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dawa is a an art, dealing with heartsWhen inviting others to Islam, it is important that we don’t scare others away. By telling the hard-core truth, at every start. The dai most talk such sentences he/she thinks will touch hearts. By slowly make people think and evaluate their life, where they are heading, and where they can be. Same people are motivated by positive talk/scary talk/inspirational talk, but at different times in their life. If we tell an already depressed person, you’re going to hell (scary talk), he/she will be more scared, probably too depressed to change. Hence he/she needs to be inspired with motivational positive talk.

Give Insight In Their Situation

An arrogant, wicked evil person, might carry on his works if we don’t scare him/her of the punishments. So maybe a tad more talks about how big Allah is (rehman/jabbar). Even the Quran speaks about everything in saying if you do this you will go to hell. The sentence after is positive, but if you do this you’ll go to paradise. Or vice versa. Allah’s speaking like this is of His Wisdom. Maybe to scare people from doing wrong without them loosing hope in Allah’s forgiveness. If they do good, no matter what happens in dunya, they will attain a good hereafter. If they do evil in dunya, no matter the outcome here, there hereafter will be full of punishments.

They Might Persist In Their Wrongdoing

Prophet Muhammad pbuh always changed his dawa style according to the one he was addressing. We are different, and get scared or inspired/motivated differently. Once there was a man at the door of the Prophet pbuh. His wife Aisha raa came to tell him pbuh who it was. He pbuh said, this is an evil person. When he came inside and they talked together he pbuh was nicer than he usually is with other people. After the man went, his wife Aisha raa was curious of why he pbuh was so nice to him, when he was so evil. He pbuh said because if he would be harsher, that person because of his evilness, could harm his pbuh, by telling evil stories to others, and helping them get spread easily. So to protect himself pbuh had to be nicer. We also know by another hadith that we can`t be to harsh with evil people. Or else they will just persist in their wrongdoings. Do you remember the hadith about the man who killed 99 people. He killed the monk that told him he had no chance for forgiveness. In Islam there is always a way back, because of Allah’s vast forgiveness.

Understand The Audience

When a dai says yes to speak in a gathering in different countries, he/she has to find out something about the audience to know what to say or how to say something, or what needs to be thoroughly explained, what are their issues/problems, what are their good qualities. This is psychology. A dai can`t give examples of entrepeneurs in a gathering of doctors. They won`t relate to it. And the vice versa. To touch hearts we have to talk about something that catches their attention and will keep them listening and focused at the same time touch their heart to help them change for the better. It is not easy. But most dais are doing an excellent job. Ma sha Allah. May Allah give them aafia and barakah in their lives and success in their work for Allah. Aameen. For us to give the same dawa to everyone, everyone had to be the same. We know that we are all different. So we have to adjust the sail according to where we want to go.

188983_10151478508729496_344954689_nYou never know how your positive encouragement can help people. Just because one of the youths you know are misbehaving in any way, it does not imply that they will always be like that. It is our responsibility to look for the good in others and encourage them to improve themselves. Just because a person is having trouble of some kind in their young age is not a hinder for them to later on in their life, become succesful. I`m sure you have heard about a hadith, where our Prophet Muhammad pbuh says: “In the last years before judgement there will be people whom start their life as good people but later become bad people, and some that starts their life as bad people but later get guided from above. We do not know what kind of death a person will have. So it is extremely important that we understand and emphasize when talking to the youth that no matter how much a person messes up, the door to get back to Allah is always open, as long as they are breathing they can change for the better. We should never lose hope.

 

Teacher of Life
Often we see that people give naseeha to youngster in a way that instead of making them better makes them go beyond what is wrong. It is very important that we think well through what we say and how we say it and our body language matches what we are saying. The generations of our parents had different upbringing than us. Most of them were taught good manners even though they didn`t have the most degrees. They had the teacher of life and more respect towards teachers, elders, and knowledgable people like Imams. Now we see that these things are diminishing in our society. For starters we are living in an un-islamic society here in the West. A society that proclaims values that doesn`t match our values. It is a free society where the religion is often seen as something private, and often not allowed to practice in public areas. Like for instance it is forbidden to use niqab in some schools or public areas in some countries in the West.

 

Education about marriage before marriage

We see that our parents marry their children in a very young age without giving them proper education about how a marriage works and how one raises children. We often seen that a lot of young muslim parents living abroad lose their children to the childcare system. Mostly because their way of children’s upbringing collides with the rules in the country they live in. In Norway we see an increasing number of young parents where they have been reported to the childcare, because of this. We are the biggest losers in this, because some of the times, the children that are taken away from their families in an early age, are not taught the values that we stand for.

