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moralens voktere, vekt, etikk, ethics, right, wrongHomofili er satt på dagsordenen. Noen muslimer er imot, andre er mer åpne for at enhver må ha rett til å praktisere det de selv ønsker. Mange ikke-muslimer stiller seg uforstående til hvorfor koranen sier at homofili skal straffes med dødsstraff. Uten at jeg selv vil gå ut og drepe en som praktiserer homofili, forstår jeg noe av Allah`s hikmah (wisdom) bak dette. Jeg skal prøve å forklare det her.

Både kristne og muslimer har forbud mot homofili i sin religion.

For at menneskeligheten skal få reprodusere seg, trenger man en mann og en kvinne. To personer av samme kjønn kan ikke skape et barn. En gang for flere år siden møtte jeg en mor med sin datter i en butikk. Når jeg så de i kø ved kassen, så jeg at datteren hadde tydelige kutt-merker på begge armene. Det virket ikke som at hun ønsket å skjule det heller, siden hun hadde ganske korte armer på t-shorten sin. Det finnes mennesker som blir veldig dypt deprimert. For noen blir det et større problem, da de starter med selvskading. Denne personen var en av de. Hun hadde kuttet seg flere ganger på begge armene. Tydelig tegn på røde arr. Ofte når man ser et menneske, er det ikke så lett å se om de har noen form for sykdom. Alle sykdomstilfeller planter seg ikke i det fysiske. Når et menneske er så deprimert at det blir psykisk syk, og begynner med selvskading, trår myndighetene inn og tar dette mennesket inn i en lukket avdeling på et sykehus, og prøver å kurere deg fra det som vi kaller en sykdom. Han/hun ønsker å skade seg selv, vi har bevis. Når to mennesker av samme kjønn ønsker å gå inn i et samliv, så ønsker de også å skade seg selv. Ved å gå inn i et samliv av samme kjønn, vil et menneske skade sin sjel, sitt hjerte og sin kropp. Dette er tegn på selvskading av spirtuell karakter. Islam går så langt at de ikke bare tenker på vår fysiske og psykiske helse, men Islam tenker også på vår spirituelle helse. Tross denne kroppen vi lever i, vil kanskje leve i 90 år, men vår sjel vil leve evig. Derfor er Islam opptatt av hvor vår sjel skal leve sitt evige liv.

Vi vet at sykdommer er smittsomme

Sykehus er her for å helbrede folk fra sine sykdommer og lignende. På samme måte, kan man si at vaner og kvaliteter også smitter over på andre mennesker, de man omgås mest. På både godt og vondt. Islam er klar over mennesker blir påvirket av andres vaner og kvaliteter. Det er derfor det ofte presiseres at vi må omgås mennesker som har gode mennesker, slik at vi slipper å internalisere en dårlig vane / norm / kvalitet. Dersom et narkotisk middel blir legalisert, vil det øke bruken av det middelet. Dersom en dårlig, vane / kvalitet blir legalisert, vil det øke blant mennesker i det samfunnet. Dersom en immoralsk handlig blir legalisert, vil det øke i det samfunnet. Islam ønsker ikke at et menneske skal bli sykt. Islam ønsker at en sykdom ikke skal spre seg i samfunnet. Dersom en person har en sykdom som det er smittefarlig, vil han inn på et lukket rom, hvor legene gir han anti-middel mot sykdommen. Han/hun får ikke gå ut av rommet før den sykdommen er kurert. De legene, sykepleierne som besøker han må ha på seg spesiel type tøy slik at de ikke blir smittet. Når den syke person har fulført sin kur, og kurert kan han/hun få gå ut av det lukkede rommet.

