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People often want Allah to support them. People want Allah to love them. We can’t compare the creation with the Creator. But still when we do, we will get a glimpse of how we can achieve Allah’s love and support through it. 

A Mother And Her Child

Every mother is different. But every mother has one thing in common; she loves her child. The child who was made out of her own self, is dearer to her than almost everything. We know that even if our mother is angry at us. She is not able to hate us. If only for a little while. Maybe because we are made from her flesh, and Allah has put mercy in a mother for her child. When we behave in a manner she dislikes, she will most probably get upset. But as time passes, she easily forgives. Even if she denounces the action. She is not able to not love her child. When we want anyone we like to like us, to love us, that person will like us if we behave in a manner that person likes. And when we behave in a manner that person dislikes, that person will dislike us. People does not have such mercy towards us as our mother. If they dislike or hate us, they will still do that. No matter what we do for them. If we draw the similtude to our Creator in this matter, we can easily understand; when we do deeds Allah, likes, with the right intention and sincerity, He loves us. When we make mistakes, and don’t make astagfar and tawbah, He dislikes us. But He doesn’t hate us. He (Allah) hates our bad deeds. And He loves us so much that the door to Him is always open through sinsere tawbah and repentence. Til our last breath He (Allah) awaits that we will return to Him. When we knit a jersey or draw a drawing, we feel a ownership to it. Allah, our Creator feels a ownership of His creation. Like a parent feels ownership of his child. When a child does something good, the father mother will say to his/her friends, “That’s my son” or “That’s my daughter”. So If our child leaves us to another country or because of anger, and as purily as parents love their children, a part of them will always, wait for their children to come back to their parents, repenting. Allah does also feel ownership to His creation. Through Allah’s beautiful creation (world, sun, moon, weather, planets, creatures, humans- inside and whom are eaten and who eats. We can see and comprehend how smart Our Creatur must be. Because everything is so perfectly made, without any mistakes. If Allah’s creation is so beautiful and in such perfect system, it is because everything is created by the Most Beautiful and the most perfect in all ways. Allah’s Qualities/ Attributes are the Most Perfect. When we do deeds, that Allah likes, He raises our status and says, “you’re my friend”. Imagine people are very proud of having good, influental people as friends. If the Creator of the whole universe says, that you’re his /her friend, you’ve got yourself the most influential friend there dude. A friend Who just says to it “be” and it is. Don’t ever downplay that. And be truly thankful. And correct yourself when your gratefulness decreases. So if we want Him (Allah) to like us, we will accomplish that by living the way He wants us to live our life. And protect us from those things he dislikes. When we will accomplish that, according to our means/ resources, He will love us. If we lack, the ability to do this, we will not be able to achieve this. But a beautiful fact about Allah, is that he does not reward according to results, he rewards us according to our effort. In other words, even if we make mistake often, and we with pure intention and sincerity make tawbah, often, he will help us, and reward us for believing in His Mercy, and not giving up on ourselves. And standing up and trying again, every time we fail. 

Support Of A True Friend

The quality, most people appreciate in a good friend, is support. In good days. In bad days. When we support someone, our love for that cause, is seen through our actions. In other words, if we love Allah, and want Him to support us, we can start with supporting the matters He likes. And Allah, Who is All-Hearing and All-Seeing, and knows what we do in private and in public. The All-Knowing of what we do at all times. In other words, we can’t hide anything from Him. So when we want to gain His support, we have to be true to ourselves, and clean in our actions, because He knows, when we are un-true. What will we gain of reward, when He can easily read that we just wanted people to know, we didn’t do the deed solely for Him. The deed will not be accepted. Such liars, we do not want to become. Lie to our own souls. What is the need for that, when Allah will punish us for it. If we want Allahs support, we have to correct our intention and sincerity and be just as devoted when we are alone as we are in public. Because Allah knows. He can see through us. How foolish we are, and false, when we can’t stick to important basic principles of Islam, when we are alone. Just because no-one can see us. A part of imaan/faith is believing that Allah is All-Aware of what we are doing at all times (ihsan). Do we comprehend that the biggest witness of our deeds is our Creator. If He will witness against us, how lost will we be in the hereafter, when our Creator will not even look at us because of His anger towards our disobedience of His rules.  Ya Allah, grant us to win our struggle of perfecting our obedience to You (Allah) in public and in private of every moment and deed. For me, my family, my friends and every ummati, till the end of time. Ya Allah, inspire in us good, and protect us from the evil within ourselves. Help us to recognize the good within ourselves, and make it increase our imaan, humility and humbleness with full submissiveness to You. Grant us self-empowerment. Grant us proactiveness in doing good deeds with great sincerity and intentions, so we accomplish deeds with the greatest reward and that You accept. Aameen summa aameen. 

