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Men`s right to have four wives

February 28, 2012 in Perspective | Tags: Islam, Marriage, Quran, Four wives, Orphans | Leave a comment

I have heard so many people who talk about the fact that guys can marry four women if they want no matter what. Though have they thought whether Islam have put any conditions to it? If you look up Surah Nisa, Allah says in ayat 3:

If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans(1), marry women of your choice, two, three or four (2): But if ye feel that ye may not be able to deal justly with them, then only one, or a captive that your right hand possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice. (Quran 4:3).

Note 1: notice the conditional clause about orphans, introducing the rule about marriage. Marry the orphans if you are quite sure that you will in that way protect their interest or their property.

Note 2: The unrestricted number of wives of the times of ignorance was now strictly limited to maximum four, provided that you could deal justly with them.

This means that the condition to more than one woman must be that she is a widow and has orphan kids that you want to help and since this was in the time of when the muslims died in wars there were many orphans and widows at that time. It is important that we don`t forget the conditions about being equal between the wifes either. I mean in today’s society when we can`t even be equal to our kids, how can the men be equal to more than one wife, it`s impossible.

So I believe both of the condition is quite difficult to fulfil, is it then actually really allowed to marry four wives then? Nope

Ingen greier å være like rettferdig som Seerat-un-Nabi!

February 27, 2012 in Perspective | Tags: Experience, Faithful, Love, Marriage, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) | Leave a comment

De fleste har noe kunnskap om rettighetene sine i Islam. Men hvilke rett andre har over dem skaffer de ikke nok informasjon om, for å leve etter. Som feks at menn sier for å plage sin fiance at de skal ha fire koner. Men de tenker ikke på det faktum at ikke et eneste menneske her i verden greier å være rettferdig mellom flere koner. Ingen greier å være som vår Profet Muhammad (pbuh). Men det er ikke derfor mannfolk nevner dette. Det er heller for at de skal prøve å ha overtaket og tåler ikke å bli irrettesatt. Gjør man noe galt må man jo på en eller annen måte få vite det. Men når det samme skjer om og om igjen, da blir nok metoden for irrettesettelsen ikke den fineste.

Det er blitt en trend nå til dags at unge menn sier at de skal ha fire koner, uten å ha noe anelse av hvilken byrde det ville være økonomisk og ikke minst hvor liten tid de hadde hatt for den familien. De kjenner til de rettighetene som gavner dem uten å vite om alle rettightene de har i Islam til sine foreldre, sin kone, sine søstre, og sine brødre og landsmenn. Det er veldig synd at de på denne måten prøver å manipulere det andre mennesket i livet deres, som de egentlig skal være trofast mot i både gode og dårlige dager. Er dette ekte kjærlighet? Kanskje de burde lese om livet til vår profet(pbuh), om hvordan han var mot sine koner, ingen kan oppnå slik fullkommenhet som Han. Ingen menneske greier å være slik rettferdig mot sine koner, som vår Profet (pbuh). En annen sak er det at det er noen land her i Europa hvor det er forbudt med flerkoneri, og Norge er blant de landene. I verste fall kan man få fengselsstraff for slikt. Istedet for å manipulere sin andre halvdel, bør de ikke heller bruke kjærlighet til å vinne hennes gunst? Jeg mener hat avler hat, mer kjærlighet, ja hva kan det gi annet enn mer kjærlighet?

Dersom vi muslimer har mange rettigheter i islam så har også andre mennesker rettigherer over oss. Man kan ikke tenke ensidig i denne framstillingen, for å kunne bli en bra muslim. Som f eks har foreldrene masse rett over barna sine når de blir gamle, samtidig har også barna rett på at foreldrene gir dem tid. Det går begge veier. Man kan ikke gå igjennom hele livet uten å ha lagt tid og arbeid i sine barn og så forvente at barna skal ta seg av dem når de blir godt voksne. Men i islam, dersom barna har nok vett i seg vil de uansett ta godt vare på sine eldre. Det kommer helt an på hvilken type oppvekst de har fått.

