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Living in the West we see all kinds of people. Some people are totally western dressed where you can see that they aren`t exactly hiding their skin, others wear full-armed sleeves and even hijab or/and niqab. Yes we have freedom of speech, though my question is for how long? Nowadays the politicians in Norway have put the hijab on the agenda again. This time, not to praise it, but rather questioning whether it should be allowed to wear in Norwegian schools. I`m afraid that the freedom of choice is only for non-muslims and not for the muslim people living here. Why else should they try to ban niqab.

I mean that if a girl is free almost to wear revealing garments at school, why can`t a girl cover herself and go to the same school. What do you think would harm the society most? Do you think a girl who is fully covered from head to toe with a niqab would get molested, or a girl who is revealing her body with less clothes? What do you think would attract a rapist between these two options? What kind of society is this, where girls whom want to cover themselves from head to toe is seen as a threat to the society? Isn`t the half-naked girls wandering around the schools at summer time or other places in the city more of a threat to the society? Don`t you think other boys/men could try to mess with them with the wrong intentions, rather than a fully clothed person that they can`t even see the face too? Do you see where I am getting?

I like a lot of things here in Norway, this is my country, I was born and raised here. Though sometimes it seems like that non-muslims have more rights in certain issues than muslims? If girls have a choice to go half-naked, why can`t a niqabi use her freedom of choice to wear a niqab? I guess that the half-naked girls are more of a threat to the well-being of this society than the hijabis or niqabis. In that way that they are guiding our generations of brothers towards un-healthy stuff like porn and pictures of naked women. Is this what they call healthy and normal? What is the politicians definition of a healthy society? What kind of society do they want when they would rather like people promoting promiscuity than values that you shouldn`t look at other girls because they are your sisters in your religion Islam?

The men in the society in the west are the people whom make us women believe that if we aren`t beautiful and wear certain clothes no one is getting married or will have any family or get someone they could spend their life with. What else would make the boutiques sell those fancy revealing dresses or the make-up for the girls. What happened in france was that the shops made less sale of make-up because of the niqabis and the hijabis. Lets think here, if your daughter found a person to marry, wouldn`t you want to think that this person loves her because of her values her upbringing here set of thoughts, her mind, rather than whether she looks beautiful beside him or not? A girl is not a trophy, that you can show to the entire world. She is rather a pearl, to be hidden from eyes that try to screen her for the wrong intentions.

Some of the teachers at school have said that they have difficulties teaching the niqabis and some have even protested that they don`t want them in the classroom. But why? Because they have other values than you? Why is the society so afraid that these girls would be a threat to them after they get an education? Is it because they are afraid that they will get a higher status in different portions of the society and might even get a great position somewhere where they also can lead? Are they afraid that Islam or muslims are taking over the country? Just because you give us our right to practice our religion you are afraid we are after your position? Doesn`t this sound a bit absurd? Shouldn`t there be freedom of choice to be a muslim? And there is, Alhamdolillah. Why are the people so afraid of Islam? It teaches the same universal values as in your religion and in lots of other religions as well. I mean, I think we are agreed upon the bottom line, that everyone has the right to practice their religion, right? Is that a right that is only on the paper and not in practice? Doesn`t hijabis/niqabis have a right to take an education in Norway? What would that lead to? That you are discrimination them to take less education to keep them in your control. I mean, not every person has the money to take an education abroad. What would happen to these girls then, when they can`t go to school? Are you in some way trying to oppress us muslim girls in the society, that we don`t have the chance to become a “somebody”? I guess, that is how i understand that your intention is behind this so-called ban, that is a hot issue in the media nowadays?