you-need-allahIt is somewhat tragical funny that sometimes people laugh of adults who behave childish. A dai once said: if you ask 10 women with the same clothing to sit the same place, and ask a 2-year-old who his/her mother is, the child will find her. We know how much a child loves his mother. His/her mother is everything for the child. Our Maker, our Creator, our Lord, our God Allah, loves us more than 70 mothers. I must say, people invite us to believe in who they think is our god. Aren’t we behaving like child, when in all these different religions, gods people believe in, we are not able to find our true God. How can we say that we are intellectuals, masters/bachelors degree, when we don’t know our true purpose, or who made us come to this world. See the signs. Believe in the signs. Comprehend, where is all this from? A person whom haven’t yet realized who his/her true Creator is, is worse than a little child, who understands his life. I must say, how tragically childish, indeed.

My Knowledge Of Advance Mathematics

I`ve had lectures in university. I have a master degree from their in fla fla subject etc. I can easily within minutes solve this difficult equation on this and that advanced level etc. The fla fla we are using as an example here, have probably spent over 20-25 years of his/her life to gain this knowledge. To spend rest of his/her life using this knowledge for further development in his/her success. For a worldly gain, we sacrifice this much time throughout our life. A gain that might, if Allah wills, last a 100 years, if we live that long. But yet when there comes to the gain of the afterlife, where we will live forever, for eternity. Allah knows how long one day will be, or one month. Maybe the time will be different from how time is in the world. Allah has said that the day of judgement will be like 50 years for a disbeliever and like the time between asr and maghrib for a believer. From this we can assume that time will be counted differently in our hereafter, based on our belief in this world. Are we really an intelligent person, when we can`t calculate how to work for a good eternity. FIrst, understand it, and most of all, also live to gain it. How can we not see, how important it is to have this worry, for how our souls life will be, after our death. Our body might live for a 100 years, but our souls life is for eternity. Shouldn`t it be a priority in our life to find out how we can make our eternal abode, a blessed place?

A 8 month old child. When his/her diaper gets filled with poop and urine. At once he/she starts to cry. The child’s mother will hear the voice and come to the child. Since the child is unable to communicate what is wrong, she will check 5 matters:
1. Is he/she hungry?
2. Must his /her diaper get changed?
3. Is he/she hurting somewhere?
4. Is he /she cold / warm somewhere?
5. Is he/she wet somewhere

The Child Is More Intelligent Than The Parent

After finding out that the diaper needed to be changed. The mother will do that. Just as she has finished changing the diaper, she will see the mood change of the child. The child will start, laughing, smiling or just stop crying. If none of the other points also are disturbing the child. An 8 month old child, feels uneasy, when he/she is un-clean. It dislikes it, and shows negative emotions. I dare say, this child under 1 year is more intelligent than most people nowadays. I mean like, when we talk about average people. It is very few who cleans their private parts thoroughly after going to the toilet. Most people only use toilet paper. Many goes around for years, with the bacteria of urine and stools on their private parts. I don`t know, how they can think that when they have taken a shower, they smell good, so they are clean. They think that smelling good is equal to clean. When in fact, they are not clean, and have been unclean for years. The little child of 8 months, is feeling un-easy when his diaper is dirty. The child has understood cleanliness, better than his parents.

