Once in a while I think in the direction that what makes a person mature? Some people matures before others? Is it correct to say that those who take more time in maturing have a better character than those that suddenly change their behaviour?
I`m thinking about behaviour. Sometimes we see people who suddenly change their attitude towards Islam. A complete change from an un-Islamic approach to a more Islamic lifestyle. What is better? To change gradually and incorporate new ways of living or to change everything at once? I`ve seen the fact that sometimes it is better to gradually change your lifestyle. The change that comes gradually will actually also last if you are persistent in doing those good deeds.
The Prophet (pbuh) has also said that the most beloved deed to Allah is that which is done persistently even if the deed is little. An example could be that instead of reading 100 nawafil salah one day and not read any salah the day after because of tiredness, it is better to improve oneself in a sence that one does a deed that one can do everyday or every other day.
I have seen this in a lot of people. They gradually become more aware of Islam and change their behaviour. Of course one has to start one place, right? And from there on they start with the prayer, than with the Islamic look like hijab/beard. When this is accomplished they start with khusho in salah and try to improve the quality of their ibaadah, rather than the quantity. Ma Sha Allah this kind of change will in sha Allah bear it`s fruit one day or another in the future, in sha Allah.
It does depend on what kind of people one spend time with. If you have friends that reads salah and goes to the mosque or read the Quran with translation, their lifestyle will rub over on you too. The people you hang around with does have an effect on your character. Make sure that you do yourself a favour instead of going a step back, walk a step forward and try to improve your company.
Most of all it all starts with your own conviction that you want to change for the better. Your attitude decides what you want to do with your life. If you make your mind that you will in sha Allah work for Jannah, than you will try to improve yourself. Whatever the circumstance may be or your surroundings may be, you will work hard for your goal. Make up your mind today that you want to go a place where you will always be happy, a place where all your wishes will come true, a place where you will dwell in joy with all your loved ones.
When you have built yourself strong in accordance with the Islamic values, try to also change your surroundings. We have to start some place. Today is a new day, think it and make it happen, In sha Allah, ameen summa ameen.
May Allah give us guidance in becoming His pious worshippers, may we achieve ihsan in our ibaadah and all deeds, may He help us in working for our eternal abode where we in sha Allah will meet him and see His Face and achieve every other happiness that lies in jannah, in sha Allah.