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every blessing is a testEvery human being is blessed in some way or the other. Some people are though more blessed than others. We human beings have this fault in us that it is easier for us to count other people`s blessings rather than our own. We have a nice car, a beautiful house, a giving job, yet still when someone else receives some blessing from Allah, we tend to get a tad bit jealous. Have we forgotten how Allah has blessed us numerous times? For All we know the one that is recieving a blessing we are jealous of, has probably worked hard for sometime to achieve it? Or had a time of difficulty which now has become a time of ease. We don`t know but Allah knows, right 🙂

 

The richest of people

People who are content with what they have, are the richest of people. Subhan Allah! What a wonderful quote from our beloved Prophet (pbuh). Surely that is just how it is. People whom despite not having everything in their life, are content of the decree of Allah, are truly those people whom have experienced true happiness and contentment.

 

Things that distract us from our relationships

Think for a moment. Why are does those children playing in the slums of Africa or Asia look happier than children playing in Europe, despite they having all kinds of playgrounds and toys here. Maybe because they are content with the decree of Allah, and are not as distracted by everything around them like we. Living in Norway I see sometimes that children have all kinds of distracting things with them. Almost all the time. Internet, games, Facebook, iPhone, Ipod, Ipad, Tv etc. These things are nice time-killers, but they also steal the time away from children, and even the adults. Giving us less time for relationships. We are getting distracted by all sorts of things that doesn`t even allow us to give our devoted attention to people around us.

 

Look at those below you, rather than those above you

Our Prophet (pbuh) has said in a hadith, look at those beneath you, instead of looking at those above you. That would make you happier and more content with what you have. If we always compare each other with those that have more than us, we would be living a race that never achieves it`s goal. Because as the world is developing likely are people buying and getting more things in their luxury life. The world is not going to stop to develop nor are the people going to stop buying new things. So what should we do than? Whenever we are dazzled by something, we should always look at those that are less fortunate than us. That would lead us to become more thankful for those blessings we have in our lives, give us true contentment and voila we will feel grateful.

 

When we are grateful Allah gives us more of His blessings

Do you know what`s so great about feeling grateful? Allah says in the Quran that we should be thankful for the blessings he has showered upon us. And not be arrogant. We are arrogant when we don`t realize that we are truly blessed. We are arrogant when we aren`t thankful to Allah. Allah says that be grateful and I will give you more. Just think where that will lead us if we try to apply that to our lives?

 

A test can be a blessing, and a blessing can be a test

An important fact to remember is that when you see that someone is blessed with something, the same thing could be a means of trials and tribulations for the person that you are thinking about. For instance you see, children and money are seen as a blessing. Though Allah has said in the Quran that money and children are all means of trials. He will send us trials through these blessings to see who of us are better in deed. So every blessing has it`s backside. You might not see it, but reality is that it still is there.

 

After every difficulty there is ease

So what to do then? When we see someone may be perhaps more blessed than us. Remember he/she might have experienced a great deal of difficulties before Allah sent those people an ease. He is probably worthy of that blessing. We can`t see the hikmah, the knowledge that Allah has about the circumstance. Only Allah knows that. What we can do is to think that with every blessing there is always a backside. So be grateful for what you have. Truly Allah knows who he blesses. And All of us are blessed with some kind of blessing, either we recognize it or not. Lets be those true submissive and grateful slaves of Allah that can see all the blessings in their life, in sha Allah. Let`s start our day with saying Alhamdolillah. Allah gives us another day each time we wake up in the morning to do something for our religion. Lets try to make a difference. In sha Allah ameen.

