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muslim couple, rights and obligations, quran, love, rose, flower, marriageOften when some husband take good care of their wife, and fulfil their obligations towards her and their children, his friends and family might comment that he has become a robot, where his wife decides everything. I want to highlight a few thoughts about this and why people might say such things.

We all are striving.

Some people are doing a great job when it comes to following sunnah. Not only when their friends and acquaintances are with them, but also at the time when no one is with them accept their loved ones and Allah. Some men are not shy off being good to their wife. Why should they be? Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said, the best of man is the one who is good to his wife, and I am the best to my wives. He pbuh lived what he said. He was not shy off helping around the house and giving un-divided attention to his other half. He gave them importance and supported them. If men want to follow his sunnah, being a good husband is also part of his sunnah. Not only praying on time and giving zakat.

Muslims can not be shy of practicing some part of their deen

No matter what others say. Hazoor pak saw has said he is afraid of a time when the disbeliever will be proud of their disbelief and a true believer will be shy of practicing his belief. I`m sure even those who comment negatively towards other, have their moments of being an awesome husband, though they are afraid of admitting it, because they see it as a quality we should not find in a man. How can they think that following the sunnah is not a quality they should have in themselves. I remember a time when Hazoor Pak pbuh was not to shy to admit in front of all the sahaba`s that the one he pbuh loved the most was Aisha raa. If he pbuh was not afraid of showing his love in front of everyone, than neither should any muslim husband.

Have we ever thought why other people comment negatively?

1.Jealousy/envy. Why are they so happy?
2.Not knowing what being a man is about.
3.Arrogance. That work is below my worth/standard.
4.Hobby: Putting hurdles in lives of succesful people.
5.Wrong understanding of Islam. Our rights and obligations.
6.Bad company.
7.Bad role-models.

We do not boast about following the Sunnah

Or become proud of the fact that we are Sunnis. To what extent we follow the Sunnah, shows the intensity of our love for our Prophet pbuh. So sometimes people might try to hide their good deeds from people to the extent that they would not like anyone to find out. In case they maybe returned because the intention is changing. The Prophet pbuh his family and sahaba, went to a lot of struggles for us. We must find ways to keep our intentions in check, but shying away is not the solution. The society has come to such matters, that we need good role-models that are not shying away from showing the right path, they have found. How can we say that we love him pbuh the most and be afraid to show the world that we want to live like him pbuh and are striving to cultivate his pbuh qualities in us. May Allah make us proud of our heritage in Islam, and help us practice it to as close to his pbuh life as possible. And not being shy of good conduct, even if we have people in our circle who are against it. May Allah guide us to good, till we accept nothing but good. May Allah mould us into what He wants us to become. Let us reach excellence in those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw like. And take out of our heart, soul and body, those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw dislikes. Aameen.

You have probably one time or the other met some people whom are two-faced. They say something else to you against someone else, and when they meet that person, they say something to that person against you, chugli is what we call that in Urdu. Usually this could be out of jealousy, someone has a better car, husband, house or work than you, and you can`t see that person being so happy so you try to make that person`s life miserable somehow. I`m talking about the so-called leg-pullers. Remember that one time or the other, the truth will prevail, even if it`s on judgement day, so beware how you try to trick others or sowing hatred between them!

The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has said:

“You will find that among the most evil of people with Allah (i.e. among the most evil people in the Judgement Day) on the Day of Resurrection is he who is two-faced: who goes to these (a group of people) with one face, and to these (another group of people) with another face. (Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim).

Al-Qurtubee said;

“A two-faced person is regarded as so evil because he is like a hypocrite; he /she sweetly talks with falsehood and lies, and sows dissension among people”.

A two-faced person is one who goes to each group with what pleases it, giving the appearance that he is from it and opposed to its counterpart (or enemy). His / her action is pure hypocrisy, lying, deception and trickery. But if a person goes to two groups in order to make peace between them, then he / she is doing something that is praiseworthy. Others have said: the difference is that a two-faced person praises the group he / she is with and finds faults with the other group, and he / she does the same when he / she is in the company of the other group. On the other hand, the praiseworthy person goes to each other of the two groups with words of reconciliation, finding excuses for one group while he is with the other, trying to convey good points of the other group while hiding their faults.

If you have people like this in your acquaintances, try your utmost to not make them angry and try to shy away from them. These people can change for the wrong at any possible time. Try to keep away from their company. Not having any company is better than having bad company. If people who have bad values are your friends, one day or the other that would rub over on you, even if you don`t wan`t it to happen.

Do you actually want to stay with these people to try to change them, when they can hurt you bad, really bad. Isn`t it better that you save yourself and your loved ones from them? Yes, I hope and pray that you would agree to that 😉

Extracts taken out from ” the book of manners”, written by Fuad ibn Abdul-Azeez Ash-Shulhoob, Darussalam.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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March 2018
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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

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