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img_2381Personally I have nothing against any non-muslim. But when it comes to sects (Qadiani) that claim they are muslim and make other who are interested in Islam a non-muslim by following their beliefs. I do not like that at all. I also am not fond of the idea that maybe they by their work are making muslims, become non-muslims by becoming their followers. 

When A Brother Leaves His Prayer 

It sort of is a feeling like when one muslim prays all his prayers on the scheduled timings, but suddenly comes in the wrong group of people and leaves the salah. I would hate that to happen to anyone. In this case the other person who starts following their sect becomes a non-muslim. I hate that. In this case he doesn’t only leave his salah but also the religion Islam. 

What Concerns The Ummah, Must Concern Us 

Brotherhood in Islam is supposed to be that when anyone from our muslim brothers and sisters are in pain/suffering/decreasing in faith/guidance, it should worry us. If it doesn’t, we are not on the right path and haven’t got rid of bad feelings in our hearts for each other. Everyone does anything to help the situation according to their means. But not seeing it as an issue, is in itself an issue. 

Put Aside All Differences 

There won’t come someone from the outside to help us with this. We must put our differences aside and struggle to keep each other on the right faith. A person becoming an atheist/jewish/hindu/christian should also be our concern. But when Qadianis claim to label their belief with our belief they are misusing our name. That is not ok. 

We Need Tools To Decline Any Pressure 

Living in the west we can’t take it for granted that all of the next generations will stay muslims. That is why we must teach our children and youth – give them good tools so they can fight the troubles we meet living as a minority in the west. We must unite on this cause, if we want our generations to come to be an ongoing charity for us, when we are no more, and not generations that will send punishments to us, because they are not following Islam. The hope and fear a good muslim parents for their child to be good, must be pro-active. If the sect (Qadianis) or any other religion is actively trying to misguide our children. We must help them to be able to decline their pressure. We must give them the social environment and good friends, feeling loved and a part of our Ummah (not outsiders) strengthening brotherhood/sisterhood, so they won’t join other groups without being able to denounce the pressure of them preaching them wrong information/making them leave Islam.

Make Them Feel They Belong To Our Ummah 

Often i think when other faiths (sects) sees an outsider” they easily can give that person a feeling of belonging to a group. We need to accept our children and youth as they are and be patient with them following our ways. We must not once make them feel like they do not belong in the click in the mosque or any other group. Or that they are not good enough. That could easily make them feel like an outsider and an easy victim for someone preaching another belief.

An outsider” – An Easy Target

I’m afraid that even if one person leaves Islam because of this, we have not done enough to enlighten our youth that they are not on the right path. Now it is not merely about they having freedom to practice their deen. It is about the fact that they are misguiding our muslims to leave Islam. That is not ok. That is why our mosques in Norway must do more to keep us away from them. And we can’t do that without talking about how and why their belief is not Islam. The most important rizq we have is our faith and guidance. We can`t let anything or anyone jeopardize that. Giving a deaf ear to dangers we are facing is not a good tactic if we want to succeed. What faith and values we leave in our children should be our biggest concern. This is our real sarmaya, that will benefit us also in the hereafter. May Allah help us find solutions. Aameen.

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stressed outIf and we try to understand why some people behave or say something, instead of just looking at how they behave or what they say, we can easily “help” the situation by responding accordingly.

Why Did You Yell, Dad? 

For example, when your toddler runs to pick up his football from the road. Most parents would become angry at him (yell) after they’d save him from the car on the road. A child doesn’t understand that your yelling and “danting” because you care. He will think it’s the opposite. We yell when we’re angry, but we also yell when we’re scared. The response is the same : yelling, but the reason behind it is difference according to ones feelings. Don’t think you know anyone when you only know their response and not their reason behind. Or the pressure they are experiencing.

Respond With Empathy

Everyone responds to things happening in their life according to their situation. You will surely see a different respond from people experiencing tension and stress in life compared to those with a tension-free life. It’s easy to say, he/she responds in-appropriately. Without being in the exact same situation yourself with the same amount of pressure, you have no idea how you would respond.

