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Allah didn’t say : Men are not allowed to oppress. Or. Women are not allowed to oppress. He said. Don’t oppress another muslim. As an oppressor can be from both genders. 

There are different types of oppression between the genders. When men are oppressed, they shy away from speaking up or getting help. Most men thinks it’s embarrassing to be known as the weak. Especially if the oppressor is a woman. Because of the crying, people often think that women is not at fault. Overlooking the fact that many women are good at manipulation. Getting their way from sobbing and crying. Instead of understanding the situation, most people automatically judge the man as the oppressor. Often times oppression can be so hidden, that only few understand it’s reality. 

Oppression is not allowed in Islam. The supplication of the oppressed is always accepted by Allah. Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ has said, protect muslims from being an oppressor, and protect muslims when they are oppressed. 

Threatening to take your life for the one you love, if they don’t love you back, is like saying to Allah: ” I love You (Allah) so much, that I am going to take my life for You. 

Everyone is unique

Allah, who gave you your life, gave it to you so you can live for Allah, according to His rules and prohibitions. Being suicidal is a great expression of major ungratefulness. Because Allah has blessed everyone differently. Since everyone is unique, no one has exactly the same skills. So build your self-esteem and self-worth by remembering what you’re good at doing. Just because someone doesn’t love you back, doesn’t mean you’re un-lovable. There are over 7 billion people in this world. I’m sure you’ll find someone. One-sided love is very tricky. We can blame the media, bollywood, hollywood, who glorifies falling in love and being in love. The truth is the fase of infatuation isn’t long, and after marriage a couple of months into every marriage, every possible couple has to work hard to stay in love. 

Turn To Allah

When you forget your blessings, everything seems negative. Even the food and drink tastes bitter. No matter how much you give an ungrateful person, he will not be thankful. Allah dislikes ungratefulness. And for those who show ungratefulness, He doesn’t answer their prayers. When we have found the root of the problem, the cure is, count your blessings. Say: “I seek refuge in being ungrateful. Ya Allah, grant me to win in the struggle to perfect the gratefulness and thankfulness of my soul, my heart and my body”. Aameen. 

Ya Allah, Grant Us Sound Faith

And remember you will have a good and happy life, even if you don’t achieve someone you love. But you without Allah, you without being obedient to Allah and good sound faith, is doomed in this world and the next, no matter who your spouse is. May Allah increase our imaan and guidance and love for being obedient to Him. Aameen. 

  
The majority of people condemn those who hijack planes/buildings/stores. And believe that the hijackers are wrongdoers. When it comes to hijacking a religion (Islam), people instantly believe that they are believers of that religion (Islam) they are hijacking. When that is far from the truth.

We Can’t Expect People To Know This

People can’t see a hijacker as a hijacker maybe because they have little knowledge of what Islam is. It maybe that the media often say that the hijackers are muslims. Even when there is consensus amongst muslim learned men worldwide that they are not muslims. If a person with no medical education opens a medical office and starts treatment of patients. If the patients have some education and experience from the field, they’ll probably soon see, that this person has no understanding of how to treat patients. If he gets controlled by the authorities because of complaints, the first the authorities will check is his education papers. If they find out that the university doesn’t exist or that the papers are fake, he would be jailed for fraud. In every field we have groups of people who know their field inside out. Accepting expert advice from a non-expert is foolishness. No matter how much this doctor claims to this profession, no other doctor will agree that he is from their profession. From a real doctors perspective, he would want the authorities to stop his medical office because his destroying the reputation and reliability of his profession. 

Does The Media Distort Information? 

In other words, the media is listening to what the hijackers claims (whom may not have any formal education). Instead of our learned men who have decades of knowledge and practice of Islam. In other words the media’s source reliability is down to zero. If they wanted the truth to be known they’d not think twice, but asked the professionals in the subject. And easily be able to ascertain a fraudster from the real believing men. The Media are putting their ethics at stake by not doing this. Their intentions need to be evaluated. That is why for an ordinary person it is very important to know the anchors in the tv-channel before they believe everything they say. Some people have no shame. They can lie to your face without any bad feelings. They’ve over-ruled their own ethics so many times, that it doesn’t even make them feel bad. While a true believer, even when he/she knows he/she is on the right path, if and when someone claim something else, he/she would instantly check if he/she did the right action. The real true ones, they’d probably believe the false claimers and start working on themselves. It’s like two people coming home from a friday Khutbah (source muslim show). One is a true believer and the other is a hypocrite. When the family of the true believer asks how the khutbah (friday sermon at the mosque) was, the true believer would say; “I’m doomed. I have so many faults, the Imam talked about today. How will I manage to prosper? When the family of the hypocrite asks about the khutbah he is happy. The khutbah didn’t make him evaluate himself, and he thinks it went well. When anyone doesn’t even have a heart to stop oneself from lying on national television with millions of viewers, how can we not say that their hearts have gone black from continuous sinning. And now they do not feel bad about it. No conscience. And their hearts have stopped questioning themselves. May Allah help and guide all professions to live up to the perfect qualities according to their professions. Aamen

trust yourself, bird, branch, wingsMy parents have shared several stories with me throughout my upbringing. And I would like to share a story with you. I`m not sure if I can remember it correctly but you`ll get the picture 🙂

