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😍 beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

🤤 shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

💋💅 using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

😏😉 not lowering your gaze. 

🕌 using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

👠using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

👚 using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

👂😋talking in a way that attracts attention. 

🐍 mixing with others without any limitations. 

🎼 🎸🎷 listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

🎬 watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

⭐️ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

🤐 gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

🤞🤥lying about others. 

🤝 😈 making enmity between friends / spouses. 

😼 making oaths about false matters. 

🤧 convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

😤☠️ using magic to get what you want in life. 

🙃 spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

😇 being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

🕸 using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

🐍 supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

🥝 using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

🍄🐖 eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

🕊😬 harming people who do good. 

👉 false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 


People often want Allah to support them. People want Allah to love them. We can’t compare the creation with the Creator. But still when we do, we will get a glimpse of how we can achieve Allah’s love and support through it. 

A Mother And Her Child

Every mother is different. But every mother has one thing in common; she loves her child. The child who was made out of her own self, is dearer to her than almost everything. We know that even if our mother is angry at us. She is not able to hate us. If only for a little while. Maybe because we are made from her flesh, and Allah has put mercy in a mother for her child. When we behave in a manner she dislikes, she will most probably get upset. But as time passes, she easily forgives. Even if she denounces the action. She is not able to not love her child. When we want anyone we like to like us, to love us, that person will like us if we behave in a manner that person likes. And when we behave in a manner that person dislikes, that person will dislike us. People does not have such mercy towards us as our mother. If they dislike or hate us, they will still do that. No matter what we do for them. If we draw the similtude to our Creator in this matter, we can easily understand; when we do deeds Allah, likes, with the right intention and sincerity, He loves us. When we make mistakes, and don’t make astagfar and tawbah, He dislikes us. But He doesn’t hate us. He (Allah) hates our bad deeds. And He loves us so much that the door to Him is always open through sinsere tawbah and repentence. Til our last breath He (Allah) awaits that we will return to Him. When we knit a jersey or draw a drawing, we feel a ownership to it. Allah, our Creator feels a ownership of His creation. Like a parent feels ownership of his child. When a child does something good, the father mother will say to his/her friends, “That’s my son” or “That’s my daughter”. So If our child leaves us to another country or because of anger, and as purily as parents love their children, a part of them will always, wait for their children to come back to their parents, repenting. Allah does also feel ownership to His creation. Through Allah’s beautiful creation (world, sun, moon, weather, planets, creatures, humans- inside and whom are eaten and who eats. We can see and comprehend how smart Our Creatur must be. Because everything is so perfectly made, without any mistakes. If Allah’s creation is so beautiful and in such perfect system, it is because everything is created by the Most Beautiful and the most perfect in all ways. Allah’s Qualities/ Attributes are the Most Perfect. When we do deeds, that Allah likes, He raises our status and says, “you’re my friend”. Imagine people are very proud of having good, influental people as friends. If the Creator of the whole universe says, that you’re his /her friend, you’ve got yourself the most influential friend there dude. A friend Who just says to it “be” and it is. Don’t ever downplay that. And be truly thankful. And correct yourself when your gratefulness decreases. So if we want Him (Allah) to like us, we will accomplish that by living the way He wants us to live our life. And protect us from those things he dislikes. When we will accomplish that, according to our means/ resources, He will love us. If we lack, the ability to do this, we will not be able to achieve this. But a beautiful fact about Allah, is that he does not reward according to results, he rewards us according to our effort. In other words, even if we make mistake often, and we with pure intention and sincerity make tawbah, often, he will help us, and reward us for believing in His Mercy, and not giving up on ourselves. And standing up and trying again, every time we fail. 