Lets talk about frp, a political party in Norway, for a moment. They are for christians schools but against muslim schools? Why is that? Does the christians have more right to practice their religion rather than the muslims in the country? Is the freedom of choosing your religion only for christians and not for muslims? Carl I hagen used to pray in the schools yard when he was a kid, why can`t the muslim children get the same permission to do so at schools in Norway? He says that he is afraid that the muslims will pressurize each other to pray. Is he only afraid of such pressure in the muslim society? Is there a pressure like that in the christian society? I don`t know. All I know is that he is discrimination us muslims because of our religion. Every person has the right to choose their religion, and Carl i hagen and his party is discriminating the muslims in Norway.

To conclude I would like to say that the Norwegians are afraid that the hijabis and the niqabis will have a positive influence on this society if they get an education. They are trying to oppress us muslims, so that we don`t get educated enough that we can talk about our rights in this society and achieve an influence through our jobs. They think that their religion will fade away in the light of Islam, when people get more information about what Islam really is. I don`t see any clash between being a norwegian citizen and being a muslim. Apparently some political parties think differently. I hope we muslims can regain control of this issue, and let the Norwegians know that we muslims can be an excellent norwegian citizen. It is very important that we voice our opinion and make our politicians talk for our right in the Parliament. I`m afraid that we don`t have the right people elected in the Parliament. Even muslim people in the Parliament are know talking against the muslims rather than being on the side of their own religion, just because they are afraid that they won`t get elected next year or lose influence in their own political party, as their career would stop right there. It`s sad we are selling our religion. For what gain? The gain in the hereafter is better, if you only knew.

I have a long way to go. I haven`t come to my goal yet, but I have started the journey. The journey that could lead me to Jannah, if I work on myself and follow what is right, In sha Allah, ameen. I started using the hijab in march 2009. It was my own free will to start with it and no one forced me into it. I had thought about starting with hijab for ages but different things like not having the right clothes and stuff came in the way. My choice was not influences by anyone at home or by any friend, it was my own choice, that I thought was right for me.

Alhamdolillah, as the years have gone, I have eventually stopped with a lot of things that are un-islamic. Like plucking eyebrows, wearing right hijab without the camel-hump-style, to not wear perfume where non-mehram is, and stuff like that. My point is that all these things I stopped doing was not anyone who pressurized me to do, it was my own decision and made from learning more about Islam. Learning about why it was wrong to do these things.

I guess, what the politicians today don`t know is that hijab is our sisters own choice. No one forces it on us. If we want to protect ourselves from the eyes of men, than this would be the correct way. To hide ourselves. The hijab doesn`t hide our opinion or what`s in our head it protects us from other people whom unwilling are screening us when we are outside our homes. Different things/creatures in this world is in hijab. For instance the earth has an ozone layer around it to protect it, we humans and animals have skin over our body to keep the blood inside our beings, in vegetables and fruits everything has a shell. Most often we peel the skin of the fruits we eat, or make sure that its intact before we eat it. Those things “hijab” is also here to protect it from it`s surroundings, so why shouldn`t we women have that right, when the hijab is found everywhere?

Some people in my own family have also been a bit against me using a jilbab/Abayah/Jubbah at work. But Alhamdolillah that hasn`t stopped me from doing what I was determined to do. Of course I have had my periods when I stopped using the Jilbab and times when I wanted to but didn`t. But lately I have been able to make up my mind that if I don`t use it, it could be downfall for me. A little time ago, I read a status from an islamic page that talked about Hijab for women and men. There it was written that if you are a Fitnah/trial for other boys or men, than beware because the day you get married, your husband or your children (boys) will experience fitnah/trial from other girls. And the same way around. If you as being a man/boy are a fitnah/trial for other women/girls, than after you marry your wife would experience fitnah/trials from her surroundings. Like a karma thing. This scared the shit out of me, and still does. So I`m trying to do my best to not be a cause of fitnah for others, in sha Allah. It`s not an easy task, though I guess it`s not impossible either. But I`m trying. May Allah help me and the whole Ummah to not be any cause of fitnah/trial for each other in any way, ameen summa ameen.

