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butterfly - tough times reveal true friendsEven if you keep on telling a lie a hundred times, it will still remain a lie. If the truth is left unsaid, it will still remain as the truth. People lie so much nowadays that it is seen as something normal, which you have to do in your everyday life, if you wish to survive in this cruel world. Of course some lies are allowed even in Islam. For example when our Prophet Muhammad pbuh and Abu Bakr Siddiq raa made hijrat to medina they met a lot of different people on the way. When some of them asked Abu Bakr raa who the person with him was, he said, “he is my guide”. Those people understood it as being a guide of the roads in this world. But in reality he raa meant guide in the meaning of the Hereafter, Paradise, to prosper etc. It was allowed because they were in danger and people would have told their enemies about their whereabouts.

A siddiqin and a liar can never be the same

A person whom tells a lot of lies, will not be seen as a siddiqin, the same way a person whom speaks the truth, will not be seen as a liar. It is told in an hadith that when the end will be near, lying will become so normal, that people will say that in that place and that town, that person whom lives there and there is truthful. Because there will be so few of them, they will be easy to recognize, and people will know who he/she is.

A real life story

In 1.grade at school, my mother bought me a pen that could write in seven colors. I could just click on the color I wanted and the writing would come in the color I chose. One day another classmate, stole my pen, and put her own pen in it`s place, which was almost like the one I had, but not the same thing. When I recognized my pen being in her stuff, I talked to the teacher. Obviously the teacher didn`t have any solid proof from any side, as it was my words against hers. I told mum about it and she said, we will buy you a new one. That day never came, but I realized one thing, no matter how well you know a friend, you can never be 100% sure that the same thing wouldn`t happen again. This lesson has followed me through my life, and I have understood, that not every person is going to be happy when you achieve something. Some people will try to put obstacles in your way, and some will envy you. Therefore when you are succesful, it is not always that smart to spread the word out. We need to understand whom are our well-wishers, and only share these kinds of victories with them. We also know that the evil eye is true, so sometimes we need to tone down a bit before sharing some good news.

Trust yourself

It is also important that we trust our instinct, and don`t fall in the trap other people put in our way. When we know the truth, even if the whole world is saying something else, we should be strong and bold enough to stand on our rights, and be confident. You know, the whole world can say that your “turban” is black/purple/blue/yellow, as long as you know that it`s white, you should disregard what others say, and not give their statements any value or attention. Or simply nod and smile. A lot of people say a lot of bad words about Islam and muslims, but we know we are on the right. That doesn`t mean that we should stay quiet when others say bad things about us. But is sure means that we should choose our battles wisely, and that sometimes it is better to just be quiet and smile. Sometimes people say something, and later on they have to eat their own words, because they are proven wrong. As a wise person once said : “Be good, but don`t waste time to prove it”.

love parentsOur parents are one of the best gift Allah has showered upon us. Even if we disagree at times, we fully know that if it wouldn`t have been for their hard work, we wouldn`t have been where we are right today. Alhamdolillah. Their prayers and hard work has helped us through the toughest battles in life and has been our strength. Allah says in the Quran that we should be good to our parents. Sentences about the parents have been written after tawheed, telling us the importance of it, after believing that there is only one God (Allah).

Even though we know this we sometimes mistreat them maybe by some harsh words or words that aren`t thoroughly thought through before they come out of our mouth. I know I have to work on myself. Even though I know I`m not perfect, I will share with you some points about how you can make your parents happy. As when they are happy, those prayers that comes out of their being will save you from any torment be it in this life or the hereafter. Very important to accomplish, in sha Allah.

