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in-debt-quote-prayer-supplication-krone-myntWe are all in some sort of debt. Not only financially, but in all sorts of way. Almost in every moment, matter and situation. We`re in debt of those who smiled at us, when we we`re worried. We`re in debt of those who gave us a helping hand, when we were struggling. We`re in debt of those who helped us learn knowledge, that we later internalized into our conduct. We are in debt of those who supported us, when many were against us. We are in debt of those who listened to us and guided us to good. We are in debt of those good friends, who didn`t give up on us. We are in debt of those who helped us to attain a living in a country, who is ranked in the top ten countries to live in. We are in debt of those who helped us develop our skills, our talents. We are in debt of those who guided us to the profession, we wanted to achieve. We are in debt of those who helped us find our spouse. We are in debt of the support of the people who care. We`re in debt of those who remember us in their prayers. We are in debt of everyone who’s had a pep-talk with us. We`re in debt of those who motivated us when we were down. Actually we have a lot of debt. May Allah pay it for us in this world and the next. And raise the ranks of those who supported us, in this world and the next. And make us appreciate the good in people. And make us appreciate them in this world also. And reward them for all the good we have achieved and will accomplish. Aameen.

rose, quality muslimah, islam, conduct, knowledge, wisdom, practice Islam, understandI have met so many amazing muslimahs the last 9 years. Women who has so much to offer, yet their resourcefulness is not being utilized. Their lives would have been so much more meaningful, if their family had backed them more. Let me explain more.

The Help They Need

A wife`s first priority after marriage is her husband, and after some time their children. In most asian muslim families, where daughters are brought from back home to the west. It take many years to help them adapt to the society here. Some learn the language easily, while others might never ever be able to pass test to be able to work. Although it is the family`s responsibility that these women are helped through there first years here, many times they do not get the help they need.

First Of All Imagine.

You have a network of family and friends back home. When you come here, you not only have to adapt into a whole new family but also build your own new network. That is not always that easy. Especially for wives, when they often get busy with parenthood, before they are able to learn the language properly. They have to postpone their own dreams in order for the family. I might dare say, many women come back to school, years afterwards, where they tell how much they also wanted to utilize their life for something more meaningful than just stay home with children and the little network they have or might not have. They have dreams to also earn a living, using their resources to earn money and buy things without always thinking of their expenditures. A little more planning and help from the husband could have made their situation easier.

Being A Mother Is Very Giving

Every woman has dreams of her own. Apart from being a mother and a wife. Doing something meaningful that is important to here. Having a social life, friends, network, buying things she need, without always have to ask for permission, or to be able to have women only evenings with her friends. Husband doesn`t realize that if they would support their wife more in achieving her dreams and some sort of independence, she would become a much better wife for him and a better mother for her children. Often times when women get married, they give little precedence to their own needs. Their husband needs come first. Than their children’s needs. Then their in-laws preferences. After a list, at the end their own needs come, if they have any energy or time to spend for themselves. For a mother to give her children to her husband and have a friends dinner out, is if i might dare say, not the reality for many asian wives. Although the husband in the same family, has at least one day a week, he can enjoy with this friends. If not many more. Even though the parenthood is both parents responsebility, often the mothers take the most heaviest burdens. They have a such job, that they never get any time off. It`s a 24/7 on work for their family.

Education Going To Waste

When husbands stop their wifes from getting a job or an education or to work when they have a sound education. They should re-think what they are doing. If and when the parents of a muslimah doctor had thought the same. The wife of these husbands had to meet a male doctor at the hospital for a check up under her pregnancy. Thank god, that some parents encourage their daughters to get a decent education with good values so that they can contribute to the community. We have muslimah doctors, nurses, teachers, dentists, engineers and so on. It is not easy for them to go out of their home and work. Their best hijab is in their home. But yet we must not forget that if every muslimah had thought that, our own muslimah wives, would have had difficulty getting any good help, without meeting their own “tribe”, when they need some sort of help/assistance. We can`t stop these resources from contributing positively for the society, and be so selfish and only think about our own good. Of course that comes first, but we must also try to help others, whom might have more difficult life than ourselves.

