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marriage-quran-strong-bond-enemies-husband-wife-help-from-allahMany men talk about having more than one wife. According to Islam, it is allowed. The time of the sahaba, many widows needed support, and men were allowed to marry them. The orphans would get helped, and the women get supported. In that time the sahaba raa didn`t either see any bad in marrying any women whom had been married before. Also the muslim women, were more reliable.

Friendships With Opposite Gender Outside Marriage

Nowadays, men frighten their first wife, if you don`t stop the discussion, I would marry another. Alhamdolillah, it is allowed in Islam. It is only that the society of today, is much different from the time of the sahaba. The era of today is full of fitnah everywhere. Many are struggling with hijab and modesty. Integrity is seen less. People have become more materialistic. There is more lying than before. Good conduct and decent values are rarily found in people. In these trying times, most wives wonder about their husbands integrity. Most husbands wonder about their wife`s integrity. Husbands are wondering about one wife, what if you had four, demanding the same right? So one day you`re with one wife. Can you trust the second, third and fourth at that time? What reason do you have to be assured, that they are not with anyone else? Most women of today, can`t wait a day for her husband, when he is away. Also internet makes it easy to get friends, easily. When friends between the genders are ok, when do we know if both husband and wife have haya and practice modesty, when they are with other people? That is why it is important to choose spouse because of good character and decent values. Don`t choose spouse because of beauty, status or money. You are not choosing a car. ย You are choosing the mother of your children. The qualities you see in her, will be seen in your children. The purity of the children is dependent on the purity of the husband and wife. If you want good children you can`t afford to choose wrong. Imagine your children imitating their mother. Dancing at bollywood songs and addicted to dialogues from indian dramas or movies. I would prefer to have a spouse where we both remember our Lord in everything we do, by practising obedience to Him in public and private. Following sunnah guidelines. Your married life isn`t dependent on your wife`s appearance. Your married life is dependent on you and your wife`s good qualities and abilities. ย If your too obsessed about the beauty or luxury of this dunya, how will you be able to work for your souls home? The place you`re going to spend an eternity. ย Ya Allah, protect us from bad faith. Aamen. Grant every ummati a righteous spouse. Aamen.

What If You Make The Same Mistake With Second Wife?

One can understand from this, that even if a man marries a second wife, there will be a half-year happy time, after that both will get used to each other. Than the same mistakes he made in the first marriage, will be seen in him towards his second wife? He didn`t fix them then. Of course, it wasn`t his faults. So the solution of disagreements between couple, is not to get another wife. It is to find ways of increasing love between the husband and wife in the first marriage. Finding ways of increasing compatibility. Understanding how your spouse feels loved and how your spouse accepts apologies. Showing love through gestures of respect, appreciation and gifts.

A Husband And Wife Of This Trying Time, Need To Prove Their Integrity To Each Other Every Day

One matter is settled. Men and women has a responsibility to cultivate in them good conduct, in private and public. Even if someone might win a blessing. He / she can easily lose it, if he / she doesn`t know how to value it. When it comes to Allah`s friends. Allah will never give His diamond, to a man who is not able to protect it and take care of it. That is something, that must be proven every day. Not just one day of a year. Ya Allah, grant every husband and wife to win the struggle of correcting their integrity, niyah, ikhlas and haya. Aamen. Protect every ummati from those who are un-reliable, untrustworthy, and those who have bad character. Aamen. A woman is tested when her man has nothing. A man is tested when he has everything. Let`s see who really passes the test? Ya Allah, grant every ummati help to make good decisions in life. Protect every marriage from envy, jealousy, magic and evil eye til the end of time. Aamen

Picture courtesy : The muslim show.

Every hijabi girl or woman is struggling with this. How can I feel beautiful, at the same time, win the struggle of perfecting my hijab. Most men look for beauty in a woman. If both men and women were taught how and what beauty actually is, this struggle wouldn`t have been so damaging for the society/community.

Value Real Beauty In Others

Here in Norway, we see a great diversity of hijabi women and girls. Many of them has a zahiri correct hijab. And many also deviate from the whole concept, and fall into the faults of hijab that goes against it`s meaning. When women wear hijab, that attracts attention, they are not honouring it. Make-up, strong colors, camel-hump style, tight clothing, and see-through-fabric. All these matters, make them attractive to other men and boys. If we could teach our girls, what beauty is. And help them to value it in other people. We can help them in this fight. Their hijab is supposed to hide their beauty, not their beauty more prominent.

hijab-for-husband-beauty-for-dunya-or-oppositeHusbands: Re-assure Your Wife Often

Most women doesn`t know what beauty is. They work on their looks, every day. Looking beautiful is not the same as feeling beautiful. If they knew how beautiful good values, good conduct, good character, good manners, integrity is, they would try to increase their effort in cultivating these qualities in them and their children. That is what the sunnah of Hazoor Paak pbuh, has taught us. The right hijab for a woman or girl, wouldn`t have been such a big issue, if the men, those who will become a muslim husband, were also taught, what beauty actually is. The women, adores themselves for their husband. If men would appreciate their wife, when she beautified herself for him, she would probably put more effort in it. If the dear husband, helped their wife feel beautiful, she wouldn`t look for the reassurance other places. Like when she step out of her home. When wives in general doesn`t feel beautiful and aren`t certain about their beauty, they beautify themselves. That would attract attention, to confirm what they want to hear. That they are beautiful. If there husband doesn`t help them find this. They try to find it outside home.

