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in-debt-quote-prayer-supplication-krone-myntWe are all in some sort of debt. Not only financially, but in all sorts of way. Almost in every moment, matter and situation. We`re in debt of those who smiled at us, when we we`re worried. We`re in debt of those who gave us a helping hand, when we were struggling. We`re in debt of those who helped us learn knowledge, that we later internalized into our conduct. We are in debt of those who supported us, when many were against us. We are in debt of those who listened to us and guided us to good. We are in debt of those good friends, who didn`t give up on us. We are in debt of those who helped us to attain a living in a country, who is ranked in the top ten countries to live in. We are in debt of those who helped us develop our skills, our talents. We are in debt of those who guided us to the profession, we wanted to achieve. We are in debt of those who helped us find our spouse. We are in debt of the support of the people who care. We`re in debt of those who remember us in their prayers. We are in debt of everyone who’s had a pep-talk with us. We`re in debt of those who motivated us when we were down. Actually we have a lot of debt. May Allah pay it for us in this world and the next. And raise the ranks of those who supported us, in this world and the next. And make us appreciate the good in people. And make us appreciate them in this world also. And reward them for all the good we have achieved and will accomplish. Aameen.

svane familieMany people often neglect children’s need to be seen and heard and valued for who they are, where their abilities are appreciated regardless of their siblings or friends achievements. A childs joy, when their parents listen attentively, and value all the siblings individually, when they are together as a family, is important. Often we wonder why some adults are so quiet and not into talking that much. When they grow up amongst many siblings, where some are very dominating, it is obvious that other doesn`t get that much chance to blossom or show their abilities. It could lead to they not cultivate their talents as much as their potential. People in general grow better in the right environment. Since everyone has different needs, we grow the best in different places. Seeing your child as the individual he/she is and value them for who they are, without comparison to other, is important.

 

Undiscovered Potential

Sitting at the dinner table with the family, and giving everyone chance to respond and talk to the family, is must, no matter how old they are, because their opinions need to be valued, to make them feel that they also have important opinions. Who hasn`t heard a toddler or a young child say something that is beyond his/her age. By excluding some children from the conversations, we can damage their self-esteem, and prevent them from believing in themselves. The saying “ghar ki murghi daal barabar”, is quite funny and accurate to prove the point. People outside of the family, sees so much potential in a child, while within the family, he/she can be neglected.

 

Values Are More Important Than Education

Our parents might have had this way of raising us. If we havent learned from their mistakes, we have not learned anything worthwhile. What can be more important than moulding our next generation into beautiful/giving people with good values who has the confidence to stand for what they believe in. I`m sure if we ask our friends all of them has something to point out about how they got raised by their parents. Good solid education won`t do any good for anyone, if the conduct, character, morals, manners, self-esteem etc are not cultivated and sound.

 

When You Are On Right, You Will Be Rewarded

Teaching children that nothing comes in this world without hard work. There is no elevator to success, everyone has to take the stairs, one step at a time, as long as you work hard and abide by the rules, you are a winner, no matter the outcome. Even if others doesn`t value your efforts know that Allah sees your struggles and will reward you, in this life and next. A good environment starts at home and as the child grows older other places like kindergarten, school, college, work and friends will have an impact on them. If we don`t cheer our children for their achievements, no matter how small, they will find someone who does. And that someone isn`t necessarily a good influence on them. For them to have a solid confidence to say no to bad things, they must have a good dose of self-esteem and confidence, that is taught from their early years. When children realize that Allah will reward, they will turn to Him, instead of other people for validation. Help them see the beauty in their conduct and character not their appearance. Having a rich character, makes one feel good. The only way to feel good is to know that you are doing something right, and having trust that you will be rewarded for it by Allah.

 

 

happy feetSee, Hear And Value Your Children

Treat them as individuals. Cheering them for having good conduct, character, and filling their bucket of esteem and confidence, and cultivating good values in them, will help them in all their struggles in life. Helping them believe in themselves will make it easier for them to cope with challenges. There is no bigger favour a parent can do for his/her child. Being fair so that no one is excluded and everyone gets a fair chance to speak, is important. It proclaims a message of equality. We need to be fair when some of the children are more dominating. When we teach children to listen to each other, they will of course do that. Growing up in an environment where we can`t express our views without fear of being ridiculed by other siblings, is damaging. The parents can make rules for a healthy conversation/discussion at home and make sure that they are also followed. Since the parents are the shepherds of the family, they need to make sure that their children are under good care and that their individual needs are filled and they are given space where they grow best. They will be questioned about their care, from Allah.

love people who dont look at their schedule when you need themOften when something happen to someone you expect a certain reaction to what to what they will say or do. When you give a gift, you expect a positive reaction. When something unexpected happens, since we didn`t know it to happen, we are not aware of what kind of reaction it will create.