An adults Understanding

An adult doesn`t understand that him/her being un-clean after being to the toilet, will have an impact on him/her feelings/mood/conduct etc as long as he/she doesn`t do anything about it. Many non-muslims could have been living like this for years. In Islam, keeping yourself clean is half of your faith. A practising muslim, will make wudu at least 5 times a day. Or maybe keep it all day. Most muslims are aware over that what you eat and your cleanliness, has an impact over how you will behave. In other words, if we eat something, un-clean/haram like some meat from pig, and when they on top of this doesn`t clean themselves. This will have a bad effect on their heart, spirituality and their conduct and character. How can we claim that we are intelligent because of our master / bachelor degrees, when we don`t understand the importance of clean food and clean body. In addition, muslims doesn`t limit their cleanliness to the body, we also talk about the cleanliness of the heart, and the soul. The cleanliness of the heart, is to keep our heart free from diseases like, envy, jealousy, bad-ghomani, chugli, arrogance, not being able to stop oneself from committing sins, and not stopping others from committing sins. When we keep our heart at a good state, working to get rid of the diseases, we also are able to develop/improve our spirituality and the quality of our ibaadah and deeds in our life. it is mustahab for a person to do ghusl at least one time a week, fridays. When we do ghusl, a spiritual bath, we clean our soul. It is obligatory for a muslim to keep his heart, body and soul clean. Someone who strives for this and succeeds will be a good muslim, in sha Allah. It is truly very sad to see people un-aware of the real issues about cleanliness. Wrong prorities in life and busy schedule has made them neglect it. Awareness is half done. If those who practice these sunnah`s try to talk about it, in a gentle manner, maybe we are able to help people understand, why and how it can help them and improve the quality and reward of their deeds. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

I Cry In My Heart

When some people make jokes about some adults being childish. It hurts. How wrong they are. If we only could help non-muslims and non-practising muslims understand, that behaving childish in some situation is not the definition of immature. A person whom can`t find his/her way to his Creator, is a child. In other words, those who doesn`t know their Creator, or live by his commandments are children. And truly matureness comes with believing and practising the true religion. Because than you will make good decisions for your life and hereafter. A definition of an adult can be one who knows how to live a good life, make good choices in life, on his/her own. Having knowledge of something is almost half of doing it. We can try to not only focus on knowledge of the brain, but focus on knowledge of the heart. A heart will not accept good information unless it is a good and sound heart. That is why we do dhikr. To purify the heart. It`s not a once in a year quest. To achieve a pure heart, we need to do dhikr every day. There is no elevator to success. We have to take the stairs, one step at a time. In dhikr mehfil we learn that educating the head without educating the heart is not education at all. We can only find our true purpose, when we try to correct our heart. It is not enough to have knowledge. Only by practising = wisdom, of the knowledge we have, can we say with deeds, not only words, that yes, we truly do believe in the good effects of cleanliness. May Allah make it easy for us to understand. Aameen.

rose, quality muslimah, islam, conduct, knowledge, wisdom, practice Islam, understandI have met so many amazing muslimahs the last 9 years. Women who has so much to offer, yet their resourcefulness is not being utilized. Their lives would have been so much more meaningful, if their family had backed them more. Let me explain more.

The Help They Need

A wife`s first priority after marriage is her husband, and after some time their children. In most asian muslim families, where daughters are brought from back home to the west. It take many years to help them adapt to the society here. Some learn the language easily, while others might never ever be able to pass test to be able to work. Although it is the family`s responsibility that these women are helped through there first years here, many times they do not get the help they need.

First Of All Imagine.

You have a network of family and friends back home. When you come here, you not only have to adapt into a whole new family but also build your own new network. That is not always that easy. Especially for wives, when they often get busy with parenthood, before they are able to learn the language properly. They have to postpone their own dreams in order for the family. I might dare say, many women come back to school, years afterwards, where they tell how much they also wanted to utilize their life for something more meaningful than just stay home with children and the little network they have or might not have. They have dreams to also earn a living, using their resources to earn money and buy things without always thinking of their expenditures. A little more planning and help from the husband could have made their situation easier.