 

Children mature earlier now

It is very important for the dai`s in today`s society to explain to parents how to give naseeha to youngster. When our parents where kids, their parents told them do this or don`t do that and they listened to them. Nowadays children are more intelligent than at that time. Mostly because of that they are exposed to technology in an early age and the society they live in the west, teach a lot of things very early. To make these kids understand why you can do something and why you can`t is not that easy if you don`t know how to speak to them. Often you have to talk to them with respect. You have to explain why these things are good/bad for them, with real life examples so they can comprehend it. You have to talk with them like you are on the same level. I have read once that when you want to stop your child that is to years old, you should sit down so that you are both at the same height and look into his/her eyes and say what you want to say when you have his fully attention. That is because you want him/her to think like you are on the same level. The same goes to young adults.

 

Give naseeha privately

When you talk with youngsters, talk with the right intention of wanting them to change, without looking down at them. After all it can all be an misunderstanding. We only see through our personal glasses that are made of our values. The youngsters intentions could have been something else. Choose the right timing. Hate the deed, not the person. Give naseeha privately, so you don`t emberass them in front of other family members or their friends or even a stranger. The youth is in such a delicate age when they have to find out about a lot of things, like who they are and what they`re identity is and what they want to do with their life. At the same time all these different kinds of feeling are in them which they have to understand. They are in a very tender age, and need extra care. The last they would need is an adult that looks down on them, is too strict, and tells them what to do without explaining why it is good for them. Last but not least, come with real pointers about how they can stop something or begin with something. Give them the recipe for it from A to Z. Use humour in a way they would understand to catch their attention and use it as a medicine.

 

Conclusion

If you follow these tools, than in sha Allah, you will make a difference in their life. It is very important to understand the people one is giving advice to, rather than being to enthusiastic and give it in the wrong way. It all could boil down to them change for the better or make them even worse than before. It is very important that we are wise in the tools we use. May Allah help us help others. Ameen summa ameen.

intentionThe wonderful thing about Islam is that when oneself starts being more practising you want other to also feel the joy of being a good muslim as well, so you share your stories and your naseeha`s to other in hope that they also find the blessings of being a good muslim. I mean who doesn`t want to get the reward for that? Though there is something that can go very wrong sometimes. I will talk about that here.

Giving naseeha to others isn`t something bad, as long as one has oneself`s niyah in check. Having a personal agenda when giving the naseeha won`t give you any reward at all. First of all you have to be a dai for Allah not for anyone else. Or for making others feel that they are worse than others. I have seen and experienced that some people want to bring out the faults of others and say some bad things about others, and hide behind the saying, “just giving naseeha, don`t take it personal”. They are actually digging their own grave if they don`t have the right intention behind the deed.

Other times some people say things to others in a way that agitates others. I guess if you really want to help others, first have good manners so you say things in the best way so you don`t hurt other people’s feelings by being rude. Lets put it this way. If you know some people have som bad habits, by saying to them you know you have that and that bad habit, you know, that won`t change them. It would rather agitate them and could, may Allah forbid, make them even worse. So instead try to be polite and instead of  just finger-pointing, try your best to come with solutions first.

I have stopped following some people because instead of coming up with solution, they finger point something bad about others, like they have a personal agenda. I don`t think they know the right ways of being a dai or giving naseeha.

I hope that the dai`s out there won`t see this as a personal attack, but rather some views coming from a sister in Islam. Give naseeha in the best manner with the best intention and the best way ever, with solutions to the issue, then know that what you say will make an impact on other people. And first of all become a dai for Allah`s sake not for anyone else.  May Allah reward every dai out there that is doing excellent work. May we learn and apply what we are taught from them and may Allah give us all Paradise in return for it, ameen summa ameen.

DawaIf you want for your brother what you want for yourself than your iman is intact and on the right place. And since we muslims are ambassadors for our religion we would want other people whom may be living in ignorance, also to accept Islam so that they also might have the chance to prosper, and achieve Jannah. Our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has said:

“By Allah, If Allah were to guide just one man through you it would be better than red camels”.

Red camels were the most precious and sought-after wealth among the Arabs at the time of the Prophet.The Dai`s reward will be immense, like said in the Hadis from our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). He said:

“Whoever calls people to the truth will have a reward like that of those who follow him, without it detracting in the least from their rewards”.

If you don`t have much time because of your daily routine just know that only one Ayat can give you falah/success. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuH) has said:

“Convey (knowledge) from me even if it is just one aayah”.

Even if you don`t understant the eternity of the message your conveying it is important to not give up. Like Our Prophet Muhammad has said:

“May Allah make his face shine, the one who hears something from us and conveys it as he hears it, for perhaps the one to whom it is conveyed will understand it better than the one who conveyed it”.

Though we need to beware of the traps of trying to be a dai. No one is perfect and we all have our faults. If there is something you don`t follow yourselves, at least try not to convey that to others. Because your character talks for itself. If you tell others something you don`t follow yourself, and the other people gets informed about that, they might not listen to you at all, because they will be unsure whether you are sincere in being a dai or are only doing it to become famous or that you wants other to think that you are pious. Since Islam is sincerity, it would be crucial to fail in the good deeds you can earn by being sincere.

