I have a long way to go. I haven`t come to my goal yet, but I have started the journey. The journey that could lead me to Jannah, if I work on myself and follow what is right, In sha Allah, ameen. I started using the hijab in march 2009. It was my own free will to start with it and no one forced me into it. I had thought about starting with hijab for ages but different things like not having the right clothes and stuff came in the way. My choice was not influences by anyone at home or by any friend, it was my own choice, that I thought was right for me.
Alhamdolillah, as the years have gone, I have eventually stopped with a lot of things that are un-islamic. Like plucking eyebrows, wearing right hijab without the camel-hump-style, to not wear perfume where non-mehram is, and stuff like that. My point is that all these things I stopped doing was not anyone who pressurized me to do, it was my own decision and made from learning more about Islam. Learning about why it was wrong to do these things.
I guess, what the politicians today don`t know is that hijab is our sisters own choice. No one forces it on us. If we want to protect ourselves from the eyes of men, than this would be the correct way. To hide ourselves. The hijab doesn`t hide our opinion or what`s in our head it protects us from other people whom unwilling are screening us when we are outside our homes. Different things/creatures in this world is in hijab. For instance the earth has an ozone layer around it to protect it, we humans and animals have skin over our body to keep the blood inside our beings, in vegetables and fruits everything has a shell. Most often we peel the skin of the fruits we eat, or make sure that its intact before we eat it. Those things “hijab” is also here to protect it from it`s surroundings, so why shouldn`t we women have that right, when the hijab is found everywhere?
Some people in my own family have also been a bit against me using a jilbab/Abayah/Jubbah at work. But Alhamdolillah that hasn`t stopped me from doing what I was determined to do. Of course I have had my periods when I stopped using the Jilbab and times when I wanted to but didn`t. But lately I have been able to make up my mind that if I don`t use it, it could be downfall for me. A little time ago, I read a status from an islamic page that talked about Hijab for women and men. There it was written that if you are a Fitnah/trial for other boys or men, than beware because the day you get married, your husband or your children (boys) will experience fitnah/trial from other girls. And the same way around. If you as being a man/boy are a fitnah/trial for other women/girls, than after you marry your wife would experience fitnah/trials from her surroundings. Like a karma thing. This scared the shit out of me, and still does. So I`m trying to do my best to not be a cause of fitnah for others, in sha Allah. It`s not an easy task, though I guess it`s not impossible either. But I`m trying. May Allah help me and the whole Ummah to not be any cause of fitnah/trial for each other in any way, ameen summa ameen.
I want to initially start with niqab, but need more guidance from above and support to become a niqabi sister. May Allah make it easy for me, and for every sister of this Ummah, in sha Allah.
This ayat should be supplicated to Allah, all the time in sha Allah, in the Quran Surah Baqarah ayat 286 Allah says:
“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” (Quran 2:286)
If some few people force their children to wear hijab, it does not mean that all are the same. If that is the case with a few family`s, something should get done to hinder those from forcing their children, but a ban for all is not the way to go. Mostly of us muslim women has used their own free will to start wearing hijab, as I know. For instance, if some people drive like crazy and crash their car, does not mean that we should not let anyone drive their cars. No. The small amount of people whom can`t respect the driving laws should be given a sanction for it. Though we can`t ban everyone from driving as long as they don`t break any driving-rules or regulations.
When women want to go with a mini skirt or with less clothes they have the right to do so, if they have the right to walk with revealing clothes where their skin can be seen, why can`t I have the right to walk with my skin hidden with my hijab or niqab? This is double standards, the non-muslims have rights that I don`t just because their not muslims? The media and people in general is afraid of Islam because it is increasing in number. That is why they try to paint the wrong picture of Islam in the media. It is our responsibility as muslims to sort out the misunderstandings so that people can see what real Islam is.
To conclude I would say that politicians doesn`t have enough information about the muslim women, why they start wearing the hijab. Mainly women are not forced into it, as they want to protect themselves from strangers eyes. It is every muslim girl/women`s right to make their own choice about it, without being forced from either sides, whether they want to use it, or whether they don`t want to use it.
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That is good point. For the islam allah protect our sisters. From damage of kufar(unislamic people)
Thank you sister, you really make me feel that there is still some women that can change the negative picture that a lot of people believe about Islam. I appreciate your Idea and I hope politicians will gonna understand this.