How Much Pressure Can You Tolerate? 

It`s like the tv-program “Myth Busters”, that wanted to see how stressed a person would become if he/she was tied and a drop of water would fall on his/her forehead. How long would it take before that person, would say “stop”. The amount of pressure a person can take is individual. When you have no idea what another person is going through. Please keep your own comments for yourself. God forbid may Allah not put you in a similar situation because of your arrogance and little empathy.

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love between spouse, sunnahIt is good to see that the community has seen the value of educating people before they get married to make sure that they are familiar to their responsibilities and their rights. Alhamdolillah. That is a great start. I feel that we need dig a bit deeper into the issue of marriage. To get a better result we must start earlier. First of all. Most of parents are not aware of the rights their children have to choose their own spouse, and mostly the relatives put many roadblocks in their way, if they don`t want two people to join in marriage. To give back the two individuals right to marriage, we must also educate their parents and their relatives, meaning the elders. Mostly whom has a twisted interpretations of Islam, and therefore also the practice.

The Struggle Is Real

If the mosque could have dars for parents that have children who are in their teens, it would help them understand, what kind of struggle teens have. We need to help parents understand that it is not easy for them to live here in the west and still stay pure. Parents can use the life of Sahaba to educate the teens on how they lived their life and what is expected from them according to Islam. Practice what they preach. Sadly most parents spend their time on matters that are pretty un-islamic. Teens learn love from the media, bollywood, hollywood and dramas, and think that they portray the right kind of love. WHen in fact they are not even near it. If the teens are taught about love through the lives of Prophet pbuh and Sahaba raa they will be educated in what could give them a more fulfilling and lasting marriage.

Asking For Trouble

If we want to get to the root of the problem, that is the parents and the community. If they have right values and live and act according to Islam, they will teach the same values to their children, through their life. Not just what they say or what image they have in their community. In most families the relatives wants to have a say when two families are thinking of marriage for their children. The chacha of fla fla is against it. Or the khallla of fla fla feels the same. Parents are also pressurized from the community and don`t know what to do. When in fact it is not the whole community that decides this. The people who want to get married doesn`t have a right to choose their spouse freely. When they meet so many roadblocks on the way. The elders are asking for trouble. Not only are they making it difficult for the ones that want to get married, to live a pure life, they are also increasing fitna by not accepting the good spouse that asking for their child in marriage. And most of all, I don`t understand how the alims or the mosque can close their eyes to this. Do they not know? Or maybe they agree to it. The culture is given precedence over religion. And that will make it more difficult for muslims to be true and sincere muslims.

Who Is To Blame?

It is to easy to put the blame on the spouses when a marriage fails. It is the fault of the community and their parents. What values they taught them from they were children and if they helped them follow Islam from them leading by example. It is the communities fault that they have not educated the parents. It is the parents fault that they have not taught the spouses their rights and obligations. When culture is more important than religion, we will have more trouble. We must get back to Islam not only by speech. That is where we will find blessings and everlasting happiness.

dont judgeA lot of people judge other people by their looks. For instance if someone is very thin or has gained a bit weight people easily would remark those people as the thin guy/girl  or the fat guy/girl. This happens a lot in asian families if not also in the West. Some people would go so far that they won`t marry those girls whom may be a bit overweight then the usual. Judging other people because of their looks is the worst thing one can do, because all in all the looks is just the first impression it doesn`t tell you whether that person is nice or not. It is first when you get to talk together you find out the nature of other people. Sometimes we see people whom might be very good-looking, but when we get to know them we find out whether they are nice or mean.

It is the character  (the inner values ) which we can`t see but only know about that tells us what kind of person one is. Not everyone knows the art of speaking, but those whom can talk nicely to others are really quite gifted, and one can learn a lot from them.

