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Everyone wants to protect the people they care for. No matter what religion, color, ethnicity you have. You try your best to help, protect, provide for the people you love. If their air is polluted in your city, and your child has allergies or asthma, you will do everything you can to move to a place where he can live a healthy life. If and when we hear about a disease that is spreading because of a virus, almost every family member are eager to help those they love to take a vaccine against it. People are afraid of contagious diseases. When any person is infected with a contagious disease, that person is transferred to a special room in the hospital. Each and every who goes in and out has to wear special clothing. And the things that goes into the room, has to be special cleaned. This is to prevent the disease from spreading to the whole community or town.

The Types Of Diseases Are Many

Some have psychological diseases. Some has physical sickness. Some has sickness in their soul/heart. The last type of sickness, the sickness of the spiritual heart. The place where feelings, emotions take life. Both good and bad. Since we are talking about sickness, I mean feelings like, envy, jealousy, hate, harshness, backbiting, lying, arrogance, making fun of others, looking down on others, slander, etc. Something negative. Since niyah, ikhlas and integrity comes from the spiritual heart. The quality of these three, will affect the disease of the heart. If our heart is diseased, there is no way we will have pure good niyah, ikhlas or integrity. So as being a muslim. If we want Allah to accept our deeds, we have to correct this. Or else no matter how big or gracious deeds we are doing, or people think we are doing, it will be rejected by Allah. What good will it do for us, if the good we do is rejected, in the final account? Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of perfectly getting rid of our diseases in our spiritual heart. Aamen.

Choose Good Company And Halal Fun

A spiritual alive heart, who knows the value of spirituality and good behaviour, will not be able to spend time with people who has diseases in their hearts. Their idea of halal fun, differs. A spiritually dead heart, doesn`t mind going to places where he / she can do more sins, like backbiting, lying, slander, vicious tongue, chugl khaur, etc. The heart is dead meaning, these sins doesn`t seem bad. They have fun doing these sins. It`s darkening their heart making it black. On the other side, we have a heart who is spiritually alive, he / she is aware of the effects of sins on their life. They want to make sure that the fun they are doing is actually allowed in Islam. Doing sins, that increase your punishments, is not funny. But rather doing deeds that make their ranks raised in this world and the next, is fun. In other words, when these people step out of their house, towards work or school or any event, they will do the background check, how can I spend my day, doing the right matters, correctly, and also be in constant struggle of correcting myself in the process, because I really want to earn those rewards, without them being rejected. So someone they know, invites them to an event. They will ask for the details. Will there be music there? Will there be a mix gathering between the genders? What is the dress code of the event? hijabi or non-hijabi? What kind of people are attending? Sinners or practising muslims? Will there be halal food? Where is it? How will I be able to get there safely, while also in hijab? From these questions one can imagine, these people doesn`t play with their life. Going on an event, where they might commit sins, is a big issue. They do not want to increase in sins. These people are serious about where they want to spend their eternity. Spending time with people who has diseases in the heart can be very contagious. And it does have an effect on our lives. That is why it is so important to help oneself, to only attend events , where these matters shouldn`t be any issue. There is a reason why Allah has said, that the majority of people in hell-fire will be women. One of the reason is the sins of the tongue. We who have been raised in this community, knows how fast any information travels, before the entire community is talking about it. In other words. We aren`t doing enough when it comes to increasing the healthy-ness of our spiritual heart. How can we explain how fast the whole community knows something, if we muslims in the community weren`t backbiters? If we were obeying Allah and protecting ourself from the sins of the tongue, the info would have died a permanent death, with the first who heard it. Instead the reality is that everyone knows it, within in day.

