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I remember a vaqiah which I wanna share with you. It`s from the time when Muhammad (PBUH) was hayat. A woman came to him with her child. She wanted to talk to him about the son. She explained that her son used to eat a lot of ghurr. And no matter how much she told him to stop, he did not listen. She tought that if I ask Muhammad (PBUH) than he would listen and stop eating so much. Hazoor Paak asked her to come the next day. When she came the next day, he told the son not to eat that much ghurr. That surprised the mother a bit because he could have said that yesterday, why did he wait a day to say that sentence. Hazoor Paak replied that he had eaten ghurr yesterday so he did not want to tell the boy to do something he did not do himself. Today he hadn`t eaten ghurr so he could easily tell him to not eat that much of it in the future.
Iss baat me kitna wazan hain na:) If you tell someone else to do something you follow yourself tou phir us baat mein wazan bhi hoga aur asr bhi 
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)was asked; which action is the best?
He replied: To avoid evil and make your tongue wet with the remembrance of God.
He was then asked: Which companion is the best?
He replied: The companion who helps you when you remember God and reminds you when you forget.
He then asked: Which companion is the worst?
The Prophet (PBUH) replied: The companion who does not remind you when you forget, and if you remember he does not help you.
Then the Prophet (PBUH)was asked: Who is the most learned man among the people?
He replied: the most learned man among the people is he who fears God most.
He was than asked: Inform us about the best men among us, so that we may keep company with them.
The Prophet (PBUH) said: Those who remind you of God whenever they are seen.
Again the Prophet (PBUH) was asked: who are the worst among men?
He replied: O God i seek pardon.
They said: Tell us O Apostle of God.
He said: The corrupt learned men.
The Prophet (PBUH)said:Those who have been the most Godfearing in the world will be the most secure in the Hereafter. Those who have wept much in the world will laugh the most in the hereafter. Those who have suffered the most in the world will be happiest in the Hereafter.
Each and every person wants everyone to treat them with respect and value them as wonderful human beings and generally be nice to them. But what does it really say to be nice to someone? I believe that being nice does not mean that one always does what pleases everyone around you, to do everything to make others happy with you no matter what they say to you or how they treat you. A statement which I can`t agree upon. I think that being nice is to generally do what is right and what`s in the best interest yourself and your loved ones, sincerely caring for them. Wanting them to be happy and have a wonderful life with you. This actually means that sometimes one has to make some decisions that others around you, maybe some friends or family members aren`t pleased with. Because you are not going to behave a certain way just to please others, but to do what is right for you and your loved ones na Your loved ones should be on your highest priority list always. One day those displeased with you will understand that what you did was for the best for yourself and your loved ones and for them. And so if they sincerely care for you they won`t try to make life harder for you, but their mature nature would make them respect your decision and be happy for you.
So in conclusion if your aim is to be nice then do what is right Even if it means that you have to make some decisions that others might dislike. Just like they have the right to be displeased with you… You have the right to make your own decisions instead of being bullied with.. Just let that confidence in you shine like it always does and trust yourself Inshallah everything will work out wonderfully
It`s solely up to your believe in your own abilities..
Sometimes I get amazed by how difficult it sometimes can be to just stay quiet. Think for instance: another person who is very close to you accuses you of things just because his /her angry or jealous about something, so he takes all his anger out on you. What would you do then? Would you fight back, try to change him or just turn away? The easy way out would be to just let him/her with his anger. And pray to God that he someday will change. But if you really care for that person you would do anything to stay by and make him understand why it is wrong to do so. And help him change.
Something I learnt when I was little is that keeping other persons` private stuff private to everyone else will also keep your private stuff private from the rest of the world. Meaning if you have heard something from someone, than don’t say it to someone else but take what you heard with you in the grave. Is tarhah Allah apke saare baaton ki khifazat karein gha. Believe me no one wants their private life to be told out on the radio. Be it anyone. Be careful with what you say because Allah sab kuch dekh raha hain..
And remember if you want others to respect you, it`s important that you respect them as well. Respect goes both ways. Dissing someone else to make yourself feel better is not a solution. And it would make you feel even worse. Is tarha aap kisi ke nazron se ghir jaye ghe…
Keep in mind jii.. We all have some things that are great about us and some things that aren`t so good or could be improved somewhat.. So let that beautiful personality of yours shine the way through life.. And let us try to become a better person in all ways..
I`ve always liked this phrase a lot. It puts me on the right track whenever I get influenced by the media in the wrong direction. The media creates a picture of how one should look like, how thin and perfect. And I can see how it messes up the minds of our younger generation as well as the adults I would dare to say.
I`ve often heard people say things like look at that actor/ actress pointing to the television when they`re watching a movie. No one withholds himself/herself from commenting the weight of the actors/actresses. And they don’t simply stop here, nope, they would comment each and every person they know from their appearance / weight. This reminds me of a sentence from a song by Alicia keys “if I ain`t got you”. “some people think that the physical things define what`s within. I`ve been there before. That life`s a bore so full of the superficial “.
The media makes us believe that if you`re thin and nice looking than BHAM you`ll succeed in anything. If you`re not all that than no problem just fix it with a surgery or something… people actually fall into these traps without thinking of the fact that if they don’t feel that good about their appearance it`s their thoughts they have to do something with. They need to work on their self esteem, to know that their personality is all that should matter to them. I do agree with the fact that one should keep oneself fit. That would keep us away from several diseases that come from overweight. So going to the gym regularly would keep us healthy and should be a goal for us no matter what our weight is.
“The charisma a person radiates, having the right universal values, treating others with kindness, spreading positivity around you, striving to become a better person and pushing others towards positivity as well.. Now that’s what we should really be thinking about… “
How can we judge someone by their weight/appearance? Don’t get me wrong I know the importance of being neatly dressed. But some people tend to give it so much more importance than we should, and creates and divides people in A and B groups. When you meet someone at work or anywhere else, the first thing you notice would be the appearance and the first impression is very important. But yet the kindness a person elevates should be what we should look at more than anything. I`m sure that it would make a bad impression on you if you talk to a well dressed but hostile person that makes you feel even worse about yourself. You wouldn’t prefer talking to that person again, now would you??? Even though that person is attractive???
The bottom line is: let`s look at what`s really important here in life. Seeing peoples beauty from within how they behave towards us and how kind they are to themselves and their surroundings.
I believe it`s the values your parents have injected in you as you grew up and after you`ve grown up it`s mostly the people you hang with. Your friends! If you have good friends that have the right values, believe me YOU are saved! Or if you have enough insight in seeing who`s your real friend and who isn`t. What kind of friends you have says a lot about you as a person. What I`ve always heard from my parents is that “aap apne doston se pehchanein jaate hain” . If you`re seen around with a friend that is known as nice, people will think that you are as he is, cause he is your friend. On the contrary, are you seen with someone who doesn`t have the right values, people will think the same about you. A bad friend will give you the inside scoop on how he managed to do so well in being bad and getting away with it. Please look around. Are your friends giving you good advice? Or messing up your life more than before? You do have a choice to stay positive no matter what. Though people we spend time with mostly our friends have great impact on us and our personality.
Make sure you have people around you with good values..
