Nowadays we often see that a lot of people are only nice to those who are nice to them. The minute someone says something harsh or even if they have a point, they easily remove them from their list of friends. I am such a person that I often give a lot of people multiple chances, in case they have changed. Most of the times I realize that we are all different. Everyone has something good and bad in them. We need to focus on the good, if we can, try to motivate others to become even better. There will always be room for improvements in us, no matter how we are, we can strive to become better in it. We need to cultivate good values and try to let ourselves be inspired to become better.
Our Prophet pbuh had a very good nature. Once some of his companions were discussing about whom he loved the most. The Prophet pbuh treated him in such a manner that he was sure that he was the most beloved to him, of his companions. The companion wanted the Prophet pbuh to say this. So he went to his pbuh`s home and asked a general question to the Prophet pbuh, although he thought he knew what the answer would be.
Prophet Muhammad pbuh said that he loved Aisha raa the most. The companion didn`t give up. So he asked the Prophet pbuh again, so he pbuh said, Abu bakr Siddiq raa. He still kept on asking, and Muhammad pbuh kept telling name of other companions.
This is how Prophet Muhammad pbuh treated people in such a good manner, that they thought it was because he pbuh loved a them a lot. He was kind to people who were rude to him. Although one woman threw garbage on him pbuh every time he pbuh passed by her home, he pbuh visited she didn`t come one day, because he pbuh got worried about her health. He pbuh found out that she was ill. She accepted Islam, because of these beautiful manners. He taught us to strengthen the bond with those who cut them off. He forgave the woman who mutilated a close relative of his, because at that time she hated Islam, she accepted Islam.
Being forgiving is so rare in our society. If someone does something un-kind to some people, they often break all contact for years. May Allah strengthen the sisterhood and brotherhood of this Ummah, and help us apply his pbuh`s sunnah in our life. Of course forgiving someone doesn`t mean it automatically will be like before the fight. It means that you let go of all that hurt you, and move on. You don`t have to be un-kind back. Just decide that people are different. Some people can`t be friends, because they don`t go that well together.