I want to initially start with niqab, but need more guidance from above and support to become a niqabi sister. May Allah make it easy for me, and for every sister of this Ummah, in sha Allah.

This ayat should be supplicated to Allah, all the time in sha Allah, in the Quran Surah Baqarah ayat 286 Allah says:

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” (Quran 2:286)

If some few people force their children to wear hijab, it does not mean that all are the same. If that is the case with a few family`s, something should get done to hinder those from forcing their children, but a ban for all is not the way to go. Mostly of us  muslim women has used their own free will to start wearing hijab, as I know. For instance, if some people drive like crazy and crash their car, does not mean that we should not let anyone drive their cars. No. The small amount of people whom can`t respect the driving laws should be given a sanction for it. Though we can`t ban everyone from driving as long as they don`t break any driving-rules or regulations.

When women want to go with a mini skirt or with less clothes they have the right to do so, if they have the right to walk with revealing clothes where their skin can be seen, why can`t I have the right to walk with my skin hidden with my hijab or niqab? This is double standards, the non-muslims have rights that I don`t just because their not muslims? The media and people in general is afraid of Islam because it is increasing in number. That is why they try to paint the wrong picture of Islam in the media. It is our responsibility as muslims to sort out the misunderstandings so that people can see what real Islam is.

To conclude I would say that politicians doesn`t have enough information about the muslim women, why they start wearing the hijab. Mainly women are not forced into it, as they want to protect themselves from strangers eyes. It is every muslim girl/women`s right to make their own choice about it, without being forced from either sides, whether they want to use it, or whether they don`t want to use it.

This is a naat/nasheed I like a lot. Here are the lyrics:)

Har Kali dil ki muskurai hain
Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Hai Rukhe-Mustapha woh aina
Jis mein khaliq ki roh-numai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Shafa-e-asia Muhammad (pbuh) hain
Baat apni bani banai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Gham ka mara hon besahara hon
Laaj walein teri duhai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Dard-e-Ishq-e-Nabi khuda rakhein
Bekason ki yahin kamai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Bazme-konein Ya Rasolallah (pbuh)
Teri jalwon se jagmagai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Uski kashti ka khauff kya jis ne
Kamli-valein se loh lagayi hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Kyon na mushkil-kusha kahon tumko
Tum ne bhigri meri banai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Jiske haaton mein unka daaman hain
Uske kabze mein sab khudai hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Ese maston ka kaif kya kehna
Jin ko Sarkar ne pilayi hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

Un pe har dam durood par khalid
Ke yehi shagle-kibriayi hain

Jab madine ki yaad ayi hain

-Read by Khursheed Ahmed-

I remember when I finished high school, I was so happy. Although i didn`t experience direct bullying, but there was so much pressure on us by our classmates to wear the right brand of clothes, and to hang with the cool people, and have a lot of friends. I was relieved when I carried on my education at the University that there were all kinds of students there. In our class we had classmates from being in the fifties and me only eighteen years old. It was a huge gap but at least we saw that people can be different, and there`s nothing wrong with that. I enjoyed that time.

When I see kids on the bus that are going through the same phase, as me, going to high school, I wish I could reach out and say, it`s ok to be different, you don`t always have to fit in the crowd, you don`t have to follow the people who are so-called cool to get more influence, or hang with the people who bully you.

I haven often thought that parents should teach their children self-respect from when they are very young, so they can fight back when people misbehave with them. They should know where the line goes, and when to say enough is enough. They should know when it`s time to talk to an adult because things have gone way out of their hands to handle.

Schools in Oslo has always had a anti-bullying-campaign every year, and some schools are doing outstanding work to teach children to respect each other no matter what ethnicity, race or color they have.

Although teachers or parents are not the best to see that the children are having a tough time at school or are being bullied. That`s why it`s so important that parents know their children so that they can help them out of it.