Muslimah`s And Islam – The Sunnah Way

Under the time when the prophet Muhammad pbuh had to do hijrah to medina with Abu bakr Siddiq raa, they left makkah and passed by cave thawr. They stayed there for a few days to protect themselves from their enemies. The daughter of Abu Bakr siddiq raa, Asma Bint Abu Bakr, came to them with food-supplies, through difficult roads and facing many dangers. The muslimah sahabi`s have helped Islam not by being passively at home, but by being with the muslims in wars, also fighting the enemies and taking care of those wounded. So you see it is not Islam that oppresses women, it is the illiterate minds. Even knowledgable people can be illiterate for not being able to believe in what is right and haqq. If knowledge opened minds of everyone than the most knowledgable lecturers would have accepted Islam. Not everyone does. Even in the most intelligent people there are many who doesn`t accept what is right for what is right and what is truth for what is truth. I believe that if you as a mailman have managed to find your way to Allah and believe in him and try to enjoin good and forbid evil, you are more intelligent than the lecturer with a phd, that thinks that Islam is not haqq or right. I have learned to calculate people, from how faithful and obedient they are to Islam. Islam doesn`t oppress women. Mostly the wrong culture does. May Allah give all wives help to realize their dream in their life. And make all the muslimah`s resourceful for each other and helping each other prosper. And guide husband to be more supportive of their wife. The sunnah way. Aameen summa aameen.

muslim couple, rights and obligations, quran, love, rose, flower, marriageOften when some husband take good care of their wife, and fulfil their obligations towards her and their children, his friends and family might comment that he has become a robot, where his wife decides everything. I want to highlight a few thoughts about this and why people might say such things.

We all are striving.

Some people are doing a great job when it comes to following sunnah. Not only when their friends and acquaintances are with them, but also at the time when no one is with them accept their loved ones and Allah. Some men are not shy off being good to their wife. Why should they be? Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said, the best of man is the one who is good to his wife, and I am the best to my wives. He pbuh lived what he said. He was not shy off helping around the house and giving un-divided attention to his other half. He gave them importance and supported them. If men want to follow his sunnah, being a good husband is also part of his sunnah. Not only praying on time and giving zakat.

Muslims can not be shy of practicing some part of their deen

No matter what others say. Hazoor pak saw has said he is afraid of a time when the disbeliever will be proud of their disbelief and a true believer will be shy of practicing his belief. I`m sure even those who comment negatively towards other, have their moments of being an awesome husband, though they are afraid of admitting it, because they see it as a quality we should not find in a man. How can they think that following the sunnah is not a quality they should have in themselves. I remember a time when Hazoor Pak pbuh was not to shy to admit in front of all the sahaba`s that the one he pbuh loved the most was Aisha raa. If he pbuh was not afraid of showing his love in front of everyone, than neither should any muslim husband.

Have we ever thought why other people comment negatively?

1.Jealousy/envy. Why are they so happy?
2.Not knowing what being a man is about.
3.Arrogance. That work is below my worth/standard.
4.Hobby: Putting hurdles in lives of succesful people.
5.Wrong understanding of Islam. Our rights and obligations.
6.Bad company.
7.Bad role-models.

We do not boast about following the Sunnah

Or become proud of the fact that we are Sunnis. To what extent we follow the Sunnah, shows the intensity of our love for our Prophet pbuh. So sometimes people might try to hide their good deeds from people to the extent that they would not like anyone to find out. In case they maybe returned because the intention is changing. The Prophet pbuh his family and sahaba, went to a lot of struggles for us. We must find ways to keep our intentions in check, but shying away is not the solution. The society has come to such matters, that we need good role-models that are not shying away from showing the right path, they have found. How can we say that we love him pbuh the most and be afraid to show the world that we want to live like him pbuh and are striving to cultivate his pbuh qualities in us. May Allah make us proud of our heritage in Islam, and help us practice it to as close to his pbuh life as possible. And not being shy of good conduct, even if we have people in our circle who are against it. May Allah guide us to good, till we accept nothing but good. May Allah mould us into what He wants us to become. Let us reach excellence in those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw like. And take out of our heart, soul and body, those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw dislikes. Aameen.