Support Of A True Friend

The quality, most people appreciate in a good friend, is support. In good days. In bad days. When we support someone, our love for that cause, is seen through our actions. In other words, if we love Allah, and want Him to support us, we can start with supporting the matters He likes. And Allah, Who is All-Hearing and All-Seeing, and knows what we do in private and in public. The All-Knowing of what we do at all times. In other words, we can’t hide anything from Him. So when we want to gain His support, we have to be true to ourselves, and clean in our actions, because He knows, when we are un-true. What will we gain of reward, when He can easily read that we just wanted people to know, we didn’t do the deed solely for Him. The deed will not be accepted. Such liars, we do not want to become. Lie to our own souls. What is the need for that, when Allah will punish us for it. If we want Allahs support, we have to correct our intention and sincerity and be just as devoted when we are alone as we are in public. Because Allah knows. He can see through us. How foolish we are, and false, when we can’t stick to important basic principles of Islam, when we are alone. Just because no-one can see us. A part of imaan/faith is believing that Allah is All-Aware of what we are doing at all times (ihsan). Do we comprehend that the biggest witness of our deeds is our Creator. If He will witness against us, how lost will we be in the hereafter, when our Creator will not even look at us because of His anger towards our disobedience of His rules.  Ya Allah, grant us to win our struggle of perfecting our obedience to You (Allah) in public and in private of every moment and deed. For me, my family, my friends and every ummati, till the end of time. Ya Allah, inspire in us good, and protect us from the evil within ourselves. Help us to recognize the good within ourselves, and make it increase our imaan, humility and humbleness with full submissiveness to You. Grant us self-empowerment. Grant us proactiveness in doing good deeds with great sincerity and intentions, so we accomplish deeds with the greatest reward and that You accept. Aameen summa aameen. 

israel, usa, world, president, war crimes cartoon gaza under attack israel carlos-latuffI get so amazed by some people when they say that they love a country/ethnicity etc. I know love is blinding, but most people do take this quite literally. For instance when your son is misbehaving in any way. You would, out of love as a parent, try to help him behave the right way. No parent would say, “Oh, I love my son so much, that I`ll let him do whatever he does, because I don`t want him to get hurt/sad”. That doesn`t make any sense. A parent when they see his son trying to catch “fire”, would stop him, so he wouldn`t get burned. Lets replace the little kid/son/brother with the name of Israel, and lets replace the name of parent/big brother with U.S. Now Israel is killing innocent civilians in Palestine, taking over their country. Some real mean stuff. The whole world knows their atrocities. Still father/big brother U.S. is backing him up. “Do whatever you want son. I`ll prevent you from falling or being jailed”, U.S. says. The whole world can see that and admit that most of what the Israelis are doing are wrong. Despite this, I know people whom praise Israel, like they can`t see their war-crimes.

Imagine Your Son Is Misbehaving At School

He is bugging some other kids. You wouldn`t, if you were a good decent parent, cheer him for doing this. I`m sure parents with good values, would stop their child from hurting others. Imagine, if you actually praised him for bullying some class-mates. What do you think would happen to your son? His confidence would increase, and he might do more and meaner stuff. Why? Because your backing him up. If you keep backing up your son, when he does something wrong, it will motivate him to keep on doing it and probably increase him in his wrongdoing. If you don`t want your child to eventually be criticized by the principal or get expelled, most parents, would try to use some incentives to help him stop from misbehaving at school. So you see when son Israel know that father/big brother U.S. has got his back no matter how much wrong he does to bullied Palestine, he won`t stop.

