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When we learn something from our teacher. He (she) lights a torch of knowledge (wisdom) in us. The love for remembering Allah increases. Now it’s upto us, to take care of it, help it grow and to pass it on to others, and invite them to the mehfil. The love of Allah, is such, that no matter who your family, sibling, spouse, children, work, color, ethnicity is, without that love, everything we have gained is bitter. With the love and obedience of Allah, no matter how small achievement it is, Allah makes it good for us, increases baraqah through it for us, blesses us through the achievement. When we invite other to the khair (dhikr mehfil), we wish for them something similar as we have. Inviting someone for the sake of Allah, means we are not helping them for any personal benefit, except that if they start with dhikr, they will pray for us, and our own baraqah increases in our life. What good they will do, will also benefit us with good deeds. And the khair becomes a sadqa jariyah (ongoing charity), that lasts longer than our life. When we pray salah or do dhikr, it is for our personal benefit. Allah doesn’t need our prayers. We are in need of Him. If we only pray for a certain matter to happen for us, and it doesn’t happen, we can’t let our practice of love and obedience for Allah, die because of that. No matter what your blessing is, Allah decreases the goodness from that blessing, if you are not obedient to Him (Allah). We need Allah, just as much as when we are the most succesful human on earth, as when we are of the most un-succesful person on earth, in dunya blessings. Success without Allah, is actually failure, no matter your salary, your children, status, spouse etc. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of perfecting our niyah, our ikhlas, our integrity. Aamen. Ya Allah, help us increase in doing dhikr every day. Ya Allah, Help us successfully pass on the torch of the remembrance of Allah, for the sake of Allah, to others, so it can become an ongoing charity for us for many years. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle in correcting those faults in us, that are coming in our way of us learning what our teacher knows we lack. Grant us to reach our fullest potential in becoming the most succesful “muttaqi of imam” of our time. Aamen
In the first years of our school, we learned about limits of interaction with other children. Our teacher told us that every child has an invisible boundary around us. Every child has different people who are allowed to cross that boundary. Since every child is different, and some children are more shy than others, some have a bigger circle of boundary around them. That means that if we were to talk with such a child, he/she would feel comfortable if we had some extra distance between him/her and us, while speaking. Other outgoing children can have a circle that is closer to their body, so you can stand much closer to them, and they would still feel comfortable having a conversation. So our teachers told us, some people are allowed to come into the circle, like our parents, siblings, closets friends. If anyone crosses our boundary, without permission, then we must be strong, and able to speak up and remove ourselves from the situation. Teachers made up an example of a situation, and children were taught how to remove themselves from the treath.
I think it is very important that this is taught to children and teens. So they are aware of it. Make them strong and able to protect their own boundaries. and not allowing any outsider to cross them. Ya Allah, make it easy for us to protect ourself. Ya Allah protect every ummati, from those who cross their boundaries, without permission. Aameen
It is annoying sometimes, when muslim leaders tell families, to keep their women at home. It is correct that women has a bigger responsibility when it comes to raising children. But we can’t close our eyes to the society we are co-existing in.
Your Opinion Matters
Number 1. The first matter spouses often have disagreement about, is money. Number 2. If there wouldn’t be any females in different professions, the muslim women would have to go to male doctors, male nurses male teachers, males in kindergarden, males in shops for women and etc. At a time where they need to talk with people of the same gender. Number 3. The most marriages in the west need two salaries to be able to pay for their expenses. Number 4. The wifes’ that stay home for the kids upbringing usually have a small social network. In other words, their need to socialize is not met by only going to the mosque sometimes a month. Number 5. Many muslim men doesn’t pay for the expenses of their wife. They do not fulfill their duty of providing for her and giving her a certain amount every month etc. Number 6. Instead of holding back our women from work because of their hijab, why do we not at least educate muslim men, to treat other muslim women within the boundaries of haya, modesty, lowering gaze, guarding tongue and private parts? Number 7. Help the women in your family to choose profession where they can be an advantage for the community, while also keep their hijab and modesty, and also be safe, where she is. When Muslim women will take an active part in their work, they will be able to influence decisions that affect muslims in their community. They will help build strong communities. The muslim womens opinion matters.