Følelser er veldig skiftende

Den ene dagen er vi forelsket i en person, to uker senere er vi ikke forelsket i samme person. 1 år etterpå er vi forselsket i en annen person. Bare siden vi er føler at vi vil være i hjemmet til en vi liker, er det ikke slik at det er greit, bare fordi vi føler det. Den andre personer ønsker kanskje ikke å ha oss på besøk i det hele tatt. Kanskje han/hun misliker oss, og vil ikke ha noe med oss å gjøre. Vi kan ikke gjøre som vi føler bare fordi at da får vi viljen vår. Dersom det ikke hadde vært noen regler, og alle kunne gjøre som de øsnket, hadde det vært tydelig kaos overalt. Reglene som blir lagd i et samfunn, blir lagd for å beskytte menneskene i samfunnet. Totalt anarki, der alle gjør det de vil, vil folk drepe hvem de vil pga sykelig sjalusi, eller uvennskap, uten å måtte stå til ansvar ovefor en domstol. Nesten som en borgerkrig hvor alle er mot alle. Vi kan ikke si “har du lyst har du lov”. Tenk om jeg har lyst til å drepe et annet menneske? Er det greit siden jeg har lyst til det? Tenk om jeg ønsker å ta over en slektnings eiendom bare fordi jeg har lyst på mer eiendom. Er det greit, siden jeg har lyst til det? Noen ganger så blir jeg sint på en venn, er det greit at jeg gir han/hun en ørefik bare fordi jeg har lyst til det? Selvfølgelig kan man ha lyst til mye, men vi utfører det ikke, siden det ikke er en akseptert norm. Det er ikke love å drepe andre mennesker, ta over andres eiendom, eller gi ørefik til andre. 

Foreldrene bestemmer

Når foreldrene våre har klare begrensninger på når vi må ut og inn, legge oss, tv tid, internett tid, og hvem vi omgås, hva vi gjør og lignende, kan vi til tider være uenig med de reglene de har satt. “Mamma er så streng”, kan en tenåringsjente si, når hun må komme hjem tidlig. Selv om tenåringene mener at foreldrene er superstrenge til tider, så er de fleste klar over at deres foreldre er glad i dem. Vi kan sammenligne dette med vår skaper Allah (Gud). Allah elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Bare for å sammenligne. Uansett hvor sint en mor er på sin datter, vil hun aldri be henne gjøre noe som er dårlig for henne. De kan være uenige om reglene men vi alle vet at en mor elsker sitt barn mer enn noe. På samme måte, så er det med vår skaper, Han elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Når han har lagd regler for oss, er det av pure kjærlighet for oss. En bil kan ikke reparere en annen bil. Bare ingeniøren som designet bilen og han som lagde den, kan reparere bilen. Skaperen av mennesket er Allah (Gud). Siden Han har skapt oss, vet han best hvordan maskineriet vårt fungerer best. Hva det må unngå for å oppnå mye bra og hvilket miljø vi vokser best i. Når han lager regler for oss og ønsker å stoppe oss fra immoralske handlinger, er det av pure kjærlighet. Han ønsker ikke at vi skal destruere vår sjel og vårt hjerte. Derfor for å hjelpe oss å finne veien tilbake til Han, har Han sendt oss koranen. Det er en handling av ren barmhjertighet overfor oss. Så sender han oss denne veiledningshefte (brukerguide – koranen) via en som har perfektuert alt som står i den. Han viser oss via Profeten Muhammads (fred være med han) liv at det er mulig at et menneske kan følge denne veiledningen.

Regler og retningslinjer hindrer kaos

Ikke bare for kroppen og psyken, men også for sjelen. Ellers kan det henne at den blir korrupt. Dersom det skjer vil vi ikke ende på et fint sted etter døden for evigheten. Siden Allah har skapt oss, vet han best hva som er bra for oss og hva vi trenger, samt hva som kan være årsaken til at vi blir korrupte. Måtte Allah gjøre det enkelt for oss å forstå dette budskapet. Aameen.

