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I have sort of been brought up in a joint family, as my brothers got married when I was only 18. So til now I`ve had a few good experiences as well as bad experiences with it. The good experiences are that one has the elders with one, that is an easy way of achieving their blessings and all, one help each other when there is need, always someone at home. On the other hand, it could happen that one feels that one doesn`t have that much privacy, as there is always someone around. Sometimes as one grows older, one wants to do things ones own way, instead of always ask the elder if it is ok. I mean when are you old enough that you can make your own decisions? For Norwegians, according to their law it is 18, but I don`t think one is mature enough to make any good decisions at that time. Though when you are mature enough to get married, I believe everyone has the strive to do things their own way. Like for instance ones way of bringing up your child differs from the family you live in, think how difficult it would be for both of the part? As living in joint family everyone does have their say but they are not always heard. And who is right? Who decides that? How far does my responsibility go when I disagree, but although want to do the right thing? Theres no definite answer to any of these questions, and their answers differ from family to family.

One thing is for sure. Now since I have started using hijab, the whole idea of living in a house when I would have to use the hijab, whenever I am outside my room, is something that would make my life quit tougher. The fact that I don`t use make up or perfume when I go out is a thing I have started from quite a long time now. But how would I manage to take of my make up before I step out side of the room, as I only want to beautify myself for my husband only. There are so many thoughts like this in my head nowadays, about this issue. As from before, I was always for joint family’s, but nowadays I don`t know anymore. As one can always get a house nearby ones parents, and be there with them despite oneself living in ones own house, can`t one? I don`t know. All I know is that I do want to be there for my parents, as my husband to be`s parents as well as I want to do things my own way and have my privacy. I will Insha Allah let you know when I find a solution to this:)

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper

Mood :)