She Always Finds Something Negative About Herself

A right size model, beautiful, can think that she is ugly. Not because she is comparing herself to others. But she is looking for perfection in what she is seeing on the outside. I want no pimples. No fat. Right color of hair. Always wearing make-up. If anyone saw her, they would be amazed by her outer appearance. But her friends knows. She has low self-esteem and confidence. No matter how beautiful she looks, she always find something negative in it. Negative self-talk. If she would instead cut time she spends on her outside for so many hours daily, and instead spend half an hour on building her self-esteem and self-confidence regularly. She would feel beautiful. She would have a positive attitude about herself. Easily forgive. No matter how much weight she will gain, she will think good of herself. She would know her strengths and weaknesses. She would have self-insight about herself, and become self-empovering. If parents helped young girls, and build them up from the inside, no matter how people talked about their appearance, they would be confident within themselves. When people understand how to feel beautiful, they work more on those matters, because it releases positive energy. It`s no more about, I want to look good anymore. It`s about I want to do good deeds, because that makes me feel good. Real beauty is not about those who heart eyes, with their beauty, it`s about those who melt hearts with their good and decent conduct. These people change hearts. They can make a difference.

wife-beautify-yourself-for-your-husband-muslim-showHusbands And Wives Duties And Rights

From the time a girl is young, she is looking forward to one day find a man and get married. Many girls and women want to wear hijab, but are afraid whether that will hinder them from finding a spouse, in their future. This is why it is important for the entire muslim community, in every country, to teach their boys and men, what beauty is. Help them understand the beauty of how good righteous women, can help them achieve great work for Islam, by supporting them in their way for Islam. Male find comfort in their wife, that rejuvenate them to get closer to Allah. Maybe that is why Allah said the best joy for a muslim man, is having a righteous wife. She will help him do good. Comfort him, and motivate him, to do more. In the journey of having a good relationship with her husband, every wife must understand, the necessary of the wife adoring herself for her husband. When she will put some effort in this for her marriage, it will make it easier for the husband, to lower his gaze and keep himself pure. Other women will make less fitnah for her husband, because he is being fulfilled with what he needs, from his wife. This sunnah, is often ignored by many wives. They don`t keep themselves clean in the house. Or beautify themselves only for their husband’s sake. This causes damage to their husbands, whom are really hungered when they step out every day. In the west, when men go outside for work, they can easily get attracted to other females, because of the fitnah of how they beautify themselves. Nowadays, even a muslimah without hijab and with hijab can be a fitnah for a muslim man. When the wifes hungers their husbands, and they meet these sights outside their home, I can understand, what kind of difficulty this must cause for their life. If both the wife and husband, dig in their goodwill towards each other, and starts to do the work they are needed to keep each other fulfilled, many troubles can be minimized or sorted out. And the couple and the family could enjoy a more blessed and barakah full life.

A Summarized List To Remember Always:

1. Help children boys and girls understand the beauty of good conduct, good deeds, helping hands for those less fortunate.
2. Parents build the self-esteem and confidence of their children, boys and girls.
3. Every wife, beautify yourself unconditionally for your husband only
4. Every husband, appreciate your wife unconditionally, shower on her love. When she feels beautiful, she would do more to look beautiful.
5. When every marriage is fulfilling the need of the husband and wife, they will be rejuvenated to do much more. This will help the wife fulfil her duty of hijab, and the husband to lower his gaze when he steps outside. Happy and good parents raise great children.

Protect Your Marriage = Protect Your Community

If we are able to raise children who know what beauty is, and confident about themselves, they will be a positive contributor for both muslim and non-muslim community in your country. There is a reason why some male, men and boys, stand on the corner of many places in most countries, even islamic countries. When every wife and husbands spends time on protecting their marriage, it also protect other marriages. Every man or woman, who has to step outside, and is not fulfilled from the home, will easier fall into fitnah. It doesn`t have to be a affair. It can be media, pictures, programmes etc. These people can cause trouble for other marriages. That is why every married ummati, must fulfil their duties upon their spouse, and not only talk about what rights they have. Ya Allah, protect every marriage, for every ummati til the end of time. Help every spouse fulfil their duties towards their spouse and children. Help us understand what beauty is. How to cultivate the beauty of character in ourself, and our family. Help us correct our shortcomings. Aamen summa aamen.

Picture courtesy : the muslim show.

๐Ÿ˜ beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

๐Ÿคค shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’… using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰ not lowering your gaze. 

๐Ÿ•Œ using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

๐Ÿ‘ using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

๐Ÿ‘š using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿ˜‹talking in a way that attracts attention. 

๐Ÿ mixing with others without any limitations. 

๐ŸŽผ ๐ŸŽธ๐ŸŽท listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

๐ŸŽฌ watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

โญ๏ธ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

๐Ÿค gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

๐Ÿคž๐Ÿคฅlying about others. 

๐Ÿค ๐Ÿ˜ˆ making enmity between friends / spouses. 

๐Ÿ˜ผ making oaths about false matters. 

๐Ÿคง convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

๐Ÿ˜คโ˜ ๏ธ using magic to get what you want in life. 

๐Ÿ™ƒ spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

๐Ÿ˜‡ being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

๐Ÿ•ธ using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

๐Ÿ supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

๐Ÿฅ using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

๐Ÿ„๐Ÿ– eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

๐Ÿ•Š๐Ÿ˜ฌ harming people who do good. 

๐Ÿ‘‰ false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 

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My Prayer..

โ€œO Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.โ€ Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
otherโ€™s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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