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For a little time now when I`m outside and I see muslim girls and women without a hijab, I sort of think in my head that wouldn`t it be nice if she also wore hijab. There are a lot of muslim women whom don`t use hijab. I even think like that when I see members from my own family. Wouldn`t it be wonderful if the girls and women out there could see the beauty in wearing hijab? To not let any other person see them without the headscarf. I think most of the women wants to wear hijab but some things prevent them from starting. Like if they will get a proper rishta or if they will lose their friends or if their surroundings would think that they have become too strict in everything so they might lose their friendships.
These people are just unaware of the fact that what should make a difference in their life is not what other people might say, nobody can please each and every person in this world. Some people are always going to be displeased with what you do as some others are going to be pleased with what you do, because we people have different mindsets. What should actually matter for every Muslimah is the fact that what their Lord, Allah says about the matter because ultimately it is to Him you are going back after your life here on the earth. The rules are simple, follow Allah’s laws and He will be happy, not follow and He will become angry. If we try our out most to live our life’s according to Islam we would become more satisfied about ourselves as well, as we are trying to do our best.
The best friendships are those whom guide you to a better path and righteousness. If one thinks of losing ones friends think if Allah is with you, you don`t need any other on you side and if Allah Subhanwuatalah is angry with you no other person can ever help you out of your worries as Allah is the only one Who can do that. Put your trust in Allah and He will take care of the rest.
If someone won`t marry just because you use hijab than that person does not have his priorities right and can most certainly not be a good muslim. A person whom helps you to do more righteous deeds so that our Allah will be pleased, that is the one to hold on to. Because in the hereafter inshaAllah people with these mindset do prosper. And so your final destination Jannah is to be achieved.
I`ve always thought about this a lot. I would like my husband to be, to pray salat and be a good muslim. And have a motivation to do good in every situation in life. Just so that we also can have a chance to prosper. Someone whom follows the universal islamic guidelines and wants to strive to become a better person. One whom has the right priorities in life and wants to achieve eternal bliss. That is muslim would be a perfect husband.
If you look for dunya when you live in dunya that is all you will achieve. So you will be the one whom loses in the hereafter. Though if you live in dunya but are earning good deeds for the hereafter, than that will be your eternal place, a mansion in jannah, inshaAllah.
May Allah bless us all and guide us to always follow the straight path that leads to eternal bliss. Ameen summa ameen.
Sometimes when one is going home from work or just outside, one notices things about others that are good and other things that aren`t that good. Each Muslimah tries her best to follow Islam, the Sunnah and Quran, but even so there are so many things nowadays that people may find hard to follow. For instance is there any girl/lady nowadays whom doesn`t wear perfume before she goes out of her house. Even though our Prophet has restricted us from using it outside, probably because it attracts men. The Prophet has said:
If one of you attends the Masjid (Mosque) let her not touch perfume
Even in Islamic countries like Saudi Arabia and Dubai it is very common to see a girl in full black cover (Abaya, hijab, niqab) although she is wearing perfume. This is so sad. As long as we don`t talk about our mistakes how on earth will we be able to correct them. I am not perfect and before I started using hijab, I also used perfume. Though when the hijab started I also quit with that bad habit as well. As long as one is indoor and not going outside use as much perfume as you want. But when you, as a Muslimah takes your first step outside it should be without perfume. Why do you use perfume? Who is it for? Ask yourself that question before you go near it next time you are going to use it.
Another thing that irritates me whenever I`m outside and see other Muslimah`s is that they were heals, which in itself is perfectly alright and quite cool. But when we start wearing heals that makes a noise when we walk, we also attract a lot of attention from the opposite gender, which is prohibited because it arises fitnah.
If one needs to smell nice one can do that without using perfume, one can use cream that has a nice scent without perfume, instead of perfume. Not using perfume doesn`t doesn`t mean that one can`t have a fresh scent on oneself. Of course the Prophet has always talked about having a good hygiene, at a time when it wasn`t taken seriously by anyone. Our Prophet (pbuh) used to do Miswak after every time he had eaten. Nobody does this nowadays, we just use a gum, though it may not have halal ingredients at all. And so we talk about our prayers not being answered?
Nobody is perfect and each and every have their own faults, but if we try our best to single out the faults and try to become more pious, what can be wrong with that? 
I would like to share this because there might be other girls/women out there whom might be thinking of starting to use hijab but have difficulties taking the first step. First of all I would like to say that even if you wear hijab or you don`t all in all its the iman in yourself that can say how good mominah you are. I must confess it`s a journey. You start with small steps and starts avoiding certain things and start doing other things that our deen has guided us to follow.
