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when you plan to marry her - jannah“Life-partners should have a faithfulness towards each other that no one can challenge. Whether male or female, or a member of the family, or a person at the work, or at the mosque. In the world outside people will say and do all sorts of things of all sorts of motives; often they try to upset a happy marriage for no other reason than that it is happy – this being a form of destructive jealousy. If you know your partner fully, and know their character, then you should be able to trust implicitly that he/she would not behave in a manner that would let you down, and that if they are accused of having done this, then the accusation is false”. – A good muslim Marriage.

Marriage is not about keeping score, if you hurt me 10 times, I will hurt you 11 times, just to keep the scores right, and get back at you. If you try to get back at your spouse when they are in any way un-kind, than you have missed the point of what marriage really is. It is Allah that is keeping the score. When you are nice to your spouse, it is not your spouse that will give you the reward for that, even he /she might be better towards you. The reward will come from Allah. Even when he /she is acting impossible. If you have sabr, Allah helps and give reward. If it was all about keeping account, than that wouldn`t be called love, but just a silly game.

Marriage is also security, for both. Even if your spouse has in any way been un-kind to you, you don`t use that as an excuse to flirt with others or try to look for other “opportunities”. When you marry someone you commit yourself 100 % to that person only and no one else. No matter what obstacle comes in you way, you will strive together. I think I am talking for the husband and wife when I say that both want this security, and trust. If you don`t have a solid foundation of trust in your commitment, the building will eventually collapse.

Another thing that is quite common is that spouses correct each other in front of other people. That is a big crime, and should be avoided. We know we`re not perfect, no one is. But when you bring out your spouse faults in front of others, that person loses his face in front of others. If you need to correct your spouse do it in private, when you get the chance. That is also the only way you will see any change. Of course, it should not be left unsaid that you are doing it for unselfish reasons and not because you want to bring him/her down. Be polite and to the point without any personal agendas.

Your wife needs to know that he/she can count on you. That even if you are pissed off about something, you won`t misbehave when he/she is not around. You would try to find the best solutions to solve your differences in an Islamic manner.

Let past be past. Don`t ask questions about it. Know that if he/she didn`t love you or choose you for marriage, you wouldn`t be together now. So be confident, that he/she chose you because he/she found something in you.

Both the husband and wife should have enough self-respect that they don`t take crap. If your spouse is behaving unreasonable without any logic reason, make him/her calm, or leave the situation, if you need to calm yourself down, so that you don`t say anything you would regret later. Misunderstandings are inevitable. How you manage them, is what makes your marriage good.

“No husband or wife is perfect, but when a husband shows love and thought for his wife, and act in accordance with the principles of Islam, he will surely earn not only her love and respect, but that of Allah Himself”. – A Muslim Marriage Guide.

muslimah, hijab, crown, princessNote To Myself And The Women Of The World:

Don`t let the world degrade you to an object to please strangers eyes. You are worthy of being the slave of Allah. Which is the highest status any woman can have. Don`t dress to impress men that would degrade you to a thing. Rather dress for your Lord. Your hijab protects you against being just an attraction for men. Your status as a human being, a woman, is so much more. As a mother; jannah lies at your feet, as a wife; you fulfil half of the deen of your Husband, as a Daughter; you are a rahma for the family and your parents and brothers ticket to heaven, depending on how they treat you and what kind of islamic upbringing they give you.

Your hijab doesn`t hide your opinion, rather it gives you freedom to express them by people focusing on what you say, rather than how you look like. How you dress yourself proclaims how you think about yourself, and how you want others to think about yourself. Respect yourself, and don`t let the world put standards for you. Raise your standards to what position Allah has given you, and you will in sha Allah reap the reward for the good you do in this world.

-Inspired by dai`s around the world.

I remember when I finished high school, I was so happy. Although i didn`t experience direct bullying, but there was so much pressure on us by our classmates to wear the right brand of clothes, and to hang with the cool people, and have a lot of friends. I was relieved when I carried on my education at the University that there were all kinds of students there. In our class we had classmates from being in the fifties and me only eighteen years old. It was a huge gap but at least we saw that people can be different, and there`s nothing wrong with that. I enjoyed that time.

When I see kids on the bus that are going through the same phase, as me, going to high school, I wish I could reach out and say, it`s ok to be different, you don`t always have to fit in the crowd, you don`t have to follow the people who are so-called cool to get more influence, or hang with the people who bully you.

I haven often thought that parents should teach their children self-respect from when they are very young, so they can fight back when people misbehave with them. They should know where the line goes, and when to say enough is enough. They should know when it`s time to talk to an adult because things have gone way out of their hands to handle.

Schools in Oslo has always had a anti-bullying-campaign every year, and some schools are doing outstanding work to teach children to respect each other no matter what ethnicity, race or color they have.

Although teachers or parents are not the best to see that the children are having a tough time at school or are being bullied. That`s why it`s so important that parents know their children so that they can help them out of it.

Nowadays also the media Facebook, twitter and other places is a place where lot of bullying is happening. Parents can`t always see that. Sometimes friends would post pictures of each other to make fun of them. Who can be there to be a nanny to prevent such stuff? The parents love their children and they should make sure that their children are not being bullied. A good dialogue and friendship with children is the keyword here.

It`s not as easy to talk to a parent in the family, sometimes another adult in the family an aunt or uncle can be easier to talk to. So we all should be well-aware of what kind of signals the children are sending out.

There`s no age attached to bullying, it can happen in all ages. Bullies come in every age and can be at work also. It`s very important to have a good dialogue with ones employee, so that if this occurs there, one can stop it as soon as possible. Many times a lot can be done, but sometimes it`s better to change work.

What`s important is that there will always be some people whom you get along with, and no matter where you are there will always be some people you don`t get along with. That is ok. Though every person should have a sence of self-respect in them, so that they can have the courage to stand up against the mob, to say, that you don`t want them to bully you. It takes a lot of confidence, and support from good friends or family. Ultimately it is up to us whether we take a stand or not.

I have been bullied a few times by people, so what keeps me going is that, if this is how they are behaving towards me, one day they will get it back, somehow. I also think, that probably the people whom bully others are having a tough time themselves, but they are not able to do anything about it, so they are taking out their anger on the people whom they interact with daily. So sometimes being extra kind to the bully might change him/her.

We as a society do also have a responsibility to take action against bully’s if we see that someone is being bullied. After all the generations that are growing up now are going to take care of the country when they are old enough. So why shouldn`t we teach them the right universal values, so that they take good care of the country when we`re no more? We all have to open our eyes and not be afraid of taking action, what we need is brave parents, teachers and adults. Adults whom know how to have a talk with the bully to take control of the situation. Would you have been able to cope with your children being bullied by a lot of people? No one wants that to happen to their own flesh, so why are we closing your eyes when the person is, black, brown or yellow. It`s time we try to make a difference by being fair. Every person has feelings, no matter if you know them or not.

And to the bully, think about this next time, what if your children one day, will get bullied by their surroundings? I don`t think YOU would appreciate that, would you? Remember the person you are bullying is someone`s kid, and one day it could happen to someone you care about, so why not stop the chain so that it never happens again. Take control of your situation and talk to someone whom can help you, an adult in your family, if not your parents, or a teacher at school. If you are nice to people, you would probably start an epidemic of niceness and finally you would get the niceness back somehow, because it is contagious. Why not start an epidemic of nice attitude?

May Allah protect us all from being bullied and never make our life that hard that we become the bullier. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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February 2020
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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

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