Being A Mother Is Very Giving

Every woman has dreams of her own. Apart from being a mother and a wife. Doing something meaningful that is important to here. Having a social life, friends, network, buying things she need, without always have to ask for permission, or to be able to have women only evenings with her friends. Husband doesn`t realize that if they would support their wife more in achieving her dreams and some sort of independence, she would become a much better wife for him and a better mother for her children. Often times when women get married, they give little precedence to their own needs. Their husband needs come first. Than their children’s needs. Then their in-laws preferences. After a list, at the end their own needs come, if they have any energy or time to spend for themselves. For a mother to give her children to her husband and have a friends dinner out, is if i might dare say, not the reality for many asian wives. Although the husband in the same family, has at least one day a week, he can enjoy with this friends. If not many more. Even though the parenthood is both parents responsebility, often the mothers take the most heaviest burdens. They have a such job, that they never get any time off. It`s a 24/7 on work for their family.

Education Going To Waste

When husbands stop their wifes from getting a job or an education or to work when they have a sound education. They should re-think what they are doing. If and when the parents of a muslimah doctor had thought the same. The wife of these husbands had to meet a male doctor at the hospital for a check up under her pregnancy. Thank god, that some parents encourage their daughters to get a decent education with good values so that they can contribute to the community. We have muslimah doctors, nurses, teachers, dentists, engineers and so on. It is not easy for them to go out of their home and work. Their best hijab is in their home. But yet we must not forget that if every muslimah had thought that, our own muslimah wives, would have had difficulty getting any good help, without meeting their own “tribe”, when they need some sort of help/assistance. We can`t stop these resources from contributing positively for the society, and be so selfish and only think about our own good. Of course that comes first, but we must also try to help others, whom might have more difficult life than ourselves.

Muslimah`s And Islam – The Sunnah Way

Under the time when the prophet Muhammad pbuh had to do hijrah to medina with Abu bakr Siddiq raa, they left makkah and passed by cave thawr. They stayed there for a few days to protect themselves from their enemies. The daughter of Abu Bakr siddiq raa, Asma Bint Abu Bakr, came to them with food-supplies, through difficult roads and facing many dangers. The muslimah sahabi`s have helped Islam not by being passively at home, but by being with the muslims in wars, also fighting the enemies and taking care of those wounded. So you see it is not Islam that oppresses women, it is the illiterate minds. Even knowledgable people can be illiterate for not being able to believe in what is right and haqq. If knowledge opened minds of everyone than the most knowledgable lecturers would have accepted Islam. Not everyone does. Even in the most intelligent people there are many who doesn`t accept what is right for what is right and what is truth for what is truth. I believe that if you as a mailman have managed to find your way to Allah and believe in him and try to enjoin good and forbid evil, you are more intelligent than the lecturer with a phd, that thinks that Islam is not haqq or right. I have learned to calculate people, from how faithful and obedient they are to Islam. Islam doesn`t oppress women. Mostly the wrong culture does. May Allah give all wives help to realize their dream in their life. And make all the muslimah`s resourceful for each other and helping each other prosper. And guide husband to be more supportive of their wife. The sunnah way. Aameen summa aameen.

wrong and right.In some countries eating with your hands is seen as something good and normal. In other societies it is seen as abnormal to eat without cutlery. Societies and countries have made their written and un-written rules about what they see as normal. Something that is common in some societies is seen as backwards or illegal in other societies.

In many countries smoking cigarettes is seen as normal.

In fact if people attend a gathering and they don`t smoke or drink in that gathering, they are seen as backwards or old-fashioned. Even though we all know that smoking is hazardous to our health. It`s even done major campaigns to help people get motivated to stop. Drinking is also seen as a norm. You can`t have fun without it. The people who attend a party and doesn`t drink, do not know how to have fun. Though the police often talk about drunk teenagers being in a really bad condition after going home from a party. Drinking leads to many bad things, nothing good comes from it. Even though drinking is seen as normal, and anyone who doesn`t drink is seen as abnormal.

In some countries it seen as normal to have children outside of marriage.

Though we know that most children that grow up with one parent, doesn`t get the proper up-bringing a couple can give. Though it is seen as normal, even if it leads to people with many problems in the society. It is not good for a child to not have both parents with them. Or to have to have a father or a mother. A father can never take the whole role of a mother and the mother can never take the whole role of a father in a child’s life. The father and the mother complete each other and give their children the love, nurture, care and provide for them better when they have each other. Therefore same-gender parents are not good for the children. Even though in some countries it is seen as normal. Again the norm of the society makes something that is bad for the children, allowed. If the child grows up without knowing who their parent is, that is also detrimental for those individuals.