I remember a page in “the ideal Muslimah” which really touched my heart. It was about the fact that some women find it difficult to wear hijab in the summers because it`s the temperature that is so high. The answer that came from that women whom was asked was that the fire in hell has a much higher degree than the summers around the world. I would want to wear hijab in duniya to avoid the hell fire in jahannum. So I would say “thumbs up” very well said! Whenever we want to follow something that is islamic right there are always some people whom ask their surroundings but whomever you ask the thing is that you should actually listen to yourself instead of anyone else. Shaitan is always there to make you feel that this is so difficult, but believe me if you have made up your mind that I want to wear hijab, Allah khud hi apke rastein asan kar dein ghe. That is always what happens. Allah is guiding the ones whom seek guidance with pure heart, Alhamdolillah.
I remember the date i started to wear hijab. It was 19. of march in 2009. The reason why I remember it is that it was my friend’s birthday that day, and I went to her party wearing a hijab for the first time in my life. I didn`t know that many people at the gathering, but I remember my friend just looking at me and laughing, while I got a few other looks from some of the other people there. Though I didn`t mind that cause I had made my mind to use it, and I`m Alhamdolillah content about my decision. After I started wearing hijab I did get a few questions a few months after that would you ever want to stop wearing it now that you have started wearing it, and my answer to that was “never”. Alhamdolillah. May Allah keep on guiding me to become an even better and better muslimah. Ameen summa ameen. I`ve always thought that you can`t change the world in one day, right One starts changing, making small steps and gradually change for the better. The changes that are gradually would actually last for a longer time. Than the changes that are made on one day, because one might bounce back to the old person one was. I really believe in this and am Alhamdolillah following it also.
I`ve thought about starting to wear hijab for years. I believed that it wasn`t only the hijab that needed to be put on the head but also a change in my being a better person and from there a better muslimah. So I always stopped because I didn`t have the right clothes and minor issues like that. Alhamdolillah I had stopped wearing t-shirts with small arms and stuff, but still most of the clothes I had, was too fitted. And I believe that when one starts wearing the hijab, than one shouldn`t wear fitted clothes either. So I gradually started giving away clothes that I found wasn`t right to wear and started buying new clothes that were more suitable for a woman/girl to wear. You see the biggest jihad ever is the one with ones own nafs. You will always start to think to do the right thing, but then the nafs (shaitan) tries to make you go on the wrong path. This is a never-ending battle, and will never stop. But as long as you are strong from within and seek guidance from above, nothing is impossible and Inshallah you will also be lead to lead a more muslimized life. Inshallah Ameen summa ameen. Always one does get thoughts which comes from the shaitan, ke kuch nahi hota ke aaj I can use perfume or other ways he tries to misguide us. But if we are strong we can fight that, as long as we can differentiate between right and wrong, and the Quran does that, so we, and I`m counting in myself, should read it more often, and use time to comprehend on what we are reading and do our best to act upon it as well.
A few days before my friend’s birthday which was in march 2009, I remember I went to the city to do some shopping. And I remember that I had open hair. Usually I don`t do that but that day I had open hair. I noticed that I got a few looks from a few guys. Not that I`m that pretty but, lets face it, if one has open hair, and it is a bit long or something, people around you will notice that. I got quite upset about that. Did not like it at all. A bit earlier the same day at work another female colleague of mine also noticed I had open hair, and said that I should do that a bit more often. When I got a few looks later in the city, that was what lead me to start wearing hijab:) To avoid having people stare at me for the wrong reasons. So when I got home that day, I was really upset and very angry. I hated myself for going to the town, but knew that I had to buy a few things I needed. So just like that I called my mum and asked her to buy a few hijabs for me from town, so that I could wear it from tomorrow. She was, of course, so happy to hear me say this, that she bought a bunch and gave them all to me. And from that day on I started wearing hijab.
All in all this has been a process for me. Gradually I`ve bought clothes that are non-fitted and I`ve stopped wearing perfume in gatherings with non-mehram people and stopped listening to music, and have started my journey to live my life according to Islam and Sunnah. One needs to make healthy habits. You start with one thing, make it a healthy and constant habit, and from there on start with more and more healthy habits, make them your own, and keep improving yourself. You can`t do it over night. But you have to be constant, You can`t read 50 namaz one day and be so tired for the rest of the week that you can`t fulfil any of your responsibilities. You do as much as you can, without putting a burden on yourself. Inshallah may Allah guide us all to become a better human being and a more and better muslims as well. Ameen summa ameen. I haven`t reached to any goal yet, but I`ve started the journey, and I know that it will lead me to bliss as long as I follow the deen correctly and don`t let other misguide me in any way. Are you looking for peace? Islam is peace for me:) Alhamdolillah. You know I haven`t ever been this satisfied about my life, like I am nowadays. I`ve stopped listening to music and listen to nasheeds and hamds instead. I`ve started doing dhikr and praising Ya Rasolallaha as much as I can. The amount of satisfaction and feeling of content one gets from dhikr one can`t get from anything else. I remember from a program on Noor TV or maybe I read it in a book somewhere People ask you how old are you? and some would say 30 other would say 32. But nowadays I would say about 1 year and seven months 
My real life began when I started to live according to Islam Alhamdolillah. May Allah give me and my loved ones and the whole humanity so much guidance that we one day can see ourselves being a momin/mominah. Ameen summa ameen.