Den eneste løsningen på dette her er å lese mer om islam om de viktige personene i vår historie og lære av deres handlinger og deres tenkemåter, om hvordan en skal oppføre seg i ulike situasjoner. Dersom våre eldre generasjon har gjort noen feil i sine liv bør vi i det minste prøve å lære av de feilene, enn å gjøre de samme feilene som dem. Det beste er at for hver generasjon som vokser er at man har framgang og ikke at man tilbakegang.

Nulltoleranse for dobbeltmoral!

February 26, 2012 in Perspective | Tags: Dobbeltmoral | Leave a comment

Noen ganger så kan folk tråkke på andre med vilje kanskje for å se om de vil reagere eller ikke. Men nok for være nok. Vi alle har kjent eller kjenner folk som sier noe annet enn det det gjør eller at de sier forskjellig ting til forskjellige folk avhengig av hvem det er. Folk eksempel at en person har to damer på si og ikke sier det til dem eller prøver å vinne begges gunst. Hvis han tror det er realistisk får han virkelig prøve kaste litt vann over hodet sitt. For ingen mennesker tåler å å dele en person i et forhold. En sahabi fortalte engang at han fell unconscious because a woman came to him and told him that his husband was trying to marry again. When he woke up the people asked why did you go unconscious. The sahabi answered, here is one woman who cant stand that another woman is going to share her place, How is it when Allah subhanwuatalh, when people share others on the same level like He is, how angry is He going to be, and then he fell unconscious again.

Et menneske greier ikke å gjøre ethvert menneske glad, han / hun må velge ut sine loved ones og gjøre alt for å komme godt overens. Hvis en person lyver for å tro at he’s going get away with it, tar han mektig feil. Nok er nok. Inget menneske liker å bli gjort om til gjøn for lenge. Til slutt er det nok.

How can one achieve true guidance?

January 22, 2012 in Perspective | Tags: Culture, Dawah, Guidance, Islam | Leave a comment

I heard some people talk ill about people whom discuss daily cultural issues instead of using Islam as an example whenever they want to make a point. This person does have a point in a sence. I agree to the fact that we muslims should take examples from Islam to bring people whom are misguided closer to our deen and further away from dunya. But that is not always the way it is accomplished. Sometimes one need to come with examples from our culture to show what something isn`t good or why it is good. Because people whom are a bit away from our deen sometimes need real human stories to bring them closer to what Islam says. They need stories about people whom have found guidance and how they managed that after several years.

It is upto Allah alone to guide someone. We can only pray for someone. We can come up with lots of examples to guide someone, but that person will only achieve guidance through the will of Allah Subhanwuatalah. So we try to come up with reasons for why it is important to read namaz on time to learn more about Islam and how to achieve sakoon in our life.

On the other hand if we like someone does do; say to people in an offensive manner even though our mission is to spread Islam, than that would make people distant from our deen instead of bringing them closer. Why? Because you’re looking down at them. Instead try to speak to others straight to them instead of belittling them in a way. That is better Ikhlas like our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has shown us through his seerah, and that would make people actually listen and apply what you say. In one sentence i would sum it up that if you want to spread dawah do it in a way, “i have found a cure to your issues, and that is Islam”, or ” i am even worse muslim than you, but I know about a way to get better, or I have found a way to become better”. I think what people need is logical explanations without saying anything bad about them. Instead of preaching in the wrong way, try to think how can i explain this that would make someone want to read fajr namaz or an ayat from our Quran after they have heard some dawah from you?

Some people like the ideal muslimah or igotitcovered are superb dais at facebook, on the other hand some people whom are new at it need to learn more to achieve its proper success.

A few tips for the prayer :)

January 2, 2012 in Perspective | Tags: Namaz, Pray, Prayer, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) | Leave a comment

Our salat is our prayer and sort of our call to our Lord five times daily throughout the day. After the obligatory prayer it is a good thing to pray to your Lord. One should ask our Allah for everything, be it any thing in our life. Allah is our Sustainer and takes care of our needs. One should always also pray for everyone else as the whole Muslim Ummah as well because when ones prayer for ones muslims are answered as an angel at our shoulders say and you shall have likewise. Praying for ones absent muslims reduces the grudges one can have.

