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Everyone wants to protect the people they care for. No matter what religion, color, ethnicity you have. You try your best to help, protect, provide for the people you love. If their air is polluted in your city, and your child has allergies or asthma, you will do everything you can to move to a place where he can live a healthy life. If and when we hear about a disease that is spreading because of a virus, almost every family member are eager to help those they love to take a vaccine against it. People are afraid of contagious diseases. When any person is infected with a contagious disease, that person is transferred to a special room in the hospital. Each and every who goes in and out has to wear special clothing. And the things that goes into the room, has to be special cleaned. This is to prevent the disease from spreading to the whole community or town.

The Types Of Diseases Are Many

Some have psychological diseases. Some has physical sickness. Some has sickness in their soul/heart. The last type of sickness, the sickness of the spiritual heart. The place where feelings, emotions take life. Both good and bad. Since we are talking about sickness, I mean feelings like, envy, jealousy, hate, harshness, backbiting, lying, arrogance, making fun of others, looking down on others, slander, etc. Something negative. Since niyah, ikhlas and integrity comes from the spiritual heart. The quality of these three, will affect the disease of the heart. If our heart is diseased, there is no way we will have pure good niyah, ikhlas or integrity. So as being a muslim. If we want Allah to accept our deeds, we have to correct this. Or else no matter how big or gracious deeds we are doing, or people think we are doing, it will be rejected by Allah. What good will it do for us, if the good we do is rejected, in the final account? Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of perfectly getting rid of our diseases in our spiritual heart. Aamen.

Choose Good Company And Halal Fun

A spiritual alive heart, who knows the value of spirituality and good behaviour, will not be able to spend time with people who has diseases in their hearts. Their idea of halal fun, differs. A spiritually dead heart, doesn`t mind going to places where he / she can do more sins, like backbiting, lying, slander, vicious tongue, chugl khaur, etc. The heart is dead meaning, these sins doesn`t seem bad. They have fun doing these sins. It`s darkening their heart making it black. On the other side, we have a heart who is spiritually alive, he / she is aware of the effects of sins on their life. They want to make sure that the fun they are doing is actually allowed in Islam. Doing sins, that increase your punishments, is not funny. But rather doing deeds that make their ranks raised in this world and the next, is fun. In other words, when these people step out of their house, towards work or school or any event, they will do the background check, how can I spend my day, doing the right matters, correctly, and also be in constant struggle of correcting myself in the process, because I really want to earn those rewards, without them being rejected. So someone they know, invites them to an event. They will ask for the details. Will there be music there? Will there be a mix gathering between the genders? What is the dress code of the event? hijabi or non-hijabi? What kind of people are attending? Sinners or practising muslims? Will there be halal food? Where is it? How will I be able to get there safely, while also in hijab? From these questions one can imagine, these people doesn`t play with their life. Going on an event, where they might commit sins, is a big issue. They do not want to increase in sins. These people are serious about where they want to spend their eternity. Spending time with people who has diseases in the heart can be very contagious. And it does have an effect on our lives. That is why it is so important to help oneself, to only attend events , where these matters shouldn`t be any issue. There is a reason why Allah has said, that the majority of people in hell-fire will be women. One of the reason is the sins of the tongue. We who have been raised in this community, knows how fast any information travels, before the entire community is talking about it. In other words. We aren`t doing enough when it comes to increasing the healthy-ness of our spiritual heart. How can we explain how fast the whole community knows something, if we muslims in the community weren`t backbiters? If we were obeying Allah and protecting ourself from the sins of the tongue, the info would have died a permanent death, with the first who heard it. Instead the reality is that everyone knows it, within in day.

