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israel, usa, world, president, war crimes cartoon gaza under attack israel carlos-latuffI get so amazed by some people when they say that they love a country/ethnicity etc. I know love is blinding, but most people do take this quite literally. For instance when your son is misbehaving in any way. You would, out of love as a parent, try to help him behave the right way. No parent would say, “Oh, I love my son so much, that I`ll let him do whatever he does, because I don`t want him to get hurt/sad”. That doesn`t make any sense. A parent when they see his son trying to catch “fire”, would stop him, so he wouldn`t get burned. Lets replace the little kid/son/brother with the name of Israel, and lets replace the name of parent/big brother with U.S. Now Israel is killing innocent civilians in Palestine, taking over their country. Some real mean stuff. The whole world knows their atrocities. Still father/big brother U.S. is backing him up. “Do whatever you want son. I`ll prevent you from falling or being jailed”, U.S. says. The whole world can see that and admit that most of what the Israelis are doing are wrong. Despite this, I know people whom praise Israel, like they can`t see their war-crimes.

Imagine Your Son Is Misbehaving At School

He is bugging some other kids. You wouldn`t, if you were a good decent parent, cheer him for doing this. I`m sure parents with good values, would stop their child from hurting others. Imagine, if you actually praised him for bullying some class-mates. What do you think would happen to your son? His confidence would increase, and he might do more and meaner stuff. Why? Because your backing him up. If you keep backing up your son, when he does something wrong, it will motivate him to keep on doing it and probably increase him in his wrongdoing. If you don`t want your child to eventually be criticized by the principal or get expelled, most parents, would try to use some incentives to help him stop from misbehaving at school. So you see when son Israel know that father/big brother U.S. has got his back no matter how much wrong he does to bullied Palestine, he won`t stop.

israel vs palestineThis Makes Me Angered And Sad

When other people whom supposedly love Israel, praise the state, despite the wrong decisions it has made, and how many war crimes it is involved in. How can you close your eyes to the fact that even if Israel can be doing 1% right, he is still doing 99% wrong. By cheering him up, just because you generally love Israel, because of it`s holy-ness, is wrong. Yes the land is holy, and muslims also believe that Judaism came before christianity and then Islam came after that. But we can`t stand here and say to someone who just because your message at that time was gods message, I agree with what you are doing now. That doesn`t make any sense. Besides. If you saw jews as your friends, you would tell him when his wrong. Even if that hurt him. You wouldn`t cheer on your friends when they make mistakes, big mistakes, like killing people. If you have the right values, you would make him go to the police and take the sentence the court judges. Because your friend killed another person. It`s not allowed. Just because your friend was born on holy land doesn`t make himself holy. Our Prophet pbuh said too his daughter Fatima raa, your lineage would not make you go to Paradise, so work on doing good deeds. That is the only way of going to Paradise. He said that to his own daughter. Ma sha Allah, that is Islam. Everyone has to pay for their own bad deeds, and will be rewarded individually for their good deeds. If they want to prosper, they will work on this. There is no shortcuts to success, each and every has to take the stairs, one step at a time. If you`re a friend of jews and Israel, a “real” friend, you would stop him from doing wrong. It`s that simple. And if the jews and the state Israel, doesn`t stop it`s war-crimes. It will have a bad end. Maybe in this world, but most certainly in the hereafter, when their crimes will be judged before Allah. They most certainly will have to pay for it. It`s not only about saving your butt in this world. The most important point is whether you are saving your or others butt in the next world, hereafter, when it really will matter. Because the outcome will decide your faith for eternity. May Allah open our eyes, before we become guilty in the same crime, because we didn`t put any effort in stopping it. Aameen.

stressed outIf and we try to understand why some people behave or say something, instead of just looking at how they behave or what they say, we can easily “help” the situation by responding accordingly.

Why Did You Yell, Dad? 

For example, when your toddler runs to pick up his football from the road. Most parents would become angry at him (yell) after they’d save him from the car on the road. A child doesn’t understand that your yelling and “danting” because you care. He will think it’s the opposite. We yell when we’re angry, but we also yell when we’re scared. The response is the same : yelling, but the reason behind it is difference according to ones feelings. Don’t think you know anyone when you only know their response and not their reason behind. Or the pressure they are experiencing.