Nowadays also the media Facebook, twitter and other places is a place where lot of bullying is happening. Parents can`t always see that. Sometimes friends would post pictures of each other to make fun of them. Who can be there to be a nanny to prevent such stuff? The parents love their children and they should make sure that their children are not being bullied. A good dialogue and friendship with children is the keyword here.

It`s not as easy to talk to a parent in the family, sometimes another adult in the family an aunt or uncle can be easier to talk to. So we all should be well-aware of what kind of signals the children are sending out.

There`s no age attached to bullying, it can happen in all ages. Bullies come in every age and can be at work also. It`s very important to have a good dialogue with ones employee, so that if this occurs there, one can stop it as soon as possible. Many times a lot can be done, but sometimes it`s better to change work.

What`s important is that there will always be some people whom you get along with, and no matter where you are there will always be some people you don`t get along with. That is ok. Though every person should have a sence of self-respect in them, so that they can have the courage to stand up against the mob, to say, that you don`t want them to bully you. It takes a lot of confidence, and support from good friends or family. Ultimately it is up to us whether we take a stand or not.

I have been bullied a few times by people, so what keeps me going is that, if this is how they are behaving towards me, one day they will get it back, somehow. I also think, that probably the people whom bully others are having a tough time themselves, but they are not able to do anything about it, so they are taking out their anger on the people whom they interact with daily. So sometimes being extra kind to the bully might change him/her.

We as a society do also have a responsibility to take action against bully’s if we see that someone is being bullied. After all the generations that are growing up now are going to take care of the country when they are old enough. So why shouldn`t we teach them the right universal values, so that they take good care of the country when we`re no more? We all have to open our eyes and not be afraid of taking action, what we need is brave parents, teachers and adults. Adults whom know how to have a talk with the bully to take control of the situation. Would you have been able to cope with your children being bullied by a lot of people? No one wants that to happen to their own flesh, so why are we closing your eyes when the person is, black, brown or yellow. It`s time we try to make a difference by being fair. Every person has feelings, no matter if you know them or not.

And to the bully, think about this next time, what if your children one day, will get bullied by their surroundings? I don`t think YOU would appreciate that, would you? Remember the person you are bullying is someone`s kid, and one day it could happen to someone you care about, so why not stop the chain so that it never happens again. Take control of your situation and talk to someone whom can help you, an adult in your family, if not your parents, or a teacher at school. If you are nice to people, you would probably start an epidemic of niceness and finally you would get the niceness back somehow, because it is contagious. Why not start an epidemic of nice attitude?

May Allah protect us all from being bullied and never make our life that hard that we become the bullier. Ameen summa ameen.

Muhammad bin Ishaq Ra narrated that Ibn Abbas said that Allah said to His Prophet (pbuh):

“Say to them if the home of the hereafter with Allah is indeed for you especially and not for others, of mankind, then long for death if you are truthful”. (Quran 2:94)

Meaning: Invoke Allah to bring death to the lying camp among the two (muslims and jews). The jews declined this offer by the Messenger of Allah (pbuh).

“But they will never long for it because of what their hands have sent for them (i.e. what they have done). And Allah is Aware of the zalimun (polytheists and wrongdoers). (Quran 2:95)

Meaning ” since they know that they recognize you and yet disbelieve in you”. Had they wished death that day, no jew would have remained alive on the face of the earth.

Similarly, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) called a delegation of Najrans christians to curse after they refuted them in a debate in which they demonstrated stubbornness and defiance. Allah said:

” Then whosoever disputes with you concerning him (Isa after all this) knowledge that has come to you (i.e. Isa being a servant of Allah, and not having a share in divinity), Say O Muhammad (pbuh) : Come let us call our sons and your sons, our women and your women, ourselves and yourselves – then we pray and invoke (sincerely) the curse of Allah upon those who lie”. (Quran 62:6-8)

When the christians heard this challenge, some of them said to each other, “By Allah! If you do such with this Prophet (pbuh) none of you will have an eye that blinks”. This is when they resorted to peace and gave the Jiziah (tax) in disgrace. The Prophet (pbuh) accepted the jiziah from them.