 

Bursting Out In Rage

For those whom have younger siblings or children in their family. If and when they fall and get hurt, their parents reaction can be quite different from what is expected. For instance they can be yelled at or even shaken by their elders; “What were you thinking, crossing the road without looking at both sides”. The reaction of their parents, may seem a bit hard, but actually displays that they care. The reason why they burst out in rage, was because they were afraid of you getting hurt. The parents got scared and because of that feeling of being afraid of loosing you, they yelled at you. Instead of thinking that they are to strict, be thankful that they doesn`t want you to hurt yourself, or see you hurt.

 

The value of having someone who cares

Those whom have lost someone in their family knows the value of having somene who cares for you. Someone whom make sure that you`ve had you meal on time, prayed you salat, come home in time, and that you wear clothes according to the weather, are not up to late and that you take care of yourself when you are ill and that you get a good dose of hugs. The ironic thing is that we value people more when they aren`t there than when they are. For years we think that our parents, or elder siblings are really giving us a hard time. But when they are somewhat away, we realize they are the one that has our back, when we fall or something negative happens. The ones that stick with you, when everyone else is out the door, no matter if they are friends or family, those people are the one that truly care. Those that help you not because of what you have, but because they love you no matter what you have or are, unconditionally caring people, are hard to find. Make sure that you appreciate them when you realize who they are, because they are your true treasure.

374843_10150465406724496_673011480_nHave we become more un-kind then the generations before us? We Asians know for a fact that the kind of manners that are taught in asian/english schools in Asia are lacking here in the West. Respect towards parents and teachers are not injected in the children. The society is different. That has an impact on the manners and values of the children brought up in these surroundings.

A lot of parents let their children watch television or play games throughout the day. Instead of making sure that they are doing some productive learning, these factors change the children’s thinking. Without talking and spending quality time with your children and teaching them important qualities, how can you expect them to have the right values? The television or games become their “nanny”. The media do not have great values. That is why it is so important that we have limits for how much time they can spend there. Because of the hold of media on the children, a lot of them have become more anti-social. Even if teenagers meet today, they would often rather use FB, Twitter, iPhone etc than to have a normal conversation with each other. These things distract them, and make them lonely.

The selfishness has increased in the society. Different family structure have made being single attractive for some. Or the fact that families break, the increase of divorce, we have a lot of single parents in the community. Most of the people have become more materialistic and showing off thing they buy, is very common. We don`t own things, nowadays things own us. We have everything that money can buy, but not a lot of things that you can`t buy with money. People are depressed, trouble getting enough sleep. They are not content with their life. They have gone far away from religion and feeding their soul and become busy in everyday life.

It maybe that you don`t agree with me. Understandable. Let`s take a test. I believe that people don`t value the relations in their life that made an impact on their life and were the reason why they are so succesful today. Not convinced? Let me ask you a question. I reckon most of the people reading this, do not live with their parents. How often do you visit them? Not often? How often do you call them? When we don`t give any value to people who has spent their life building ours, how much value will we give to strangers than? Would you risk your life for a stranger?

These factors have all been a generator for following to occur: For a couple of weeks ago in Ramadan some boys went to the beach. Because of the waves in the sea they and the deep water they started drowning. Even though there were other people there, no one came forward to help them. Somehow they managed to survive and told their story in the news in Norway. In another incident a couple had an accident and the car went drove off the road. The man managed to get out of the car and on the road to ask for help. Unfortunately no one stopped. It was after the 14th car he waved at before they stopped to help him.

If we look at another aspect of this. Would you have stopped if someone tried to wave you at the side in the middle of nowhere. I mean we have heard a lot of scary stories about this from a lot of different countries. People have been, killed, raped and robbed. I can understand that we become sceptical to people because of this. Don`t you?

Rise of criminality in the society has made people sceptical before helping others in need. I heard about one person in Norway that helped a young person from getting beaten up by a bunch of people. When the gang instead targeted that man, and unfortunately no one helped him. People have to weigh helping others on one side and protecting oneself on the other side. When there is a fear of terrorism in any part of the world, it frightens people, and has an effect on their life. Not to mention retaliation from those who are accused in case of a trial.

Our religion tells us to look for the good in others no matter what life has made them to become. But on the other side, it does not mean that we should become overconfident and jeopardize our life, or the life of our loved ones. Be helpful and smart not a mat that everyone walkover.