Respond With Empathy

Everyone responds to things happening in their life according to their situation. You will surely see a different respond from people experiencing tension and stress in life compared to those with a tension-free life. It’s easy to say, he/she responds in-appropriately. Without being in the exact same situation yourself with the same amount of pressure, you have no idea how you would respond.

How Much Pressure Can You Tolerate? 

It`s like the tv-program “Myth Busters”, that wanted to see how stressed a person would become if he/she was tied and a drop of water would fall on his/her forehead. How long would it take before that person, would say “stop”. The amount of pressure a person can take is individual. When you have no idea what another person is going through. Please keep your own comments for yourself. God forbid may Allah not put you in a similar situation because of your arrogance and little empathy.

-Muslimah

light candle for peaceIt is quite interesting what the muslims has become. Whole her 20 years our daughter hasn’t prayed, worn hijab, or had the character of a good muslimah. But on her wedding (21 years old), we are holding a Quran over her head, as she leaves the wedding hall with 2000 people, when she is heading towards expensive car, with her non-hijabi wedding-dress. Somehow parents think that this will save her life she is starting with her husband.  Even though the parents didn’t spend time in teaching her good values, manners, sunnah and knowledge of Islam. Parents maybe think that keeping the Quran over her head would, in a magically way, make everything perfect. Most asian live their life, totally progressive of their religion. We backbite, we lie, we quarrel, we disrespect, we don’t pray, we listen and watch totally un-islamic media, we stab our friends for our personal benefit. In fact, most of us, live over 70% of our lives in a way that is totally un-islamic.

We remember Islam When

When someone disrespect our Prophet pbuh. Oh our eyes becomes read with anger and we will kill and destroy anything that comes in our way when we find out. Although the, car or people on the road nearby didn’t have anything with one person disrespecting our Prophet pbuh, we think that killing and destroying anything when we get angry because of our love for the Prophet pbuh, is justified. After all were saving his honour pbuh.

Anger Or Not Anger That Is The Question

Were not actually living life according to his pbuh sunnah or Quran, but still when someone says anything bad about our Prophet pbuh we get angry. Aren’t we being just as disrespecting of our prophet when we don’t cultivates his values, conduct, character in our lives and our families lives? When we ourselves are making fun of him by saying we are his followers but not following his pbuh way. There was a sahabi raa that wanted the prophet pbud to advice him, so he asked: “Advice me”. Prophet Muhammad pbuh said :” don’t get angry”. The sahabi asked again, because he was expecting another message. The Prophet pbuh said to him three times :”don’t get angry”.

The Sunnah Of Taif

Here is our situation. We are killing a person that disrespected our Prophet pbuh. When the sunnah of our Prophet, when he walked back from Taif, when he was brutally wounded, and blood on his clothes, he prayed for the people of Taif. And alhamdolillah a few years generations later, the muslims in Taif increased.
We don’t behave or talk or deal with others in a muslim way. Because of our un-islamic behaviour, people think that if this is what Islam is, than they are not good people. Since we are so poor ambassador of the religion we love, people talk bad about our religion. But they don’t understand. The religion is in fact great, but we don’t live our life as beautiful as a good muslim. When we make mistakes and people know we claim we are muslims, they interpret, this behaviour is Islam. But they are wrong. The sunnah of our Prophet and the Quran, is Islam. How we manage or don’t manage to implement it in our life, is our attempt to be a muslim. Our actions tells us if we are true in our claim.