Wearing a hijab and all in all being a muslimah doesn’t mean that one can`t dress oneself pretty. No! One can dress oneself pretty but be modest in the dressing, which means don`t attract too much attention wherever you go. We muslims are ambassadors for our religion, and the more we follow our deen from the heart and in action the better picture every non-muslim would get about Islam. Who knows when one of them gets that guided that they decide to become a muslim?
Therefore we should strive as much as we can to show the bestest side of Islam. And let the whole world see the beauty of it. Inshallah Ameen summa ameen.
There might be some people whom think that what you have inside your brain is more important than what you have on your head. In example if you wear a hijab or not. To the people whom agree with this, I have to say, doesn`t really get what hijab really is. Hijab is not only about having a headscarf. The Quran says:
“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments, except what must ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms, and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their sons, their husbands sons, their brothers or their brothers sons”. (Quran 24:31).
If one reads this ayat again and again its not only about a silly headscarf but it`s about how a woman carries herself, and the fact that she doesn`t let her body show through her garments. It doesn`t matter if she has a lot of knowledge if she can`t “lower her gaze or hide her modesty”.
So one can`t say that the phrase over is correct, after my opinion.
Hvor hen man blir sett, om det er på jobben, hjemme eller på besøk så legger de fleste merke til hvordan en kler seg. Det forteller faktisk ganske mye om en person. Det har jeg merket. Det hele begynte når jeg først startet å bruke hijab. Akkurat da det var flest debatter om det i mediene. Nesten litt på trass. Det ga en god indre følelse.Jeg har skjønt at kledning betyr egentlig ganske mye om hvordan en annen person forholder seg til deg. Det er helt utrolig hvor mange fordommer vi mennesker har i oss, og i hvilke situasjoner de kommer til ordet. Hva er det som trigger forskjellige holdepunkter, og når kommer de til utrykk. Etter at jeg begynte å bruke hijab har jeg opplevd, å bli sett ned på, ikke komme inn i samtaler, plutselig bli usynlig, bli ledd av. Dette kommer utrolig nok ikke bare fra nordmenn. Det har kommet fra alle kanter. Selv ikke-praktiserende muslimer synes det er rart når noen prøver å følge islam, og prøver å ydmyke dem. Det er så mange kanter presset kommer fra, fordi jeg er jente blir jeg undertrykt av menn, siden jeg bruker hijab blir jeg undertrykt av de som misliker at kvinner tildekker seg, så er jeg samtidig flerkulturell, til tross for at jeg er født og vokst opp i landet, blir jeg ikke behandlet som mine medborgere som ser vestlige ut. Folk går rundt og tror at undertrykkelsen kommer fra hjemmet. Den største undertrykkelsen kommer faktisk fra samfunnsmedlemmene jeg møter der ute. Når undertrykkelsen starter med en gang jeg går ut av huset og møter verden via jobben. Jeg tok på meg denne bekledningen av egen vilje og ikke siden noen tvang meg. Den får meg til å føle fri, mens samfunnet jeg møter presser meg til å gi slipp på noe som gir meg en positiv energi, nemlig å dekke meg selv. En gang jeg satt på kontoret mitt, der det er flere arbeidsplasser og flere kan sitte, satt en senior arbeider med ryggen til døren og lenger unna, mens jeg satt med ansiktet til døren og nærmere døren, men på samme kontor. Da det kom inn en person for å spørre om hjelp, henvendte han seg hele tiden til senioren, i stedet for meg, da det er egentlig jeg som egentlig kunne hjelpe han. Jeg ble sannsynligvis usynligjort pga kledningen. Har jeg ingen autoritet siden jeg dekker meg? Eller er det kommet frem et feil bilde av muslimske kvinner, hvor media viser et bilde av oss som undertrykte uten egen vilje, og dermed ingen autoritet? Dette er galt! En annen gang jeg var på jobben, satt jeg sammen en annen konsulent og ga henne opplæring, da det kom inn en person som spurte oss om hjelp. Jeg hadde på meg hijab mens hun hadde på seg vanlige klær. Det første som hendte var at personen henvendte seg til henne og usynligjorde meg, som om jeg ikke har en autoritet siden jeg er tildekket. Det morsomme er at vedkommende ble litt overasket da det var jeg som til slutt hjalp vedkommende med den forespørselen han kom med. Ikke minst ble vedkommende også forbauset da jeg snakket flytende norsk.
Det har vært mange positive hendelser også. De fleste positive bemerkningene jeg har fått har faktisk kommet fra somaliske kvinner. Det er kanskje ikke så vanskelig å forstå når en går i dybden på saken. Somaliske kvinner som går med hijab selv. Jeg har på følelsen at somaliske kvinner ikke er så undertrykte hjemmet som de er i møte med samfunnet. Jeg skjønner nå at de møter sikkert mange hindringer i veien pga av sin identitet.