Another point is that if you convey something you don`t follow yourself you can get a really bad place in Hell. Narrated by Usamah that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said:

“A man will be brought on the Day of Resurrection and thrown in the Hell-fire, so that his intestines will come out, and he will be go around like a donkey goes around a millstone. The people of Hell-fire will gather around him and say: ” O so and so, what is wrong with you? Didn`t you use to order us for Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam ordains and forbid us from polytheism of all kinds and disbelief and all that Islam forbids? He will reply ” Yes, i used to order people to Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam ordains but I did not do it myself, and I used to forbid people from Polytheism, disbelief and all that Islam forbids, while I used to do it myself”. (Sahih Bukhari)

Remember that your actions speak louder than words like a hadis sharif from our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) he said:

“A woman came to him with her child. She wanted to talk to him about the son. She explained that her son used to eat a lot of ghurr. And no matter how much she told him to stop, he did not listen. She tought that if I ask Muhammad (PBUH) than he would listen and stop eating so much. Hazoor Paak asked her to come the next day. When she came the next day, he told the son not to eat that much ghurr. That surprised the mother a bit because he could have said that yesterday, why did he wait a day to say that sentence. Hazoor Paak replied that he had eaten ghurr yesterday so he did not want to tell the boy to do something he did not do himself. Today he hadn`t eaten ghurr so he could easily tell him to not eat that much of it in the future.

We are muslims Alhamdolillah and our goal is to achieve Jannah the eternal bliss, InshaAllah. Why not start by applying everything good Islamic and beneficial Knowledge you learn to yourself foremost and then the people you can influence. And I am counting myself in this as well, InshaAllah, ameen summa ameen.

Extracts taken out from the book: “the ideal Muslimah”. Theres a like book for men which is named: “the ideal Muslim”.

I wrote a poem, which I would like to share:)

jihad nafs

When you care of other people.

When you help them smile, is it simple?

You can receive so many blessings by one word.

Say Saalam to fellow beings in a way that shows thankfulness not a sword.

Fighting in the cause of Allah can be done in many ways.

Some say the enemy is shaitan some say jinn or man.

Reciting Drud or ayats from the Quran keeps the enemy far behind.

Auliyas teach us dhikr, which increase our darjaat buland.

From their dars and knowledge we have been many times enlightened.

The Sunnah speaks a magnificent speech.

It melts hearts and leads way to Hereafter Paradise.

It inspires our behaviour and fills us with positivity and peace.

No matter where we are, Allah is always there for us.

Him we rely on in good and bad times.

He helps us through difficulties in every circumstance.

We are the slaves of Allah, always remember that!

Also dai`s in our faith always stand for that!

We believe in the same God only different names.

We are all equal no person is better than the other.

Only in terms of taqwa not just by our sound belief.

One would become a better dai by being a better human being. We can`t call ourselves good muslims by all the backbiting and lying each and every person does. By working on our universal values, we can be better ambassadors for our religion as well. Sometimes in between my work and home i sometimes get the idea that i want to become a dai. Though actually we are dai`s each and every Muslim/Muslimah. Other non-muslims learn or think what Islam is by the muslim people`s conduct. If we are good muslims from our heart and obey the rules and regulations in islam than also the non-muslims will want to become successful as well by converting to Islam. I`m counting in myself in, that I need to learn more about Islam and strive to become a better Muslimah. I have seen that some people neglect what our Prophet has taught us about Ikhlas. If we with the hadis sharif manage to put the ikhlas of our Prophet in conduct than inshaAllah we will see people around us wanting to learn more about Islam and being eager to talk to us about it, because our Prophet has the perfect conduct anyone could ever have, MashaAllah.

When we will portray the true message of what Islam is by our conduct, we would become wonderful human beings and second we would inshaAllah one day become better muslims. Discussion is healthy, but what we need to focus on is ikhlas in every matter, also in discussions, so that the people would want to learn more about our Prophet, whom has taught us this behaviour. If we win all the arguments then the other side might become angry and lose sight of what is right or wrong, because in anger one can`t think right. Though if we are genuinely kind to others like our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was kind, in our conduct than that would rub over on our surroundings, be at work or home and they would also inshaAllah want to become a Muslim/Muslimah.

When we read comments of articles or blogs at different islamic sites, we see muslims almost fighting with non-muslims or being very rude when they answer them back, they would think that every Muslim/Muslimah is like that. And because of that they won`t want to become muslims. When we from our conduct give a bad impression of Islam by not following it correctly, people will go away from Islam. What kind of dai`s are we then? The opposite of what we actually should be, don`t you think? I`m not saying that we should be flattering to everyone, i`m saying that we should be genuinely kind like our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was.

The conclusion is that we as muslim should learn more about our religion and be sincere in adhering it to our daily lives, so that other non-muslims would inshaAllah admire us and want to adopt our behaviour that we have learned from our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) into their life. This would push them to learn more about our Prophet Muhammad and Islam. We are dai`s either we want to be it or not, it comes along with the tag Muslim/Muslimah, so let’s do the best of it 😉 When it is our responsibility we would also be questioned about it from Allah Subhanatalah on judgement day. So why not make such a wonderful impression that we InshaAllah can achieve jannah in account of it 😉 Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

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