An Easily Approachable Leader – Even for Poor People

When people once in a while came to talk with Prophet Muhammad pbuh, they didn’t know the etiquette of how to behave towards him with respect. Some times when people were very rude while addressing the Prophet pbuh when he pbuh was with his companions, because of the companions love for our Prophet pbuh, they easily took out their sword, and was thinking of killing this person. The Prophet pbuh because of his perfect wisdom, calmed them down and addressed the person in the most nice way. He pbuh didn’t say : he disrespected me, cut his throat”. He had such a good dealings with people. It is because of his good manners and dealings he managed to change hearts. Not by killing anyone or everyone who disagreed with him or didn’t give him the esteem he has. It is only through good behaviour we can change bad behaviour. Hate will not decrease hate. Only love can do that. When we start living our 70% of lives practising his deen we will be able to change other people’s bad opinion of our Islam and our Prophet pbuh. If we are not going to follow his ways, than we should be careful of claiming that we are muslims. Because our wrong behaviour is disrespecting and dishonouring him pbuh. And most people hate Islam, because it is true that we are more progressive than practising of the beauties of it. May Allah guide us of becoming good practising muslims. And understand that killing one person that disagrees with us today, will make ten more people on that persons side tomorrow. Instead use good aadab, sunnah, reasoning a try to change their thinking. Killing them won’t change the fact that they think wrong of us. And keep in mind that german person that used a lot of his life talking bad about Islam and even disrespecting our prophet pbuh. A few years later he converted to Islam, because he found beauty in it. After converting he was so guilty of his disrespect of our Prophet pbuh, he went on Umrah in the Masjid Nabvi and asked for forgiveness. Allah managed to turn his heart towards the truth. From that example we can learn if we stop killing people who hate us, and instead try to reason with them and show them through our behaviour why we are muslims. Not only by lip-service. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

Today One Person Disagrees With Us

We kill him. Tomorrow, ten more people says the same as him. We kill them ten, the day after that, a hundred people say the same as he does. We don`t get more followers of our deen by killing everyone who disagrees with us? We can rather try to change people`s opinions by reasoning with them. Show them why Islam is beautiful. If we do the exact opposite of Islam, and somehow expect that people will love it, we do not have much hikmah to know that were breaking a bridge. Prophet Muhammad didn`t get more followers by killing others. He changed their hearts and reasoned with them, and that reasoning was backed up by his good behaviour, character, conduct. In public and in private. If we follow his pbuh way, we will also one day manage to change hearts and be the reason why people come back to Islam. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

love people who dont look at their schedule when you need themOften when something happen to someone you expect a certain reaction to what to what they will say or do. When you give a gift, you expect a positive reaction. When something unexpected happens, since we didn`t know it to happen, we are not aware of what kind of reaction it will create.

 

Bursting Out In Rage

For those whom have younger siblings or children in their family. If and when they fall and get hurt, their parents reaction can be quite different from what is expected. For instance they can be yelled at or even shaken by their elders; “What were you thinking, crossing the road without looking at both sides”. The reaction of their parents, may seem a bit hard, but actually displays that they care. The reason why they burst out in rage, was because they were afraid of you getting hurt. The parents got scared and because of that feeling of being afraid of loosing you, they yelled at you. Instead of thinking that they are to strict, be thankful that they doesn`t want you to hurt yourself, or see you hurt.

 

The value of having someone who cares

Those whom have lost someone in their family knows the value of having somene who cares for you. Someone whom make sure that you`ve had you meal on time, prayed you salat, come home in time, and that you wear clothes according to the weather, are not up to late and that you take care of yourself when you are ill and that you get a good dose of hugs. The ironic thing is that we value people more when they aren`t there than when they are. For years we think that our parents, or elder siblings are really giving us a hard time. But when they are somewhat away, we realize they are the one that has our back, when we fall or something negative happens. The ones that stick with you, when everyone else is out the door, no matter if they are friends or family, those people are the one that truly care. Those that help you not because of what you have, but because they love you no matter what you have or are, unconditionally caring people, are hard to find. Make sure that you appreciate them when you realize who they are, because they are your true treasure.

O turner of hearts, keep our heart firm on your religion, deen. AllahWhen someone does some wrong to you, it is allowed in Islam to do the same amount of wrong back, though Allah likes those who forgive people more than those who want justice for their harm. There was Saudi man whom forgave the killer of his family member, if he memorized the Quran. He made that as a condition to forgive him. SubhanAllah not only did he forgive, but something good came out of it as well, that will give them reward for it til eternity. It has probably changed his heart as well. Who can have the whole Quran memorized in his heart, without it changing his/her heart for the better. SubhanAllah ❤

 

Innocently Charged

How can we know that we are eligible to an eye for an eye equality, when someone wrongs us? For example, if someone blames a student, that he got help during the exam, and he is innocent, and he gets punished for it. If it later comes out that he was charged by something he was innocent of, how will they be able to fix the damage that was made on that persons reputation, loss etc.