khadijahThe first wife of Prophet Muhammad pbuh, Khadijah raa supported him through difficult times in every possible way, including spending from her wealth. He pbuh is known to have acknowledged and praised Khadijah raa`s support repeatedly. Aisha raa reported that she was so irritated by Muhammad pbuh`s continuous praise of Khadijah raa, so she complained, asking why he continued to remember an old lady who was not so beautiful, when God had replaced her with a more beautiful young woman. He pbuh replied that none of his wives was like Khadijah raa, she attested to his nubuwah at a time when everyone else doubted him, she spent her wealth to support him when no one else was willing to do so, and mothered his children which no other wives did.

He pbuh honoured her even after her death, and sent gifts to her friends and relatives. After she passed away on 10th Ramadan, and his uncle passed away sometime after, he pbuh was given the salah as a gift from Allah for comfort, as his biggest source of comfort was now taken away. She was honoured with salam from Allah by hadrat Jibrael as, and promised such a palace in Paradise where she would not experience any noise and live in tranquility because that is what she provided for Prophet Muhammad pbuh, as long as they were married. During the time of prophet Muhammads pbuh `s marriage to Khadijah raa, he was not married to anyone else. She is the only wife whom had that privilege. Amongst men many attained a status of perfection; but among women only three attained such status: Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh, Maryam, the mother of Isa /Jesus pbuh and Khadijah Bint Khuwaylid raa.

May Allah guide all women from the Ummah to be like khadijah raa to their spouse. And may Allah give the daughthers of the Ummah such a spouse that has the same conduct and character as prophet Muhammad pbuh ❤ Aameen summa aameen.

jannah, paradise, promotion, exams, allahA common quality amongst friends is that they support each other through all kinds of difficult times they experience. Often people help others and usually expect that their favour will be returned some day. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said that those who doesn`t thank people doesn`t thank Allah so a good way to show your appreciation to Allah is to thank the ones that help you. What kind of circumstance you help another person in, depends on your own taqwa, godfearingness.

You Can Share In The Burden Or The Reward

In Ayat 5:2 in the Quran it is quoted “Help each other in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa; but do not help one another in sin and transgression”. It is not difficult to imagine that if we help some people in committing sins we will share in their burden for every people they wrong and those that learn the cruel tactics from them. Similarly if we help people to do something that is good for the community, we will also share in the reward for all the good that it leads to. It is up to us we want to earn reward or share the way to our destruction.

Be Just In Every Relation

Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said if people see something bad they should try to stop it, either with their hand or speech or at least think of it as something bad, if they are not able to stop it, and that is the weakest of Iman. It is very important that we try our best to be just in all our relations and in between each other. A father being just between his children. Spouses treating their in-laws justly. A husband being just between his spouse and sisters. A wife being just to her parents and siblings. We are human and bound to err sometime, but the best of those who err are those who repent. And then make amends. Whenever we see that we are on the wrong track, simply rectify our actions and change the track to something better. It is not fair that the faults of a mother is passed on to her daughters or a fault of a brother passes on the his siblings. Being just between different relations is not an easy job. One of them may not like you if you take the others side. That is why it is so important to make sure that you know whom is correct and that you are not taking the side of those whom are wrong. Supporting someone who is doing something wrong will increase his confidence and can lead him/her to do worse deeds in the future. If that happens you will have a share in the bad deeds that it leads to, until or if they make amends and come to the straight path.

When We Don`t Stop Injustice

Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said: “Help your brother when he is unjust or the victim of injustice”. The sahaba said: “we understand that we should help people if they are unjust, but how can we help them if they are victim of injustice. Prophet pbuh said: “Prevent and stop him from committing injustice and this represents giving support to him”: Maybe you have heard about some people who lives in a town and the most of them where really bad people. So Allah said to the angels, go and crush the town because of their deeds. The angels went there when they saw some people who were good and was praying to Allah, so they went back to Allah and said: ” how can we crush this town, when there are good people living there”. Allah said: “It is because of this that I want you to crush them as soon as possible. The good people didn`t stop or try to prevent the bad people from doing bad deeds, so I want you to crush them all.