  1. First of All, the parents and the children has to be able to discuss things without the children being disrespectful towards their parents.  Know that even if you don`t agree about everything they still are the reason why you are in this world. So cherish them and let them know how much they are appreciated for the efforts they have made for you.
  2. Let your mum ( it`s often her whom does all the work at home) have rest too and time off so that she doesn`t get too tired because of the chores in the house. Help her around the house, whenever you have time. Sometimes make food for the family so she also can have the pleasure of eating without preparing everything. Sometimes eat at a halal restaurant so that she doesn`t have to make the food or clean the dishes afterwards. Help her with the dishes once in a while so she can get some rest.
  3. Respect your father (and mother). Make them know that you value their advice. If you disagree with them let them know that you have other opinion about the matter in a nice tone. The parents should be able to appreciate that their children has their own opinion, rather than making them robots whom do just what they want them to. They should make their children have confidence enough to do things on their own without them thinking for them. That doesn`t mean that you shouldn`t ask for their blessings when you have a new plan about your life. It means that they should rather make their children independent beings that can handle their own life also when their parents are no longer in this world.
  4. Take your mum out for shopping or on a cafe once in a while. Buy things for her that she needs. Most probably parents put their children’s needs before their own. Sometimes even if they have the resources they just don`t spend money on themselves. Find out what they need and buy it to them, even if it`s expensive. If you know they`ll mind, simply don`t tell them the price, because in the end they have spent more on you then you could ever repay. Our parents have spent their time and care, tears and sweat in our upbringing shaping us into this beautiful creatures that has finally understood the value of everything in our life. Lets be grateful for that, and let them know that you are grateful for them being your parents.
  5. Dads are often busy thinking about the bills that needs to be paid, the responsibility of the children that are unmarried and the thought of them being the provider, that their children doesn`t lack anything in their life. So make them know that you appreciate their efforts of bringing the food on the table and paying your bills.
  6. Give your parents time. Talk with them. Listen to their stories about their youth. And stories about their struggles. Let them tell you stories about how it was when you where a child. Find out how they achieved success.
  7. Know that your parents love you more than anything in this world. Let them know once in a while how much you love them by giving them hugs or kisses. One glance of love looking at your mother can give you the blessing of a hajj maqbool. And one glance of love looking at your father can give you the blessing of Umrah. How difficult it is to do a hajj and a Umrah and you can achieve this in your own home by only caring. There is so much reward in such simple conduct. We should benefit from it.
  8. If your parents are retired, give them allowances, they can spend on what they want to spend on. Parents love to give their grand-children some money when they come to visit, make sure that they have enough. Know that they have spent all their lives building you, so don`t be greedy giving back to them.
  9. Making our parents happy will make God happy with us. Displeasing our parents, we will be displeasing our Creator.
  10. Call your parents once a day to make them know that you are alright and making you sure that they are alright. It doesn`t take that much time to call once  a day. Even when we are busy we manage to squeeze out time for our friends. Well our parents are much more important than our friends. If you call them regularly they will understand that you truly care for them. They often worry for us all the time. Take some of their worries off their shoulders by letting them know that you are ok. They need to know that you are ok where you are.
  11. I have heard this saying, and it is so true. One mum can keep five children happy, but five children can`t keep one mum happy. Make this saying untrue by caring for your parents at all times in sha Allah.
  12. If your one or both of your parents are not any more, make sure you keep good relations with their friends and family. Do lots of good deeds, they will get a share of the blessings in their account. And make supplications for them every day.

May Allah bless the parents of each and every person. May every child and parent be able to experience each others joys and be there for each others in their sorrows. May Allah give us guidance to serve our parents so well that we will achieve Jannah with them. Ameen summa ameen

mothers hug

A Mother’s love is something
that no on can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain

It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away

It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking

It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems

It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation

A many splendor miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God’s tender guiding hand.

-By Anonymous

Love Allah

We know as from our own experience and growing up that our mother loves us a lot. I know I`m talking for many when I say that she is the one we love the most. She is the one who has always been there for us no matter what. She is the one that has supported us in all our matters and someone we can count on. We also know that Allah loves us 7 times more than what our mother love us. Can you imagine how much love that is? When we get hurt by something or someone, our mother is the first one to check how we are doing and is one of the first that comforts us and sees to it that we are ok. Can you imagine if Allah loves us 7 times more than our mothers, don`t you think Allah wants the best for us? Why don`t we than trust His decisions?

Allah wants us to attain Jannah

Allah loves us so much that he wants us to attain Jannah. He wants us to be guided and reach the real success in life and hereafter. What we need to do more is to trust His choices for us. When we don`t get what we really want then we complain a lot and sometimes stop praying as we don`t love Him. Why don`t we realize that his holding something back can be his way of redirecting us to something better that suits us more, or a way of purifying us. When we supplicate to Allah he answers our prayers, but since He doesn`t answer them the way we want to, we get disappointed and think He doesn`t love us. Allah answers prayer in these ways, 1. He redirects you to something better, 2. He gives it to you after purifying you, 3. He gives it to you in the Akhirah 4. He protects you from harm. What we need to do is to trust His choices for us and then we will be much happier and more relaxed.

Do you love Allah?