We know that weapons and knives can harm

We know that it is not good for all people to have weapons. We know that people can get killed and injured. Even when it can be an accident. We know out of numbers and incidents that in America there are many deaths because it is easy to buy weapons. Many people harm other because of it. It is not good for the society. Using weapons and showing off with them, is seen as cool and normal. Though we know it can take a life. We say we don`t want more wars, but many countries are earning lots of millions because they are selling weapons to other countries. This is seen as normal. I know your going to mis-use the weapons I`m selling you, but just because I need to earn that money, I don`t “mind” that you take as many lives as you want with it? Is this normal for you? We are talking authorities here. Not ordinary people. Authorities that maybe sitting in some peace congregation and promoting peace for all. But are they really, really working for it or against it? Being biased is seen as normal. That is not normal to me. These weapons take lives. A life in Pakistan or Syria is just as much worth as a life in Britain, Russia or America. When we are making it easy for other to kill other people, we are not working for the peace we were promoting in the congregation of UN or work for betterment for children or mothers like UNICEF promotes.

The average people has talked about someone in their absence

I guess over 70% of people backbite others. It is seen as normal in most societies today. If you are of those people whom dislike it, you would probably avoid social gatherings. Most socializing involves talking behind some people. If you don`t you are seen as a bore, whom doesn`t have anything to entertain with. When in fact a person whom is talking about others life, is indirect saying that my life is so boring, that I need to tell you about another person so that you would want to talk with me. The best people are those who talk about ideas and have healthy discussions that does not involving in talking bad about other people. Talks that are meaningful and bring out good, motivates and inspires.

It is not normal until it is good for you

We know that smoking, drinking, buying weapon, mixing without marriage, backbiting is bad for us. If the society and its people set a norm that is bad for the people, why is it seen as normal, when it makes ab-normal people. This has everything to do with humanity and wanting what is best for each other. We don`t need to be christian, jew, hindu, atheist or a muslim to know that all of these matters are harmful for our well-being. I can`t understand the fact that the community can legalize anything that is harming its citizens. It is not ok. And it is not normal. We need to define what is good, as normal. Don`t let people with wrong values decide what normal is to you, just because a lot of people are indulging in it. Right is right even if only one person is doing it. Wrong is wrong even if the whole community has “legalized” it. We want to normalize as norms, what is good for our  hearts, souls and bodies to build healthy people and good communities for muslims and non-muslims where we live.

if you have no shame do as you please
“None of you truly believes (in Allah and in His religion) until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself” – Prophet Muhammad pbuh.
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Imam Ahmad recorded Abu Umamah saying that a young man came to the Prophet and said,
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“O Messenger of Allah! Give me permission to commit Zina (unlawful sex).” The people surrounded him and rebuked him, saying, “Stop! Stop!” But the Prophet said,
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(Come close) The young man came to him, and he said,
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(Sit down) so he sat down. The Prophet said,
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(Would you like it (unlawful sex) for your mother) He said, “No, by Allah, may I be ransomed for you.” The Prophet said,
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(Neither do the people like it for their mothers.) The Prophet said,
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(Would you like it for your daughter) He said, “No, by Allah, may I be ransomed for you.” The Prophet said,
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(Neither do the people like it for their daughters. ) The Prophet said,
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(Would you like it for your sister) He said, “No, by Allah, may I be ransomed for you.” The Prophet said,
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(Neither do the people like it for their sisters.) The Prophet said,
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(Would you like it for your paternal aunt) He said, “No, by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger! may I be ransomed for you.” The Prophet said,
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(Neither do the people like it for their paternal aunts.) The Prophet said,
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(Would you like it for your maternal aunt) He said, “No, by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger! may I be ransomed for you.” The Prophet said,
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(Neither do the people like it for their maternal aunts.) Then the Prophet put his hand on him and said,
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(O Allah, forgive his sin, purify his heart and guard his chastity.) After that the young man never paid attention to anything of that nature.
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“If you feel no shame, then do whatever you wish.”- Prophet Muhammad.

status of women in islamI vesten er det et vanlig syn blant de fleste mennesker at kvinner skal ha de samme rettighetene som menn. Dr Zakir Naik har holdt et foredrag om kvinners rettigheter i islam, hvor han sa at kvinner er biologisk, fysiologisk og emosjonelt annerledes enn menn, så hvordan kan de ha den samme rollen i et samfunn som menn da. Å si likestilling blir helt feil, man kan heller bruket ordet likeverd.

