is necessary would be male-dominated. That could cause more trouble. I don’t know if anyone have been in Pakistan lately. There is a reason why they have built malls (shops) for females only. Or in a specific timing, only females are allowed to go inside the mall. That means only female workers will attend them. In that way, they do not have unwanted attention that decrease their freedom. And the safety of women is also safeguarded. Imagine, a woman doctor in Norway, can`t choose to only have female patients. She has to treat both genders. Neutrally with haya, of course. If there weren`t any female asian lady doctors, many asian women today, might not be able to get the proper help they needed. In the time of the Prophet pbuh, many sahabi took part in the battles where muslims fought. Sometimes as nurses bandaging the wounded and also as fighting the enemies. It`s in our islamic heritage. The community need more women to take part in building healthy communities. Islam does not dismiss women working. It just want both genders to practice the ethics of Islam at work and school, as at home.

The Beauty Is In The Perfection

I believe Islam is beautiful. I love Islam. Alhamdolillah. But sometimes we have to be a bit practical. Islam is perfect. But the practice of Islam in the ummah, makes it look ugly. A dai (preacher of Islam) once said. There was a time when muslims practised Islam in such a way, people said, look at so- and so- to motivate other muslims. Nowadays the name is often muslim, but the practice is so poor, that when we talk to some people who are interested in learning about Islam, we tell them to learn it from the Quran and sunnah. Go back to the real source. Don’t look at muslims, who doesn’t pray, and lies, and backbites and earn money in a haram manner. Their practice is not islamic. I`m sure many muslims knows families where the whole family has been muslims for at least three generations, yet still neither of the generations is following even the basics of Islam. Yet they call themselves muslims.

Lets Look At The World

In some countries, wagons of the public transport, is different between the genders. To prevent harassment of women. Some countries have been talking about it. In Afghanistan, a woman goes out with niqab and all her body covered. Even the face. Still these women are harassed there. It is because the men aren`t lowering their gazes and practising haya. In india, group-rape of women, and rape in general is widely spread. In egypt, women have their undergarments teared off in the street, by men walking by. It is not enough to keep women at home to protect them from assault. Parents must teach both sons and daughters how to behave within the boundaries of Islam. Haya, hijab, lowering gaze, and less interaction. If these men were taught good values from their childhood, many of them would have had a good character. It`s not enough to name your son as a muslim, if you don`t teach him good values, than it will be your own loss. Remember in many countries, women are wearing hijab, yet are still being harassed. Obviously the men must also lower their gaze and protect their private parts, and practice modesty.

First Look At Your References

Keeping the women at home, to protect them isn`t the answer here. It is the time of internet, YouTube, snapchat, Skype. Filth can be found, in the media, within your home. With free time, and boringness, many people can go astray. Ya Allah, protect us. Aamen. If you don`t teach your children to fear Allah, they can easily get misguided. The reason why such, problems are on the increase is because we think just knowing Islam is enough. That`s completely wrong. Even non-muslims know about Islam. Many times more than many muslims. Yet they don`t accept it in their heart nor do they practise it. We muslims accept the message, but do not live according to it. It is not enough to know that salah is important. Unless you pray the prayers every day, you will not be granted khusho, or the sweetness of salah. That which is the coolness of Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ  and his biggest comfort in hardships. We need a spiritual awakening of the ummah. Where we also are doing the good we know. It`s like when your supervisor is going to hire a new colleague. No one hires a new employ based on what they know. Even if they have a master degree. First they look at their references. Do they have practise from the subjects they have studied. That`s why most people have many difficulties finding their first job. To have that first reference, that will open doors for better opportunities. When we improve on our sprituality we will practice islam also in private, not only in public. The wisdom of Islam comes from practising what you have learned, not just talking about it.

Housewife From Back Home

Many women in arrange marriages, who travel to norway, with their spouse, live at home for the first 10 years of their marriage. In Pakistan still many women are housewifes. Many gain weight. Many sleep the day and wakes after mid-day. No specific routine of day. The social life in Pakistan is better than in Norway.  A wife that is married to a pakistani here in norway, often have small social circles, and have to start from scratch, in building network. After these women have stayed home the first ten years of their marriage, raising children, they are often very eager to start an employment. Socialize with other. The children doesn`t need them that much. Their expenses have increased or not paid by their husband. Very little social life at home. Many eagerly start learning the language of their country. In hope of a job. Many health issues from poor diet. These women, most of them, wants to get out more. They have lived the life of being a housewife, in Norway. Their problems are underrated. Few talk about it. Many are also struggling in their marriage.