Another question is do we love Allah? This is meant for me as well. I mean we claim that we love Him, but are we following His guidelines? Are we doing the deeds He wants us to do, and not doing the deeds He doesn`t want us to do? If we are we need to be proud of ourselves. But if we aren`t we need to work on ourselves and get a deeper understanding of what Islam means, which is submission to Allah`s will. The remarkable muslims don`t have the will of their own, but follows the will of Allah. If we truly love Him, we need to show it in our deeds. If we are collecting many good deeds that is excellent. If we have a few deeds that are holding us back, we need to re-think and stop them from ruining our final reckoning in front of Allah on judgment day, and even in the grave. The final falah/success is with Him (Allah) no other way leads better to the way of Allah then the Quran and the Sunnah. If we are following it, we should be proud of ourselves. If we have some shortcomings, like every other person has, we have every reason to try to work on it.

After all what is love?

When we love another person, we know his/her likes and dislikes, we know what makes them happy and try do to that, and we know what makes them sad and try to not do that. We respect the people he/she loves and are close to him/her like his/her family, friends and other acquaintances. We know a lot and try to find out everything about them. Thinking of them makes us happy. Being with them makes us happier. Knowing that they loves us back make us happiest. If we change the name of the person with the name of Allah are we doing everything to please Allah? Do we know about His likes and dislikes? Are we trying to learn more about all His history? Do we love meeting Him when we pray, or has it just become a routine? All these questions need to be thought about and answered. Not for anyone else than ourselves, to help us become better. I am counting in myself as well. May Allah help us follow all His guidelines and love Him in the true meaning it means to love Him and help us and our loved ones to attain success in this life and the hereafter as well. Ameen summa ameen.

Mothers are a gift from above. No matter when or what they are often the one that is the most supportive to their children, following by Dads. Mums always seem to know how you are feeling and is the one that has taken the most care of us from we were small and couldn`t do a thing by ourselves. May Allah keep all the mums in heaven in His best care, and give us an opportunity to meet her in Jannah and the mums that are still with us, may Allah grant them wonderful children that take good care of them for always. Ameen summa ameen.

Remember the best way to do something for those of our parents in the heaven is to do good deeds so that Allah showers them with more blessings in their resting place til the hereafter begins. May Allah give us sabr and patience to go through every up and down in our life, and give us the strength to fight through every difficulty in our life. Remember after every difficulty there is ease, and Allah only test those of the muslims that He loves much. Allah takes something away from us to test us, and Allah gives us something to test us, to see who of us is best in deed. Be thankful for every day, every thing that has happened in the past, because without the past This PRESENT wouldn`t have been here 🙂 Say Alhamdolillah always, Allah knows best what He is planning, and He is the best of planners. Say Alhamdolillah for everything, because when we are thankful Allah showers us with more of his blessings in this world. Know that even if one of your parents is not with you today, your loved ones care about you, and want to do everything to see you happy, always. 😉 Know that what matters in life is how much good deeds you preserve for the hereafter, so that you can see your loved ones in Jannah, InshaAllah. Know that your supplications do affect everyone, and Allah hears us. Remember that every good thing that happens in your life is because of your mothers supplications for you and your family. Know that Allah knows best and let yourself put all of your trust in Him. He is the Best and Sustains everyone, so never ever think that He doesn`t know what He is doing. 😉 Remember that what good befalls us comes from Allah and every bad thing that befalls us comes from our own deeds. Remember that through prayers and good deeds one can change our destiny to become the brightest ever, with the best Hereafter. All we have to do is to believe and act upon it, inshaAllah ameen Allah humma ameen. May Allah give us a overjoyed life and hereafter, and may He give us the honsla to handle all the ups and downs in our life. May we pass the test of life and may Allah give us Jannah in return for that. Ameen summa ameen.

I remember I asked mum once when I was younger; what made the food taste so delicious?? Mum would answer with a smile on her face that it`s the amount of love and care you put in the cooking:) I always think of that whenever I eat something home-made. And especially something my Mum made. Just yesterday she made some really tasty stuffed karelein. On ordinary basis, I actually have never liked karelein, since Mum made them and forced me to have a bite, I really enjoyed it. Now I`m so-called hooked to it. 😉 Conclusion 😉 Mums have a magic effect on the food they make.. You may say that I`m a bit pendo, but I don`t mind that:) But I must say ke haath se koi khana khanein mein bhi ziada mazah ata hain, compared to eating with cutlery. Like for instance on Eid I ate Mum`s home-made savayan with my hands and they tasted amazing:) Let`s face it I`m pendo inside out 😉 hehe.. proudie me:)

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper

Mood :)