For noen titall år siden ble det diskutert hvorvidt kvinner hadde en sjel, mens i Islam ble det for 1300 år siden fortalt via Koranen at kvinner og menn har sjel og er likeverdige. Kvinner har 3 ganger så masse høyere verd enn menn. En av profetens venner kom til profeten Muhammad (pbuh) og spurte profeten; hvem har mest krav på meg? Profeten svarte tre ganger; din mor, fjerde gangen sa han din far. Det betyr at kvinner har veldig høyt verd i Islam. Ikke minst pga smerten de må gjennom ved å bære frem barn og selve fødselen. Profeten Muhammad (pbuh) har selv sagt at Jannah (paradiset) ligger ved moren din sine føtter.

En annen hadith understreker at dersom en far/bror har en eller flere døtre/søstre og de behandler dem bra og sørger for at de tilegner seg bra verdier og døtrene/søstrene gifter seg, så vil Allah gi han beskyttelse fra ilden etter døden/dommens dag og/eller være grunnen til at han får gå til Paradiset.

I kristendommen tros det på at skylden for at Eva as og Adam as ble kastet ut av paradiset, blir lagt på Eva as. Mens i Islam fikk både Eva as og Adam as delt skyld i samme sak. Kvinner i Islam ble gitt rett til å ha sin egen eiendom og lønnen de får når de arbeider eller driver næringsvirksomhet, kan de bruke på det de måtte ønske. Mannen derimot er nødt for å bruke sin lønn på familien sin, deriblant konen, selv om hun har egen inntekt.  Det forklarer hvorfor menn arver mer enn kvinner, fordi de har forsørgeransvaret i familien som fedre/brødre.

Menn og kvinner i islam er gjetere for hver sin flokk, det betyr at de har ulikt ansvar som de må stå til rette for, og som er begge like viktig for at familien skal fungere. Mannen er familiens overhode, men de er alle teamspillere og teamet vil ikke fungere uten bra samarbeid innad. Kvinnene er mildere og mer følsomme enn menn, dermed er de mer egnet til å ta hoveddelen av oppdragelsen av barna, siden de lettere forstår barnas situasjon i fargen av deres natur.

I islam er kvinnens ære beskyttet. I vesten blir kvinner degradert til objekter som viser frem sin hud for å selge både det ene og det andre. Hvordan kan man si at dette gir kvinnen mer rettigheter i vesten? Før Islam ble kvinner sett på som sex-objekter hvor man ikke trengte å gifte seg med kvinnene men heller ble eid av mennene som ønsket dem. På den tiden kunne kvinner kunne gå i arv bare for at de skulle beholde den formuen hun eide/ hadde tilegnet seg gjennom mannen. Islam ga kvinner rett til å si nei til et ekteskap. Islam fortalte hvem som kunne gifte seg med hverandre, samt hvem som var forbudt for hverandre. Blant annet for å avverge at moren ble gift med nær slektning når “mannen” døde og avverge andre sykelige forhold som fantes i samfunnet på den tiden.

Samtidig er sex i islam sett på som noe veldig skjønt men tilbeholdt innenfor ekteskapet. Allah beskriver i Koranen at ektemannen og konen er sett på som hverandres klær som skal beskytte hverandre og gjemme hverandres feil fra andre. Som hverandres bekledning er de nærmest hverandre. Når kvinner hadde menstruasjon, før Islams tid, ble de sett på som noe urent og djevelsk. Mens i Islam pleide profeten Muhammad (pbuh) å resitere koranen mens han hadde hodet sitt i fanget til sin kone Aisha (raa) selv når hun hadde mensen.

