The upbringing of girls and boys cannot be alike. I still see a lot of mistakes parents are guilty of, in raising their children. One of the most noticable one is teaching them respect.
Even though times have changed but the mindset that is taught to boys hasn`t changed. The majority of boys and even men these days think to be nothing wrong in behaving rudely to other girls they aren`t related to. They wouldn`t tolerate the same for their own sisters. If parents and especially the father has a solid muslim upbringing, he would try to teach the same values to his son. The main thing here is that every young son should be taught to respect women regardless of how they are dressed, how they behave and who they are with. Often muslim brothers doesn`t find anything wrong in insulting another girl because of her appearance and the other points mentioned before. The majority of muslims living in the West are educated to a certain degree, but they lack such manners that would weigh heavier on their scale on Judgment Day. We have no right to look down on other people no matter what state they are in. Maybe they some time would become more guided than us. It is a matter of guidance and that is not in our hands. Backbiting or insulting them would not better the situation. Though one thing is for sure, if we don`t apologize to them in our life, we are going to lose in the Hereafter when our good deeds will be given to them till they forgive us, IF they forgive us, or else we will have to bear their bad deeds.
If you have made such a mistake, repent and make amends, apologize if possible or at least pray this dua :
“Allahumma fa`ayyuma mu`minin sababtuhu faj`al thaalika lahu qurbatan ilayka yawmal-qiyaamati”.
“O Allah, whomever of the believers i have abused, give him the reward of a sacrificial slaughter for it on the Day of Resurrection”.
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May Allah give us good manners. Ameen.