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A few years back I remember I was all into Bollywood or songs and all that it contains. Though in a period of time I started to think over what I was doing. I thought a lot about whether this would give me any sawabh and if it is morally correct to listen to songies that contains somewhat fahashia. So I changed. Suddenly one day when I woke up I went to the computer with my Ipod and deleted all the songies and let all the Naats to be there. From that day on I only listen to naats and some songs that have nice and decent lyrics. That was a change in me that started for more than a year ago.

Nowadays Im reading a lot about Islam to get more knowledge so that I can know how to behave in certain circumstances from hadees sharif and lots of other islamic books. It has given me guidelines in how to behave and different types of manners that I before didn`t even know were Islamic. I`ve been lucky and had amazing help in getting me on the right track, so I want to share it, so that more people can benefit from it. Even though we all have our mistakes I can recall a lot of hadees and correct myself that In that circumstance I shouldn`t have done that or in that circumstance I should have done that. This is going to help me in my struggle to become a better human being and inshaAllah a Mominah one day.

What I want to share with you people is that if we listen to songies that have a bad ingredient and watch tv-serials that tells us more about un-islamic things than that would have a very bad effect on our spirit, our spirituality and us being a muslim. My mum always tells me that if you start repenting early in your life for your past mistakes than most of your life will be nice and rest of your life will become more prosperous, but if you start repenting when you are in your seventy`s than for one you wouldn`t be able to pray properly, for your life has passed by in negligence. It`s time for us to wake up and realize what is important in life. Which is to strive to become a better human being and a better Muslim/Muslimah to one day be invited to Jannah, InshaAllah. Ameen summa ameen.

Lying is something that is so common these days. People tell lies without thinking about the consequences and without any God-fear at all. What will make the liars to stop telling lies? Every person has one time or the other told a lie. The people need to understand that the lying wont give them anything else than misery in the hereafter. And what for are they doing this? To achieve what? A person that lies again and again is not seen as a trustworthy person and people don’t take what he says seriously, because they know that she / he has been lying before. The Prophet (pbuh) has said:

“Truthfulness leads to piety, and piety leads to Paradise. A man continues to speak truth until he is recorded in the sight of Allah as a sincere lover of truth (Siddiq). Falsehood leads to iniquity and iniquity leads to hell. A man will continue to speak falsehood until he is recorded in the sight of Allah as a liar”.

It is also mentioned in the Quran 22:30

” .. and shun the word that is false”.

The Prophet (pbuh) has said that giving false statements are almost in equal with the major sins with associating partners with Allah and being disobedient to ones parents. The Prophet said:

“Shall i not tell you of the most serious of the most serious of the major sins?” “of course O Messenger of Allah” He said ” associating partners with Allah and disobeying your parents” He was reclining but then He sat up and said ” and bearing false witness” and he kept repeating this until we wished that he would stop” (ie. so that he would not exhaust himself with his fervour.

Another chapter in the Quran says ( 25:72)

“Those whom witness no falsehood and if they pass by futility they pass it by with honourable (avoidance)”

In this means those who do not give no evidence that is false and those who do not assist in anything which implies fraud or falsehood.

How easily do we take Islam and don’t even look for the answers in the book (Quran), than how can we act upon it. It is so easy to point a finger at another person but what about ourselves. We all need to look inside of us and see if any of these characteristics are in us than we need to get rid of them as soon as possible so our remaining life will remain in peace. Each and every person that is on this earth needs to look within themselves and try their out most to stop themselves if they are lying without any valid reason.

In case we need to save a life or someone would be killed if we tell the truth, then it is better that for a while we remain quiet. Eventually the truth will come out, so no need to worry at all.

Another ayat in the Quran about giving respite to the people (from our Quran 14:42) :

” Think not that Allah doth not heed the deeds of those who do wrong. He but giveth them respite against a day when the eyes will fixedly stare in horror”.

Another ayat about giving respite says: (Quran 16:61)

“If Allah were to punish men for their wrongdoing, He would not leave on the (earth) a single living creature: But He gives them respite for a stated term: when their term expires, they would not be able to delay (the punishment) for a single hour, just like they would not be able to anticipate it for a single hour.”