An Act Of Worship With Highest Reward And Acceptance

If and when we are able to correct our niyah, ikhlas, quality of deed, our deeds will be rewarded and accepted with the highest rewards. No matter how little the deed is. Our intention will be to do every deed for the sake of Allah. I will please my spouse for the sake of Allah. I will fulfil my duties towards my children for the sake of Allah. I will work with integrity at my school and work, for the sake of Allah. I will be good to neighbours, to strangers, to kin for the sake of Allah. I will be good to animals for the sake of Allah. I will help the community for the sake of Allah. When we are able to have these kinds of intentions, Allah isn`t stingy in rewarding us. Allah, has made us because he wants us to come back to Him in a good obedient way. When we are doing good deeds with right intentions and ikhlas, the same right intention and ikhlas will protect us from doing bad deeds. I am not going to lie, because Allah dislikes dishonesty. I am not going to backbite, because Allah dislikes eating your own brothers flesh. I am not going to be selfish and only think about myself. I am not going to slander other people. I am not going to help a marriage break. I am not going to only think about my rights, but I will balance that with also thinking about my duties. If and when we are able to correct ourselves by helping our spirituality to grow, every deed of our conduct, will become an act of worship. Because the intention and sincerity is correct. We aren`t only in the state of ibadah when we are in salah, but also when we are good to our spouse, take care of our children, fulfil our duties for the sake of pleasing Allah. Even that day our spouse is angry at us, we dig in our goodwill, to be good to him / her. I know how difficult fitnah is for a man when he steps out of the house, I will make sure I please my husband sufficiently every day. I know my wife, has had a tough day, I will make dinner for her today. Our parents get angry at us because of their old age, trying to practice sabr with them. My teen is giving my a hard time, maybe he /she is need of more positive attention. When we feed our spiritual heart with Allah`s remembrance our goodwill increases, and we are able to do more for Allah`s Creation. We want to please Allah, to gain Allahs love and because we want to thank Him. Allah has said, You have not thanked me, if you haven`t thanked people. So when we are grateful to others, because we have so many matters we have been helped, we are thanking Allah. And Allah will love us more. And a true alive spiritual heart, wants Allah`s love. When we do good deeds to please Allah and thank Him, He loves us and make the good righteous, also love us. There is no better validation of being a good person, than that the Creator of everything in this Universe, is saying, that He loves you. Ya Allah, make us of those You love. Ya Allah make us of those Hazoor Paak pbuh loves. Ya Allah make us of those, hadrat Jibreel alayhisalam loves. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of purifying our hearts from the diseases it has, with tawbah and repentance and shining it up with dhikr of You, every day. Aamen. Ya Allah grant us to win the struggle of correcting our niyah, ikhlas and quality of every deed, so every deed of our conduct is filled with sunnah and becomes an act of worship, which You, Allah accept with the highest rewards and acceptance. Aamen. Grant this to me, my family, my friends, and all ummati, till the end of time. Grant us to win the struggle of perfecting the quality of the purity of our heart, of our soul, of our deeds, of our speech, of our thoughts, of our conduct all the time. Aamen summa aamen.

coal hand islamMost people talk bad about women that wear hijab. Without lifting an eyebrow about women in their life, who not only doesn`t wear hijab, but also pluck eyebrows and wear perfume. These women, girls are not looked by men with good intentions.

Most people talk bad about women that avoid mix gatherings or places where there is played music. Without lifting an eyebrow about the people who think that music uplifts them. Most of who seek places where they easily can interact with the other gender. This is most people idea of having fun.

Most people backbite women who avoid certain arrangements and tv-channels even if they are for women only. While they don`t mind that many of the places, even at islamic programs, there is a lot of noise and most people are backbiting and many muslims are making fun of others.

Most people talk bad about people who care about what they eat, every ingredients so that they don`t eat anything that is not allowed. They can use a lot of time finding the right restaurant or checking the ingredients in all foods. Or questioning the employee about this. While they care little of those who eat all kinds of meat, and all kinds of food, and never dare to question for a second time if the food actually is halal. Disregarding, caring little for that the food they eat has an impact on their behaviour.

Most people think those who are always speaking the truth, are foolish, because it gets them into trouble. While they don`t care for the fact that the angels doesn`t like to company people who lies.

Most people make fun of many sunnah`s of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh. The sad part is that most of them doesn`t know that making fun of any parts of Islam, can take you/ and your children, further away from it. How can your claim of loving the prophet pbuh be true, while you make fun of his simple life-style.

Most people doesn`t like paying much money, when it comes to learning the deen, attending online courses or buying books. While they can utilize many thousands in buying a new car/ house/ vacation just to impress their friends.

Most people doesn`t get impressed by conduct/ knowledge/ hikmah/ in deen or people who takes practicing Islam seriously. They get impressed by bank-balance, expensive cars, big houses, mobile phones and clothing from expensive brands. Non of which will help them attain jannah.

