People say that those whom doesn`t have friends is the most poor person that he/she can be. That is true but an even poorer person is the one whom is surrounded by friends who direct her/him to bad deeds. In my opinion it is better to be without any friend than being with the wrong friends that can misguide you.
Mostly young people are often naive and think that if some people want to get to know them, they`ll be the best buddies to them. Yet often, a lot of people make friends because they want something out of the other person. It could be info, it could be a want to hurt them, or it could be something else. We can try to be careful with whom we befriend. Especially on the internet. Even though you “know” the other person, you don`t know their intentions. Don`t be in a hurry to open up about everything that is happening in your life. A good way of telling if they are your true friends, if possible, is to test them to see how reliable they actually are. The worst thing anyone can experience is that someone you thought to be your best friend is actually your enemy. It doesn`t take too long before some people quarrel about something. If they aren`t that mature, they can easily hurt you by sharing your personal information with others to humiliate or ridicule you. Once something bad is shared on social media, everyone knows within hours. It is very hard to undo that. One test to check if someone is true to you, is how they behave when they are angry at you. If they are loyal to you then, they can be a friend to keep. An hadith from muslim says that Prophet Muhammad pbuh says we should not be to kind to our friends and to mean to our enemies, because our enemies can become our friends and our friends can become our enemies.
Although one thing is for sure, if you are on the deen and trying to practice Islam, you are not friendless. Those that love each other for the sake of Allah are those that will be joined under the Throne of Allah on the Day of Judgement. Love for Allah is selfless. You guide and help others not to gain something, but rather for the sake of Allah. If they stop you from doing something bad, it is because they don`t want you to end up in hell. And when they guide you to something good, it is because they want you to join them in Paradise. If and when you have people who love you like this, you will never feel alone or abandoned. No matter where on earth you live, you will feel like you’re a part of a brotherhood/sisterhood that wants you to succeed, not only in dunya but though especially in the akhirah. These friends are priceless. No amount of money, gold or silver can replace them. They are pure and sincere. You can`t find a better friend. Someone whom cares about where you are going to spend your eternity and guides you to achieve it, really cares about you. The hereafter is forever. Wouldn`t you want your home in a place that is forever to be pleasant for you? If you care about you soul, you will. We all know the life on this earth. The difficulties, depressions, misery. Therefore someone whom wants you to live in eternal bliss, can`t be evil. I have yet not found any better friends that those whom guide me to do good and stops me from doing evil. May Allah join us with those we love for the sake of Allah on Judgement Day and in Firdous, and may Allah raise our ranks as much as his rahma is endless. Ameen summa ameen.
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