israel, usa, world, president, war crimes cartoon gaza under attack israel carlos-latuffI get so amazed by some people when they say that they love a country/ethnicity etc. I know love is blinding, but most people do take this quite literally. For instance when your son is misbehaving in any way. You would, out of love as a parent, try to help him behave the right way. No parent would say, “Oh, I love my son so much, that I`ll let him do whatever he does, because I don`t want him to get hurt/sad”. That doesn`t make any sense. A parent when they see his son trying to catch “fire”, would stop him, so he wouldn`t get burned. Lets replace the little kid/son/brother with the name of Israel, and lets replace the name of parent/big brother with U.S. Now Israel is killing innocent civilians in Palestine, taking over their country. Some real mean stuff. The whole world knows their atrocities. Still father/big brother U.S. is backing him up. “Do whatever you want son. I`ll prevent you from falling or being jailed”, U.S. says. The whole world can see that and admit that most of what the Israelis are doing are wrong. Despite this, I know people whom praise Israel, like they can`t see their war-crimes.

Imagine Your Son Is Misbehaving At School

He is bugging some other kids. You wouldn`t, if you were a good decent parent, cheer him for doing this. I`m sure parents with good values, would stop their child from hurting others. Imagine, if you actually praised him for bullying some class-mates. What do you think would happen to your son? His confidence would increase, and he might do more and meaner stuff. Why? Because your backing him up. If you keep backing up your son, when he does something wrong, it will motivate him to keep on doing it and probably increase him in his wrongdoing. If you don`t want your child to eventually be criticized by the principal or get expelled, most parents, would try to use some incentives to help him stop from misbehaving at school. So you see when son Israel know that father/big brother U.S. has got his back no matter how much wrong he does to bullied Palestine, he won`t stop.

israel vs palestineThis Makes Me Angered And Sad

When other people whom supposedly love Israel, praise the state, despite the wrong decisions it has made, and how many war crimes it is involved in. How can you close your eyes to the fact that even if Israel can be doing 1% right, he is still doing 99% wrong. By cheering him up, just because you generally love Israel, because of it`s holy-ness, is wrong. Yes the land is holy, and muslims also believe that Judaism came before christianity and then Islam came after that. But we can`t stand here and say to someone who just because your message at that time was gods message, I agree with what you are doing now. That doesn`t make any sense. Besides. If you saw jews as your friends, you would tell him when his wrong. Even if that hurt him. You wouldn`t cheer on your friends when they make mistakes, big mistakes, like killing people. If you have the right values, you would make him go to the police and take the sentence the court judges. Because your friend killed another person. It`s not allowed. Just because your friend was born on holy land doesn`t make himself holy. Our Prophet pbuh said too his daughter Fatima raa, your lineage would not make you go to Paradise, so work on doing good deeds. That is the only way of going to Paradise. He said that to his own daughter. Ma sha Allah, that is Islam. Everyone has to pay for their own bad deeds, and will be rewarded individually for their good deeds. If they want to prosper, they will work on this. There is no shortcuts to success, each and every has to take the stairs, one step at a time. If you`re a friend of jews and Israel, a “real” friend, you would stop him from doing wrong. It`s that simple. And if the jews and the state Israel, doesn`t stop it`s war-crimes. It will have a bad end. Maybe in this world, but most certainly in the hereafter, when their crimes will be judged before Allah. They most certainly will have to pay for it. It`s not only about saving your butt in this world. The most important point is whether you are saving your or others butt in the next world, hereafter, when it really will matter. Because the outcome will decide your faith for eternity. May Allah open our eyes, before we become guilty in the same crime, because we didn`t put any effort in stopping it. Aameen.

Hvis det ikke er lov med klaps på rompa, klyping i øret og det å ta et barn hardt i armen, hvilke sanksjoner kan foreldre iverksette for å oppdra bra barn? Vi ser jo at dagens barn ofte er ganske bortskjemte og uoppdragne. 
Spørsmålet er om de sanksjoner barnevernet mener vi bør bruke, faktisk virker? Det finnes jo et stort spekter innenfor barnets personlighet. Alle barn kan ikke oppdras på lik måte. Noen barn er vanskeligere enn andre barn. Vil for “snille” sanskjoner gi noe effekt i oppdragelsen? 

Mange synes at barnevernets regler ift oppdragelse er for strenge og urimelige og noe av årsaken til at barna blir “ute av kontroll”. 