The Patient Can Choose The Gender Of The Doctor
If every family told the women to stay home because of Islam, within a few generations muslim women would have far more trouble in going outside. The places where the female gender is necessary would be male-dominated. That could cause more trouble. I don’t know if anyone have been in Pakistan lately. There is a reason why they have built malls (shops) for females only. Or in a specific timing, only females are allowed to go inside the mall. That means only female workers will attend them. In that way, they do not have unwanted attention that decrease their freedom. And the safety of women is also safeguarded. Imagine, a woman doctor in Norway, can`t choose to only have female patients. She has to treat both genders. Neutrally with haya, of course. If there weren`t any female asian lady doctors, many asian women today, might not be able to get the proper help they needed. In the time of the Prophet pbuh, many sahabi took part in the battles where muslims fought. Sometimes as nurses bandaging the wounded and also as fighting the enemies. It`s in our islamic heritage. The community need more women to take part in building healthy communities. Islam does not dismiss women working. It just want both genders to practice the ethics of Islam at work and school, as at home.
The Beauty Is In The Perfection
I believe Islam is beautiful. I love Islam. Alhamdolillah. But sometimes we have to be a bit practical. Islam is perfect. But the practice of Islam in the ummah, makes it look ugly. A dai (preacher of Islam) once said. There was a time when muslims practised Islam in such a way, people said, look at so- and so- to motivate other muslims. Nowadays the name is often muslim, but the practice is so poor, that when we talk to some people who are interested in learning about Islam, we tell them to learn it from the Quran and sunnah. Go back to the real source. Don’t look at muslims, who doesn’t pray, and lies, and backbites and earn money in a haram manner. Their practice is not islamic. I`m sure many muslims knows families where the whole family has been muslims for at least three generations, yet still neither of the generations is following even the basics of Islam. Yet they call themselves muslims.
Lets Look At The World
In some countries, wagons of the public transport, is different between the genders. To prevent harassment of women. Some countries have been talking about it. In Afghanistan, a woman goes out with niqab and all her body covered. Even the face. Still these women are harassed there. It is because the men aren`t lowering their gazes and practising haya. In india, group-rape of women, and rape in general is widely spread. In egypt, women have their undergarments teared off in the street, by men walking by. It is not enough to keep women at home to protect them from assault. Parents must teach both sons and daughters how to behave within the boundaries of Islam. Haya, hijab, lowering gaze, and less interaction. If these men were taught good values from their childhood, many of them would have had a good character. It`s not enough to name your son as a muslim, if you don`t teach him good values, than it will be your own loss. Remember in many countries, women are wearing hijab, yet are still being harassed. Obviously the men must also lower their gaze and protect their private parts, and practice modesty.
First Look At Your References
Keeping the women at home, to protect them isn`t the answer here. It is the time of internet, YouTube, snapchat, Skype. Filth can be found, in the media, within your home. With free time, and boringness, many people can go astray. Ya Allah, protect us. Aamen. If you don`t teach your children to fear Allah, they can easily get misguided. The reason why such, problems are on the increase is because we think just knowing Islam is enough. That`s completely wrong. Even non-muslims know about Islam. Many times more than many muslims. Yet they don`t accept it in their heart nor do they practise it. We muslims accept the message, but do not live according to it. It is not enough to know that salah is important. Unless you pray the prayers every day, you will not be granted khusho, or the sweetness of salah. That which is the coolness of Hazoor Paak ﷺ and his biggest comfort in hardships. We need a spiritual awakening of the ummah. Where we also are doing the good we know. It`s like when your supervisor is going to hire a new colleague. No one hires a new employ based on what they know. Even if they have a master degree. First they look at their references. Do they have practise from the subjects they have studied. That`s why most people have many difficulties finding their first job. To have that first reference, that will open doors for better opportunities. When we improve on our sprituality we will practice islam also in private, not only in public. The wisdom of Islam comes from practising what you have learned, not just talking about it.
