Parda karna mein auraton ki zeenat hain. Hijab is the beauty of muslim woman. The beauty of woman lies in their pious character and not in their outer appearance. Their body will most probably fade and crumble as the years pass by. Though the character of a woman will only increase her in beauty as the years pass by.
Of course people get attracted to those that are beautiful. But that attraction does not last for a long time if the same person is ill-mannered. A look at a beautiful woman might catch your attention for a moment, but a beautiful character that is what catches the heart.
As one grows older one understands that beauty is not as important as character and good manners are. The people with good manners are the ones that are highly respected. People like them regardless of which faith they themselves have.
Talking to girls and woman reading this, I would like to say, if he doesn`t like you for what is in your heart and your personality he would never stay by your side as times go by. That person would only fall for the next woman who looks more beautiful than you. Isn`t it better to marry someone who wants to marry you because of your character and your religion than because of your looks. It is your character your husband has to live with throughout the years.
When that is said, you will understand where I`m heading. When your beauty is not what attracts the right guy, why not hide it for the one and only in your life. The muslim perspective is that we woman create fitnah when we step out of our homes be it at school, work or out shopping. If we aren`t dressed properly we are properly viewed by other men we don`t even know who are. Instead of showing our beauty to every person passing by us, we should try to wear proper hijab so that our beauty is protected from different glances and stares from the opposite gender.
When we maintain the correct hijab, and not the i-am-a-fashion-hijabi than we will be able to minimize attention and be able to achieve blessings from Allah for not creating fitna. It is our responsibility as muslim woman.
When our brothers and our mehrams tell us to wear proper clothes we should respect the kind of gheerah (protective jealousy ) they have for us. They know how the mens thoughts work and they don`t want anything to happen to us.
Remember sister, when you step out of the house, the protection you had around you in you home isn`t there. When we minimize the fitna we could cause, we would be able to please our Creator.
One thing I read on the internet that made me work on completing my hijab is that if we cause fitna for other men, then other woman will cause fitna for the men in our lives, be it brother, husband or son. That line I read woke me up and scared me so much. I don`t want that to happen so I try to focus on completing my hijab, the correct way.
It is also important that we don`t look down on other woman who don`t wear hijab. It took me years to perfect my hijab and it still needs work. Allah guided me but my hijab isn`t perfect. So if some other women you know is not there yet, ask Allah for them to also see the beauty in wearing hijab, and protecting themselves and being the muslimah our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would be proud of having in his Ummah. In sha Allah, ameen.
Hijab is not only a scarf on our head it is the way we are totally hidden not wrapped. It is also the way we talk, and carry ourselves as we walk, trying to not get too much attention as we are outside our safe zone at home. We need to focus on all these aspects when we try to perfect our hijab.
The Prophet has said that woman will be the of the inhabitant of hell. So it is important that we don`t lose hope in each other and keep on giving islah and dawa so that more woman/girls can prosper and achieve Jannah, In sha Allah, ameen.
No one is perfect. We just need to ask for guidance from above and work on ourselves. That is the only way. May Allah help us in perfecting our hijab and keeping us well hidden like a pearl and keep us steadfast on the deen and keep guiding us to do right give dawah/islah in the best possible way in sha Allah, ameen summa ameen. Remember the whole Ummah in your prayers in sha Allah ameen.