israel vs palestineThis Makes Me Angered And Sad

When other people whom supposedly love Israel, praise the state, despite the wrong decisions it has made, and how many war crimes it is involved in. How can you close your eyes to the fact that even if Israel can be doing 1% right, he is still doing 99% wrong. By cheering him up, just because you generally love Israel, because of it`s holy-ness, is wrong. Yes the land is holy, and muslims also believe that Judaism came before christianity and then Islam came after that. But we can`t stand here and say to someone who just because your message at that time was gods message, I agree with what you are doing now. That doesn`t make any sense. Besides. If you saw jews as your friends, you would tell him when his wrong. Even if that hurt him. You wouldn`t cheer on your friends when they make mistakes, big mistakes, like killing people. If you have the right values, you would make him go to the police and take the sentence the court judges. Because your friend killed another person. It`s not allowed. Just because your friend was born on holy land doesn`t make himself holy. Our Prophet pbuh said too his daughter Fatima raa, your lineage would not make you go to Paradise, so work on doing good deeds. That is the only way of going to Paradise. He said that to his own daughter. Ma sha Allah, that is Islam. Everyone has to pay for their own bad deeds, and will be rewarded individually for their good deeds. If they want to prosper, they will work on this. There is no shortcuts to success, each and every has to take the stairs, one step at a time. If you`re a friend of jews and Israel, a “real” friend, you would stop him from doing wrong. It`s that simple. And if the jews and the state Israel, doesn`t stop it`s war-crimes. It will have a bad end. Maybe in this world, but most certainly in the hereafter, when their crimes will be judged before Allah. They most certainly will have to pay for it. It`s not only about saving your butt in this world. The most important point is whether you are saving your or others butt in the next world, hereafter, when it really will matter. Because the outcome will decide your faith for eternity. May Allah open our eyes, before we become guilty in the same crime, because we didn`t put any effort in stopping it. Aameen.

svane familieMany people often neglect children’s need to be seen and heard and valued for who they are, where their abilities are appreciated regardless of their siblings or friends achievements. A childs joy, when their parents listen attentively, and value all the siblings individually, when they are together as a family, is important. Often we wonder why some adults are so quiet and not into talking that much. When they grow up amongst many siblings, where some are very dominating, it is obvious that other doesn`t get that much chance to blossom or show their abilities. It could lead to they not cultivate their talents as much as their potential. People in general grow better in the right environment. Since everyone has different needs, we grow the best in different places. Seeing your child as the individual he/she is and value them for who they are, without comparison to other, is important.

 

Undiscovered Potential

Sitting at the dinner table with the family, and giving everyone chance to respond and talk to the family, is must, no matter how old they are, because their opinions need to be valued, to make them feel that they also have important opinions. Who hasn`t heard a toddler or a young child say something that is beyond his/her age. By excluding some children from the conversations, we can damage their self-esteem, and prevent them from believing in themselves. The saying “ghar ki murghi daal barabar”, is quite funny and accurate to prove the point. People outside of the family, sees so much potential in a child, while within the family, he/she can be neglected.

 

Values Are More Important Than Education

Our parents might have had this way of raising us. If we havent learned from their mistakes, we have not learned anything worthwhile. What can be more important than moulding our next generation into beautiful/giving people with good values who has the confidence to stand for what they believe in. I`m sure if we ask our friends all of them has something to point out about how they got raised by their parents. Good solid education won`t do any good for anyone, if the conduct, character, morals, manners, self-esteem etc are not cultivated and sound.

 

When You Are On Right, You Will Be Rewarded

Teaching children that nothing comes in this world without hard work. There is no elevator to success, everyone has to take the stairs, one step at a time, as long as you work hard and abide by the rules, you are a winner, no matter the outcome. Even if others doesn`t value your efforts know that Allah sees your struggles and will reward you, in this life and next. A good environment starts at home and as the child grows older other places like kindergarten, school, college, work and friends will have an impact on them. If we don`t cheer our children for their achievements, no matter how small, they will find someone who does. And that someone isn`t necessarily a good influence on them. For them to have a solid confidence to say no to bad things, they must have a good dose of self-esteem and confidence, that is taught from their early years. When children realize that Allah will reward, they will turn to Him, instead of other people for validation. Help them see the beauty in their conduct and character not their appearance. Having a rich character, makes one feel good. The only way to feel good is to know that you are doing something right, and having trust that you will be rewarded for it by Allah.