Instead of looking with disgust at people who are trying to be more practicing, we should actually give these people a break. Today many people say that people force other muslims to practice Islam. Where? As I see it, the community, so-called muslims by name, are making it difficult for practicing muslims, to practice Islam, as it came. Instead of pointing fingers at people you don`t know. Try to understand certain people by what they are avoiding. Maybe we can understand them more after that.

wrong and right.In some countries eating with your hands is seen as something good and normal. In other societies it is seen as abnormal to eat without cutlery. Societies and countries have made their written and un-written rules about what they see as normal. Something that is common in some societies is seen as backwards or illegal in other societies.

In many countries smoking cigarettes is seen as normal.

In fact if people attend a gathering and they don`t smoke or drink in that gathering, they are seen as backwards or old-fashioned. Even though we all know that smoking is hazardous to our health. It`s even done major campaigns to help people get motivated to stop. Drinking is also seen as a norm. You can`t have fun without it. The people who attend a party and doesn`t drink, do not know how to have fun. Though the police often talk about drunk teenagers being in a really bad condition after going home from a party. Drinking leads to many bad things, nothing good comes from it. Even though drinking is seen as normal, and anyone who doesn`t drink is seen as abnormal.

In some countries it seen as normal to have children outside of marriage.

Though we know that most children that grow up with one parent, doesn`t get the proper up-bringing a couple can give. Though it is seen as normal, even if it leads to people with many problems in the society. It is not good for a child to not have both parents with them. Or to have to have a father or a mother. A father can never take the whole role of a mother and the mother can never take the whole role of a father in a child’s life. The father and the mother complete each other and give their children the love, nurture, care and provide for them better when they have each other. Therefore same-gender parents are not good for the children. Even though in some countries it is seen as normal. Again the norm of the society makes something that is bad for the children, allowed. If the child grows up without knowing who their parent is, that is also detrimental for those individuals.

We know that weapons and knives can harm

We know that it is not good for all people to have weapons. We know that people can get killed and injured. Even when it can be an accident. We know out of numbers and incidents that in America there are many deaths because it is easy to buy weapons. Many people harm other because of it. It is not good for the society. Using weapons and showing off with them, is seen as cool and normal. Though we know it can take a life. We say we don`t want more wars, but many countries are earning lots of millions because they are selling weapons to other countries. This is seen as normal. I know your going to mis-use the weapons I`m selling you, but just because I need to earn that money, I don`t “mind” that you take as many lives as you want with it? Is this normal for you? We are talking authorities here. Not ordinary people. Authorities that maybe sitting in some peace congregation and promoting peace for all. But are they really, really working for it or against it? Being biased is seen as normal. That is not normal to me. These weapons take lives. A life in Pakistan or Syria is just as much worth as a life in Britain, Russia or America. When we are making it easy for other to kill other people, we are not working for the peace we were promoting in the congregation of UN or work for betterment for children or mothers like UNICEF promotes.

The average people has talked about someone in their absence

I guess over 70% of people backbite others. It is seen as normal in most societies today. If you are of those people whom dislike it, you would probably avoid social gatherings. Most socializing involves talking behind some people. If you don`t you are seen as a bore, whom doesn`t have anything to entertain with. When in fact a person whom is talking about others life, is indirect saying that my life is so boring, that I need to tell you about another person so that you would want to talk with me. The best people are those who talk about ideas and have healthy discussions that does not involving in talking bad about other people. Talks that are meaningful and bring out good, motivates and inspires.

It is not normal until it is good for you

We know that smoking, drinking, buying weapon, mixing without marriage, backbiting is bad for us. If the society and its people set a norm that is bad for the people, why is it seen as normal, when it makes ab-normal people. This has everything to do with humanity and wanting what is best for each other. We don`t need to be christian, jew, hindu, atheist or a muslim to know that all of these matters are harmful for our well-being. I can`t understand the fact that the community can legalize anything that is harming its citizens. It is not ok. And it is not normal. We need to define what is good, as normal. Don`t let people with wrong values decide what normal is to you, just because a lot of people are indulging in it. Right is right even if only one person is doing it. Wrong is wrong even if the whole community has “legalized” it. We want to normalize as norms, what is good for our  hearts, souls and bodies to build healthy people and good communities for muslims and non-muslims where we live.

hijab, head, opinion, judge,You have probably read on FB the saying that the time before us people were told to look at muslims when they wanted to know what Islam was. Nowadays we say to people that they should rather look at the practice of the muslims for 1400 years ago, because today muslims have mixed Islam with culture. There is lack of knowledge about Islam that result in people following cultural traditions instead of their religion. Most of the time they just don`t know better. Often there are traditions in todays muslims culture that come from their ancestors which make people deviate from the true Islam and it`s teaching.