 

Conclusion

To conclude i would say, count your own blessings, instead of counting others`.  And be happy with what you have by looking at those less fortunate than you. Alway know that with any blessing there is always a backside that we might not know about. Know that Allah is trying us by giving us blessings, to see who of us are best in deed. Be content with what you have and Allah will shower you with more of His blessings, in sha Allah. Ameen. Ya Allah make us your pious worshippers and keep us steadfast on the deen, give us sabr to face the challenges in our lives, and give us true guidance to follow everything you have commanded us to follow, ameen summa ameen.

fatherI am thankful and happy that my parents are still with me. Though not everyone is as fortunate as me. For some one or both of their parents have left the world. Whether growing up with one or none parents, it is as tough as it could be. When living in this world is difficult when you have your whole family. Imagine how it is like in case some of them have passed away? Not to mention in case one has siblings. Than the responsibilities for the family is standing in line to occupy your time.

A mother can take the place of a father but a father can never take the place of a mother. The way mothers care for us. Noone can care for us like that. Women in general are more nurturing than men. But mothers are special beings. They care for us unconditionally in a way only they can. Making sure that we have eaten, cheering us up when we are down, and making sure that were ok, knowing exactly how we are feeling even when we haven`t told them. Yes mothers are special beings sent from above.

If Allah has taken your mother or any parent away from you, remember that there is a hikmat, one thought of His, behind it. Sometimes Allah withholds something from us to give us something better. Other times he gives us something but sends trials along with the blessing. We can not understand His Works. All we need to do is have full faith in Allah. He does take care of everyone. Nevertheless He loves us more than what 70 mothers do. So if he has decided something for us, it IS for the BEST. We are not in a state to overrule His will. We need to have faith in His decisions in sha Allah.

Our parents love us dearly. They want what is best for us as well. As for our father, he is constantly worried for your if you have everything you need. He can never be a mother, but that doesn`t mean he doesn`t love you. Fathers has a different way of showing that he cares through making sure that we have everything we need, paying the bills etc that is how he shows his love to his children.

Know that with every difficulty there is one or multiple ease`s. If Allah has taken away something from you, he has given you other blessings where you are totally overblessed 😉 Alhamdolillah 😉 He works in His own ways. Whenever you feel down, try to count those blessings you have that are with you today, and you will feel better, in sha Allah. May Allah give Jannah to the parents that he has taken away from us and may Allah give us sabr/patience for the difficulties he has sent to us to test us. May Allah give long life to the parents that are with us and let us experience all of each others happiness and keep us steadfast on the deen, ameen summa ameen.

not the jealous typeI found an article about it on the internet, which I would like to share.

Have Muslims lost their Sense of Gheera?

We live in societies in which most men and women have lost their sense of modesty, women are obsessed with their appearances and wear clothes to be seen by others and to attract the attention of other men even if they are married! They have lost their sense of shame. Marriage is often looked upon as old-fashioned and short term affairs and frivolous relationships are the norm, everyone waiting to attract a better partner and feeling totally justified to dump one partner for another at the drop of a hat. Feminism too has reached its peak and men and women are told to suppress their natural emotions. Men are not even embarrassed when their wives are dressed up and attract the attention of other men, they don’t mind if another man sees, chats, laughs and even dances with their womenfolk and if they do mind, they are told not to be so possessive!

In Islam we have a concept of gheerah. Gheerah is an Arabic word which means protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of jealousy, like when a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or sisters and other-womenfolk and doesn’t like other men to look at them. It is a natural inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women. The Prophet (peace be upon him) had the most gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were known for their gheerah. All Muslim men should have a collective sense of protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Qur’an, the meaning of which is:

“The Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”

Men who do not care about how their women behave and appear in front of other men and don’t enforce hijaab upon their wives or women-folk are called dayyooth. Being a dayyooth is a major sin and a detailed description of this evil characteristic can be found in al-Dhahabi’s Book of Major Sins.

A story of Gheerah

To further understand the quality of gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa’ (may Allah be pleased with her) the daughter of Abu Bakr al-Siddiq (may Allah be pleased with him) and sister of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and married his daughter Asmaa’ to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-‘Awwam (may Allah be pleased with him) who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the companions who were promised Paradise. Asmaa’ relates:

“When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave…” so Asmaa’ had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get water. “And I used to carry on my head,” she continues, “the date stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madinah. One day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair and his gheerah and he was a man having the most gheerah. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubair and said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it, but I felt shy and I remembered your gheerah.” So Asmaa’ declined the offer made by the Prophet (peace be upon him). Upon this az-Zubair said: “By Allah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him.”

Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa’! See how she felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her husband’s feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of gheerah so she didn’t want to upset him by accepting the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) help even though the Prophet was the purest of men and even though it meant bringing hardship on herself! And look at az-Zubair (may Allah be pleased with him), even though he had a lot of gheerah, he didn’t want to inconvenience his wife. What a beautiful relationship they had!

Nurturing our sense of Gheerah

jealosySometimes Muslim women don’t understand if their menfolk want them to cover their faces or if they ask them to change something about the way they dress or speak in public, thinking that the men are being over-protective. But my dear sisters! If your husband asks you not to wear a certain colour of khimar because it brings out the beauty of your eyes or if he wants you to cover your face – be thankful! Be proud of the fact that your husband has a sense of gheerah for you and that he values you and cares for your hereafter. He knows what men can be like more than you do and so never try and suppress his gheerah in these types of matters. And his concern for you should incite your own sense of honour! Why should any man be able to see your beauty and think indecent thoughts about you? We must nurture our own and our menfolk’s sense of gheerah by behaving and dressing modestly ourselves and paying attention to their valid opinions. We expect certain behaviour from them and they expect it of us. And besides, if our husband asks us to do something that is not haram, we must do it.

Brothers! How can you allow your wife or sister to walk around attracting the attentions and evil-thoughts of other men? How can you not mind if she smiles as she talks to other men. Nobody has the right to enjoy her and her company but you and her Maharim men. You are not being overbearing if you first encourage and then enforce the hijab on your womenfolk because YOU will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it is also a major sin upon you! It is upon the men to enforce these things in their homes and you cannot use the excuse that your wife didn’t want to. Women need a firm, balanced, guiding hand from their men, so with wisdom you must enforce hijab in your home. You are a shepherd and are responsible for your flock!
Allah reminds us all in the Qur’an, the meaning of which is:

“O you who believe, Protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones.”
There is a big difference between how Islam values and protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam. As Muslims we have to be careful that our sense of modesty, shame and gheerah don’t wear out in a society in which people have lost it.

headacheIn today`s society people whom have a mental illness regardless of their health are disrespected and treated badly by others. People look down upon them call them with nicknames and treat them like they aren`t worth anything. I can`t believe the fact that people think that they are actually better than the one with a mental illness. Who knows who is best in Allah’s sight.

Looking down on others just because they are different means that you don`t even know what a life is worth. Allah made each an every creature in His own way. He knows everything. If someone is made a bit different from that person can be better than others. You don`t know but Allah knows. Who are we to judge others by their sickness.

I am sick and tired of people misbehaving towards other just because they are special people. The society we live in promote that everyone has to look beautiful in certain measurements and wear certain brands to be cool. That is totally wrong. We don`t need things to beautify us. A wonderful character is beautiful in itself. It doesn`t need tons of make-up or perfume to come into the different clicks.

Any illness regardless of its type is a test of Allah. It could be of any type. It could be because Allah loves them so much. Allah gives difficulties to the one He loves so that when that person shows patience in that struggle he becomes higher in status in Allah’s sight. Who are we to judge anyone?

In today’s society people judge others with mental illnesses just because they are different. I guess these people are judging others just because of the stereotypes they have seen on tv or commercials. What makes them say that those people are the one we should look like.

In Islam what MAKES a person is not their looks but it`s their inside, their heart, their intentions. If that is what Allah looks at, and He is the only one that has that power, than who do we think we are looking down on others with these kind of illnesses.

I have a dream and some goals and one of my prayers is that these kinds of discriminations in today’s society would vanish. It hurts my heart to see that people I look upto has these kinds of prejudices.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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