The Community Need Muslim Women In Many Professions

We can live in a bubble and think that this is what we want. Unless the world is able to offer it, we have to seek insight in the reality of our time today. Keeping women at home, is not the only option. First parents need to educate both genders about ethics of islam. Cultivate in them fear of Allah. Help them choose good friends and good education according to their gender. If you really want to protect your wife from the ill of this community, talk with others about how we can educate men and sons to practice islam also outside the home. Social life in norway is very different from Pakistan, and many wife`s lead a very deppressive life, staying home as housewifes. Help them choose profession where they can utilize their abilities, earn salary, socialize. All this within the boundaries of Islam. All this will help the muslim women increase their  quality of life. They will be happier. Active. Learning. Changing. Growing as people. Know more about the society they live in. That is important to raise good obedient children. They can positively  influence the development of our community. Ya Allah, help the community succeed in making it easy for muslim women, if they wish, to have an employment where they can use their qualities, while also taking care of all of her duties at home. Aamen 

Det er ikke bare kvinner som er opptatt av sitt utseende. Mange menn tror fortsatt at de må ha en perfekt kropp for å finne den riktige kvinnen i sitt liv. Menn blir målt utifra utseende. Det er derfor det ikke er rart om noen tyr til doping. Selv om de langsiktige negative virkningene ødelegger livene deres. 

Respekter Menn

Islam sier at man ikke skal objektifisere verken mann eller kvinne basert på deres utseende. Dersom man ønsker å få vite mer om andre, finn ut mer om deres karakter. Uansett hvor store muskler en mann har, eller kjekt utseende, så vil han ikke greie å forbli gift med sin kone om han har lite taqwa. Derfor er det viktig å jobbe for velvære og se og føle seg bra, men ikke bli sykelig opptatt av det. Til syvende og sist, vil et ektepar med god taqwa ha større sjanse for at ekteskapet varer livet ut, enn om de ser ut som modeller begge to. Ya Allah, hjelp oss å ikke basere våre meninger om andre basert på kvaliteter som utseende. Hjelp oss å forbedre våre indre kvaliteter for alltid. Og bruke riktige verdier som grunnlag når vi velger en ektefelle. Aamen 

prophet-muhammad-pbuh-i-love-mohammadOne matter we can improve is helping our children to get addicted to reading drud sharif as early as possible. There are many benefits of reading drud sharif, but the reason why I`ve heard it is good for families, is that it brings gentleness into our conduct. Many parents often complain that teens often become very rude and difficult. Reading drud often, everyday, can be something that tames their emotions and grant them control over themselves, so they become more easygoing, even within the family, not only with their friends.

Cultivate Gentleness In Your Child

Parents have a big job cultivating good qualities in their children. Often times as the child is growing, parents give their children different duties they have to do everyday, or some days in the week, to help them learn new task through responsibility. The parents make a chart for the whole week, and give a star for every accomplished work. One duty they can add to those chores is reading 100 drud sharif every day, in front of their parents, in the start, just so that the parents can hear them, help them recite it correctly, and make sure, they are actually reading it. As the child will get the hang of it, and the taste of it`s delights, parents can often say, if all four children read, drud every day 500 times, when each of the family member has read 10 000 drud or 100 000 drud, we will celebrate with an outing on a good halal restaurant, or a vacation somewhere they want to go, with islamic content, or some kind of reward / goal, you will easily motivate them.

The Atmosphere Will Change Positively

If your child start reading drud sharif regularly, You will see an immense difference in their attitude and behaviour. They will become more gentle in everything they do and say, and they will start liking sunnah deeds. Their love for Hazoor Paak pbuh will increase, and through that love, their obedience to Allah in private and public will improve. The drud sharif will beautify their inside and outside, with good sunnah conduct and noraniyat. What else can a muslim parent want for his / her child / teen? This will change the entire atmosphere of the house. Soon you will have less quarrels, more love and gracious practice towards each other. The love within the family, will increase. When the children slowly realize the good effect of reading drud sharif in their life, they will increase their practice of it, regardless of your motivation. When that happens you have done a great job, guiding your child to healthy habits. This will bring them bliss in this life and the hereafter. The drud sharif supports the reader of it, until the reader reads drud sharif so much, that Allah make it, the readers vasila, and take all his / her matters in His own Hands. Ya Allah grant this for every child, teen and adult of the ummah. Aameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

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Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

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