Almost everyone are on fb now. If you’re not online in these ages than it is quite strange. So like there is a manual for almost every thing, there should also be a manual for how to update statuses on FB. A lot of times people try to be funny and end up being very rude. I have also burnt myself on that. Sometimes words can`t describe what you want to say, or you don`t find the right words to proclaim your message. And sometimes you just want to be funny.
Everyone has different values from each other, even if their brought up in the same family there will be differences. What I understand in a certain way, another person will understand differently, no matter what. When we write a status on FB we will never be guaranteed that we will not hurt another person. What we might say in a manner just to be funny, can very easily offend another person. I`m thinking that as muslims, we know that if we hurt someone`s feelings in this world, and are for any reason not able to apologize to them before our or their death. Those people will stand in the way of us going to Paradise. It is better to settle a matter in the dunya then the Hereafter, if you would like to make it to Paradise.
Sometimes we see different things in the community that we want to point out. We must be very careful that are status don`t end up known as backbiting. Checking our intentions and making them pure for the sake of wanting a better change in the society is a must. We must be careful not to belittle someone. Will what you are about to say, change the other person, make him/her think, or will it make him/her worse. No one I`ve ever heard about has changed a person by offending them. If your intention is to create a change, it can only be done through love and a positive way of proclaiming your message, without bringing others down. If you are doing dawa or Islah the wrong way, you could end up in making others feel hopeless and make their situation even worse. Don`t make others`feel hopeless, make them feel hopeful. Each and every has a very fragile heart. Even if they try to hide their feelings behind a happy face. Know for sure that what we say and do, does have an impact on the people you interact with, either we want it or not.
We need to evaluate what we say to make sure that it is with the right intention, and to make a positive change in others, without backbiting. If not, than our messages are better left unsaid.