A little family of a father and his son lived in a little town. They had a few belongings and a donkey. For some reason they had to abandon all that they owned. So they went on a journey to find a new home. After walking a while the boy became tired so the father let him sit on the donkey as they came to a town. Walking through the town they could hear some people saying things like: why is the old man walking while the young boy is resting on the donkey. Poor man he looks exhausted. After listening, the father and the son got upset. They decided that they’ll let the father sit on the donkey instead. Further on they come to another town. When the family walks through the inhabitants again pass a comment: look at the poor boy he has to walk while his father is resting on the donkey. Not fair at all. Again this upsets the father and the son so they take all their belongings and put it on the donkey and walks further toward their destination. Passing the third town they again receive a remark from some of the people. This time they comment: poor donkey that has to carry the burden and the father and the son are simply walking. They should think about the donkey and its health. At the end they get so outrageous that they decide to carry the donkey. This time the people laugh at them saying: stupid people. Why are they carrying the donkey?

The moral of the story is that one can never please the whole world. There`s always going to be a few people who will be happy for you and the decisions you make and some others will dislike the same decisions and make you feel bad about them. The key is to trust yourself. Listen to others opinions but make your own decisions based on what you believe in. This will boost your confidence even more and make you stronger being. Of course by making your own decisions you also have to bear all consequences of them. And you can`t blame anyone else if sometimes turns out different than planned. I`m sure no matter what the outcome is, it will surely give you a feeling of standing on your own feet and being independent. This is a must to survive in this world.

Hvorfor tror så mange mennesker at de har en menneskerett til å uttale seg om en annen person? Det er ikke sikkert den andre personen er interessert i å høre den 1.million-ente-meningen til en forbigående person som skal fortelle noe om hvorfor han bør gjøre noe, eller hvorfor han bør slutte med noe. Kan de ikke heller tenke på seg selv, før de heller skal finne hundre feil i andre. Det finnes ikke et eneste feilfritt menneske i denne verden. Vi mennesker har mye å strebe etter. Dersom det er noen der ute som er keen på å finne den riktige veien og prøver å gjøre sitt beste i enhver situasjon, så vær så snill, dersom du ikke har noe positivt å komme med så ikke si noe. La han/henne heller finne ut av det selv. Allah sab ko hidayat ata karein. Ameen summa ameen.

Og til alle dere som har mye positivt å komme med, noen ganger en klapp på skulderen, andre ganger motiverende ord.
It means a lot:) You know who you are:) Live and let live in peace.. And for all the people whom think they can get away with being evil, Allah sab kuch dekh raha hain. Allah insaaf karnein wala Hain. Joh aaj mushkhil mein hain, unka kal acha waqt aasakta hain, and the other way around.

This issue can be common in some families, between spouses, between friends, other people or at work. What happens is that people try to manipulate you into behaving like they want you to, by giving you a guilt-trip. I`m sure a lot of you may have experienced that some persons in your life make you feel bad about you making your own decisions. They would come with remarks like; “how can you be so selfish?” or “after all that I have done for you…” What they`re actually implying indirectly is that if you don’t behave the way they want you to, you will suffer. A blackmailer could threaten to use information they have gained before to harm or ruin person`s reputation. What actually happens is this:
1. The blackmailer is demanding something.
2. You resist.
3. The blackmailer pressurize you and threatens you
4. Eventually you give in.
5. It repeats.

This is a vicious circle that keeps on blocking you from living a free life. You may feel trapped and don’t know what to do. Guilt-trips have to do with the blackmailers making us believe that we are responsible for their complaints and their unhappiness. A blackmailer would use a sentence like “I`m feeling … and it`s your fault.” Sometimes we are able to stop the guilt-trip by checking the accusations reliability, but many times we would say “sorry” before we check the blackmailer`s logic later, if we check it at all.

When someone is not able to make us feel bad enough about something, they would call for reinforcements. They would bring in other people, family/ friends, enlisting allies to prove that they are right and you`re wrong… Just so that the target may feel outnumbered or overpowered.. Always remember one thing the blackmailer wants you to think that it`s all about you. When in fact it`s not. Actually it`s the blackmailer that is insecure and fears something so he/she has a need to prove his/her self-righteousness. And so everything is tossed on you. Sometimes it`s difficult for one to understand that others demands can be quite unreasonable so you give the blackmailing permission to occur.

To stop the emotional blackmailing it`s important that you resist and you change your reactions to it. The most useful way to change a manipulator is to make that person`s tactics ineffective by changing yourself. If the manipulation turns out to be hard work for the manipulator he/she would probably give up. This is a sentence that can be quite useful: “I understand that you want me to do this work for you, but your threats aren`t going to be effective anymore”. Keep on saying the sentence till the blackmailer stops the manipulation and finally sees that no matter what he/she would do he/she isn`t coming any way. And from there and forward make it clear to the manipulator how you want to be treated.

-Extracts taken out from the book “Emotional Blackmail”, written by Susan Forward Ph.D.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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