It is very common that children and teens that are experiencing group-pressure easily judge other by their looks. Wether they are wearing the right brand of clothes that makes them cool or un-cool, is important to them. Though it doesn`t say anything about a person. The fashion-industry`s commercial directed to children and teens is the result of this. The company`s want to earn some money so they use the children to get that by influence in media. What`s the new hottest outfit, and whats totally un-cool to wear? The children or teens are not free to buy what they want. That`s why it is very important that the parents pay attention to this and what kind of pressure the children are put through going to school. And they should try their  outmost to inject the right universal values in them that looks doesn`t tell anything about a person, it`s their inner character that count`s.

I remember when I finished highschool. I was so happy that now I can wear whatever clothes I want without being judged by anyone. That was a few years before. No the teens are having a lot more pressurized life. Just look at all the different channels on television that are trying to catch their attention. No matter how hard the parents try, the children watch a lot of television each day. This is what we need to decrease or in some way try to make them watch quality programmes where they can learn something as well, either islamic or beneficial knowledge. Watching all the sitcoms at tv won`t make them smarter, funnier Yes, smarter NO.

What kind of adults these teens would grow up to be, we can`t assume. But one thing is for sure, if the parents and the fashion-industry don`t do their jobs right these kids can become very superficial and harmful, by their character. Instead of giving them more things give them your precious time and teach them the right universal values that would be so helpful for them in the future. Teach them something that can help them in becoming wonderful human beings that cares about others well-being no matter how rich or poor the other person is. After all,  “it might be their looks that give them their first job, but in the end it`s their character that would decide whether  they will get fired or keep the job or get an even better position in the same company”.

trust yourself, bird, branch, wingsMy parents have shared several stories with me throughout my upbringing. And I would like to share a story with you. I`m not sure if I can remember it correctly but you`ll get the picture 🙂

A little family of a father and his son lived in a little town. They had a few belongings and a donkey. For some reason they had to abandon all that they owned. So they went on a journey to find a new home. After walking a while the boy became tired so the father let him sit on the donkey as they came to a town. Walking through the town they could hear some people saying things like: why is the old man walking while the young boy is resting on the donkey. Poor man he looks exhausted. After listening, the father and the son got upset. They decided that they’ll let the father sit on the donkey instead. Further on they come to another town. When the family walks through the inhabitants again pass a comment: look at the poor boy he has to walk while his father is resting on the donkey. Not fair at all. Again this upsets the father and the son so they take all their belongings and put it on the donkey and walks further toward their destination. Passing the third town they again receive a remark from some of the people. This time they comment: poor donkey that has to carry the burden and the father and the son are simply walking. They should think about the donkey and its health. At the end they get so outrageous that they decide to carry the donkey. This time the people laugh at them saying: stupid people. Why are they carrying the donkey?

The moral of the story is that one can never please the whole world. There`s always going to be a few people who will be happy for you and the decisions you make and some others will dislike the same decisions and make you feel bad about them. The key is to trust yourself. Listen to others opinions but make your own decisions based on what you believe in. This will boost your confidence even more and make you stronger being. Of course by making your own decisions you also have to bear all consequences of them. And you can`t blame anyone else if sometimes turns out different than planned. I`m sure no matter what the outcome is, it will surely give you a feeling of standing on your own feet and being independent. This is a must to survive in this world.

I remember when I was younger I used to listen to “im just a girl” – from no doubt. When I listened to this song today, I must say I am thinking that It is so important to fight for ones rights no matter what! Lets see: I am girl, I am a Muslimah, I live in a foreign country ( I am not seen as a norwegian even though I`m born and raised here in Norway), and I use hijab. What happens when all these things are put in me? Yes some people just walk right over me! Some people because I`m a Muslimah, others because I wear hijab, others because I`m a girl and some because I`m not seen as a Norwegian. Recently I`ve had so many people just walking right over me that I`ve had it up over my head! One should never let anyone walk all over you. So many prejudice I have to fight with every day. Most certainly, if you have a loud voice, than one should use it for a good purpose. Every time this happened I have raised my voice and told them where the line goes, Alhamdolillah. And I am not going to stop. The attitude ” I`m just a girl, don`t mind me” is , I think, over in my case.

I have learned one thing, staying quiet doesn`t solve anything, it is so important to put ones opinion across and Alhamdolillah I have tremendous support from my loved ones:)

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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