 

 

happy feetSee, Hear And Value Your Children

Treat them as individuals. Cheering them for having good conduct, character, and filling their bucket of esteem and confidence, and cultivating good values in them, will help them in all their struggles in life. Helping them believe in themselves will make it easier for them to cope with challenges. There is no bigger favour a parent can do for his/her child. Being fair so that no one is excluded and everyone gets a fair chance to speak, is important. It proclaims a message of equality. We need to be fair when some of the children are more dominating. When we teach children to listen to each other, they will of course do that. Growing up in an environment where we can`t express our views without fear of being ridiculed by other siblings, is damaging. The parents can make rules for a healthy conversation/discussion at home and make sure that they are also followed. Since the parents are the shepherds of the family, they need to make sure that their children are under good care and that their individual needs are filled and they are given space where they grow best. They will be questioned about their care, from Allah.

photo, develop, negatives, quote, lifeThe good and bad qualities that are in the generation of parents doesn`t automatically pass on to the next generation. It depends on the way we nurture good behaviour in our children, that matters. Sometimes we fail sometimes we succeed, Allah`s help is necessary.

 

Age is no obstacle

Just because we didn`t get a fully islamic upbringing, doesn`t mean we can`t do that for our next generation. It depends on what values we have in us right now. We might have come to Islam as adults, but people who are far more elder than us has completed a lot more tasks for Islam. They didn`t let that stop them. We want the best for our generations of children. Just because we didn`t pray that much when we were younger, if we have come back to Islam, we would want the best for the next generation and wan`t to instill in them these qualities as early as possible.

 

Just because my father smoked cigarettes

Just because your father smoked cigarettes doesn`t automatically mean that you will also fall into the same. If your father did smoke and his health is deteriorating because of it, he wouldn`t want the same to happen to his son. So when he gives you guidance to prevent you from doing it, it is because he knows what it does to you. Often people who have had a un-islamic lifestyle and Allah guides them to Islam, are the best people to give naseeha, because they know how it is to grow up in the “hood”. We can`t throw back comments to them that you yourself didn`t manage to prevent yourself from it, so why should we. You should rather listen to the wisdom they have gained from quitting it. They know the inside story, you might not. Listen to them with an open heart.

 

If every generations had to start from scratch

People increase in experience by making mistakes. When we have learned from the mistakes that gave us some experience we would like to instill those values in our children from an early age so that they don`t fall into the same traps as we did. If every generation had to invent cars every time they need a vehicle, just because they want to do everything on their own, we might not have had any planes now. If every generation use the experience the generations before has gathered, we will develop that into something better as time passes. Every generation doesn`t have to start from scratch. We can try to build our life on others experience so that we can prosper and succeed as time passes. May Allah help us. Ameen

never give up, chessWe are all priceless people and our individuality must be nourished. Instead of trying to fit in, we should help and encourage children to dare to stand out in a crowd, from a young age. Dare to go against the crowd. Just because some norms have become ordinary doesn`t mean we can`t evaluate, adjust and make better norms. The society and we are gradually changing whether we want it or not. Even if we resist change, it won`t stop the earth from spinning in its course or the sun or the moon from shining. Maturity is to accept change. Not only accept it but be an active part in inspiring/motivating a change for the better. An hadith quoted by Prophet Muhammad pbuh said: That time Islam came it was introduced as something strange, because it differed from the society at that time. He pbuh goes on saying that it will return to something strange, so glad tidings to the strangers. Just because it has become a norm that it isn`t “normal” to i.e. pray regularly / not backbite / wear hijab etc, doesn`t mean we can`t go back to the Sunnah of our Prophet pbuh, renew our intentions and make a norm that we are going to try to achieve this and make it a norm in our life. Our Prophet pbuh has said that anyone who reminds people about forgotten Sunnah and is capable of motivating them to follow it will have the reward of all those who start following it, without it detracting the least from their reward. (Tirmidhi). Subhan Allah what an immense opportunity. Eventually it can become an ongoing charity that only increases and pass on for generations to come. We just need to start somewhere.