-Source Tafsir Ibn Kathir-

Even though our Prophet (peace be upon him) lived since over 1400 years ago, he is and always will be the most prominent person in every muslims live. A hadith quote says, that if you don`t love Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) more than yourself, your family or any other being than your faith (iman) is not complete. So each and every person whom has Islam in his/her heart, will love their Prophet that much, if they want to be a better muslim. So when people attack someone whom we muslims love so much as stated before, what do you think will happen then? what kind of mind would be thinking of insulting someone whom we muslims have so close to our heart? I don`t care whether the movie-maker is a christian or a jew, what he did is wrong, and I`m sure every person with his heart at right place would condemn it.

At the time when our Prophet lived and from the time Islam began a lot of jews and christians got jealous of him. A few reasons behind that was that he wasn`t a jew, neither a christian. So they got jealous that their religion wasn`t valid any more. In the Torah and the bible it was written that there was going to come a new Prophet. But somehow they twisted what was written there and try their out most to hide the truth and twist it so that people would listen to them instead of Muhammad.

Our Prophet (pbuh), before Islam came was a simple person. He was known for being trustworthy, with the best character in the city. One of the first times when our Prophet (pbuh) was about to preach Islam, he asked the persons standing there, that if he said something would the others listen to him and apply it or not. They all said that they would trust him for that because he always conveyed the truth, was nice to old and children, neighbours and his family, he would never deceit anyone. Though when he conveyed what Allah has told him to convey, they turned their back to him, because they rather wanted to be better than him. Why was the message conveyed to an ordinary person and not some other of the tribe men that were rich and powerful. Though Allah wanted to show the best character ever in a person, and our Prophet (pbuh) had that character.

Some people are more emotional than others, when something insults the people they love the most, they can go out of hand. Though there is no excuse of killing an innocent life, that had nothing to do with the movie, I still understand that they did it. We muslims get provoked by these kinds of cartoons, and movies and articles that insult the being we love more than anyone.

We muslims don`t go around and insult other christians or jews. What we try to do or dais are doing is trying to convince them to accept Islam with clear proof. The reason is that we know that Allah has sent their message before our message came and we believe in that message. The untwisted version that is. But we also believe that Islam is the last message that will ever come and that our Prophet (pbuh) is the final Messenger. We muslims know how important our religion is for us, so we wouldn`t ever want to harm another person`s religion. Even our Prophet (pbuh) gave them protection from being harmed when there was a war between the muslims and the non-muslims. It is said in the Quran that if the person doesn`t want to fight, don`t fight him (in the war/jihad) he can pay a jizyah (tax) and he will given protection.

“If one amongst the Pagans ask thee for Asylum grant it to him, so that he may hear the word of Allah, and then escort him to where he can be secure. That is because they are men without knowledge”. (Quran Surah 9:6).

So you see Islam gave protection to every person, even if they were non-muslims, as long as they wanted peace, and not war. If our Prophet (pbuh) was alive today, he still would have proclaimed the same message, he would have forgiven and tried his most by his character show that there is a better way then using violence. Killing an innocent life in Islam, is seen as killing the whole of humanity, and to save a human from bein killed is as saving the whole of humanity. So how could a person whom has such a beautiful message, approve of the hooligans in the different countries we are watching in the news?

We muslims should use this opportunity to learn more about our Prophets (pbuh) character and life and apply it to ourselves as we teach and share that to everyone we know. Use the negative for something positive, and one day there would become more muslims than ever, every time they try to harm Islam in any way. Because the people want to know the truth about the religion, so they start to study the religion to find out what it says, form the source Quran, and find the right way, and InshaAllah embrace Islam. SubhanAllah, we don`t know but Allah knows everything.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper

Mood :)