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respectYour wife will feel esteemed when..

-You say, “I`m so proud of the way you handled that”

-You speak highly of her in front of others

-You open the door for her

-You try something new with her

-You give her encouragement or praise with kindness and enthusiasm

-You notice something different about her hair or clothes

-You are physically affectionate with her in public

-You teach the children to show her and others respect

-You value her opinion in the gray areas as not wrong but just different – and valid

-You choose family outings over “guy things”

-You make her feel first in importance

-You are proud of her and all she does

hear what i am sayingShe will feel you are trying to understand her when..

-You listen and can repeat back what she says

-You don`t try to “fix her problems”, unless she specially asks for a solution.

-You try to identify her feelings

-You never dismiss her feelings, no matter how illogical they may seem to you

-You say: “I appreciate you sharing that with me”

-You don`t interrupt her when she`s trying to tell you how she feels

-You apologize and admit you were wrong

-You cut her some slack during her monthly cycle

-You see something that need to be done and you do it without a lot of hassle

-You express appreciaton for all she does: “honey, I could never do your job”

-You pray with her and for her

Extract taken out of the book “Love and respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerich.

happinessYour wife feels you are open to her when..

-You share your feelings, telling about your day and difficulties

-You say, “let`s talk”, ask her what she`s feeling, and ask for her opinions

-Your face shows you want to talk – relaxed body language, good eye-contact

You take her for a walk to talk and reminisce about how you met or perhaps you talk about the kids and problems she may having with them

-You pray with her

-You give her your full attention.. no grunting responses while trying to watch tv, read the newspaper or write emails

-You discuss financial concerns, possible job changes, or ideas for the future

fun and easy marriage tipYour wife feels close to you when..

-You hold her hand

-You hug her

-You are affectionate without sexual intention

-You are with her alone so you can focus on each other and laugh together

-You go for a walk or jog.. anything that results in togetherness

-You seek her out.. Set up a date night.. eat by candlelight

-You go out of your way to do something for her, like run an errand

-You make it a priority to spend time with her

-You are aware of her as a person with mind and opinions. Let her know you enjoy discussing things with her and getting her insights.

-You suggest the unexpected.. get takeout and eat on the beach.. take a walk to see the full moon..

-You pillow talk after making love

Taken out of the book “Love and respect” Dr Emerson Eggerichs.

how you are feelingA lot of people whom aren`t that into Islam, though are muslims, often make fun of others who are following the deen. I have experienced this myself. If you are the only one in your friends or acquaintances that read salah or have a beard and is trying to follow the sunnah, people will make fun of you. They will give comments about the other persons looks and make fun of them in front of others. Though deep down, i believe they actually want to be like them, but haven`t come as “far” as those muslims in practising their deen. So instead of encouraging them they belittle them.

I am thinking that these people should be a bit careful about how they look down on others that are practising the deen. If they by their remarks make someone un-motivated to do a good deed, they might be those people whom have managed to take someone off seerat-ul-mustaqim. So they will get a share in their bad deeds or the gunah for them stopping to practice something they did before.

Instead they should motivate and encourage others and look up to good muslims. Maybe in a few years they will be in that person’s place and someone else would look down on them. Lets stop the vicious circle. If you can`t encourage someone when they are doing something great at least don`t prevent them from doing something good.

A very nice hadith quote i like is “Wish for your fellow muslim what you wish for yourself”. Lets in sha Allah put that in practice 😉 When one is happy for others in their accomplishments, Allah will also give you like as much, if not even more.

What is important in life. It is not the fancy car which you have just bought it is more about your accomplishments in your deen. Have you started to read salah with khusho, Quran with translation, and improve your character by reading hadiths. Than that is where the eternal felicity is.

People that have to listen to other muslims remarks when they are practicing their deen, need to remember that hadith-quote, that Islam started as something strange and in the end it will become something for strangers (few will practice is as the sunnah is), so glad tidings to the strangers. Be proud of who you are (Muslims), where you have come from and all the Islamic heritage that we have gotten from our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) his Sunnah, the Quran and the sahaba and the righteous muslims that have lived.

when something hurts rememberAre you wondering what greatness from within is according to my humble opinion. Let me give a few points I think are a way of achieving greatness from within:

  • You have greatness from within when you don`t take advantage of other people`s weaknesses. If you get a chance to do something good. Let it be to not to hurt others. But instead spread smiles and joy.

  • You have greatness from within when you know when to give up and when to hold on. Understand what is gone and what is with you. That would save you from a lot of heartbreak and misery.

  • You have greatness within when you are confident even when  people are pulling you down, because you know better. You know what will happen to the legpulllers and you know what will happen to the people who are sincere in helping you.

  • You have greatness from within when you do the right thing at the right time with the right people, instead of the wrong thing, at the wrong time, with the wrong people. Timing is important, and you have that ability to see when it is correct.

  • You have greatness from within when you are genuine in being nice. Not because you will gain any advantage, but because you know it is the right thing to do, and you want to help.

Do you want to share your points? Comment if you want to 😉

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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June 2013
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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper

Mood :)