You know when you fall from eleventh floor to ground zero a couple of times in the elevator, you learn that it is better to take the stairs, at least the risk of falling would be somewhat less there. We spend our whole life planning for that vacation, project, education, wedding or children. Most often we forget that we are not the best of planners, but Allah is. Often the circumstance changes and we have to make a new plan. It is actually because we are not in control of what is going to happen in our life. Allah is in control. He knows what we need and gives us what we need, not always what we want. Sometimes because He knows that what we want might be hurtful for us, either now or maybe sometime in the future. So He re-directs us to something else. Most probably years after we thought we`d die if we wouldn`t achieve something, we are actually living a more happy and contented life, without that thing or achievement.
He Gives Even To Those Whom Don`t Ask Him
No one is in control of what is going to happen to them, but we are in control of our reaction to it. Instead of cursing the fall and wailing, we should be content about what happens, and have faith that Allah knows what He is doing. He gives to does that doesn`t ask Him, how can we think that He wouldn`t give to those whom remember and prays to Him throughout their day. Sometimes most often we make a cup of tea or some food for some guests. In the meanwhile some other guests come before the ones it supposedly was made for. So they eat and drink the food instead. For example you have a cup of coffee, you take the cup to you mouth to take a sip. Suddenly you spill the coffee. It wasn`t in your destiny. Allah had written that you weren`t supposed to drink it.
Ask For The Shoe-lace
That is exactly why the alims quote our Prophet Muhammad in the famous hadith about the shoelace. Where, Mother of the Ummah Aisha raa was told from the her husband pbuh, if you don`t ask Allah for that shoelace you wanted, and he doesn`t make a decree about the fact that you are going to have it, no power in the universe can give you that shoe-lace. So instead of putting the power in your own hands. Put it to the one who can, Allah. Have faith in Him and His Decisions. If and when you want something, pray to Allah for it and work to achieve it. If it is decreed by Allah, no one can take it away from you, and if it isn`t decreed for you nothing can make it yours. If you get what you want, be happy, and if you don`t get what you want, be happier because than Allah has something better in store for you. What you and everyone else need to do is to show some patience and have trust in His Giving. We are not in charge here, Only Allah is. And He knows what He is doing, but we don`t. Surrender to the will of Allah. May Allah help and preserve each and every person. And remember supplication can change qadar / destiny.