Housewife From Back Home
Many women in arrange marriages, who travel to norway, with their spouse, live at home for the first 10 years of their marriage. In Pakistan still many women are housewifes. Many gain weight. Many sleep the day and wakes after mid-day. No specific routine of day. The social life in Pakistan is better than in Norway. A wife that is married to a pakistani here in norway, often have small social circles, and have to start from scratch, in building network. After these women have stayed home the first ten years of their marriage, raising children, they are often very eager to start an employment. Socialize with other. The children doesn`t need them that much. Their expenses have increased or not paid by their husband. Very little social life at home. Many eagerly start learning the language of their country. In hope of a job. Many health issues from poor diet. These women, most of them, wants to get out more. They have lived the life of being a housewife, in Norway. Their problems are underrated. Few talk about it. Many are also struggling in their marriage.
The Community Need Muslim Women In Many Professions
We can live in a bubble and think that this is what we want. Unless the world is able to offer it, we have to seek insight in the reality of our time today. Keeping women at home, is not the only option. First parents need to educate both genders about ethics of islam. Cultivate in them fear of Allah. Help them choose good friends and good education according to their gender. If you really want to protect your wife from the ill of this community, talk with others about how we can educate men and sons to practice islam also outside the home. Social life in norway is very different from Pakistan, and many wife`s lead a very deppressive life, staying home as housewifes. Help them choose profession where they can utilize their abilities, earn salary, socialize. All this within the boundaries of Islam. All this will help the muslim women increase their quality of life. They will be happier. Active. Learning. Changing. Growing as people. Know more about the society they live in. That is important to raise good obedient children. They can positively influence the development of our community. Ya Allah, help the community succeed in making it easy for muslim women, if they wish, to have an employment where they can use their qualities, while also taking care of all of her duties at home. Aamen
One matter we can improve is helping our children to get addicted to reading drud sharif as early as possible. There are many benefits of reading drud sharif, but the reason why I`ve heard it is good for families, is that it brings gentleness into our conduct. Many parents often complain that teens often become very rude and difficult. Reading drud often, everyday, can be something that tames their emotions and grant them control over themselves, so they become more easygoing, even within the family, not only with their friends.
Cultivate Gentleness In Your Child
Parents have a big job cultivating good qualities in their children. Often times as the child is growing, parents give their children different duties they have to do everyday, or some days in the week, to help them learn new task through responsibility. The parents make a chart for the whole week, and give a star for every accomplished work. One duty they can add to those chores is reading 100 drud sharif every day, in front of their parents, in the start, just so that the parents can hear them, help them recite it correctly, and make sure, they are actually reading it. As the child will get the hang of it, and the taste of it`s delights, parents can often say, if all four children read, drud every day 500 times, when each of the family member has read 10 000 drud or 100 000 drud, we will celebrate with an outing on a good halal restaurant, or a vacation somewhere they want to go, with islamic content, or some kind of reward / goal, you will easily motivate them.
The Atmosphere Will Change Positively
If your child start reading drud sharif regularly, You will see an immense difference in their attitude and behaviour. They will become more gentle in everything they do and say, and they will start liking sunnah deeds. Their love for Hazoor Paak pbuh will increase, and through that love, their obedience to Allah in private and public will improve. The drud sharif will beautify their inside and outside, with good sunnah conduct and noraniyat. What else can a muslim parent want for his / her child / teen? This will change the entire atmosphere of the house. Soon you will have less quarrels, more love and gracious practice towards each other. The love within the family, will increase. When the children slowly realize the good effect of reading drud sharif in their life, they will increase their practice of it, regardless of your motivation. When that happens you have done a great job, guiding your child to healthy habits. This will bring them bliss in this life and the hereafter. The drud sharif supports the reader of it, until the reader reads drud sharif so much, that Allah make it, the readers vasila, and take all his / her matters in His own Hands. Ya Allah grant this for every child, teen and adult of the ummah. Aameen.