Being Patient With People`s Annoyance

Of course you can imagine if there are only a few good people in a whole town how hard it is for them to stop the others from doing bad deeds, thus even bigger is the reward. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said: ” The believer who mingles with people and is patient with their annoyance, earns more rewards than the believer who doesn`t mingle with people and does not observe patience with their annoyance.

Don`t Look Down On Those Whom Are Struggling

It is important that when we see other people struggling to avoid sin that we try our best to help them or at least not put more obstacles in their way. We don`t know our end, no one does. Prophet Muhammad has said that was a person whom had taken 99 lives and then repented, and by the Mercy of Allah, he was forgiven. Allah is Merciful and forgives all sins as long as we sincerely repent. Don`t look down on those that are struggling today, there might come a day when those same people will be the ones that help you on your way. So if you are able give them a helping hand, do it. When Allah wants something good for His slave, He helps others through him. Imagine you are sleeping and several good deeds are put in your account for those people you have helped, you don`t even know it. Never belittle a good deed. We don`t have to be rich to give sadqah. One can do that even without any amount of money, that also is sadqah.

Allah Knows And He Rewards

Know that even if people don`t see the good that we do, Allah knows everything, and it is He whom is the only One whom will give us reward. He doesn`t forget. The reward of those who do good is never lost. The struggle is real; Be good, do good, and if you can`t stop others from doing bad, at least think of what they are doing as bad, don`t put hurdles in others way when they are struggling, pray for each other, and help those you can, one day you might need their help. Allah puts us in the most amazing places, sometimes to teach us something, other times to, test our patience. May we pass every test, and may Allah give us barakaa in our lives a good akhirah. Ameen summa ameen.

old couple love - love for the sake of allahThere can be said a lot about the difference between love and lust. Mix gender relationships nowadays are very normal these days. If you aren`t “with” anyone you are “gay”. As long as you have friendships people are cool with you, you`re one of them. It isn`t difficult for anyone to find someone to be with or marry. What is difficult is to find that person you know is going to be with you even when your appearance isn`t like a 20-year-old or hold your hand on the way to Jannah.

 

Love versus Lust

Marriages are built on many qualities, and lust is not one of them. When you desire someone because of their physical beauty that is lust. When you put precedence to conduct and character before beauty, you are giving values more preference. When people marry someone because of their looks, they forget that looks will eventually fade in some years. When they no longer have the outer beauty, you start to look outside for those who have it.

 

Looks can lie

Most of the muslim marriages are arranged by a third-party. Love marriages are on the rise. As a muslim even if you know your fiancée before marriage, it will mostly only be based on what people have said about him/her. You won`t get to know the person before the couple gets married/nikah. Why you choose the spouse you choose will have a great effect on the marriage. When people look at beauty rather than conduct/character they miss the most essential part of that person. Looks can lie. You will have to live with the spouses character for the rest of your life.

 

Marriages that increases in love

Love that is build after marriage with good conduct, loyalty, trust, friendship, will increase with time. These spouses see the beauty in each other despite of their grey hair and wrinkles, or the extra pounds.  Actually it increases them in beauty. They married each other for many years ago but fell in love with the same person every time. It is the small gestures, that builds the bond. Taking care of each other despite the fact that you just had a fight. Doing so many things for each other because you want to make your spouse happy, not to get something in return. The unconditional love. They know each other love language and how to express it. There is nothing more beautiful than an old couple that are in love, supporting each other. They have gone through good and bad times together, laughed and cried together, had their disagreements, but still been there for each other. That is beauty. They didn`t start praying for each other after marriage, but from their teens when other friends started making friendships, they started praying for a companion. Their death won`t depart them. They will meet again in Paradise to spend eternity together. Inspiring, motivating and striving to make each other better because you want to see each other in Jannah, that is real love.

 

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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