Nevertheless if you are of those few people who has this quality of un-conditional kindness within you, like our Prophet Muhammad pbuh, know for a fact that even if people don`t appreciate your efforts, Allah knows and is keeping record of it. He keeps account and is not unjust in the least to anyone. May Allah help us help others, Ameen summa ameen.

love parentsOur parents are one of the best gift Allah has showered upon us. Even if we disagree at times, we fully know that if it wouldn`t have been for their hard work, we wouldn`t have been where we are right today. Alhamdolillah. Their prayers and hard work has helped us through the toughest battles in life and has been our strength. Allah says in the Quran that we should be good to our parents. Sentences about the parents have been written after tawheed, telling us the importance of it, after believing that there is only one God (Allah).

Even though we know this we sometimes mistreat them maybe by some harsh words or words that aren`t thoroughly thought through before they come out of our mouth. I know I have to work on myself. Even though I know I`m not perfect, I will share with you some points about how you can make your parents happy. As when they are happy, those prayers that comes out of their being will save you from any torment be it in this life or the hereafter. Very important to accomplish, in sha Allah.

  1. First of All, the parents and the children has to be able to discuss things without the children being disrespectful towards their parents.  Know that even if you don`t agree about everything they still are the reason why you are in this world. So cherish them and let them know how much they are appreciated for the efforts they have made for you.
  2. Let your mum ( it`s often her whom does all the work at home) needs vacations too and time off so that she doesn`t get too tired. Help her around the house, whenever you have time. Sometimes make food for the family so she also can have the pleasure of eating without preparing everything. Sometimes eat at a halal restaurant so that she doesn`t have to make the food or clean the dishes afterwards. Help her with the dishes once in a while so she can get some rest.
  3. Respect your father (and mother). Make them know that you value their advice. If you disagree with them let them know that you have other opinion about the matter in a nice tone. The parents should be able to appreciate that their children has their own opinion, rather than making them robots whom do just what they want them to. They should make their children have confidence enough to do things on their own without them thinking for them. That doesn`t mean that you shouldn`t ask for their blessings when you have a new plan about your life. It means that they should rather make their children independent beings that can handle their own life also when their parents are no longer in this world.
  4. Take your mum out for shopping or on a cafe once in a while. Buy things for her that she needs. Most probably parents put their children’s needs before their own. Sometimes even if they have the resources they just don`t spend money on themselves. Find out what they need and buy it to them, even if it`s expensive. If you know they`ll mind, simply don`t tell them the price, because in the end they have spent more on you then you could ever repay. Our parents have spent their time and care, tears and sweat in our upbringing shaping us into this beautiful creatures that has finally understood the value of everything in our life. Lets be grateful for that, and let them know that you are grateful for them being your parents.
  5. Dads are often busy thinking about the bills that needs to be paid, the responsibility of the children that are unmarried and the thought of them being the provider that their children doesn`t lack anything in their life. So make them know that you appreciate their efforts of bringing the food on the table.
  6. Give your parents time. Talk with them. Let them tell you stories about how it was when you where a child or their efforts throughout their life so that you also know how they came so far and became so successful.
  7. Know that your parents love you more than anything in this world. Let them know once in a while how much you love them by giving them hugs or kissing their forehead. One glance of love looking at your mother can give you a the blessing of a hajj maqbool. And one glance of love looking at your father can give you the blessing of Umrah. How difficult it is to do a hajj and a Umrah and you can achieve this in your own home by only caring. Isn`t Islam wonderful.
  8. If your parents are retired, give them allowances that they need when they visit other family members or your own family. Parents love to give their children some money when they come to visit, make sure that they have enough. Know that they have spent all their lives on you, so don`t be greedy giving back to them.
  9. Making our parents happy will make Allah happy with us. Displeasing our parents, we will be displeasing our Creator.
  10. Call your parents once a day to make them know that you are alright and making you sure that they are alright. It doesn`t take that much time to call once  a day. Even when we are busy we manage to squeeze out time for our friends. Well our parents are much more important than our friends. Not a big issue. If you call them regularly they will understand that you truly care for them. They often worry for us all the time. Take some of their worries off their shoulders by letting them know that you are ok. They need to know that you are ok where you are.
  11. I have heard this saying, and it is so true. One mum can keep five children happy, but five children can`t keep one mum happy. Make this saying untrue by caring for your parents at all times in sha Allah.
  12. If your one or both of your parents are not any more, make sure you keep good relations with their friends and family. Do lots of good deeds, they will get a share of the blessings in their account. And make supplications for them every day.

May Allah bless the parents of each and every person. May every child and parent be able to experience each others joys and be there for each others in their sorrows. May Allah give us guidance to serve our parents so well that we will achieve Jannah with them. Ameen summa ameen

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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