Homofili er satt på dagsordenen. Noen muslimer er imot, andre er mer åpne for at enhver må ha rett til å praktisere det de selv ønsker. Mange ikke-muslimer stiller seg uforstående til hvorfor koranen sier at homofili skal straffes med dødsstraff. Uten at jeg selv vil gå ut og drepe en som praktiserer homofili, forstår jeg noe av Allah`s hikmah (wisdom) bak dette. Jeg skal prøve å forklare det her.
Både kristne og muslimer har forbud mot homofili i sin religion.
For at menneskeligheten skal få reprodusere seg, trenger man en mann og en kvinne. To personer av samme kjønn kan ikke skape et barn. En gang for flere år siden møtte jeg en mor med sin datter i en butikk. Når jeg så de i kø ved kassen, så jeg at datteren hadde tydelige kutt-merker på begge armene. Det virket ikke som at hun ønsket å skjule det heller, siden hun hadde ganske korte armer på t-shorten sin. Det finnes mennesker som blir veldig dypt deprimert. For noen blir det et større problem, da de starter med selvskading. Denne personen var en av de. Hun hadde kuttet seg flere ganger på begge armene. Tydelig tegn på røde arr. Ofte når man ser et menneske, er det ikke så lett å se om de har noen form for sykdom. Alle sykdomstilfeller planter seg ikke i det fysiske. Når et menneske er så deprimert at det blir psykisk syk, og begynner med selvskading, trår myndighetene inn og tar dette mennesket inn i en lukket avdeling på et sykehus, og prøver å kurere deg fra det som vi kaller en sykdom. Han/hun ønsker å skade seg selv, vi har bevis. Når to mennesker av samme kjønn ønsker å gå inn i et samliv, så ønsker de også å skade seg selv. Ved å gå inn i et samliv av samme kjønn, vil et menneske skade sin sjel, sitt hjerte og sin kropp. Dette er tegn på selvskading av spirtuell karakter. Islam går så langt at de ikke bare tenker på vår fysiske og psykiske helse, men Islam tenker også på vår spirituelle helse. Tross denne kroppen vi lever i, vil kanskje leve i 90 år, men vår sjel vil leve evig. Derfor er Islam opptatt av hvor vår sjel skal leve sitt evige liv.
Vi vet at sykdommer er smittsomme
Sykehus er her for å helbrede folk fra sine sykdommer og lignende. På samme måte, kan man si at vaner og kvaliteter også smitter over på andre mennesker, de man omgås mest. På både godt og vondt. Islam er klar over mennesker blir påvirket av andres vaner og kvaliteter. Det er derfor det ofte presiseres at vi må omgås mennesker som har gode mennesker, slik at vi slipper å internalisere en dårlig vane / norm / kvalitet. Dersom et narkotisk middel blir legalisert, vil det øke bruken av det middelet. Dersom en dårlig, vane / kvalitet blir legalisert, vil det øke blant mennesker i det samfunnet. Dersom en immoralsk handlig blir legalisert, vil det øke i det samfunnet. Islam ønsker ikke at et menneske skal bli sykt. Islam ønsker at en sykdom ikke skal spre seg i samfunnet. Dersom en person har en sykdom som det er smittefarlig, vil han inn på et lukket rom, hvor legene gir han anti-middel mot sykdommen. Han/hun får ikke gå ut av rommet før den sykdommen er kurert. De legene, sykepleierne som besøker han må ha på seg spesiel type tøy slik at de ikke blir smittet. Når den syke person har fulført sin kur, og kurert kan han/hun få gå ut av det lukkede rommet.