An Act Of Worship With Highest Reward And Acceptance

If and when we are able to correct our niyah, ikhlas, quality of deed, our deeds will be rewarded and accepted with the highest rewards. No matter how little the deed is. Our intention will be to do every deed for the sake of Allah. I will please my spouse for the sake of Allah. I will fulfil my duties towards my children for the sake of Allah. I will work with integrity at my school and work, for the sake of Allah. I will be good to neighbours, to strangers, to kin for the sake of Allah. I will be good to animals for the sake of Allah. I will help the community for the sake of Allah. When we are able to have these kinds of intentions, Allah isn`t stingy in rewarding us. Allah, has made us because he wants us to come back to Him in a good obedient way. When we are doing good deeds with right intentions and ikhlas, the same right intention and ikhlas will protect us from doing bad deeds. I am not going to lie, because Allah dislikes dishonesty. I am not going to backbite, because Allah dislikes eating your own brothers flesh. I am not going to be selfish and only think about myself. I am not going to slander other people. I am not going to help a marriage break. I am not going to only think about my rights, but I will balance that with also thinking about my duties. If and when we are able to correct ourselves by helping our spirituality to grow, every deed of our conduct, will become an act of worship. Because the intention and sincerity is correct. We aren`t only in the state of ibadah when we are in salah, but also when we are good to our spouse, take care of our children, fulfil our duties for the sake of pleasing Allah. Even that day our spouse is angry at us, we dig in our goodwill, to be good to him / her. I know how difficult fitnah is for a man when he steps out of the house, I will make sure I please my husband sufficiently every day. I know my wife, has had a tough day, I will make dinner for her today. Our parents get angry at us because of their old age, trying to practice sabr with them. My teen is giving my a hard time, maybe he /she is need of more positive attention. When we feed our spiritual heart with Allah`s remembrance our goodwill increases, and we are able to do more for Allah`s Creation. We want to please Allah, to gain Allahs love and because we want to thank Him. Allah has said, You have not thanked me, if you haven`t thanked people. So when we are grateful to others, because we have so many matters we have been helped, we are thanking Allah. And Allah will love us more. And a true alive spiritual heart, wants Allah`s love. When we do good deeds to please Allah and thank Him, He loves us and make the good righteous, also love us. There is no better validation of being a good person, than that the Creator of everything in this Universe, is saying, that He loves you. Ya Allah, make us of those You love. Ya Allah make us of those Hazoor Paak pbuh loves. Ya Allah make us of those, hadrat Jibreel alayhisalam loves. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of purifying our hearts from the diseases it has, with tawbah and repentance and shining it up with dhikr of You, every day. Aamen. Ya Allah grant us to win the struggle of correcting our niyah, ikhlas and quality of every deed, so every deed of our conduct is filled with sunnah and becomes an act of worship, which You, Allah accept with the highest rewards and acceptance. Aamen. Grant this to me, my family, my friends, and all ummati, till the end of time. Grant us to win the struggle of perfecting the quality of the purity of our heart, of our soul, of our deeds, of our speech, of our thoughts, of our conduct all the time. Aamen summa aamen.

positive parents, children, upbringingGood and bad health is in the hands of our Creator. There is also something we have in our hands to change the situation. Many people know the right of the parents and talk and praise those who treat them well. Though we need to talk more about how parents should treat their children also. Their childhood shape them for their adulthood. If we want them to be good contributors as adults, we nee to know how to mould them into what we want them to become. I have a few thoughts about this, I would like to share.

Children Above Their Age

Children need to learn the parents rights. The parents also should be aware of the children’s rights. If a childs` opinion is validated, and their parents make them feel like they can contribute to the conversation, even with their little intellect at the moment. They would be able to, see with amazement, that many times children say words that are above their age, and good for the conversation. It is the parents that build the childs` confidence in the beginning. Just like any spouse want un-divided attention, children also need a good dose of positive attention, love, care and nurture from their parents. If the parents are able to show this in a good way, they help build healthy people who are an asset for the community and the people they interact with.

parents recognize childrens abilites and efforts,Don`t Downplay Their Abilities

It is so easy to for a parent to say to a child, don`t be disrespectful. Though the parents must also realize that if you treat he/she with respect, and teach them how to behave in a good way, with encouragement, they will. If the only way to get any attention is when children does something wrong, of course, the child that need validation, would do anything for it. To bring out good qualities in our children, we must comment positively and take out time to listen to them and reason with them, to help them think good. Not only teaching them what to think, but how to think right. Don`t downplay their abilities. That is where they learn to downplay their own abilities, in their relations as adults. At the time a child is born, it is like a white sheet. Whatever it becomes and how it behaves depends on the values that are cultivated in him/her. The parents need to realize their responsibilities before it is too late. Encourage your children and see them blossom. Build confidence and self-esteem while keeping them humble and filled with humility and gratefulness. Knowing that good would not happen to them without the will and help of Allah and hard work. When they don`t win the game, appreciate their efforts, because they worked hard. We need to raise children that will be good for the community, muslims and non muslims, but most importantly, good for Islam. May Allah help all elders and children value and respect each other and fulfil their rights and obligations towards each other in a sunnah way and help them become resourceful for the community and to each other.

 When we become sad it’s mostly because we don’t take out time everyday to practice gratefulness. When we focus on what we don’t have rather than what we have, we become depressed or sad. 


Make A List 

To be aware of how blessed we are, we can start writing a list on 30 matters we are grateful for, with the reason for you being grateful at every point. I promise you, if we do this every time we feel sad, it will change our mood to contentment, when we re-read the list after we’re done.


What do we take for granted?

That we are healthy. We have fresh air to breath. We have a home. We have security. We have freedom to practice our religion. We are educating ourselves. We have people around us that cares for us. Allah made us muslims. We believe in Allah. He loves us. We pray to Him. He relieves us from our difficulties and distress. We have vehicles that are easily available when we want to go somewhere. The list goes on.