 

Everyone has to start from where they are.

Some knows much but follows little, other knows little but follows new things they learn. In the beginning when Allah guides us to Islam, either we are born muslim or convert to it, we start by focusing on the outward appearance. Proper salah, beard, hijab, pay zakat etc. When our zaahir / outwardly looks like a muslim, we can focus on the inwardly things that are invisible, baatin, like character, taqwa, intention etc. Just because a brother has beard or a sister has hijab doesn`t tell us whether they are mu`min one that does what is required in Islam and stays away from what`s prohibited and the extra voluntary Ibaadah as well or on the other side one that is just a muslim and believes in Islam but doesn`t follow all the rules. But to come anywhere near becoming a mu`min we need to start being a muslim. You know at the time of the Prophet pbuh and tabièn, people put more effort in improving their baatin, and had a not so good zaahir. They were the best of muslims. Nowadays people may have a beautiful zaahir but rather bad baatin because of bad character. Jealousy, envy, hatred, having bad thoughts about other, backbiting, spreading malicious gossip has become the norm rather than the exception. A good deed will still be a good deed, even if no one does it, a bad deed will still be a bad deed, even if everyone does  it. Instead of supporting eachother in doing bad deeds, we should rather try to motivate eachother to do good deeds. What is within our capacity.

 

Friends for eternity

It is important that we look at others who are better than us in deen, to motivate us also to improve ourselves. Our friends has an impact on our personality. If we always hang around with righteous people, their thoughts and behaviour will rub off on us too. If we always spend time with people who are worse than us in deen, we might learn things that will misguide us further away from Islam. Allah is the only One Who guides. If one person in a circle of friends becomes better, he/she should also try to change his/her surrounding. If that is not possible than at least don`t let his environment change him/her and try to seek more righteous company.

 

own faults
Make others feel hopeful rather than hopeless

Iman rises with doing good deeds and decreases by sinning. Because the nature of humans is that they sometime or other will fall into sin, it is important that we turn back to Allah and repent as soon as this happens. Make it a habit to not let our sin make us feel hopeless. We need to be feeling hopeful of Allah`s forgiveness. He forgives everything as long as we have pure intentions and make amends. We should also have a responsibility on others that we always make other feel hopeful of Allah`s Mercy. Or else we will be made answerable for coming in the way of someone whom wanted to turn back to Allah, but because of our negativity, strayed. Hate the sin, but not the sinner, as everyone can and will sin. An awesome quote says: just because someone sins different from us, shouldn`t make us feel better than them. Allah loves the humble sinner more than those people whom becomes proud after he/she has done a good deed. We must know that anything good we have done, it is because Allah guided us. He is the only one whom guides. So he wants us to do it. It should make us feel thankful/grateful, that he chose us to be amongst those people whom does some good deeds, be it prayer, charity or someone whom helps other or anything that leads to good. Allah inspires good things to us. It is not because of ourselves.

 

People find faults even where there are few

We should not be scared of showing the world that we are muslims, by having beard/ hijab etc or performing salah. Though it is also important that if we have started with something good, let it become a norm before we share it with others. The evil eye is for real. There are some people whom no matter what good things you do, they`ll always pinpoint the mistakes, rather than appreciating the good you do. Don`t mind others. We will get back from Allah. People criticize, judge, find faults even if there aren`t many. Allah hides flaws, forgives, helps through difficult times, regardless of amount of sins. As long as we purify our intentions once in a while, we will always turn back to Him to put our trust where it belongs. He is sufficient for us. When our intention is to please Allah, we won`t mind what people say. Some times they are on your side, other times they are against you. People change quicker than the weather. If we rely on Allah alone, we will not be disappointed. There is no better support in the universe than Him. We dare to stand out in a gathering, only when we know we are on the right path. May Allah guide and keep us on the right path always. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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