Følelser er veldig skiftende
Den ene dagen er vi forelsket i en person, to uker senere er vi ikke forelsket i samme person. 1 år etterpå er vi forselsket i en annen person. Bare siden vi er føler at vi vil være i hjemmet til en vi liker, er det ikke slik at det er greit, bare fordi vi føler det. Den andre personer ønsker kanskje ikke å ha oss på besøk i det hele tatt. Kanskje han/hun misliker oss, og vil ikke ha noe med oss å gjøre. Vi kan ikke gjøre som vi føler bare fordi at da får vi viljen vår. Dersom det ikke hadde vært noen regler, og alle kunne gjøre som de øsnket, hadde det vært tydelig kaos overalt. Reglene som blir lagd i et samfunn, blir lagd for å beskytte menneskene i samfunnet. Totalt anarki, der alle gjør det de vil, vil folk drepe hvem de vil pga sykelig sjalusi, eller uvennskap, uten å måtte stå til ansvar ovefor en domstol. Nesten som en borgerkrig hvor alle er mot alle. Vi kan ikke si “har du lyst har du lov”. Tenk om jeg har lyst til å drepe et annet menneske? Er det greit siden jeg har lyst til det? Tenk om jeg ønsker å ta over en slektnings eiendom bare fordi jeg har lyst på mer eiendom. Er det greit, siden jeg har lyst til det? Noen ganger så blir jeg sint på en venn, er det greit at jeg gir han/hun en ørefik bare fordi jeg har lyst til det? Selvfølgelig kan man ha lyst til mye, men vi utfører det ikke, siden det ikke er en akseptert norm. Det er ikke love å drepe andre mennesker, ta over andres eiendom, eller gi ørefik til andre.
Foreldrene bestemmer
Når foreldrene våre har klare begrensninger på når vi må ut og inn, legge oss, tv tid, internett tid, og hvem vi omgås, hva vi gjør og lignende, kan vi til tider være uenig med de reglene de har satt. “Mamma er så streng”, kan en tenåringsjente si, når hun må komme hjem tidlig. Selv om tenåringene mener at foreldrene er superstrenge til tider, så er de fleste klar over at deres foreldre er glad i dem. Vi kan sammenligne dette med vår skaper Allah (Gud). Allah elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Bare for å sammenligne. Uansett hvor sint en mor er på sin datter, vil hun aldri be henne gjøre noe som er dårlig for henne. De kan være uenige om reglene men vi alle vet at en mor elsker sitt barn mer enn noe. På samme måte, så er det med vår skaper, Han elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Når han har lagd regler for oss, er det av pure kjærlighet for oss. En bil kan ikke reparere en annen bil. Bare ingeniøren som designet bilen og han som lagde den, kan reparere bilen. Skaperen av mennesket er Allah (Gud). Siden Han har skapt oss, vet han best hvordan maskineriet vårt fungerer best. Hva det må unngå for å oppnå mye bra og hvilket miljø vi vokser best i. Når han lager regler for oss og ønsker å stoppe oss fra immoralske handlinger, er det av pure kjærlighet. Han ønsker ikke at vi skal destruere vår sjel og vårt hjerte. Derfor for å hjelpe oss å finne veien tilbake til Han, har Han sendt oss koranen. Det er en handling av ren barmhjertighet overfor oss. Så sender han oss denne veiledningshefte (brukerguide – koranen) via en som har perfektuert alt som står i den. Han viser oss via Profeten Muhammads (fred være med han) liv at det er mulig at et menneske kan følge denne veiledningen.
Regler og retningslinjer hindrer kaos
Ikke bare for kroppen og psyken, men også for sjelen. Ellers kan det henne at den blir korrupt. Dersom det skjer vil vi ikke ende på et fint sted etter døden for evigheten. Siden Allah har skapt oss, vet han best hva som er bra for oss og hva vi trenger, samt hva som kan være årsaken til at vi blir korrupte. Måtte Allah gjøre det enkelt for oss å forstå dette budskapet. Aameen.
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