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Du som meg vet også sikkert at den svakes sak ikke alltid blir ivaretatt. Jeg kan tenke meg at innvandrerekvinner som ikke kan språket eller som muligens er alene om å forsørge barn har meget store problemer med å ivareta sine interesser. Språket er en så stor hindring for dem at det skaper problemer. Ting som kan ordnes med lite styr for en som kan snakke og skrive flytende norsk er en meget stor hindring for både nyankomne og gamle innvandrere som ikke kan godt norsk. Det som opprører meg som oftest er at de blir kasteballer mellom forskjellige instanser. Den ene sender den et sted, så får de ikke god nok hjelp så kommer de tilbake, og etter flere frem og tilbake-sendelser blir det ansvarsfraskrivelse mellom forskjellige instanser. En som ikke kan norsk, hvordan skal hun gjøre rede for forskjellige ting ved for eksempel et navkontor. Hvordan kan hun vite hvordan hun skal søke om forskjellige rettigheter som hun har krav på i forhold til den norske lov, men trenger hjelp til å søke. Hvordan skal hun greie å få tak i de riktige papirene? Hva når hun heller ikke har noen hjemme som kan hjelpe henne til å søke om for eksempel pengestøtte? Hva om det ikke blir fulgt opp og ordnet med tolk på forskjellige slike instanser? Hvordan skal hun komme seg frem og ut her i livet når det er så mange store hindringer som ligger i veien. Noen sier at vi strekker oss for langt da vi vil hjelpe slike folk, men hvem ellers skal ivareta den svakes sak? Er det ansvarsfraskrivelse fra forskjellige instanser?

Jeg har sagt det før og jeg sier det igjen! Jeg synes det er kjempesynd at familien til de som kommer hit til Norge ikke bruker nok tid på å lære seg norsk ordentlig før de blir opptatte med familie. Det verste er nok for den generasjonen som begynner å bli gammel der faren ikke har gitt moren tillatelse til å gå ut og lære språket, eller at de ikke har hatt mulighet siden de tar heller vare på barna sine. De har ikke vært ute så mye, de vet ikke hvordan det norske samfunnet fungerer, kanskje er de aleneforsørgere med mye ansvar og lite kunnskap om ting. Si meg hvem skal ta vare på dem nå? Det er ikke alle som har en familie som kan hjelpe til eller en venn som kan godt norsk. Jeg blir så oppgitt når jeg hører om folk som trenger hjelp med de helt enkle ting i hverdagen og så har de ingen de kan lene seg på og få støtte av. Jeg blir så oppgitt for jeg jeg vil så gjerne hjelpe men så for jeg ikke lov til å ta på meg ansvar som egentlig ikke er mitt ansvar, hører jeg. Det er klare skriv som skiller ansvaret mellom nivåene. Jeg skulle ønske enhver person som er der ute hadde hatt en kontakt som kunne hjelpe dem til å klare å ivareta sine rettigheter, slik at de også kan få leve et fullverdig liv som mange av vi ressursterke gjør. Kanskje alle ressursterke som har kapasitet og driv burde bli medlem av frivillighetssentralen. Jeg tror det vil være en stor fordel om ressursterke mennesker med tospråklig bakgrunn ville melde seg. Så får vi håpe også at mennesker som trenger hjelp ikke er redd for å ta imot hjelp. Vårt verdisyn er universelt. Dog er det klart at det blir enklere å ta imot hjelp dersom den man får hjelp av kan morsmålet til den som vil ha hjelp. Om alle hjelper til så mye de kan, så kan det bety en stor forskjell for den svake der ute.. Bare en tanke:)

ice creamOne doesn`t need to have kids oneself to see the amount of pressure which they are put through nowadays. Different kinds of channels have different kinds of programs, that most of the kids would do anything to watch almost all day if they could. The thing is that kids are really pressurized a lot, nowadays maybe lots more than before. Even though I remember the pressure from when I grew up as well. Though talking about today kids have to buy certain clothes and certain shoes to fit in their friends click. A lot of the kids measure the others in what brand they are wearing. It does matter which part of the town your kid’s school is placed. Mostly I would say it depends on how their parents look at this issue and what kind of values they inject in their children. Although the type of friends they have also makes a difference. Because of the media I would say kids are under a lot of pressure to fit in and get the “right” friends to get popular.

This make me think about those ones whose parents maybe can`t afford every expensive thing they have on their list and maybe a lot of stuff that others easily buy, they can`t. I`ve thought about it sometimes that for instance if you send your kid out with an ice cream, and a lot of other kids can`t afford, hypothetically speaking, how would that make them feel? Do you think this will increase their self-confidence or not? Not only that, the other kids make fun of those kids that can`t afford it. They wave the ice cream in his/her face and says “really delicious chocolate flavour, so bad you don`t have one”. Would you say nice or cruel person? You get the picture. If kids do something like this than I hope their parents stop them. And if adults are making their kids do this than Allah please inhein hidayat ata karein. If adults have this kind of attitude towards other adults, than Allah inhein bhi hidayat ata karein. (Ameen sum ameen). This reminds me of the thought that for instance in Islam we don`t eat food in front of someone who maybe fasting, do we? Nope, that would be cruel. I would say this goes in a sort thinking that you don`t want the other to feel bad about fasting.