After tasbhih ones should praise Allah subhanwuatalah. After that recite drud sharif. And after that prayer for yourself and at the end for your the Ummah. Drud sharif at the end. Our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) used to pray in sujood as well. That is a very nice way of the prayer InshaAllah being fulfilled.

Another thing is that if your prayer isn`t answered either it’s not made to happen because something better is waiting for you or else it could be that your rizk, clothes or your food is haraam. In that case your prayers aren`t going to be answered.

One should also never stop to supplicate. Because than one is in one way complaining to Allah and then He will think that we are being ungrateful. And He doesn`t like that. Allah likes long prayers and that we ask for everything and that we are consistent in praying.

The blessed day of Jumu`ah

December 29, 2011 in Islam | Tags: Allah, Blessed, Islam, Jumu`ah, Paradise, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) | Leave a comment

The whole version: The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Said: Gabriel came to me with a clean mirror in his hand and said: ” this is Jumu`ah. God has made it obligatory on you, so that it may be a festival for you and after you for your followers.

The Prophet (PBUH) said: ”What good there is for us in it?” Gabriel answered: You have got an auspicious ( lovende, gunstig) time in it. If someone seeks anything to God at this time, God has promised that He will give it to him. If he is deprived of that additional things are given to him in this connection. If anyone wants to save himself from evil on that day, God saves him from a greater calamity (katastrofe) or a like calamity which has been decreed on him.

I said (Muhammad pbuh) “what is this black dot on it?( The mirror)” He (Gabriel) said ” This is the Hour of the day og jummah which is the best day in our estimation. In the last day we will call it the day of increase. This is because your Lord, High and Exalted has a valley in Paradise which is more redolent than white musk. On the day of Al-Jumu`ah Allah High and Exalted will descend from the illiyyeen unto His Throne. His Throne is then surrounded by pulpits of lights. The Prophets will come and sit on this pulpits. The pulpits will then be surrounded with couches of gold. The truthful servants of Allah and the martyrs will come and sit down on them. Then the dwellers of Paradise will come and sit down on the dunes. Thereafter their Lord will come and show himself to them and they will look at His Countenance while He tells them, `I fulfilled my promise to you and completed my favour upon you. This is the place of My Honour. So ask me for whatever you want. And they will ask Him of His pleasure. Allah will say`it is My pleasure that brought you to my Paradise and made you attain My Honour. So ask me of something else. They will continue to ask him until they will be done with their requests. Then, it will be opened for them – for as long as it takes people to leave the mosque on the day of jumu`ah – what no eye has ever seen no ear has ever heard and no heart ever imagined. Allah will then ascend onto His Throne, and the martyrs and the truthful servants will ascend with him. The inhabitants of the chambers will then return to their flawless pearly and white chambers or to their chambers of rubies or green chrysolite whose rivers flow perennially and whose fruits hang in pairs.They the dwellers of Paradise shall be in need of nothing greater than the day of Al-Jumu`ah so they can have more Honour and have more opportunity to look at the Countenance of their Lord, High and Exalted. That is why the day will be called the day of increase.

(recorded by ibn Abid-dunya and At-tabararni in Al-Mujam Al-Awsat; the narration is graded Hasan in view of other corroborating narrations).

Taken out of the book “encyclopedia of islamic jurisprudence concerning women”.

My Prayer..

Please Allah..
Hamari muskhilein asan farma dein.. Humein Quran or Hazoor Paak ki pyari Sunnah ki roshni mein har kaam karnein ki taufik ata karein.Humein apke korb ki manzilon tak phonchnein keliye koi sahi vasila ata karein. Hamari duniya or akhirat savar dein. Joh hamarein haq me behtar faisla hain wohi karein. Joh log jaan buj kar hamarein liyen muskhilein bana rahein hain unhein hidayat ata kar dein.

Allah help me to remember You and give thanks to You and to worship You properly.

Allahumma ahsanta khalqi fa ahsin khulqi.

Ameen sum ameen.

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