 

Win People`s Support

We need to be careful of not letting our bad thoughts about some people, direct us to further harm them in any way. Whether that person has to pay back the fully recompense in what he did to you, depends on your situation. If you have a pen that you have stolen from someone, and someone steals it from you too, you can not go around accusing the one whom stole it from you, because the way you got that pen, wasn`t correct according to Islam. If you had bought a pen, had the receipt and then someone stole it from you, or tried to do so, your accusations would have been valid. How can we accuse other of doing us wrong, when we ourselves haven`t followed the rules and regulation properly in accordance to the sunnah and Quran. It wouldn`t have been fair. Even if we managed to win people`s support here, we would be doomed on the Day of Judgement, when Allah would ask us, how we got that pen?

 

Can You Fix A Broken Glass

This is why it is so important for muslims to understand the fact, that for us to have blessings in a bounty, we need to follow the rules and regulations of the Quran and sunnah. If we will not do that, some way along the way, that bounty, could instead harm us or be harmful to us, because our way of earning the reward, was haram. The best way to rectify this is to ask for forgiveness, make amends, and do the right thing. A glass that is broken can`t be put together. Not everything can be fixed. As long as we make amends and pray for the people we have harmed, and ask forgiveness for them, we will be forgiven for it. It is easy to put a hole in the wall when we get angry, but fixing it after isn`t possible. It will never be the same again.

 

photo, develop, negatives, quote, lifeLet It Motivate You To New Goals

Some of these faults can happen from becoming blinded with hate and anger, and think that what happened to you was the fault of so and so. But there is one thing we often don`t realize. Allah is in charge of every one of us. He has our hearts in between his two fingers and can direct it to anything he wants. When he changes someone`s direction, no one can undo that. He made the entire universe, He is in charge, and the Most Wise. If and when something doesn`t go as we want, turn to Allah, because he is the turner of hearts, and can fix everything. He made the stars and the planets and the galaxy’s and all that is in it. I`m sure fixing our problem is a tiny job for Him who is All-Competent. Always turn to Allah. We need Him just as much when we are blessed as when we are deprived. Through His help our blessing is beneficial for us, and through His help we get directed to something better when we are deprived of what we want. Turn to Him always and you will find Him in front of you. And think Well of Him.

 

What We Decide Will Determine The Outcome

Sometimes Allah blesses us with something else than what we wanted, because he knew our potential. We don`t know what is best for us, because we don`t know as much as an atom compared to Allah whom is All-Knowing and All-Aware. The believer is blessed because whatever happens to him if it is something good, he thanks Allah. If what happens to him was bad according to him, he practices patience. Sometimes what happens to us looks like a disaster at the time, but Allah willing, He can turn it into something good in the following years. For instance loss of a family member, or a job or someone leaves us. We have two choices. Go around being miserable in years coming and being blind to everything that is going good and all the opportunities that are coming our way, or we can make new goals, start on a project or education that will open new doors for us. We are not in control of what happens to us, but we are in control of how we are going to react to it. Let it break us or let it motivate us towards new achievements. It is our choice. What we decide will determine the outcome.

Allah is oneOnce there was a woman who went to a scholar to ask for a solution to her problem. She told him that her husband was thinking about having a second wife and that she didn`t know what to do, as she was against that. Listening to her the scholar thought for a while when he suddenly fainted. He woke up again and fainted again. This happened several times. When he finally woke up the people who were gathered around him asked him why he fainted. So he said: “Here is this woman whom can`t stand that anyone will be in her place and that her husband has another partner. Than I thought about how Allah feels when people set up partners to Him, how He would be feeling and how angry that would make him. SubhanAllah.

Imagine, Of course, We understand the anger that Allah experiences when partners are set up against Him. But we can`t understand the anger or resentment of a woman when her husband is talking about a second wife. SubhanAllah, we need to open up our minds and understand this in sha Allah. ❤

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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