Det er stor forskjell mellom å slå et barn sanseløst til det blør/får blåveis e.l og en ørefik eller klyp i armen for at de skal oppføre seg i en gitt situasjon. Hvordan er barna i norge idag? Tar myndighetene for stor kontroll over oppdragelsen? Tåler staten for lite? Er det forskjell på hvordan barna blir ift de som aldri har blitt slått og de som får et klyp/ørefik i ny og ne. 

Jeg tror at av de som i barndommen har opplevd et klyp/ørefik/holde armen hardt e.l idag som voksne, føler at de har hatt godt av det. Ift de som ikke har fått slike sanskjoner. Jeg tror de er kommet bedre ut av en slik oppdragelse. Barn som blir oppdratt for “snilt” blir ikke enklere å ha med å gjøre når de blir tenåringer og voksne. 

Dersom vi ønsker en viss kvalitet/verdibygging i barna våre, synes jeg det er lurt om det er lov med visse type enkle sanksjoner.

brother for sale.When we go through something painful that happens to ourselves it is painful and hurting. Sometimes it`s so tough to cope with that we really go ten feet under the floor. I`ve talked about this a few times before. Parents know how this feels like. Imagine when your child is in pain/hurt or any sickness. I can imagine parents must feel that their child is like a part of them, and extended version of their heart. Imagine when he/she is in pain and you are not able to remove it. So we pray and pray. We ask everyone we know for help. Some join us and help, other ignore. It is out of our hands. Only the All-Healing can help us. For Allah nothing is impossible.

Job With The Best Paid Wages – Love

Bringing children into this world that is becoming more and more dangerous and difficult to live in, is a dary job. I`m sure it is worth it. May Allah help parents learn good methods to give a healthy upbringing to their children. And give righteous children to everyone. May Allah give all families good health and aafia and barakah in their life, so they can share each others joys and happiness, and comfort each other in difficult times and give them constant increase in imaan and guidance so they can become resourceful for the community, muslims and non-muslims, and a ongoing-charity for their parent til the end of time. Allah, remove all pain and suffering. Aameen.

islamic school necessaryThe muslims that migrated to Britain must have been different from the muslims that migrated to Norway. Although they are a few generations more than us. They have also succeeded much more in many ways. For example. The halal food industry is really huge there. Certified halal food is easy available in food stores and in restaurants. They have managed to build popular islamic schools that are doing great for the children’s islamic values as well as education in West. It seems to me that the muslims in britain take Islam more seriously than what muslims in Norway have done.

The Case In Norway

Here in Norway, most restaurant’s have asian cuisine, but only a few have certified halal. Is it that the muslims doesn`t demand halal. Do they not take it that seriously? What we eat has an effect on our behaviour. Muslim parents are worried about the islamic education of their children. Youth are having adaab issues. Yet we are not able to build an islamic school because of disunity and not able to find a common ground within the four schools of law. Practising muslims in Norway are really struggling. May Allah make it easy for us. And help us find solutions. Aameen. The ones that will lose is the coming generations here. When we are not doing enough for them to stay as muslims for the rest of their lives as well as live as practising muslim in norwegian communities.

Why Is Britain Ahead Of Us?

One reason can be that since the generations of muslims in Britain are ahead of us, their own culture and language is fading away. They are giving their religion more precedence instead of culture or language. Most of teens and children don’t talk their mother tongue. They communicate fluently in english at school and home. I don’t think I will be exaggerating if I also dare say, that most probably the parents of the teens and children has also left their mother tongue. One of the biggest minus points for a islamic school in Norway, is the fear of ghetto. When children and teen talk their mother tongue with class-mates at school, they will not be able to learn norwegian as fluently as they will need, later in life. Which can create difficulties for them when searching for job etc.

