butterfly - tough times reveal true friendsEven if you keep on telling a lie a hundred times, it will still remain a lie. If the truth is left unsaid, it will still remain as the truth. People lie so much nowadays that it is seen as something normal, which you have to do in your everyday life, if you wish to survive in this cruel world. Of course some lies are allowed even in Islam. For example when our Prophet Muhammad pbuh and Abu Bakr Siddiq raa made hijrat to medina they met a lot of different people on the way. When some of them asked Abu Bakr raa who the person with him was, he said, “he is my guide”. Those people understood it as being a guide of the roads in this world. But in reality he raa meant guide in the meaning of the Hereafter, Paradise, to prosper etc. It was allowed because they were in danger and people would have told their enemies about their whereabouts.

A siddiqin and a liar can never be the same

A person whom tells a lot of lies, will not be seen as a siddiqin, the same way a person whom speaks the truth, will not be seen as a liar. It is told in an hadith that when the end will be near, lying will become so normal, that people will say that in that place and that town, that person whom lives there and there is truthful. Because there will be so few of them, they will be easy to recognize, and people will know who he/she is.

A real life story

In 1.grade at school, my mother bought me a pen that could write in seven colors. I could just click on the color I wanted and the writing would come in the color I chose. One day another classmate, stole my pen, and put her own pen in it`s place, which was almost like the one I had, but not the same thing. When I recognized my pen being in her stuff, I talked to the teacher. Obviously the teacher didn`t have any solid proof from any side, as it was my words against hers. I told mum about it and she said, we will buy you a new one. That day never came, but I realized one thing, no matter how well you know a friend, you can never be 100% sure that the same thing wouldn`t happen again. This lesson has followed me through my life, and I have understood, that not every person is going to be happy when you achieve something. Some people will try to put obstacles in your way, and some will envy you. Therefore when you are succesful, it is not always that smart to spread the word out. We need to understand whom are our well-wishers, and only share these kinds of victories with them. We also know that the evil eye is true, so sometimes we need to tone down a bit before sharing some good news.

Trust yourself

It is also important that we trust our instinct, and don`t fall in the trap other people put in our way. When we know the truth, even if the whole world is saying something else, we should be strong and bold enough to stand on our rights, and be confident. You know, the whole world can say that your “turban” is black/purple/blue/yellow, as long as you know that it`s white, you should disregard what others say, and not give their statements any value or attention. Or simply nod and smile. A lot of people say a lot of bad words about Islam and muslims, but we know we are on the right. That doesn`t mean that we should stay quiet when others say bad things about us. But is sure means that we should choose our battles wisely, and that sometimes it is better to just be quiet and smile. Sometimes people say something, and later on they have to eat their own words, because they are proven wrong. As a wise person once said : “Be good, but don`t waste time to prove it”.