 

Study Islam Not The Muslims

It is very important that we explain to people whom are interested in Islam, that they should study it themselves instead of learning from looking at muslims. Just because a country is made on the name Islam, does not directly imply that they are practising muslims. A lot of people get very confused when women from a muslim country don`t wear a proper hijab and see to their amazement that a convert is using a proper, modest hijab. You can say a hundred times with your voice that you are a muslim, though it doesn`t mean a thing if it doesn`t show through your conduct.

 

Danger Of Being Misled

Everytime a new generation of muslims are born and they are not taught about the true teachings of Islam from the start, they are in danger of being misled by different people. When the parents don`t have enough insight or practice of their deen, how will they be able to teach islamic manners and conduct to their offspring?

 

Spreading False Information

We often see that some muslims that have deviated from the path are spreading false information about Islam, and trying to make it look bad, with the stories from their life. How they were forced to wear hijab or not allowed certain things. The non-muslims believe them, because they are telling them things about Islam that support their views about it. So they help them promote things like homosexuality in Islam or hijab is not that important, or mix gender gatherings are ok. All of these are misconceptions that deviate from the true teachings of Islam. What media and their promoters have to understand is that most of these people are disliked in the muslim community.

 

A Beautiful Face Catch Your Attention

Some of the people whom have deviated from Islam says that the hijab oppresses the women. Little do they think about the fact that hijab can be found in the world in different things: the earth has an ozone layer, every fruit has a layer to protect it from getting damaged, pearls are surrounded by a shell and so the list goes on. Where are your ethics. Is it more correct for a woman to show her body to strange men and call it freedom, or is it more correct for a woman to wear modest clothes that doesn`t allow other people to stare at her for the wrong intentions. Would you rather want a husband that want your body or a husband that want you because of you good conduct and character and your obedience to your Lord? The minute your body turns old, your husband is out the door, because he found someone else that is young and beautiful. A beautiful face can catch your attention, but it won`t be able to keep the heart. Good manners, kindness and decent conduct is what impresses the heart.

 

Times Of Ignorance Is Misleading The Ummah

Some people think that Islam is such a violent religion and that it oppress women. That is because a lot of ayats from different surah in Quran are taken out of their context and spread in the media. It has been said that in Islam it is allowed for men to beat women. That is partly correct. When the Prophet told about this he taught that you can beat her hand lightly with a miswak. The 15 cm long thin stick muslims use to brush their teeth with. Before this ayat comes several other ayats that say that in case you wife is disobedient, first admonish her, than forsake her in their bed, and if that doesn`t work than the husband is allowed to beat lightly with a miswak on the hand. The beating is mentioned in a way that it is only a symbolic way of declaring that you are dissatisfied with her and that she has gone way beyond her limits. The Prophet pbuh is our example, never once did he pbuh beat his wives. I want to mention the fact that he pbuh had 11 wives. Think about his pbuh patience. When they did something he disliked, he would simply not talk to them and become quiet. Nowadays we see practising muslim men forgetting this sunnah and beating their wife so badly that she gets bruised and bleading, leaving marks on her body. That is not what Islam has taught us, that is what the culture from the time of ignorance, jahaliyah, has taught us.

 

Increase The Dose

Our Prophet pbuh has told us that women are like a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is the upper part, i.e. the tongue. If you try to straighten a rib, it will break, but if you are gentle with it, it will blossom into something beautiful. I don`t think that there is one person that will disagree in the fact that most women can argue a lot and get out of hand. If their husband treat them with care, love and give them undivided attention, they will most probably change for the better. The problem is that most men doesn`t know about these things, or they have gone astray from the sunnah of the Prophet pbuh.

 

Inspire People. Dont Scare them away

We muslims have a responsibility to spread the right guidance of Islam, from our conduct. If our influence is negative on our surroundings we will have to bear the burden of our followers, because they learned it from us. Therefore it is highly important that we try to have a good and positive influence on our surroundings. The youth need good role-models and a motivating and inspiring way of learning about Islam. If you can`t inspire them than at least don`t scare them away from it either. May Allah help us help the youth by setting a good example from the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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