Media Is Not Accurate

The talk about Muslim schools in Norway create a lot of bad vibes in the media. They want to control the curriculum more because of their negative ideas about our religion. They stir up small issues, and make them look dangerous for the community. The population of Norway is 5,2 million. (Key figures from SSB) 848 200 of the total are immigrants. Of these immigrants 55 % are European, 28% are Asians, 12 % are African and 3% are South American. 149 600 of the immigrants are from the second generation. When we understand that we are talking about a group of people who are only 16.3% og the population, we easily can put it into perspective. Before we talk about that muslims are taking over Norway, we don`t know how many of the 16.3% of the immigrants are muslims. Or need i say practicing muslim. Media knows how to blow some issue out of its proportion as it’s a huge problem. When in fact the opposite is more accurate. It becomes a huge discussion and the government have made laws that are making it even more difficult for us. They know we are not able to perform at the same level as them, because we are not as educated in the rules and regulations as the native Norwegians are. But of course a few more generations and that will change. But we can’t dare to wait for long. One youth leaving our religion is one too much. We can’t risk that. We need to take action. If we want our children to be on-going charity for us after we are gone, we have no time to waste. Better prepare before were too late. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

Sisterhood, brotherhood, world, earth, united, care jpgMost people with a caring nature and good values, would happily give a helping hand to anyone in difficulty, even if they wouldn`t personally know who the other person is. Sometimes without even thinking of it having any consequence for themselves in the future.

Are You Careful Who You Help?

As time has become more rough and many people are in difficulties nowadays, many people with good intentions of helping others, are experiencing corruption in many cases. Many examples are known from the media, were good and caring people help others in need and are in return either hurt or somehow criminals steal their belongings. Leaving them in worse case, than if they would`ve not cared and just walked away, like they didn`t see that someone needed help. Since the rise of corruption is at its peak, many good people are now very aware of the fact that they have to be careful who they trust and help. Giving a helpful hand, is not the same as for a few years ago. The consequence is of course that people who are entitled of help, doesn`t get any help they need. Because we don`t know if they are true/sincere. So we choose to do a background check before we send any money or give charity through any company. We don`t always know if the money is truly being utilized where it was sent for.

Ulterior Motives For Helpfulness

When our parents bring us to life in this world. They do not bring us in order to make us dependent of them. Most parents want us to be able to live a good life and be independent. If we are too dependent of them, one day when they no more, we would have difficulty adapting to this. Their goal is to raise children who can contribute positively to the community, muslims and non-muslims. If a police-woman sees a man wanting to take suicide from a bridge, and she manages to talk him out of it, believing that he has a purpose in life, even though it looks a bit dark right now, doesn`t mean that the police-woman had ulterior motives for being helpful. It is her duty. So when some people help other people, because of their softheartedness, believe in the good in them. Most of us are just practising the life of our Prophet pbuh. We can`t start spinning on the idea that she saved him, because she wants to marry him or would want some money in return for being helpful.

politenessWe Want Humanity To Win

Good-natured people are helping. Although so many countries are facing severe trials. Lets not be the reason why people stop believing in goodness. A life is precious no matter whose it is. To save a life is like saving humankind, and to take a life, is like killing mankind. -Quran 5:32. Allah sees and knows those who do good. Don`t come in the way of others success. If someone has helped you through a difficult situation, just supplicating for them when you pray, would be sufficient for you to repay the favour. You don`t have to be a part of their life for it. It so happens often that when someone from the opposite gender helps us, we think they help us because they love us etc. It is important that we regain believe in kindness. Not always mistaking kindness /politeness for flirtation/love. Bottom line, kind people with a sound heart and good intentions help others out of difficulty. That`s it. Nothing more. Don`t expect or put so much in a nice gesture that because of this, people stop doing good deeds. If we get the idea that a good gesture will backfire, goodness will decrease. People falling on a sidewalk, where thousands are walking, won`t be helped by anyone. We don`t want that kind of world? We want a safe world where people help each other. No matter if anyone is rich or poor, just because we want humanity to win. If people fear for their family’s security when they help other people, they might stop helping other people in need. We don`t want such a society. Very few people are so un-selfish that they dare to risk their loved ones lives in order to save someone they barely know. Our a priority is our family. May Allah make it easy for us to practice kindness without it backfiring. Aameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

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