In Pakistan where there`s a big class difference, much more than here in Norway. The schools solve that in a different manner. They have uniforms for the kids. Though I`m not that sure if it works, cause kids can still have expensive accessorize. I believe a lot parents that are familiar with this group pressure, really take time before they decide which school their kid should enrol in. And I`m sure I`m going to emphasize that when I will be a parent myself one day. Allah sab ke haq me behtar faisla karein. Ameen sum ameen.

I remember one pep talk that I had with my bro, a few years ago, which I would like to share with you:) I remember at that time, something that is more common these days, we talked about having a boyfriend. Yeah, like any person I noticed that people around me was getting into this whole boyfriend type of thing and I wanted to talk with my bro about it, what he thought about it. It was common at that time and even more common these days that people have been into a relationship and maybe several before they get married. What I remember he told me is something that made a great impact on me. He said that persons that have been with someone before they get married, will always live their life comparing the one before with the one after, and always be in the thinking of “what if”. What if i didn`t, or what if i did. They will have more difficulties being happy with what they have, because they will always compare the one they have with the one before. You all know that like there is something great about someone, there will always be something that annoys you about the same someone. If you don`t have anyone to compare with, I would say you would always be more satisfied, and be without all those “what if`s”. Another thing that I talked about with a friend of mine, when we were talking about finding Mr right:) Is that I don`t think any person in this world will have difficulties to find a boyfriend/girlfriend. It`s not that there aren`t people out there! The thing is to find the person that is right for you, and that person whom you would like to live with for a lifetime and even eternity. That`s the toughest part:)

To sum it up I would say, wait for Mr Right and don`t jump from one to another in hope of finding love. Most of the times you won`t get anywhere with that lifestyle.

I know that this phenomena is very common these days, and is not even seen as a bad thing by parents nowadays. Though I must say that I`m totally against the fact that girls mix freely with guys and vice versa. I don`t want to know what`s common or what`s cool to do. All I want to know and what I want to do is the right thing. This is not ok for me. I would never approve that my hubby, when I get married that is, would have a girl as a friend. I don`t want to know the utts and buts, all I want to say is that it`s not ok with me. And that person who`m respects me and loves me would always keep that in mind whenever he has to interact with a girl, whoever she might be.

Living in Norway and working in an office, it`s impossible to say; You can`t talk to anyone but me. I know that is not the issue. We have to interact normally at work and of course in a public arena. I draw the line for my hubby to be, to have any other girls as friends. Mostly guys don`t see this as an issue, cause they don`t even share everything with their beloved, but from those that I know, this does make a big difference. I remember one time when I was going to the university, I was talking to a friend that worked at a shop their. Later I found out that she was the wife of my brothers friend. As I got to know here I remember I talked quite freely with her as she was my big sis. We were talking about marriage and people, especially guys having a past. What she said that day made a great impact on me. She said that I wish I could erase my husbands past. He had been into these kinds of friendships before, and she said that just knowing that he once was with someone else really hurt her. Although he was really nice and a great husband, she wished that she could erase his past. Thinking about that thing today, I would agree with her if I would be in such a situation.

For all you people out there I would only say one thing; for Gods sake don`t play around. Keep yourself busy with your parhai or your work, and when it`s time to get married, get married and nibhana it. And when you do get married, surely I hope you know what a sacred bond it is before you get into that, and that you will be faithful, caring and respectful towards your soul mate. Allah sab ke haq me behtar faisla karein.. Ameen summa Ameen.

The stars are shining on us.
Leading our way.
Showing us the right path.
From the beginning and till the end.
When we start to seek,
the knowledge within The Book,
We will find guidance,
be inspired to live our life,
to bring our souls to eternal bliss.

Lets come together
and make a difference.
Not only for us and our loved ones,
but for the whole of humanity.
Lets live in peace
and spread positivity.
Living in harmony,
if everyone could think
the confident thought,
Bring it not only to words;
But in to conduct one day..
there will not be a person,
without a roof,
or any kid without any food.
Lets come together.
For the sake of mankind.
Making that difference
that can move mountains.
Where every sentence,
glows a bright attitude.
Where the talking leads to change.
Where every word has a cause.
InshaAllah the day will come,
when meaning of life
will remain in peace.

-Ameen sum ameen -Eid Mubarak:)

I think ke the colors we use some of them does have an effect on our mood. You know whether they are dark or light colors does make a difference. If one wears black clothes a lot than the black color absorbs all your positive energy and makes you a sadder person. So please! Don`t wear black! Unless you’re wearing a black dress 😉 Fantabolous 😉 Than it`s allowed 🙂 Avoid black as much as you can, oki 🙂

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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