Før Islam hadde mennene mange kvinner, I Islam ble ekteskapet sett på som halve troen og en kontrakt på papiret hvor man må ha vitner. Menn har rett til å gifte seg med inntil fire koner dersom det er enker eller foreldreløse som trenger støtte. Det ble tillatt etter en krig i Islam hvor det var mange enker og som hadde barn som trengte støtte for å ha noen som kunne brødfø dem. Dersom mennene frykter at de ikke ikke skulle greie å behandle alle konene likt, har de ikke lov til å ha flere koner. En person som har flere koner men ikke behandler de likt/rettferdig vil ved dommens dag stå opp med bare halve av sin kropp, Tirmidhi. Samtidig har også Profeten pbuh vist at monogami er også fra hans Sunnah. Når Profeten giftet seg med Khadijah raa, var han kun gift med henne, så lenge hun levde. De levde sammen i ca 25 år.

Vi må skifte fokus fra å snakke om likestilling til å snakke om likeverd. To vesener som er så ulike kan uansett hva vi sier eller gjør,  aldri bli like. Det forventes ulikt fra menn enn fra kvinner. Det er bare kvinner som kan føde barn og de er mer følsomme og emosjonelle enn menn. Derfor blir det mer riktig å snakke om likeverdet mellom de, enn likestilling. Når man begynner å beskrive ordet verd, ser man at Islam gir kvinner mer verd enn menn. Det er også en hadith som sier at dersom folk forstod den virkelige status en kvinne har i Islam, vil selv menn ønske å være en kvinne.

Det er klart at det er vokst frem en ukultur i det muslimske miljøet som undertrykker spesielt kvinner, men også menn. Denne ukulturen er ikke fra religionen og kan også ha sammenheng med at folk ikke praktiserer islam i stor grad, men velger hva de ønsker å praktisere og hva de ønsker å overse. Mens islam egentlig betyr at man skal underkaste seg alle lovene til Allah og ikke bare de som passer en selv.

Mye av ukulturen blant pakistanere stammer også fra dengang hele landet var sammenslått med India. Vi har arvet mye fra India.

En sak som er viktig å understreke er at dersom en person som er norsk gjør noe galt, sier man ikke at alle kristne gjør den og den gale handlingen. Men dersom en pakistaner, eller muslim gjør noe galt, vil man med en gang si at det er det Islam sier. Det er veldig vanlig spesielt i media og vinklingen til journalistene er ofte preget av muslim-/islam-hat.  Dersom et tre har et rottent eple, så vil ikke et intelligent menneske si at det er treets skyld. Alle trær kan ha noen rotne epler. Men når en muslim gjør noe galt, istedet for å se om han er praktiserende eller ikke, vil de uten å blunke si at det er Islam sin skyld.

Journalister vil alltid farge sine artikler etter sine meninger. Men vi som leser disse artiklene bør skaffe oss mer samfunnsforståelse og være mer kritiske til det vi leser. Det er den eneste løsningen på dette. Ikke feie alle over en kam, men vit at akkurat som at det finnes bra og dårlige kristne/jøder, finnes det også bra og dårlig muslimer. Å skylde på Islam, kristendom, jødedom når en muslim, kristen, jøde gjør noe galt, er ikke noe et opplyst samfunn vil gjøre.  Istedet vil de se hans/hennes gjerninger i lys av de verdier han/henne hadde tilegnet seg i løpet av livet. Verdiene til en person kan være preget av flere forhold og ikke nødvendigvis bare religion.

Jeg tror at kvinner har bedre rettighet og verd i islam enn det vesten noen gang kunne gi kvinnen. I Islam er kvinnen sett på noe som man skal beskytte og ikke vise til ethvert menneske. I vesten blir kvinner brukt aktivt i markedsføring på alt fra biler til undertøy. Jeg tenker vi må åpne våre øyne og se at kvinner har mer rett i islam enn det vesten noen gang kan greie å gi. Islam i sin uforandret tilstand beskytter kvinnen, mens samfunnet i vesten degraderer kvinnen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one 2 one :)

(",) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (",)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Overjoyous :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) If you just love me, i will let you see, how more you need? :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)