Don`t for a moment think that you or anyone can go around being evil to someone without being accountable for it. Either in life or the hereafter each and every will have to give their explanation to Allah. We are only given some time from Allah that we might straighten up, in case we do it is for our own good, if we don`t than it will be our own doom.

(Source book the ideal muslimah)

Each individual in this world have their own set of values they strive for. People that are different can have the same values and people who are alike can have different values. Sometimes one come by people who have different set of living their lives than yourself. I know that I have much to learn from my surroundings, just like maybe you have from yours :) I hope that when people look at someone they see beyond that persons looks. Actually it`s mostly the personality that shines when you talk to someone. For instance that your soul glows up when you’re talking about someone or something you really like a lot. It could be that you’re talking about your special somebody or perhaps some of your hobbies.  All in all it`s the values you have and the personality you have that shines through yourself; your proactiveness, your kindness of how you deal with people, your attitude towards life, the positivism which is injected in you :) a person that can see you for what you are :) that is a person to hold on to.. :) People one needs to stay away from are those that pay more attention to if you’re wearing the right dress or using the right sweater brand. That which doesn`t mean anything. People that treat other differently depending on what they own, are superficial people who doesn`t have their heart beating for the right reasons, as I see it.

I`m sure each and every person of us has one time or the other told a lie. I`m sure i won`t shock anyone when i say that one lie leads to another. A never-ending circle. Until the truth comes out. Thats the only thing that can stop the lying. And one time or the other the truth does come out. Alhamdolillah.. Even if it doesn`t come out now I`m certain it will come out on judgement day. What people who lie forget is that God is watching them. Even if they hide the truth from a few people, God knows what is happening. Nothing in this world or in this universe has ever been or could ever be concealed from God. So there is no use.

When I come in a situation where I don`t want to share something about me, I simply tell the person ke I don`t want to talk about this now, I change the subject or simply stay quiet. Like I didn`t get what they said. This gives me such power that it keeps me on the right path, keeping my conscious free. One thing is for sure though, if you ask me you will get an honest answer. You decide how much you want to share with others. Of course your dearest loved ones know everything about you:) And if someone tries to bug into your stuff, simply tell them to mind their own business. I have become very strict with myself not sharing everything with anyone but only to those close me.

For some people you can only give out the truth in small digestible amounts. Simply because they are not capable of facing the truth.

We also have a great responsibility towards our younger generation that we guide them on the right path. If they see us lying to someone about something, what kind of impact do you think that will have on them? We need good role models for kids so that they get a push in the right direction and keeps the universal guidelines going for generations. If we God forbid somehow teach them that lying is ok, that can make severe damage on their character.

Yes, I would say that, over and over again. Every time I feel like giving myself some positive energy:) Every person in this world is not valuable because of his/her looks! No, he/she is valuable because of his/her decent character. Why do you think every muslim and even non-muslims admired and looked up to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) when he lived, and Alhamdolillah now and for all time? Because he had the bestest character a human being can ever have. Why do you think people accepted Islam after they met and got to know the Messenger Muhammad? Even if people where angry or mean at him, he treated them with respect and outmost kindness that even they became muslims. Never ever would a person become muslim if someone put a gun on his head! Even if the person having a gun at his head would say the kalima that there is no God But Allah, and Muhammad is his messenger, it wouldn`t mean a thing if the heart isn`t following:) No muslim can force a non-muslim to become a muslim, because if his heart doesn`t follow, than it wouldn`t be valid.

It is so important that the majority of non-muslims understand this fact. That the majority of us muslims wants to live and Alhamdolillah are living peacefully in the countries we live in. The majority. If some people tend to misuse the name of Islam and say this or that, please for Gods sake check if that person is a practising muslim. I believe that muslims are trying there best to have a safe environment, build up their future for their families and stay on the right path. And Alhamdolillah remembers the universal guidelines that we have in every religion. Respect each other, and let me practise my religion in peace and harmony with the rest of the society.