Alhamdolillah

As our paycheck is raised so does the quality of our wants increase. If we would always think about what we want, nothing will ever be good enough. iPhone started off with iPhone 3. Now it has been improved to a iPhone 6. In a few months a better version will be sold. The development of the society won’t stop. It’s a never-ending race.


Things Doesn’t Matter

When we take time to remember what we are blessed with and why. The things won’t matter. But the people and the moments we spend with our loved ones, will make us feel cherished and loved.

  
Much comfort, makes us forget our purpose, and distracts us from remembering Allah. Often the test we often fail in, is the test of ease. The comfort that makes us forget Allah, is a punishment, even if we experience happiness. True happiness and contentment can only be found by being close to Allah and in full submission to Him. 
To keep our nafs from getting out of control, it needs some kind of difficulty or trial.
If we can, sometimes use the car, other times, walk or take public transport. 
If we can, sometimes have a grand dinner, other times, eat food that is hard/burned/broken.
If we can, sometimes use really nice clothes, but mostly use ordinary clothes. 
If we can, sometimes sleep on the bed, but once in a while sit or sleep on the floor, without cushions. 
If we don’t keep our nafs in control at the time of immense joy or comfort, we might not be able to keep our feets connected to the ground. 
Our blessings are not given to us because we deserve them, but because of Allah’s MercifulNess. Mainly they are given, to try us, because Allah wants us to be grateful for the favours He gives us. 
When we are grateful for blessings, He increases them. Allah dislikes us becoming arrogant or ungrateful. 
Being humble and filled with humility, when given an blessing, is the sunnah way of thankfulness.
May Allah preserve us and help us always love and follow the sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him). May Allah cultivate in us the best qualities of the best muslims of all time. And make us of those people He loves the most. May Allah guide us to love each other for His sake. And become each others righteous friends for eternity, where we will be re-united beneath His Throne on the Day of Judgement, and in Firdous. Allah accept our supplication. Allahumma Aameen.

Thank you allah, heartWithout appreciating what people have done for us, and being thankful, we are not appreciating what Allah has done for us. Because when people help us, it is directly sent from Allah. He sends people as blessings and inspire them to help us, in some way. For example there was a person that was drowning in an ocean. He cried out, “Allah help me”, when there came a boat from nearby and helped him. He was thankful for being saved. In reality the help was sent from Allah. Allah`s help and love is sent us through people whom help us and mould us in the people we become. So when we are not thankful for those whom have helped us, we can clearly see that we are not thanking Allah.

 

Is There Any Big Problem?

Imagine your own birth, and your mother giving you away to an orphanage, were you are brought up, without siblings and the security of parents and family. You are only given the basics of education to cope with life and are sent out in the world to save yourself. Now imagine the reality of your life. You were born, with parents, and grew up with siblings and secure home with good education, and your basic need were fulfilled by your family. You grew up to be the young man/woman and your parents found a match and married you to a spouse that became your world. Now you have a job, a spouse, children and friends with a succesful prosperous life ahead of you. Is there any big problem?

 

Right Priorities?

Most of us might say no, alhamdolillah we are blessed. But are you grateful? Are you thankful of Allah? Are you taking care of your parents, now that they need you like you needed them when you were borned. Time changes and I have seen more of people neglecting their parents need when they get their own families. Mostly sons. They forget the fact that wouldn`t it be for their parents sacrificing their life from the time they were born, they wouldn`t be where they are today? How can they now, when their parents are old, and in need of care, forget their efforts? In fact, when they aren`t thankful to their parents, they are being ungrateful to Allah as well. Hadrat Jibrael as said that those whom have old parents and doesn`t earn Paradise because of that, will not earn Allah`s mercy, and Prophet Muhammad pbuh said aameen to that dua. We are told to be good to parents and treat them well, and remember their favours on our life. Still there are so many married children, that get so occupied in their life, that they forget it, or neglect it. Sometimes I wonder how their children will be with them, when they come in the same age. We can see that times are changing. Not only in western countries but now also in some muslim countries we have seen homes for the elderly, where their children leave them their, and mostly doesn`t contact them again.

 

How Can We Return The Favour?

When I see old Norwegians going somewhere alone, without any children or grandchildren, my heart cries in sorrow for them. This is a universal value, to be good do parents, no matter religion or ethnicity. If we are not demonstrating good treatment toward or elderly than the next generation will learn that from us, and we will see the fruit of our work. May Allah wake us before it is too late. Parents are a gift, that no matter how much time you spend with them, once they are away, one always feel that the time we spent with them wasn`t enough. May Allah reward our parents with good in this world and the next and may Allah give them infinite deeds multiplied with infinity for every difficulty they have gone through because of us or anyone else, and may Allah help us to take care of them as much as they deserve, and help us repay all their favour upon us and make us a sadqa jariryah for them. Aameen summa aameen.

strong, brain, excersise, trening, hjernen  (1)Can you imagine that sometimes when you speak with your friends, you`re giving away your good deeds to those you don`t like. If that wasn`t enough you are also receiving their bad deeds in your account. The worst deal we can ever make is to backbite others, and that is what this comes from.

