The wonderful thing about Islam is that when oneself starts being more practising you want other to also feel the joy of being a good muslim as well, so you share your stories and your naseeha`s to other in hope that they also find the blessings of being a good muslim. I mean who doesn`t want to get the reward for that? Though there is something that can go very wrong sometimes. I will talk about that here.
Giving naseeha to others isn`t something bad, as long as one has oneself`s niyah in check. Having a personal agenda when giving the naseeha won`t give you any reward at all. First of all you have to be a dai for Allah not for anyone else. Or for making others feel that they are worse than others. I have seen and experienced that some people want to bring out the faults of others and say some bad things about others, and hide behind the saying, “just giving naseeha, don`t take it personal”. They are actually digging their own grave if they don`t have the right intention behind the deed.
Other times some people say things to others in a way that agitates others. I guess if you really want to help others, first have good manners so you say things in the best way so you don`t hurt other people’s feelings by being rude. Lets put it this way. If you know some people have som bad habits, by saying to them you know you have that and that bad habit, you know, that won`t change them. It would rather agitate them and could, may Allah forbid, make them even worse. So instead try to be polite and instead of just finger-pointing, try your best to come with solutions first.
I have stopped following some people because instead of coming up with solution, they finger point something bad about others, like they have a personal agenda. I don`t think they know the right ways of being a dai or giving naseeha.
I hope that the dai`s out there won`t see this as a personal attack, but rather some views coming from a sister in Islam. Give naseeha in the best manner with the best intention and the best way ever, with solutions to the issue, then know that what you say will make an impact on other people. And first of all become a dai for Allah`s sake not for anyone else. May Allah reward every dai out there that is doing excellent work. May we learn and apply what we are taught from them and may Allah give us all Paradise in return for it, ameen summa ameen.