Muslims whom want to enter paradise, try their best to practise their religion. Believe me they don`t have time to do anything else. Cause they are so eager to collect savabh (comes fromn good deeds) to make their way to a prosperous akhirat (day of judgment). When even atoms weight of good, and even a atoms weight of bad things will be known, and Allah Subhanatalha will do justice to every human being, that has ever lived on this earth. SubhanAllah and Allah ho Akbar! If we muslim are striving, doing our best, and are sabirin, than Allah will do justice to the ones people have not done justice to, IF that person is on Haq (on the right). SubhanAllah!

There was a debate at NRK yesterday which was very interesting to follow. The thing about most of the debates that are done is that the politicians doesn`t listen to the people. If a muslim doesn`t practice his /her religion because he / she is afraid of loosing friends or that people will think he /she is extremist just because of that following what is said in the Quran, than that is really bad. Muslims read about some politicians that say that all muslims are like that or like this, saying numerous bad things and I want to underline they jump to conclusions and generalize for all of the muslims. This puts us muslims in a bad light, and then every muslim being young or old have to defend ourselves to every person we meet. Being at work at school or with friends. This is so wrong! When politicians do this than the hate against the non-muslims arises in the heart of the muslim, because one doesn`t feel like one is understood. Now if this was to be a teenager, and this kind of hate arises than I would say one is in the danger-zone of coming in the wrong company of people. whom deliberately are using the name of Islam in non-islamic actions, for instance suicide-attacks. If the politicians stops generalizing the whole muslim community and everyone is to be seen as individuals that are fulfilling the responsibilities that the norwegian society has put on them as the norwegian muslim residents they are, than they would be able to stop the hatred that they are actually feeding the new generations with by accusing them of being extremist muslims, maybe because they have their own way of living. If the muslim people’s rules doesn`t go against the universal guidelines of being a good human being than why are are the muslims deliberately put in bad light by the media and the politicians. That would be because the politicians wants to gather as much votes they can, and as much support as they can, and for that they need something they say is evil to unite the people against the evil. When in case muslims are not evil at all. We just want a peaceful life, living in harmony with the rest of the people. And we dislike when someone point fingers at us. Wouldn`t you do that? What the finger-pointing politicians forget is that, one finger maybe pointed at muslims, but 4 fingers are pointed at themselves. I guess every person that points a finger at anyone else forgets this. Though it is so important!

The bottom line is lets stop generalizing and treat each other with respect and let every person practice their religion in peace and harmony in the society, while they are also following all the rules and regulations that are followed being a norwegian muslim citizen as every norwegian citizen is following. Lets start thinking like a big “WE” instead of “them” and “us”. I believe that would be a win-win situation for all of us living in Norway:)

I know that the one person I`m the most strict with is myself. I put my standards very high and if something happens I get very disappointed in myself. Although I`m not known as the strictest person at home and certainly not from my nieces but I know in myself that being like this must be some of the reasons why I sometimes can be very strict towards some of my loved ones. Sometimes maybe my expectations are too high or their actions beyond my understanding which leads to me feeling very let down.

Wow, wouldn’t it be nice if one managed to not expect anything from anyone? If someone than did something nice you would appreciate it and if they did something less nice you would just brush it off your shoulders and move on.

Wow, wouldn`t that be nice? :)

My Prayer..

Please Allah..
Hamari muskhilein asan farma dein.. Humein Quran or Hazoor Paak ki pyari Sunnah ki roshni mein har kaam karnein ki taufik ata karein.Humein apke korb ki manzilon tak phonchnein keliye koi sahi vasila ata karein. Hamari duniya or akhirat savar dein. Joh hamarein haq me behtar faisla hain wohi karein. Joh log jaan buj kar hamarein liyen muskhilein bana rahein hain unhein hidayat ata kar dein.

Allah help me to remember You and give thanks to You and to worship You properly.

Allahumma ahsanta khalqi fa ahsin khulqi.

Ameen sum ameen.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frailDestroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one2one :)

(",) Hogaya jis din se apne dil par uska ikhtiyar
Ikhtiyar apna gaya be-ikhtiyari reh gayi.. (",)

- By -
Bahadur Shah Zafar

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Confident :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) Just happy to be found :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)