 

What To Socialize About?

Have you ever seen people whom likes to tell stories, without any friends? I certainly have not. People like to be with others whom is good at telling stories. Doesn`t matter if they are true or not, as long as they are funny and entertaining. Have you thought of if people would stop backbiting if we didn`t lend them our ears. If no one would want to listen to stories because they would know that more than 50% of it could be all made by assumptions, and give them a deaf ear, they`d immediately stop. People need something to talk about and socialize about. I like the quote : “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people” – Eleanor Roosevelt. If we think that we have great minds, why do we than degrade ourselves by discussing people? If we used more time discussing ideas, we`d might certainly find more solutions to our issues.

 

Our Perception Is Coloured By Our Values

What we talk about says something about who we are and is coloured by our perception of matters. Two friends are in a coffee shop drinking coffee while they see something strange happening. Because of their individual perception, they will speak and understand what they saw differently. They have invisible glasses on them that are made by their values. So even if they tell the story about this incident to two different people, chances are they won`t match. And if those two people they talked to are friends and somehow discuss what they told them, they will see how different they understood it, and how it is coloured with their point of view.

 

whoever gossips with you, will gossip about youPeople Like The Juicy / Funny Stories

Ancient historical happenings aren`t as interesting as the juicy and funny stories about their friends party the other day. Can you guarantee that a storyteller hasn`t told a lie? People like to listen to that which makes them feel good about themselves. What can possibly make them feel better than seeing someone they dislike, struggling in something. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said that being happy when some people are afflicted with a calamity, can be difficult for them. Allah can save those afflicted with the calamity and make it a blessing for them and afflict those who laughed, with the same or something similar, that the other was saved from. So never be happy in others misfortunes. No muslim is allowed to make fun of or laugh of other fellow muslims or call them by offensive nicknames, Surah Hujraat. Seriously, today, do you know someone whom hasn`t laughed at another fellow muslim once, in a day. Yes we call ourselves muslims, but we are sometimes far from the manners it teaches. May Allah guide us.

 


Rasollallah Wants To See The Whole Ummah In Paradise

Another story which is connected to backbiting is something mostly girls/women do a lot; make allies. When couple of friends doesn`t like one person in the click, they can easily, fill their friends with hatred about them. She said, this and that about you, which could have been said but the intention for saying something and what it meant could have been 180 degrees opposite. Winning friends by fueling each other with hatred about each other, is not uncommon amongst girls/women. Jealousy kicks in once in a while and they don`t like that others succeed. Bringing others down won`t make you look better. Those who help other when they are down to achieve a similar success are the truly succesful people. Jannah is for all, right. If you don`t share your success stories with your surroundings in case they succeed more than you, your jealousy would eat up your good deeds. Imagine you tell something good to someone, and they perfect it more than you. One thought could lead to jealousy and the other to gratefulness. The gratefulness would come of the fact that every good deed that person does will be added to your account of deeds, just because you directed them to it. So all in all, being good can never be a loss. We should strive to become better than what we are today, recognizing our own potential. Our goal is not to be better than someone else at the mosque or any other event. Sallallaho wasallam wants to see all of his Ummah in Paradise. So if someone err, you can be a gentle reminder or at least, don`t be the reason others fail.

 

gossip1You Will Gain Only Good From It

A sunnah that can be revived is making excuses for your brother when you don`t know the whole story. If you hear something from someone regarding any matter, don`t think of it as the ultimate truth. One can draw a parallel to the mother of the believers, Ayesha raa. She was seen with another person and was left behind because of the necklace that she had lost on the way. When people saw here, they starting making all these tales about her. They only spoke about what they saw, but didn`t know the reasons behind. Allah proved her innocence in the Quran. Things aren`t always as they seem. Sometimes our own perception colours our glasses, but isn`t the entirely truth. That is why it is so important to have goodwill for our brothers and sisters in Islam. Whenever someone backbites anyone, make excuses, because we don`t know whether the backbiter is true or not or if he has made a tale out of assumptions. Think good of others. Give the backbiters a deaf ear. Next time they have something to tell, they won`t come to you. The thing is, it won`t be your loss. You will gain only good from it. Only when people will stop listening to backbiting, the vicious circle of blabbering mouths, would also stop. The punishment for the sin of the mouth is severe. A person can fall very deep into hell just because of some word he/she utters, or be given a higher status in Jannah because of something good he/she says. “The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but those who watch them without doing anything”.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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